My girlfriend want me to join her in north because she has been offered an appointment where she's serving. I finished my NYSC last Dec and i don't have a job yet but i operate a small business where i am. We have been dating for over 5years now and my mum like her so much, though her mum like me as well. So she called me and explain things to me that she will need to hear from me before she make any decision whether to accept or reject the offer. From her own view she feels i can move down to north and still continue with my business so she can accept the offer and continue working while i run my own business as well. She told me she can't sacrifice her relationship because of the job offer and at the same time she feels we will both be jobless if she turned down the offer. Now i don't know what to do because we both love each other. I need advice on this please.....

adexoramo:
My girlfriend want me to join her in north because she has been offered an appointment where she's serving. I finished my NYSC last Dec and i don't have a job yet but i operate a small business where i am. We have been dating for over 5years now and my mum like her so much, though her mum like me as well. So she called me and explain things to me that she will need to hear from me before she make any decision whether to accept or reject the offer. From her own view she feels i can move down to north and still continue with my business so she can accept the offer and continue working while i run my own business as well. She told me she can't sacrifice her relationship because of the job offer and at the same time she feels we will both be jobless if she turned down the offer. Now i don't know what to do because we both love each other. I need advice on this please.....

,,,no harm in trials. "No risk,no reward.

If you are married, it would have been a different case. Even at that, I've seen couples being distant apart sort it out as long as communication and commitment is present. Just that the aspect of romance might be threatened, especially for an emotional weak partner looking for ways to satisfy his or her urge. Though real love will not permit that to happen.

You see bro, I see no complication here. She is scared of losing you due to trust issue. You haven't done much to enigma this factor in her life. Finance is important irrespective of whether one is married or not, so don't jeopardise your business without a feasibility study if it can strive in that location.

The question is if you relocate, can your business succeed there? On her path, is it a state or federal government job? If it's federal, she can request for relocating to your location after wedding ceremony has taken place.

Closeness is very imperative to fast track success in relationship as distance create barrier.

Discuss thoroughly with her the danger of losing your financial might if after your feasibility report shows it might not strive in her location.

Women are funny creatures. Mark my word, if your business isn't going well as planned, don't be surprise that she will lose respect for you.

Think twice before taking a final decision. Hope this helps?


Lalasticlala, more view for this gentleman's advice.

go join her over...before she founds another guy

If you can move your business over there, then go over. The North is not as bad as many people have painted it.

Ur story is quite incomplete, therefore d advice you might get may not be holistic.

Now what is the size of offer you GF got, is the pay up to 50k? Secondly it will be good you visit her and do a pilot survey there to see if your business can survive in such location before you finally decide whether to move or not.
I wish u d best

If you move down to the north with her,it's not like you both are getting married immediately.so,i advise you concentrate on your own business,and she should also concentrate on her job.you guys can visits each other often,till both of you are financially strong.from there you plan on settling down with her,as husband and wife.God help you guys.