WHO IS A HUSBAND AND WHAT IS HIS ROLE?
~ Rev Chris Oyakhilome Ds.c DD

Husband does not mean the male partner in a marriage, husband means master.

The reason for most problems in Christian marriages is the fact that women refute God’s definition of marriage and form theirs. They believe they are equal partners.

If most women had their fathers bold enough to talk to them, they will be very successful in their marriage and they will be very happy people. Most women have never been taught by their parents, their fathers particularly and that’s their biggest problem because they don’t know who a man is, they think he is another woman.

In marriage, you have the man who is the head of that union and because he’s the head of that union, its important to understand him. You think he’s the one that needs to understand his wife and that is where you are wrong. He will eventually but you have to know the type of man you are married to and his needs.
When you say you are marrying a man, you are coming under his authority. The Bible says, the man is the head of the woman (1 Corinthians 11:3) so when you marry him you come under his authority, you are not authority sharers even though you are both heirs to the kingdom of God.

When you decide not to subject yourself to that authority, you are a rebel and God is not going to accept what you are doing because you are not functioning correctly. Why did God make the woman?
Making woman was not God’s original plan because after God created Adam and before He made Eve, He said in Genesis 1:31 “Then God looked over all he had made, and he saw that it was very good”. God made woman because of man so woman was not His original idea. This is reality.

Genesis 2:18a “And the Lord God said “for it is not good for a man to be alone..” The Bible didn’t say “lonely” but “alone”. There is a big difference. Man wasn’t lonely but alone. Genesis 2:18b “…I will make him an help meet”. He didn’t say a partner or a supervisor or a special advisor or someone to tell him what to do.
I will make him someone to help him. God gave man a responsibility so woman was made to help man achieve that responsibility. If this is understood in every home then you won’t have problems.

I tell people that you don’t need a marriage seminar, you need the Word Seminar. Let me tell you, no husband wants another mother, he has had one all his life. He doesn’t want an older sister, he probably had one.
Your secret is in obedience, your secret is in listening to your husband, your secret is in doing the things that please him. When you don’t do the things that please him, you take the role of a mother or of an older sister.

A man loves the one he serves (God) and the one that serves him (a good wife). He fights the one that wants to be at the same level with him (a rebellious wife).
To be happy in your family and home is the easiest thing in the world, just take your role. Take your place. That place that God gave you is a beautiful place. Its a place of peace. Its a place of love. It’s a place of excellence.

Every wise person listens to wise voices (advice) but he listens to a wise voice that is presented wisely.
Everyone rebels against the voice that is trying to make a fool out of him. When you want to correct your husband, don’t lord it over him,present it as a wise suggestion. Humble yourself and be smart.

A wise woman will always be an influence to her husband, the foolish one will always annoy the husband, make him mad, make him angry and when you make him angry, you will be the victim. Learn to listen to your husband, practice it, tell yourself that you are going to do it because that is where your beauty is.

Once you stop listening, your beauty evaporates. You wonder why you are dressing and he can’t see it, he doesn’t remember your last hair style. Beauty is in obedience. That’s where the Glory is.

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Pastor is subtly throwing jabs

FortifiedCity:
Pastor is subtly throwing jabs

To who?

Oyindidi:
To who?

to the following people
1. His ex-wife
2. Seahawk / Cococandy
3. UjuJoan2
&
4. Mindfulness

Acidosis:


to the following people

1. His ex-wife

2. Seahawk / Cococandy

3. UjuJoan2

&

4. Mindfulness

Isn't he divorced?

UjuJoan2:

Isn't he divorced?

The idea is to learn from his experience

Acidosis:


to the following people

1. His ex-wife

2. Sea.hawk / Cococ.andy

3. UjuJo.an2

&

4. Mindfuln.ess

He should settle with his ex-wife. I can't take his advice on marriage, he is a Pastor and the Bible is against divorce.

Oyindidi:
He should settle with his ex-wife. I can't take his advice on marriage, he is a Pastor and the Bible is against divorce.

We don't know the complete story so don't be quick to judge. Let's talk about the one we both know - the message backed with realities and biblical inferences.

Acidosis:


to the following people

1. His ex-wife

2. Seahawk / Cococandy

3. UjuJoan2

&

4. Mindfulness

You are free to have a master slave marriage if you so desire. There are many masochistic women out there with low self-esteem. Go get em.

Now face your lane please.

Some one who is divorced is giving advice to married people. Hmmmm eleyigidighan

We have an adage in Ijebu. Any jhery-curl wearing bastard who tells you he would buy you a guinea brocade fabric, you should 1st check what he's wearing.

Mindfulness:


You are free to have a master slave marriage if you so desire. There are many masochistic women out there with low self-esteem. Go get em.

Now face your lane please.

Lmao, the things they say when they're confronted with hard facts. It doesn't mater how much you try, you can't and won't be a man. If being a wife is what you refer to as slavery, na you sabi.

This message is more than 7 years old. Why dig it up now?

Acidosis:


Lmao, the things they say when they're confronted with hard facts. It doesn't mater how much you try, you can't and won't be a man. If being a wife is what you refer to as slavery, na you sabi.

I love being a woman, na you sabi

This message is old even before the issue with his wife

Acidosis:


The idea is to learn from his experience

Learn from who?

If this is Chris's definition of marriage, he needs to go for counseling and he needs to be thoroughly taught.

Orchid45:
This message is more than 7 years old. Why dig it up now?

That may be one if the reasons his marriage failed.

This message will only end up wrecking homes.

jusRadical:




That may be one if the reasons his marriage failed.

This message will only end up wrecking homes.

You've a guilty conscience.

desoul2004:

You've a guilty conscience.

Marriage is NEVER master servant relationship as Chris thinks, period.

jusRadical:


Marriage is NEVER master servant relationship as Chris thinks, period.

Unfortunately, I can't find these two words in his message - master and servant.

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Mshewww Yorubas say a you have to look at a person who advertises clothes to you before buying his own clothes. Rada Rada

Acidosis:


Unfortunately, I can't find these two words in his message - master and servant.

Please read it again and slowly.

What message was he passing?

I know that you know how to answer comprehension and verbal reasoning. Read in between the lines.

jusRadical:




That may be one if the reasons his marriage failed.

This message will only end up wrecking homes.

You think so?

I concur with him but "serving" the husband isn't the right word. However, a wife must be loyal to her husband to earn/sustain his love and admiration.

Mindfulness:


I love being a woman, na you sabi

WOMAN != WIFE

Acidosis:


We don't know the complete story so don't be quick to judge. Let's talk about the one we both know - the message backed with realities and biblical inferences.

Sharap dia

Someone who failed to keep a successful marriage is the least qualified to teach others about how to have a successful marriage.
Simple.

Oyindidi:
He should settle with his ex-wife. I can't take his advice on marriage, he is a Pastor and the Bible is against divorce.

Was he the one that called for the divorce or the wife?

The bible says God hates divorce and Christ condemned any man that divorced his wife except for disloyalty.

When a woman called her husband for divorce what do you think is happening? There is already disloyalty in her heart even if she has not committed adultery.

If any woman calls for divorce before the husband, its obligatory for the husband to give it. That is not a sin, its the woman's problem.