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Does God Tell Us Who to Marry? by Toks2008(m): 8:43pm On Jun 10
Many people have been decieved into terrible marriages or prevented from marrying a good spouse in the name of "My Pastor said" or "GOD said".

I believe there is so much hypocrisy surrounding this matter. Lets face it..how come people don't seek GOD's face or ask a pastor for confirmation if the prospective spouse is an extreme opposite of what they desire..?

How many educated ladies will bother to ask GOD or pastor to confirm if a known armed robber is the one should such woos for marriage?
How many Guys will go to GOD to confirm for them if a popular LovePeddler is the one? But often times we tend to fool ourselves going to a pastor or going to bother GOD to tell us if a seemingly desirous prospective partner comes our way and i tend to wonder.

In the entire scriptures, there were only two instances where GOD expressly gave a clear direction concerning choosing a spouse and in those two instances, it was a very difficult choice and that was when God commanded the prophet Hosea, “Go, take to yourself a wife of whoredom and have children of whoredom.Hosea 1:2. And the second instance was when GOD sked Joseph to marry Mary who was already pregnant.

GOD respects our freedom of choice and for the Christians, we are encouraged to be yoked with fellow Believers and as far as GOD is concerned, A man has the sole responsibility to find a wife and once he finds one and marries her, he obtains favour from GOD. Proverbs 18:22.

The summary of this piece is that we should stop deceiving ourselves by saying 'Prophet said, My pastor said, Alfa said...' because in the real sense, it is our mind telling us what we want to hear. You can rely on your intuition or peculiar signs that gives you confirmation but we should stop hiding behind those words 'GOD SAID'

As a man,it is your paramount duty to search so pray to GOD for guidance and as a lady, pray to GOD that the type of man you desire finds you.

Just as we can see from the scriptures,if GOD ever tells you to marry a certain person then it is most certain that the choice of spouse will be very difficult for you to accept and this is the way you will know that indeed, it is GOD's choice for you

I hope this makes sense.

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Re: Does God Tell Us Who to Marry? by Toks2008(m): 8:59pm On Jun 10
lalasticlala I guess this is insightful.

I think it's more of a family thread..

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Re: Does God Tell Us Who to Marry? by IamAirforce1: 9:03pm On Jun 10
He that "Findeth" a wife findeth a good thing and obtains favor from God .

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Re: Does God Tell Us Who to Marry? by thesicilian: 9:10pm On Jun 10
When you are too lazy to read the Bible you bought with your own money, you have to depend on your Pastor for directions.

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Re: Does God Tell Us Who to Marry? by PUSSYHOE: 9:11pm On Jun 10
I hate ladies that sleep with more than one man at a time.

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Re: Does God Tell Us Who to Marry? by HeWrites(m): 9:14pm On Jun 10
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You sha wan let your post reach Frontpage.. No Wahala

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Re: Does God Tell Us Who to Marry? by Tosinex(m): 9:15pm On Jun 10
Marriage is originated by God.. Pray for God's direction and he will lead you aright! Women you have to be very sure that the man you are going with to the altar is God's will for you, because trying times will come and you have to remain with him and seek the face of God in prayer so you can both overcome!

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Re: Does God Tell Us Who to Marry? by Toks2008(m): 9:17pm On Jun 10
HeWrites:
undecided

You sha wan let your post reach Frontpage.. No Wahala

I write good stuffs and it is pertinent I mention the mods to consider it for front page..and btw I'm not a front page rookie.

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Re: Does God Tell Us Who to Marry? by DOUBLEWAHALA: 9:17pm On Jun 10
IamAirforce1:
He that "Findeth" a wife findeth a good thing and obtains favor from God .


i did not expect someone like u to be in a hurry to spew this bullsh!t

oya answer this qustion?

y did God tell abraham to purse his 2nd wife

y did God tell samson / lsacc not to marry outside


God gave samson 3 law to obey

#1 dont drink wine

#2 dont cut your hair

#3 dont take a woman who is from philistein




amuwaiting

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Re: Does God Tell Us Who to Marry? by sisisioge: 9:19pm On Jun 10
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Pastor Tokunbo at it again.So many eligibles staring us in the face, to hear when God says is the ultimate wahala.

I say...find a friend to pitch your tent with. Geskia.

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Re: Does God Tell Us Who to Marry? by izzou(m): 9:23pm On Jun 10
grin

For the first time, I am absolutely disappointed that you actually wrote something trashy like this

grin grin grin grin grin

I haven't read a write up loaded with so much ignorance in a while

Happy Sunday though wink

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Re: Does God Tell Us Who to Marry? by Colourich(f): 9:26pm On Jun 10
sisisioge:
grin

Pastor Tokunbo at it again.So many eligibles staring us in the face, to hear when God says is the ultimate wahala.

I say...find a friend to pitch your tent with. Geskia.
Marriage is not an easy journey.

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Re: Does God Tell Us Who to Marry? by Headlesschicken(m): 9:27pm On Jun 10
undecided Too short sighted.... Pray for spiritual enlightenment..

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Re: Does God Tell Us Who to Marry? by N0favors(m): 9:31pm On Jun 10
It's always good to seek God's guidance before proceeding to marriage. But then, I personally believe a man would know her prospective wife when he meets her. You don't need no angel to reveal it to you

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Re: Does God Tell Us Who to Marry? by Nobody: 9:37pm On Jun 10
You shouldn't have placed God in the same category as pastors. There're many false pastors who mislead people into the wrong marriage. I'm definitely an advocate of not asking pastors for confirmation or letting them decide for you.

But I don't see anything wrong with asking God. Yes, He has given us the freewill; who we marry isn't pre-determined, we choose. At the same time, we can seek His face and guidance to determine whether we're making the right decision or not, and unlike pastors, He will not mislead. You just have to make sure you listen well because God has different ways of answering prayers.


Toks2008:


The summary of this piece is that we should stop deceiving ourselves by saying 'GOD said, Prophet said, My pastor said, Alfa said...' because in the real sense, it is our mind telling us what we want to hear. You can rely on your instinct or peculiar signs that gives you confirmation but we should stop hiding behind those words 'GOD SAID'

Instinct/intuition can be God's way of speaking. But one has to be discerning because it might not be of God.

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Re: Does God Tell Us Who to Marry? by Candypot(f): 9:42pm On Jun 10
To every man God has pre-destined a woman to him, God guidance is needed to locate one's missing ribs so as to av a peaceful marriage.

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Re: Does God Tell Us Who to Marry? by Toks2008(m): 9:42pm On Jun 10
izzou:
grin

For the first time, I am absolutely disappointed that you actually wrote something trashy like this

grin grin grin grin grin

I haven't read a write up loaded with so much ignorance in a while

Happy Sunday though wink


Awww!

How I wish you can give me your own insight but as far as I'm concerned...you just trolled.

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Re: Does God Tell Us Who to Marry? by Toks2008(m): 9:44pm On Jun 10
JupiterGeekVII:
You shouldn't have placed God in the same category as pastors. There're many false pastors who mislead people into the wrong marriage. I'm definitely an advocate of not asking pastors for confirmation or letting them decide for you.

But I don't see anything wrong with asking God. While He has given us the freewill; who we marry isn't pre-determined, we choose. At the same time, we can see His face and guidance to determine whether we're making the right decision or not, and unlike pastors, He will not mislead. You just have to make sure you listen well because God has different ways of answering prayers.



Instinct/intuition can be God's way of speaking. But one has to be discerning because it might not be of God.

Good point. His guidance I agree.p

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Re: Does God Tell Us Who to Marry? by izzou(m): 9:51pm On Jun 10
Toks2008:



Awww!

How I wish you can give me your own insight but as far as I'm concerned...you just trolled.

Proverbs 3:5-6 New International Version (NIV)

5 Trust in the Lord with all your heart
and lean not on your own understanding;
6 in all your ways submit to him,
and he will make your paths straight.

You should take more time to study the Bible. Know more about the God you serve before creating threads just to make the front-page or get irrelevant likes cool

Tomorrow is Monday. Work calls. grin Read that verse up there. Read different translations and ask yourself.

Why did that part advise me not to lean on my own understanding? grin

Be wise bro. Have a great week ahead smiley

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Re: Does God Tell Us Who to Marry? by Lonestar124: 9:57pm On Jun 10
Pls don't complicit God on marriage.....he only said we should go to the world and replenish.

Marriage is union between a man and women not with God........No marriage in heaven.marriage here on earth is only for procreation.

If you're in good relationship with God you don't need to inquiry from him who to marry or not......he will find a suitable spouse for you.

Change your bad ways today and you will attract a good partner.

The opposite pole always attract other poles

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Re: Does God Tell Us Who to Marry? by Toks2008(m): 10:03pm On Jun 10
izzou:


Proverbs 3:5-6 New International Version (NIV)

5 Trust in the Lord with all your heart
and lean not on your own understanding;
6 in all your ways submit to him,
and he will make your paths straight.

You should take more time to study the Bible. Know more about the God you serve before creating threads just to make the front-page or get irrelevant likes cool

Tomorrow is Monday. Work calls. grin Read that verse up there. Read different translations and ask yourself.

Why did that part advise me not to lean on my own understanding? grin

Be wise bro. Have a great week ahead smiley

What is your point? Cos from all you write I can't pick anything...maybe you should try and catch some sleep.

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Re: Does God Tell Us Who to Marry? by izzou(m): 10:09pm On Jun 10
Toks2008:


What is your point? Cos from all you write I can't pick anything...maybe you should try and catch some sleep.

You can rely on your instinct or peculiar signs that gives you confirmation but we should stop hiding behind those words 'GOD SAID'

Those are your words. Aren't they? grin

Now read the verse again and see if you'll understand. Try to take a glass of milk while reading. I heard it helps grin

It's because I am an ardent reader of your thread, if not, I wouldn't have bothered typing. God still speaks, reveals, and gives people their right spouses to marry. You don't believe in it doesn't mean it's not happening.

Just like you advised,i need to sleep grin Monday traffic can drain one's strength

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Re: Does God Tell Us Who to Marry? by austyn0(m): 10:09pm On Jun 10
izzou:


Proverbs 3:5-6 New International Version (NIV)

5 Trust in the Lord with all your heart
and lean not on your own understanding;
6 in all your ways submit to him,
and he will make your paths straight.

You should take more time to study the Bible. Know more about the God you serve before creating threads just to make the front-page or get irrelevant likes cool

Tomorrow is Monday. Work calls. grin Read that verse up there. Read different translations and ask yourself.

Why did that part advise me not to lean on my own understanding? grin

Be wise bro. Have a great week ahead smiley
Oga what are you implying?

His point is,, we should rather ask God for direction other than asking God to make the plans for us...The Bible says we should make plans while God directs our actions.....

The Bible is a double edge sword....Now, on the issue of what op posted, sometimes you've gotta be realistic with life...Pray to God to help you find a good partner is more naturally solid than waiting on God to bring or show you your partner through some acclaimed men and women of God.

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Re: Does God Tell Us Who to Marry? by Toks2008(m): 10:11pm On Jun 10
izzou:




Those are your words. Aren't they? grin

Now read the verse again and see if you'll understand. Try to take a glass of milk while reading. I heard it helps grin

It's because I am an ardent reader of your thread, if not, I wouldn't have bothered typing. God still speaks, reveals, and gives people their right spouses to marry. You don't believe in it doesn't mean it's not happening.

Just like you advised,i need to sleep grin Monday traffic can drain one's strength


Are you sure you read that article?

Please read again and this time very slowly.

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Re: Does God Tell Us Who to Marry? by Toks2008(m): 10:13pm On Jun 10
austyn0:
Oga what are you implying?

His point is,, we should rather ask God for direction other than asking God to make the plans for us...The Bible says we should make plans while God directs our actions.....

The Bible is a double edge sword....Now, on the issue of what op posted, sometimes you've gotta be realistic with life...Pray to God to help you find a good partner is more naturally solid than waiting on God to bring or show you your partner through some acclaimed men and women of God.

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Re: Does God Tell Us Who to Marry? by izzou(m): 10:17pm On Jun 10
austyn0:
Oga what are you implying?

His point is,, we should rather ask God for direction other than asking God to make the plans for us...The Bible says we should make plans while God directs our actions.....

The Bible is a double edge sword....Now, on the issue of what op posted, sometimes you've gotta be realistic with life...Pray to God to help you find a good partner is more naturally solid than waiting on God to bring or show you your partner through some acclaimed men and women of God.

Another funny one

When you ask God for directions, what exactly are you asking God? grin Directions to the lady's house? Or her place or work? grin

When you are asking for directions, you are simply asking to be led to the specific place. Why are you guys always digging up different meanings out of something? undecided

These were his words


You can rely on your instinct or peculiar signs that gives you confirmation but we should stop hiding behind those words 'GOD SAID'

Does that look like someone looking for directions from God to you?

God will never force us to do his will. Never. You can choose whatever girl you want, whatever course you want to study, whatever job you want. It's up to you.

But you can still sit down, ask God and wait till you hear from him. People do it and it still happens.

I hope you understand me and don't quote back just to argue. I'm here to learn

Adios cool

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Re: Does God Tell Us Who to Marry? by izzou(m): 10:22pm On Jun 10
Toks2008:


Are you sure you read that article?

Please read again and this time very slowly.

No, I didn't read the article smiley

Re: Does God Tell Us Who to Marry? by Toks2008(m): 10:25pm On Jun 10
izzou:


Another funny one

When you ask God for directions, what exactly are you asking God? grin Directions to the lady's house? Or her place or work? grin

When you are asking for directions, you are simply asking to be led to the specific place. Why are you guys always digging up different meanings out of something? undecided

These were his words




Does that look like someone looking for directions from God to you?

God will never force us to do his will. Never. You can choose whatever girl you want, whatever course you want to study, whatever job you want. It's up to you.

But you can still sit down, ask God and wait till you hear from him. People do it and it still happens.

I hope you understand me and don't quote back just to argue. I'm here to learn

Adios cool

Now you are beginning to communicate.

Now the guidance is clear from the scriptures..."we should be yoked with believers" as I clearly pointed that out.

Now there is another form of guidance that does not necessarily mean GOD telling you "She is the one" you still have to choose...

Some ladies will pray to GOD for a hubby yet already have a prototype in their minds so when a guy who is a total deviation comes they just conclude..."he can never be the one" same for guys who love ladies with certain type of exterior dimension...they just can't imagine marrying an exact opposite so why do we go to GOD only when we see someone we feel we can be with?...that is the hypocrisy.

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Re: Does God Tell Us Who to Marry? by DIYhackers: 10:25pm On Jun 10
Many people wey no dey hear from God before go wan hear automatically because dem wan marry, na magic?


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Re: Does God Tell Us Who to Marry? by Boyooosa(m): 10:26pm On Jun 10
Toks2008:
Many people have been decieved into terrible marriages or prevented from marrying a good spouse in the name of "My Pastor said" or "GOD said".

I believe there is so much hypocrisy surrounding this matter. Lets face it..how come people don't seek GOD's face or ask a pastor for confirmation if the prospective spouse is an extreme opposite of what they desire..?

How many educated ladies will bother to ask GOD or pastor to confirm if a known armed robber is the one should such woos for marriage?
How many Guys will go to GOD to confirm for them if a popular LovePeddler is the one? But often times we tend to fool ourselves going to a pastor or going to bother GOD to tell us if a seemingly desirous prospective partner comes our way and i tend to wonder.

In the entire scriptures, there were only two instances where GOD expressly gave a clear direction concerning choosing a spouse and in those two instances, it was a very difficult choice and that was when God commanded the prophet Hosea, “Go, take to yourself a wife of whoredom and have children of whoredom.Hosea 1:2. And the second instance was when GOD sked Joseph to marry Mary who was already pregnant.

GOD respects our freedom of choice and for the Christians, we are encouraged to be yoked with fellow Believers and as far as GOD is concerned, A man has the sole responsibility to find a wife and once he finds one and marries her, he obtains favour from GOD. Proverbs 18:22.

The summary of this piece is that we should stop deceiving ourselves by saying 'Prophet said, My pastor said, Alfa said...' because in the real sense, it is our mind telling us what we want to hear. You can rely on your intuition or peculiar signs that gives you confirmation but we should stop hiding behind those words 'GOD SAID'

As a man,it is your paramount duty to search so pray to GOD for guidance and as a lady, pray to GOD that the type of man you desire finds you.

Just as we can see from the scriptures,if GOD ever tells you to marry a certain person then it is most certain that the choice of spouse will be very difficult for you to accept and this is the way you will know that indeed, it is GOD's choice for you

I hope this makes sense
.
Not fully.
Toks, I guess you are quickly running out of idea. You need a lot of more research, steadfastness and right frame of mind next time u r writing.
This is an incomplete piece! with all humility bro.

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Re: Does God Tell Us Who to Marry? by jamael(m): 10:26pm On Jun 10
Cool sir.

The challenge many of us face is that the only time we search for the will of God is when we are about to get married.

If you search the phrase, 'will of God' in the Bible, you'll see God's express instructions to us.

I'll only mention 1 Thessalonians 4:3: "For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication"

How many people care about this will of God?

That's why we easily get deceived due to desperation. If you have been following and trusting God for everything, God will also direct your marriage. If not, it won't be that easy to make a choice backed up by God.

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Re: Does God Tell Us Who to Marry? by Trackango: 10:27pm On Jun 10
I don't see anything wrong in seeking God's guidance in marriage. Same way we seek his guidance in every other thing we do.



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