WISDOM IN HANDLING IN-LAWS

The bible warned us not to be an ignorance of the devices of the devil. One of the devices of the devil in frustrating a relationships and breaking homes by wrong handling of the inlaws.

Yes, there must be conflict between in law and sons or daughters in-laws. One of the main reasons is personal interest or threat. They see the fiancee as a threat to take the attention of their son or daughter from them. They strongly thought their sons or daughter will no more be giving them an attention either financially or cares after the marriage.

Another is family background differences, The fiancee has been raised in his or her own family in a particular way and she or he is coming to another different background family. There must be conflict in their behaviours or approaches to things.

Some had been wrongly brainwashed that every mother in law are evil or witch. That made the daughters in law to prove stubborn or be on a safe side to prevent the witch in destroying her home. Her mindset has been polluted by that wrong believe, because she has believed that every mother in law are evil, she will be having bad dreams of her mother in laws not that the mother in law is a witch but the devil is using the wrong information to deceive her.

You need wisdom in handling the in law. Romans 13:8 Owe no man any thing, but to love one another: for he that loveth another hath fulfilled the law.

The only thing you are owing your in-laws is TO LOVE THEM AND UNDERSTAND THEM. No body can harm you if you are doing good, 1Peters 3:13. Light can not overcome darkness. Love your in laws.

Appreciate your in laws. Do not be selfish without an understanding. These people has been living with your fiancee for years and they did not kill him or her. They kept your fiancee for you till date. APPRECIATE THEM. Greet them, either they respond to your greeting of not. Be nice to them. Give them gifts. Call them when necessary.

SEE THEM AS YOUR FAMILY. Members of your immediate family are not perfect but you have lived and manage them for years. Do same to your in laws. Develop them and impact them positively and politely. . Accept their weak point and tolerate them.

AVOID CHANGING YOUR IN-LAWS. No one is perfect, nor even your own immediate family. There may be many things you might not like about the character of your in-laws. Avoid changing them. You can only change them by love not by forcing it on them.

BE GENEROUS TO YOUR IN LAWS Entertain them and do not punish them with hunger. Be generous to them in many way. Call them when necessary, encourage them when there is need, laugh with them and make them your best pal. Surprise them with recharge card.

UNIFY YOUR IN LAWS. Do not scattered them. No family without its problem. As you are coming to the family, do not add fuel to the already burning issue n the family. Do not judge anyone but be neutral, do not take side but unifying all side. Do not hear from this angle and broadcast to all. Avoid let any side use you as a bait to settle. Any issue you can not settle then be neutral and do not judge even if you know the truth.

LOOK BEFORE YOU LEAP. Do not force yourself into any family. Investigate the family well. Their culture or beliefs before you enter. In Africa, there are family with demonic culture and believe, look well before you enter their. Light and darkness can not be together. Go to your Pastor for counselling if you have found any suspicious beliefs about your in law. Broken relationships is better than broken marriage.

to be continue.......................