uboma:




I don't think she loves you same way....

skillzbae:
I had a colleague who used to do this until one day she came to work crying, that when she removed it as usual, her husband took it, flushed it and told her the marriage is over. That was the last time she did that

obidevine:
Hi Nairalanders , I need some mature responses .

Anytime I and my wife have a quarrel or a verbal altercation she tends to remove her ring for a few days.

Please what could this mean or how do I address this. It really gets me thinking.

BiggyB242:
The outcome of getting married to a lady in her early twenties.

postmann:


It's a plus for you loving her. You ought to. But you must know or learn how to unleash the other side of love -- the manly side of love by being firm and resolute in bringing her back to sanity when she acts irresponsibly. Let there be consequences when she persistently steps out of line and follow through with a corresponding disciplinary measures. This could be by withdrawal from things she enjoys doing with you.

Women can't help but love and respect a man who can demonstrate the both sides of love. You can't afford to be soft with her dark side all the time, bro.

Dyt:


So cos he's a man
He's always right?

The way you men carry your ego and pride is unbeatable

tamethem:
Next time she does that if you know where she keeps it, go there pick it and go and help her keep it , so that it will be more save. Don't give her for months.
Since she likes her fingers empty help her with her decision. She is just being Childish.

umurphy:
Most married women does crazy things like, removing ring, refusing to cook, and denying you sex after minor quarrels. My advise is, device your own way of dealing with it. Marriage doesn't have a formula. What works for Mr A may not work for Mr B. Some refused to even wear rings and their hubby doesn't care. A woman was beaten black and blue by a young boy bcs she wasn't wearing. He apologised when the hubby came. Rings is an honour fr women, respect fr their person and a symbol of Gods glory. Removing means removing God from the business of your marriage that you can handle it all alone.

Benwems:
She could also be removing her paint without you knowing.

Apina:
Very immature. God knows i can never be in your shoes cos after d first incident, i would treat her like a jew, no time for nonsense

obidevine:


Verbally? Not really

obidevine:
Hi Nairalanders , I need some mature responses .

Anytime I and my wife have a quarrel or a verbal altercation she tends to remove her ring for a few days.

Please what could this mean or how do I address this. It really gets me thinking.

mamaafrik:
op,i can tell u a thing,if you do this and remained "be free darling" with you not choping her food,if she no change den i owe u 10 k

skillzbae:
I had a colleague who used to do this until one day she came to work crying, that when she removed it as usual, her husband took it, flushed it and told her the marriage is over. That was the last time she did that

Adefemiaderoju1:

How long have you guys been married for?


If your marriage is still young and she's behaving this way I don't see the marriage working and it would be nice if you could divorce her and move on with your life as soon as possible.

kimbraa:
Alright, thanks but I'm not searching.

postmann:



With the risk of coming off as ungrateful and too proud to accept correction, i must tell you that your "correction" was unnecessary.

And to think about the fact that that was all your contribution here, damn!! You must be one aimless vagabond several miles off the tangent of his true purpose.

HARDDON:


'Ain't' passed in your lil grammar spectacle? Aiit!

Ever heard of double negatives not dealing?


@op, that is the 'ish' with not taking charge of your home right from the onset.

Drop by drop, the ocean has gotten full, it overflows.

SENSE PILL:

To maintain Luv, you must apply BALLS!
If not... the man dies....

fucktoto:


i saw this coming. awon feminist crew...nairaland version. to you, everything in life is always men vs women.

but be sincere with yourself, if the op was a woman would you have asked all those unnecessary questions?

Dyt:


Yes
Cos there's no smoke without fire

A woman doesn't just wake up to act like a mad woman

So cos he's a man
Everything he does is right?
Have you taken your time to ask what he did?

Very little things sometimes turns a woman off after several endurance

He only said his side and there you all are asking him to leave her

I am impulsive too
So I can relate to what could have been the problem

They say you never know what it feels like to be hurt until you have been hurt

fucktoto:


your post nearly made sense until i spotted the hypocrisy, which i highlighted.

to be a good judge, you must be neutral and weigh the issue at hand equally from both angles before drawing a conclusion. but, unfortunately, your post here is ridiculed with gender bias.

i've seen and encountered women who act rashly without any tangible reason, likewise men. you just can't understand what pisses them off but they just get angry and go yabbing and nagging for a long time. there are also women (likewise men) who go haywire with the slightest provocation - i don't have the right words to explain this but let' just say it's their own nature.

the op here is complaining about his wife's habit of removing her wedding ring every time they have an altercation. take note of "every time" as it has become a regular thing. and he's worried about it very much. what he needs is good advice from experienced people to keep his marriage going, not judgment.

even if we must get to the judging part, i don't know if you skipped the part where someone asked if he loves her and he replied in the affirmative. yet you kept pestering him with questions, hoping he would give in so you could put ALL THE BLAMES on him and generalize his action to "all men" and probably invite your fellow 'feminists' and have another field day as usual. but when you couldn't find any, you felt defeated and disappeared without offering any advice, which is why he made this thread.

biko, stop this bias. you can't be using your own experience to judge others all the time.

nkwuocha1:


You Yoruba men hates the institution of marriage.What kind of anti -marriage advice is this?So this is enough to divorce a wife?You guys have several dysfunctional homes because of your intolerance.Jesus!
Obidevine,ignore this ones.They don't respect marriages.

Dyt:



Have a great Friday

I love Fridays

boyjo:


obidevine don't listen to him. She loves you bad. She just wants you to feel threatened because she knows you love her too.
Talk to her on a day she's feeling so sweet and do it with a STRAIGHT FACE. She'd listen.

Adefemiaderoju1:

What an old man saw if a child climb the ladder would still not see

Why bringing tribalism into this... Useless fellow

fucktoto:


me too.

i take my babe to a club every friday night for beer and asun.

we fight some times and settle our differences too.

uboma:



But why threaten someone who loves you genuinely from the heart?