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Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by okomile(f): 12:58pm On May 19, 2018
Don't marry a guy who goes to his family for advises on how to act in situations. If u marry such, u r doom for life
Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by drezzyx(m): 1:00pm On May 19, 2018
Lakeside79:
Useless thread see what a man is writing
That is ur own headache after all I made front page.

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Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by konnectivity(m): 1:01pm On May 19, 2018
Greenbullet:
You are insane, I put my mother first, my wife is next.


chaid spotted....... mama`s boy undecided undecided

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Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by Edge1(m): 1:01pm On May 19, 2018
Funmibi01:
Most guy are chronic pretenders and liars.
It takes the grace of God and a "very" observant lady. Also, a lady that's not carried away by flashy things.

There is nothing like 'a lady that's not carried away by flashy things'. It's a taboo for you to say that.

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Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by koolcat: 1:02pm On May 19, 2018
JEJELY ADVICE DEM TO MOULD THE GUY instead of all dz lectures
Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by drezzyx(m): 1:03pm On May 19, 2018
I wrote it because I have none of these flaws, though I am not perfect because I am not a God.

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Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by Nobody: 1:03pm On May 19, 2018
timolala:
white girls have their specs in a relationship, some just need love , some just need a muscular guy, some need a tall guy and so on...
But nigerian girls have the same spec: Money! Money!! Money!!!

So what? Is it wrong to be after money? Nigerian guys that won't allow us to rest with big breasts and butts, as if those of us without it are good for nothing, are we complaining? Each to his or her own.
Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by Nobody: 1:04pm On May 19, 2018
Ishilove:

Don't tell me you display all these traits? cheesy

One or two.
Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by zeestone99(m): 1:04pm On May 19, 2018
All these women una neva ready, he doesn't put u first. grin are you God... grin grin
Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by efemena5050(m): 1:05pm On May 19, 2018
tee59:
Lies, some guys do these and still have girls trolling over them. So far money is involved, girls of today will never mind d trash you wrote up here. shocked
ur not talking like a woman...imagine the op even wrote this bcus of women now see transgendered

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Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by BCISLTD: 1:06pm On May 19, 2018
tee59:
Lies, some guys do these and still have girls trolling over them. So far money is involved, girls of today will never mind d trash you wrote up here. shocked

Too much sense will not kill you
Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by drezzyx(m): 1:08pm On May 19, 2018
Silentscreamer:
nice one op.. Nl fvck boys wont like this thread
Exactly they want to send me to hell ,who cares

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Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by chimex001(m): 1:09pm On May 19, 2018
drezzyx:
Imagine if you married a guy…but then realised he had bad habits that couldn’t be cured? In this article, Beauty and Tips takes a look at why you need to avoid guys with these 10 habits.

Prince Charming might have flaws, but he doesn’t have bad habits that can ruin a relationship. While it’s impossible to find the absolute perfect man (we’ve looked, he doesn’t exist) that doesn’t mean you should drop your standards and marry a guy who has annoyingly bad habits. For a man to be marriage material, he has to be completely the right man for you. Sure, he will still have flaws (don’t we all?), but flaws are different from habits. Habits are things we’ve learned to do over the years; they’re ingrained in our behaviour and we do them automatically. Not only can they annoy you, but it’s also practically impossible to get a man to change his ways. If a guy has some of the following 10 habits? He isn’t marriage material.

He’s Full Of Excuses

He can’t just give you a straight answer for why he let you down, and instead resorts to his Big Book Of Boyfriend Excuses. Each time he makes an excuse, he’s displaying his immaturity to you. Moreover, there is a good chance he’s lying. Excuses are the resort of children – and you want to marry a man, not a child.

He’s Narrow Minded

Guys who are narrow minded really frustrate us, don’t they? We just wish they would be more open to doing something other than watching sports all weekend, and we wish they would stop making snap, judgemental comments about people. Some guys can seem to be the most open-minded people about certain topics, but become closed off when it comes to other topics. And it’s really annoying because it can contaminate your relationship. For example, imagine you want to hang out with a guy friend you haven’t seen for a while. You know what this guy is all about, and you know what his “intentions” are – to hang out and catch up! Meanwhile, your partner mistrusts him, tells you all guys just want sex from you and won’t let you see him. If your man is still stuck in the 19th century with his close-minded views, he’s hardly worth marrying.

He Shouts

Any guy who has a habit of exploding with anger is a no-go as far as Beauty and Tips is concerned. If you’ve met a man who shouts, screams and verbally abuses people, stay well away from him.

He Breaks Promises

If your man casually breaks promises with you all the time, it isn’t a good sign. What this should tell you is that this is a bad habit he’s picked up down the years and is unlikely to change anytime soon. Broken promises are frustrating. If he breaks a promise early on in the relationship, it’s not a huge deal. But if he keeps doing it, you need to take this as the huge red flag that it is. In simple English, he’s disrespecting you and the relationship, and taking you for a fool. It’s a sign that he doesn’t care enough about you (or anyone for that matter) and probably won’t be changing in the foreseeable future. After all, he doesn’t seem to see it as a problem. But as the movies teach us, those who break their promises suck (it’s usually dad’s breaking their promises to their kids, and yes, they suck. And can you imagine what would happen if you guys had kids and he broke his promises to them, too?!)

He Lies

Breaking a promise is one thing, but if he brazenly lies to your face and you know it’s a clear lie, it’s a major warning sign that this is a guy you can’t trust. Lying is a bad habit that’s easy to get into and hard to get out of. If you’ve caught your man lying red-handed on more than one occasion, you’ll need to consider the very real possibility that he isn’t worth marrying.

He Doesn’t Put You First

If a man doesn’t put you first, you have to ask yourself the question – when will he put me first? The answer is probably never. Guys who don’t prioritise their women are instead in the habit of prioritising their buddies, their work or their hobbies. Love comes last, and if it’s always been this way in your relationship, there is a good chance that it won’t change.

He’s Possessive

It’s okay for someone to be a tad possessive at first. It’s even kinda cute. But you two have been together a while and he’s still being extra clingy, it’s a habit he’s probably not going to break. In fact, it probably means he’s a control freak. And that kind of man isn’t worth walking down the altar with.

He Likes To Win Arguments

If he gets a smug sense of satisfaction whenever he wins an argument between you guys and literally hates the fact that even once he could be wrong, it’s a bad habit that you should take as a red flag. No one in a relationship should go into an argument wanting to win. Instead, the goal should be a resolution that suits both parties. If your partner always has to be right? He isn’t worth your time.

He Won’t Take Responsibility

When we refuse to acknowledge our mistakes and take for responsibility for something that was OUR fault, we’re behaving like children. Worse still, we’re passing the blame onto someone else. Even worse, we’re not giving ourselves the chance to learn from our mistakes. If this sounds a lot like your man, he isn’t marriage material at this point.

He Has An Unhealthy Lifestyle

If he drinks and smokes too much while you’re trying to lead a healthier life, it’s a strong sign that you guys aren’t meant to be. Sure, he could cut down on his drinking and quit smoking. But if he’s tried in the past to no avail, it might be best if you avoid this kind of guy.

Stay happy!

if he is always broke,run away
If he is ritualist/cultist walk away and don't return
If he is a religious fanatic.....walk away
If he is a woman beater.... waka!

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Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by wizjid69: 1:11pm On May 19, 2018
drezzyx:
Imagine if you married a guy…but then realised he had bad habits that couldn’t be cured? In this article, Beauty and Tips takes a look at why you need to avoid guys with these 10 habits.

Prince Charming might have flaws, but he doesn’t have bad habits that can ruin a relationship. While it’s impossible to find the absolute perfect man (we’ve looked, he doesn’t exist) that doesn’t mean you should drop your standards and marry a guy who has annoyingly bad habits. For a man to be marriage material, he has to be completely the right man for you. Sure, he will still have flaws (don’t we all?), but flaws are different from habits. Habits are things we’ve learned to do over the years; they’re ingrained in our behaviour and we do them automatically. Not only can they annoy you, but it’s also practically impossible to get a man to change his ways. If a guy has some of the following 10 habits? He isn’t marriage material.

He’s Full Of Excuses

He can’t just give you a straight answer for why he let you down, and instead resorts to his Big Book Of Boyfriend Excuses. Each time he makes an excuse, he’s displaying his immaturity to you. Moreover, there is a good chance he’s lying. Excuses are the resort of children – and you want to marry a man, not a child.

He’s Narrow Minded

Guys who are narrow minded really frustrate us, don’t they? We just wish they would be more open to doing something other than watching sports all weekend, and we wish they would stop making snap, judgemental comments about people. Some guys can seem to be the most open-minded people about certain topics, but become closed off when it comes to other topics. And it’s really annoying because it can contaminate your relationship. For example, imagine you want to hang out with a guy friend you haven’t seen for a while. You know what this guy is all about, and you know what his “intentions” are – to hang out and catch up! Meanwhile, your partner mistrusts him, tells you all guys just want sex from you and won’t let you see him. If your man is still stuck in the 19th century with his close-minded views, he’s hardly worth marrying.

He Shouts

Any guy who has a habit of exploding with anger is a no-go as far as Beauty and Tips is concerned. If you’ve met a man who shouts, screams and verbally abuses people, stay well away from him.

He Breaks Promises

If your man casually breaks promises with you all the time, it isn’t a good sign. What this should tell you is that this is a bad habit he’s picked up down the years and is unlikely to change anytime soon. Broken promises are frustrating. If he breaks a promise early on in the relationship, it’s not a huge deal. But if he keeps doing it, you need to take this as the huge red flag that it is. In simple English, he’s disrespecting you and the relationship, and taking you for a fool. It’s a sign that he doesn’t care enough about you (or anyone for that matter) and probably won’t be changing in the foreseeable future. After all, he doesn’t seem to see it as a problem. But as the movies teach us, those who break their promises suck (it’s usually dad’s breaking their promises to their kids, and yes, they suck. And can you imagine what would happen if you guys had kids and he broke his promises to them, too?!)

He Lies

Breaking a promise is one thing, but if he brazenly lies to your face and you know it’s a clear lie, it’s a major warning sign that this is a guy you can’t trust. Lying is a bad habit that’s easy to get into and hard to get out of. If you’ve caught your man lying red-handed on more than one occasion, you’ll need to consider the very real possibility that he isn’t worth marrying.

He Doesn’t Put You First

If a man doesn’t put you first, you have to ask yourself the question – when will he put me first? The answer is probably never. Guys who don’t prioritise their women are instead in the habit of prioritising their buddies, their work or their hobbies. Love comes last, and if it’s always been this way in your relationship, there is a good chance that it won’t change.

He’s Possessive

It’s okay for someone to be a tad possessive at first. It’s even kinda cute. But you two have been together a while and he’s still being extra clingy, it’s a habit he’s probably not going to break. In fact, it probably means he’s a control freak. And that kind of man isn’t worth walking down the altar with.

He Likes To Win Arguments

If he gets a smug sense of satisfaction whenever he wins an argument between you guys and literally hates the fact that even once he could be wrong, it’s a bad habit that you should take as a red flag. No one in a relationship should go into an argument wanting to win. Instead, the goal should be a resolution that suits both parties. If your partner always has to be right? He isn’t worth your time.

He Won’t Take Responsibility

When we refuse to acknowledge our mistakes and take for responsibility for something that was OUR fault, we’re behaving like children. Worse still, we’re passing the blame onto someone else. Even worse, we’re not giving ourselves the chance to learn from our mistakes. If this sounds a lot like your man, he isn’t marriage material at this point.

He Has An Unhealthy Lifestyle

If he drinks and smokes too much while you’re trying to lead a healthier life, it’s a strong sign that you guys aren’t meant to be. Sure, he could cut down on his drinking and quit smoking. But if he’s tried in the past to no avail, it might be best if you avoid this kind of guy.

Stay happy!


Sounds so much like Donald Trump
Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by Dafreeguy(m): 1:12pm On May 19, 2018
olowobaba10:
THIS IS THE MOST STUPID AND USELESS THREAD I'VE READ ON NAIRALAND, MORONS JUST WRITING TO TREND , SHAME ON THE SO CALLED OP!
You are definitely guilty of this.

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Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by godfrey01(m): 1:16pm On May 19, 2018
Seun. please check your css padding. I always bend my phone to read comments and stories. the left side of every story is always inner. at most a left from each word not visible for viewing. or Am i the only person experiencing this.
Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by dmg1: 1:19pm On May 19, 2018
this is the most stupidiest post i have ever come across on nairaland and it's even posted by a (slowpoke) boy.
Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by 001bumsa: 1:19pm On May 19, 2018
drezzyx:
Imagine if you married a guy…but then realised he had bad habits that couldn’t be cured? In this article, Beauty and Tips takes a look at why you need to avoid guys with these 10 habits.

Prince Charming might have flaws, but he doesn’t have bad habits that can ruin a relationship. While it’s impossible to find the absolute perfect man (we’ve looked, he doesn’t exist) that doesn’t mean you should drop your standards and marry a guy who has annoyingly bad habits. For a man to be marriage material, he has to be completely the right man for you. Sure, he will still have flaws (don’t we all?), but flaws are different from habits. Habits are things we’ve learned to do over the years; they’re ingrained in our behaviour and we do them automatically. Not only can they annoy you, but it’s also practically impossible to get a man to change his ways. If a guy has some of the following 10 habits? He isn’t marriage material.

He’s Full Of Excuses

He can’t just give you a straight answer for why he let you down, and instead resorts to his Big Book Of Boyfriend Excuses. Each time he makes an excuse, he’s displaying his immaturity to you. Moreover, there is a good chance he’s lying. Excuses are the resort of children – and you want to marry a man, not a child.

He’s Narrow Minded

Guys who are narrow minded really frustrate us, don’t they? We just wish they would be more open to doing something other than watching sports all weekend, and we wish they would stop making snap, judgemental comments about people. Some guys can seem to be the most open-minded people about certain topics, but become closed off when it comes to other topics. And it’s really annoying because it can contaminate your relationship. For example, imagine you want to hang out with a guy friend you haven’t seen for a while. You know what this guy is all about, and you know what his “intentions” are – to hang out and catch up! Meanwhile, your partner mistrusts him, tells you all guys just want sex from you and won’t let you see him. If your man is still stuck in the 19th century with his close-minded views, he’s hardly worth marrying.

He Shouts

Any guy who has a habit of exploding with anger is a no-go as far as Beauty and Tips is concerned. If you’ve met a man who shouts, screams and verbally abuses people, stay well away from him.

He Breaks Promises

If your man casually breaks promises with you all the time, it isn’t a good sign. What this should tell you is that this is a bad habit he’s picked up down the years and is unlikely to change anytime soon. Broken promises are frustrating. If he breaks a promise early on in the relationship, it’s not a huge deal. But if he keeps doing it, you need to take this as the huge red flag that it is. In simple English, he’s disrespecting you and the relationship, and taking you for a fool. It’s a sign that he doesn’t care enough about you (or anyone for that matter) and probably won’t be changing in the foreseeable future. After all, he doesn’t seem to see it as a problem. But as the movies teach us, those who break their promises suck (it’s usually dad’s breaking their promises to their kids, and yes, they suck. And can you imagine what would happen if you guys had kids and he broke his promises to them, too?!)

He Lies

Breaking a promise is one thing, but if he brazenly lies to your face and you know it’s a clear lie, it’s a major warning sign that this is a guy you can’t trust. Lying is a bad habit that’s easy to get into and hard to get out of. If you’ve caught your man lying red-handed on more than one occasion, you’ll need to consider the very real possibility that he isn’t worth marrying.

He Doesn’t Put You First

If a man doesn’t put you first, you have to ask yourself the question – when will he put me first? The answer is probably never. Guys who don’t prioritise their women are instead in the habit of prioritising their buddies, their work or their hobbies. Love comes last, and if it’s always been this way in your relationship, there is a good chance that it won’t change.

He’s Possessive

It’s okay for someone to be a tad possessive at first. It’s even kinda cute. But you two have been together a while and he’s still being extra clingy, it’s a habit he’s probably not going to break. In fact, it probably means he’s a control freak. And that kind of man isn’t worth walking down the altar with.

He Likes To Win Arguments

If he gets a smug sense of satisfaction whenever he wins an argument between you guys and literally hates the fact that even once he could be wrong, it’s a bad habit that you should take as a red flag. No one in a relationship should go into an argument wanting to win. Instead, the goal should be a resolution that suits both parties. If your partner always has to be right? He isn’t worth your time.

He Won’t Take Responsibility

When we refuse to acknowledge our mistakes and take for responsibility for something that was OUR fault, we’re behaving like children. Worse still, we’re passing the blame onto someone else. Even worse, we’re not giving ourselves the chance to learn from our mistakes. If this sounds a lot like your man, he isn’t marriage material at this point.

He Has An Unhealthy Lifestyle

If he drinks and smokes too much while you’re trying to lead a healthier life, it’s a strong sign that you guys aren’t meant to be. Sure, he could cut down on his drinking and quit smoking. But if he’s tried in the past to no avail, it might be best if you avoid this kind of guy.

Stay happy!

Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by 001bumsa: 1:21pm On May 19, 2018
[quote author=001bumsa post=67693270][/quote]How i wish i saw this writeup before i said i do, i would have avoided this headache that i am going through
Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by AmazonTopaz(f): 1:23pm On May 19, 2018
Greenbullet:
You are insane, I put my mother first, my wife is next.
Are you kidding me?
Does your mother not have a husband?Women should flee from men like this so you would listen to your mother and put her interest first over your wife?oh my goodness.

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Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by hokafor(m): 1:28pm On May 19, 2018
You are blowing a lot of grammar, what they expect to hear from you is dont marry a guy that is not synonymos to davido.
Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by AmazonTopaz(f): 1:29pm On May 19, 2018
EverestdeBliu:
definitely! Momsy comes before any girl/woman.
You are not serious.
So your mother doesn't have a husband?
Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by nnamdibig(m): 1:29pm On May 19, 2018
If as a woman your unmarried brother puts his girlfriend first over you, what then will you describe as efulefu
Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by fastlane84: 1:30pm On May 19, 2018
what if na Dangote son
Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by Konze70: 1:31pm On May 19, 2018
Now I can see the poster is wicked he doesn't want women to get married . Lol
Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by AmazonTopaz(f): 1:32pm On May 19, 2018
greiboy:
My mom is first always!!!

So what happens when you are married you would listen or choose your mother over your wife?Does your mother not have a husband?
Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by drezzyx(m): 1:33pm On May 19, 2018
Dafreeguy:
You are definitely guilty of this.
Definitely that guy is surely one of them.. Lol
Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by kafilatshade: 1:33pm On May 19, 2018
Single mama loading.......
Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by Nobody: 1:34pm On May 19, 2018
Chi59:
I see so many foolish statements for childish fellows. When you write a long list of qualities you want in a woman, no body complains, but when ladies insist on refusing to settle for less, you start crying like a baby that was refused breast milk. What's wrong with you all?
As in eh! the stupidity displayed on this thread is enough to tell that most Nairaland guys aren't marriageable. grin

Just imagine how they ridiculed the points the op made 'cause it obviously struck a chord.

Op, nice one.

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Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by DeOTR: 1:35pm On May 19, 2018
godfrey01:
Seun. please check your css padding. I always bend my phone to read comments and stories. the left side of every story is always inner. at most a left from each word not visible for viewing. or Am i the only person experiencing this.
Change your phone grin

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Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by abimic(m): 1:35pm On May 19, 2018
Jodha, come in here let's Roll, which of the listed can you manage....

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