obidevine:
Hi Nairalanders , I need some mature responses .

Anytime I and my wife have a quarrel or a verbal altercation she tends to remove her ring for a few days.

Please what could this mean or how do I address this. It really gets me thinking.

...A WOMAN WITH BAD TEMPER hmmmm, be carehfull
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sell ur ring she go calm down

That happens when you love a woman more than when she loves you. I guess you begged like dying for her to marry you so she use any little opportunity to make you feel she can leave the marriage and u get scared. Now when she does that again, take yours off too and keep it close to hers. Foolissssh woman

obidevine:
Hi Nairalanders , I need some mature responses .

Anytime I and my wife have a quarrel or a verbal altercation she tends to remove her ring for a few days.

Please what could this mean or how do I address this. It really gets me thinking.

obidevine:
Hi Nairalanders , I need some mature responses .

Anytime I and my wife have a quarrel or a verbal altercation she tends to remove her ring for a few days.

Please what could this mean or how do I address this. It really gets me thinking.

How old is she?? 5 years??

She grew up as a woman but left her brain in kindergarten...

& I guess you do beg her to put it back on...

NONSENSE.

obidevine:
Hi Nairalanders , I need some mature responses .

Anytime I and my wife have a quarrel or a verbal altercation she tends to remove her ring for a few days.

Please what could this mean or how do I address this. It really gets me thinking.

Is it a cheap ring?
Maybe she is allergic to cheap metals

Kidding
Seriously now

She does it just to make you think she is giving an impression that she is single and available.she may even have a fake boyfriend call her and she answers when you can over hear the conversation.
It's all part of the initial 7 years of knowing one another and adjusting
Don't pay any attention to it and she will have no need to do it

Remember that many of the people responding to you may be children so weigh each response on a scale.
If I were you, I would focus more on getting to the root cause of the frequent altercations and work through that rather than her reactions to them
Cheers

My brother, this is a red flag signal showing that this woman does not love you as much as you do her and her heart can easily be won over by another male admirer. I am not trying to put unnecessary fear in you but that is the plain truth, from experience. You need to start praying seriously from now for God to put your passionate love permanently in her heart and for God to give you the wisdom to handle her ad it's obvious she is still childlike mentally. You should also try as much as possible to avoid incidences of conflicts between you no matter the provocation. Best of luck.

To me, I feel she is really nt committed to the marriage vows . She thinks the marriage is urs and dts y she wants to punish with dt. Though dt could be because she is really nt mature enough to know what marriage really is. On the other hand, u guys should work on understanding each other better so as to avoid the occasion of constant issues.

If you haven't talked to her before bringing the matter here, you no try Hunku. I wonder how we see marriage. Shay na you pay her dowry? Sit her down and ask her "what meanest that". There are many ways to ask her. Me that was not there when you people were doing lovi lovi. I did not even eat reception rice, or collect souvenir. I should start cracking my head to answer Jamb question.

People here just saying she's not committed to the marriage, she's this, she's that yen yen yen... Don't try to confuse the bros. Let him go and ask his wife. Don't be too quick to conclude as if you're Ifa or Amadioha.

This bros has quarrelled with his wife to the point, he noticed "whenever" they quarel, she removes ring. Sir are you even sure you want to be in the marriage? Or you're just looking to nairaland people to endorse your divorce? You go see them oh.

If the woman is immature for pulling the ring, the man is immature for always quarrelling with his wife! If you love her as a wife, the first thing you'd do is try to know what's happening from her side,and not look for people to confirm your fears! And stop quarrelling with her sir. If you stop, maybe she'd stop pulling the ring.

Most of the advice you are getting here is mainly from single inexperienced individual.
A woman can NEVER. remove her ring over a minor issue. I suspect you sometimes hit her or use abusive words.The ring to her Signifies a kind of leverage, she believes without it, you have no right to abuse her physically or verbally.
Young man find a way to make your marriage work.stop abusing your wife. if possible keep it off social media.
All the best Sir
cc. obidevine

obidevine:
Hi Nairalanders , I need some mature responses .

Anytime I and my wife have a quarrel or a verbal altercation she tends to remove her ring for a few days.

Please what could this mean or how do I address this. It really gets me thinking.

Steal her ring.

Reason things out

obidevine:


You're right about her being hot tempered , but I love her so much.

Can you also say that she loves you too the way you love her? Have you ever come to think of removing your ring when you quarrel with her? Believe not always easy managing a home a man loves more than the woman! Homes where a woman's love is greater than the man, you hardly know or notice any fault or misunderstanding but homes where man's love is ahead of the woman's love! Wahala no be here ooo! All the same sit her down and talk that out with her! (Just hope the talk will not lead to another quarrel to remove her wedding ring! Loving the wrong woman is dangerous)

Ehn eh Kini Big deal

obidevine:
Hi Nairalanders , I need some mature responses .

Anytime I and my wife have a quarrel or a verbal altercation she tends to remove her ring for a few days.

Please what could this mean or how do I address this. It really gets me thinking.

That is the reason right there! She knows it gets you thinking.

GrammarNazi1:

...Let's...ain't...

'Ain't' passed in your lil grammar spectacle? Aiit!

Ever heard of double negatives not dealing?


@op, that is the 'ish' with not taking charge of your home right from the onset.

Drop by drop, the ocean has gotten full, it overflows.

SENSE PILL:

To maintain Luv, you must apply BALLS!
If not... the man dies....

obidevine:
Hi Nairalanders , I need some mature responses .

Anytime I and my wife have a quarrel or a verbal altercation she tends to remove her ring for a few days.

Please what could this mean or how do I address this. It really gets me thinking.

She may be cheating on you, she may tell men at that time that she's not married.

obidevine:
Hi Nairalanders , I need some mature responses .

Anytime I and my wife have a quarrel or a verbal altercation she tends to remove her ring for a few days.

Please what could this mean or how do I address this. It really gets me thinking.

I like making my narratives based on the foundations or the basics.....
That's because when the foundation is faulty,no matter the kind of structure you put on it,there is every tendency that the building will collapse.... same thing is applicable to a relationship or marriage without a durable foundation!

was there a serious relationship before you proceeded to marry her?

Did you see any sort of withdrawal any time you had a disagreement or quarrel with her before you married her?

Does she like settling quarrels or issues at her own time and when convenient for her?

Is she someone who is willing to sit down with you and solve an issue or quarrel no matter who is wrong or right?

To be honest,pulling the ring which represents a symbol of love, togetherness and oneness no matter the circumstances displays ignorance and immaturity!

This happens when an individual is not mentally prepared for a relationship or marriage.....I guess she was living under the assumption that marriage is like a fairy tale or a soap opera show ie telemundo where everything seems perfect with no issues or challenges!

Once she finally puts on the ring,Please find the right time to talk to her about what you have discovered....Let her know that issues,challenges or quarrels are inevitable.....
That problems can only be resolved by sticking together to overcome them and not run away from it!

Its well!

She simply regret marrying u at that moment. A deep thought that she could have married someone else. She wears it back when u make her happy and make her forget her regrets. I think the ring means alot to her as a symbol of your union. Try to steal it when she removes it. Then try ur very best to make her happy and show her love. I tell u, she will feel very guilty for misplacing the ring. Don't give her breeding space....keep disturbing her that she must find the ring. Then throw it on the floor where u know she will see it. I bet it with u, she won't do it for a long time. It happens to newly wedded couples.

She might be doing that just to make u more angry and worried

obidevine:
Hi Nairalanders , I need some mature responses .

Anytime I and my wife have a quarrel or a verbal altercation she tends to remove her ring for a few days.

Please what could this mean or how do I address this. It really gets me thinking.

start looking for another wife, this current one is not destined to wear ring. Matured advice you said!

A lot of people commenting here are either excited teenagers, or adults in five-second relationships.

My question is: what do YOU do when you fight with her? She's obviously trying to counter whatever your (re)action is. It doesn't make her behaviour right, but some context is necessary. People in marriages often think it's a power game, a struggle for control of the relationship. If you examine yourself and your behaviour toward her, the things you do when you're mad at her, or things you do to get her mad, and then change, yet she refuses to alter her ring-pulling behaviour, then you can really put the blame on her.


But it's important to tell her to stop. Both of you need to modify your attitudes. Marriage is a daily struggle. But LOVE heals all.

Powerexpert:
This advise is cool.
If a lady is doing such, it may be that you are not also living up to responsibility, she married you out of pity, she takes care of most things in the house i.e she contributes more to the house, she cooks and take care of the home while you most times show unchallant attitude, you are not also motivated to a reasonable/arguable level. Removing ring might be the starting point, the next thing might be your family frame or other things related. She might even threaten to relocate for you or divorce you. Na small small craze dey start

1. sit her down and talk over it
2. don't give excuse for your fault, admit it
3. don't shy away from responsibilities
4. revive the relationship by taking her out or doing special things
5. you can also help in doing one or two things in the house, na your helpmate, no kill her with work

Final question to you: is your wife working?

If after trying the above, there is no change, na to speak to who both of you will listen to.

Two wrongs will not make a right.
Two hidden rings will not make a happy home.

#thistoowillpassaway

Peace out

Can't say it better.

Like my friend would say 'What insolence!'

I don't think this should bother you, there will be a time that both of you will not even care to wear it for no reason. It bothers you now because your marriage is still young but there is more to marriage than rings. Pay less attention to that and concentrate on better things.

I appreciate all the advice.

If she likes she can remove her hand.

Na the pessin wey dey look him wife eye no say she dey cry.

Too much trouble in the outside world (Bob Marley) for some woman to create more for me in the house.

obidevine:


You're right about her being hot tempered , but I love her so much.

Hot tempered partner are the worst kind of partner.

sisisioge:
Don't get too paranoid... She does it cos it gets to you. In fact, stop wearing yours entirely and watch how she complains. Then you can talk about the rule of never taking it off.

A good place to start

obidevine:
Hi Nairalanders , I need some mature responses .

Anytime I and my wife have a quarrel or a verbal altercation she tends to remove her ring for a few days.

Please what could this mean or how do I address this. It really gets me thinking.

are you slow or what....??...

she dont want....when the opprtunity is around,she will leave you.......

chaiii......

you dont need no advice to know that.....

mbok.....

U better dnt gv high blood pressure so far dat she dnt use to remove it all the time why re u gvin ur self problem dat is nt dia , hv u see her with another man or hear any bad things about her ?if no let ur mind b at rest

U better dnt gv high blood pressure so far dat she dnt use to remove it all the time why re u gvin ur self problem dat is nt dia , hv u see her with another man or hear any bad things about her ?if no let ur mind b at rest u ve children to take care of n if u dnt hv blive in her go and do DNA TEST ON YOUR CHILDREN

obidevine:



No I don't

You are a liar


I am impulsive too and I don't just act the way I do
We are not mad

Check yourself
Stop doing the things that makes the pretty woman angry

Ishilove:

You this geh. You're a clown

Anas09:

hahahahahahahaha. Na wa for you.

Dude is lying
Making it seem like the lady is the one with faults
As he's faultless