A very good wife!”
What does this mean after five years of dating?
Do I re- evaluate, challenge or concede that this was not leading anywhere and leave?

MissRaine69:
A very good wife!”
What does this mean after five years of dating?
Do I re- evaluate, challenge or concede that this was not leading anywhere and leave?

It means he is not committed to the idea of that someone being him.

You need to concede. You're been used to play snooker. Use your head!

MissRaine69:
A very good wife!”
What does this mean after five years of dating?
Do I re- evaluate, challenge or concede that this was not leading anywhere and leave?

And what if that "someone" is you?

sacramento1212:


And what if that "someone" is you?

And what if it’s not ?

MissRaine69:

And what if it’s not ?

That's the aspect you need to figure out yourself. You know this individual more than anyone commenting here. 5 yrs is more than enough for the guy in question to have defined exactly what is to be achieved between both parties but again, you have a role to play to know if there's a future with you or not.

What if it means "you going to make baby?

Eberechi24:

What if it means "you going to make baby?

Demogorgon:
You need to concede. You're been used to play snooker. Use your head!

And table tennis. The writing is always on the wall but most ladies PRETEND not to see or understand and then start shouting "WAYO, WAYO, WAYO," acting Dumb. In simple English the guy is tell the lady, "AM NOT THAT GUY"! Despite the gift of extra ordinary INTUITION to the female gender as the role the play or will play as to nurturing an infant that can't express themselves in words. Some of them still act DUMB but I bet it's not this OP but a confused mind she is trying to help out.

MissRaine69:
A very good wife!”
What does this mean after five years of dating?
Do I re- evaluate, challenge or concede that this was not leading anywhere and leave?

She should have looked at the guy straight in the eyes and simply say: I HAVE ALREADY FOUND SOMEONE.

That is turning the table around. The Guy becomes PUZZELED and may ask: WHO?!

Answer YOU ALREADY KNOW HIM.
Read his body language, your answer lies there.

MissRaine69:
A very good wife!”
What does this mean after five years of dating?
Do I re- evaluate, challenge or concede that this was not leading anywhere and leave?

He has broken up with you already. maybe since even 5 years ago!
That's a toxic relationship, if that statement wasn't an expensive joke you should have stopped communicating by now.

Concede and bounce up out that relationship, if he isn't certain he's the 'someone' you will make a good wife to after 5 years of dating he's obviously either not ready to be committed in general or to you specifically.

Although I don't know how old the people in question are to be fair, because 5 years of dating starting off as kids is different to the relationship starting from an age closer to the time in your life that you may have planned to settle down for example. But yeah, he's let you know that after all these years you still aren't a 'candidate'

ibkayee:
Concede and bounce up out that relationship, if he isn't certain he's the 'someone' you will make a good wife to after 5 years of dating he's obviously either not ready to be committed in general or to you specifically.

Although I don't know how old the people in question are to be fair, because 5 years of dating starting off as kids is different to the relationship starting from an age closer to the time in your life that you may have planned to settle down for example. But yeah, he's let you know that after all these years you still aren't a 'candidate'

She is 30 he is 38

MissRaine69:

She is 30 he is 38

Ok, she should leave that relationship

ibkayee:

Ok, she should leave that relationship

She can leave the relationship at 30 to where and to who?

When she leaves, everything about her view of Men changes. She should better figure out what that means before leaving

mrphysics:

She can leave the relationship at 30 to where and to who?

When she leaves, everything about her view of Men changes. She should better figure out what that means before leaving

Or she should settle with a guy close to 40 who is not sure he should commit to her after 5 years of dating

ibkayee:

Or she should settle with a guy close to 40 who is not sure he should commit to her after 5 years of dating

Why is she just realizing his unseriousness after 5 years of dating? I mean, a kid of 5 years is in primary 2. She probably did not know the limit to withdraw of a dead ended relationship. My question is, where do you advice her to leave to? She should better comit the guy. No matter what, it's risk and she have to do it. They better die in that relationship ooo.

I just don't want her to leave and then the next person she meets become a victim of her 5 years of miserable relationship she could not get to marriage. We are Innocent, she should carry on and allow us single guys deal with these emerging small girls with big God

mrphysics:

Why is she just realizing his unseriousness after 5 years of dating? I mean, a kid of 5 years is in primary 2. She probably did not know the limit to withdraw of a dead ended relationship. My question is, where do you advice her to leave to? She should better comit the guy. No matter what, it's risk and she have to do it. They better die in that relationship ooo.

I just don't want her to leave and then the next person she meets become a victim of her 5 years of miserable relationship she could not get to marriage. We are Innocent, she should carry on and allow us single guys deal with these emerging small girls with big God

She's 30, not 60, I know that's the age most people tend to have settled down by but she isn't a senior citizen just yet, she can still find love. I'm not saying it will be simple but it's better than settling, I'm advising what I would do in that situation anyway lol because I'd rather be single than settle for someone who isn't even sure of me

Let me park here jejely and wait for elders.

It baffles me that ur statement reads "do I.....".
It sounds like you.
Before u concede, it is better to challenge and know where he stands, what he means and how that affects d relationship after 5years.
If it's a flaw, then it should be corrected and if otherwise, handle it well ok.
We don't just accept failure without knowing the cause.
That is the much my head permits me to say.

MissRaine69:
A very good wife!”
What does this mean after five years of dating?
Do I re- evaluate, challenge or concede that this was not leading anywhere and leave?

She should propose to him.

When a man and a lady date for more than 3 years and he doesn't take her to a LGA registry for a registry marriage then he's a fraud.

If the lady knows that both she and the man are financially, emotionally and mentally stable for marriage yet the man isn't talking about marriage then she should propose to him.

Let the society call it desperation or whatever but she should propose . If the man is indeed not a fraud and a playman he'll accept her proposal and marriage will be underway in a twinkle of eye but if he's a fraud and playboy he will give filmsy excuses and run away.

You have concede to idea that he is not interested in getting hitched to you, also have a plan B just incase he doesn't end up marrying you, that's if and only if you are ready to settle down.