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yet if mommy stops her contributions, the house will scatter, but daddy could die and no one will notice any difference in schedule cos he doesnt do sh!t, yet ppl call him the head so most ppl honestly believe what makes a man the head is merely being a man.

This here. Truer words have never been spoken

Again it doesn’t apply to everyone. But it applies to enough people that it matters.

That’s Why widowers have to get married the next month or they can’t survive but widows can survive even after in laws have taken all they worked together with their late husbands for. Eziokwu

bammo:
Kudos to you OP! you you have a lot of time to compose rubbish, well not everyone has the time to read rubbish

Funniest comment here by a mile!

that's also the reason no one here feels the girl is too young cos we've seen women of almost every age raise children, nigerian women are not allowed to be lazy or weak cos someone has to get sh!t done

Girls are forced to grow up too quickly because they will be mothers and build the home bla bla bla but boys will be boys

men will not treat u better even if u reduce yourself to nothing. having no standards with a man does not make u quality, it makes you a non-entity, u deserve nothing and will probably end up with that.

A bottle of Veuve Clicquot for this guy please

Pissed off betrayed hórny woman + single man who loves to fvck other men's wife shege is a deadly combination. this works 100%. ]

What

it's ok for a man to hustle for sugar mommy or pretend to be a 19 yr old german girl and talk dirty to fellow men for cash in the name of yahoo yahoo, yet they hate oloshos who actually earn their money.

Bwahahaha

I agree

ImaIma1:
It is indeed a looong post.

To be fair, despite the fact that we have men who are not worthy to be called "men" save for their gender, we still have some that are men in all intents and purposes.

The bad eggs have a way of nullifying the good ones but there are still men that take responsibility and take charge of a situation, family, etc.

There are the ones that cannot see past women being "oloshos" but they will also grow up and be responsible men. If they don't learn on their own, life will teach them the hard way.

but if a man you're committed to ever cheats on u, walk away! he will do it again, he has no respect for u and will fail u in other ways eventually. many women stick around cos to find man is hard, dont know who told them that but ok. some women feel it'll be crazy to leave him, then he'll find someone else and be so much happier with her and take pics and post on the insta u youths love so much. get this, he's happy with her just like he was happy with u, only difference is the unhappiness u chose to walk away from, she didnt get so lucky. he's not the prize. he will be just as goatishly happy with any woman who does not love herself and is ok with constant disrespect and humiliation

.

This is my mantra
Unfortunately few Nigerian women agree with this
The church will tell them to stay and fight for their marriage, even when a man moves in another wife,they foolishly stay. I don't get it.
The men know they will stay so they treat them like crap because they get away with it.

If a man cheats on me,he has broken our contract, it's over.

This OP made a lot of sense in his post. I don’t agree with everything 100% but he has a lot that young boys especially these NL boys could learn from. But they are busy calling him a woman to read and learn.

So what if he’s a woman? Does that negate the points in his post? Exactly. You’re proving him right by insinuating that the post is not worth anything because you think it was written by a woman. Who thinks like that except people who really need to educated themselves?

This is a rather interesting post and some of the comments show that all hope is not lost for us as a people. By us, I mean black people. A lot of thought, time and effort were put into creating the post and it is highly commendable.

Idrismusty97:
Blah blah blah blah. Are you sure you are even a man? Writing long craps like this that nobody will read instead of going straight to the point.

I did read everything there.

IamAirforce1:
Nonsense

Idiotic post

Useless ideology by a frustrated woman parading herself as man .

Foolish thread .

You just proved the OP right

Idrismusty97:
Blah blah blah blah. Are you sure you are even a man? Writing long craps like this that nobody will read instead of going straight to the point.

I read everything. Twice

Bablo08:
Please go back to animal planet and watch what they called lion then you'll understand that all this your bullshit u call advise doesn't have any meaning... maybe you'll understand that dough woman can do all things but some are being reserved for the head to always do no matter powerful u are..., women took care of all but man must take credit period.

Such low self esteem.

Ladyhippolyta88:


I tell you,men like Tonyebarcanista and Ezend.iEgo1,need to read that number 3.

My Dear, that nonsense can NEVER apply to me.

Thank you!

Bablo08:
Please go back to animal planet and watch what they called lion then you'll understand that all this your bullshit u call advise doesn't have any meaning... maybe you'll understand that dough woman can do all things but some are being reserved for the head to always do no matter powerful u are..., women took care of all but man must take credit period.

Why must man take the credit for the work of the woman? Just genuinely curious. I want to understand how this makes sense to you

@OP na excess time dey worry u, na people like u make Buhari talk say Naija youths are lazy

oolongtea:
5/5
the reason the most resourceful richest continent on earth is the poorest and hated is cos of the african man has chosen to not grow up. to be a leader, u have to actually lead and stop being mad at women for your own low-esteem and feelings of inadequacy as a man. if a ship came from the US to draft ppl to pick cottons as slaves in america but they get to have asylum, most african men would run into that ship and with our history with ships from the US. it is a slap in the face that they took us forcefully before and now, we beg to be taken cos we failed to prove them wrong and stand on our own feet. i have lived in and out of nigeria and i can attest that the frailty our men show extends to diaspora and to women of all races and tribes and species even sef, they sink almost every woman they come in contact with who sticks around for longer than 3 seconds.

it's a chronic state of eternal stifled man syndrome which has led to very infantile males with an extreme hatred for women and a desire to diminish them cos they cant compete where other men have competed so they try to fight for what women have. we're the only race of men who brag about trying to marry for a better life, in other cultures, it's a female thing to want a knight in shining armor to marry and elevate u, in naija, women are insulted for wanting a knight in shining armor but it's ok for a man to hustle for sugar mommy or pretend to be a 19 yr old german girl and talk dirty to fellow men for cash in the name of yahoo yahoo, yet they hate oloshos who actually earn their money.

someone here suggested going behind a girl's back to tell her mother about a pregnancy she doesnt want to keep and many ppl here think just like him, they dont even want to think of what happens to the helpless child that they're joking about. not that the child is more important than the mother, it just shows these ppl hate women so much, they're willing to subdue a girl, at the expense of an unborn child. some of the comments on that thread were just ridiculous. and they all pointed to the same thing, not one of these ppl knew the real job of a father, they just think the girl will raise the baby and the man will occasionally "baby-sit" his own child like most nigerian men do and they're ok with that as if with the state of affairs, our system of everything has yielded such excellent results.

nigerian men, MAN UP! stop being a nuisance to yourselves. the world is headed somewhere ugly and many of u will implode. nigerian women, most of u go for wealth cos nigerian men are useless when it comes to romance so stay that way, those of u looking for love, actually have standards with men and never settle, if u cant find what you're looking for in a man, stay single, u can have sex when u want, go on dates, u can even have a baby if u're that drawn to motherhood, u carry the pikin, born am and enjoy your life cos believe me, the difference between the stress of a single mother and most married nigerian mothers is very slim. what does it say about nigerian men that his absence and presence can be taken to mean the same thing? if genitals are what make a man, then a he-goat is a man too.

hmmm

oolongtea:
3/5
I read the p-square thread and even commented cos he made a very intelligent statement and it's few nigerian men that think that smart, most men will drag fire into his own house just to prove a point to the world, the world leaves and he burns in the fire that he started, and this okoye dude decided to let the fire keep burning on the streets and let it stay far from his air-conditioned home, marked his territory and secured respect for his wife and children but most nigerians are truly not used to seeing men actually step up for their woman, actually be a man and protect her, so to them he's letting the very evil lola with 3 red horns control him cos when they see a man being a man, they think he's being a woman cos all their female relatives work and look like men after years & years of having to work like men. so they recognize masculine energy but they've only seen women exude it cos they had no choice, so when they sense masculine energy, it's a female thing to them.

most ppl here come from families with a lot of malice but their fathers never took the initiative to protect them all from the adult drama and abuse. every christmas he'll put them in a vehicle and drive them there with a long list of ppl they must not talk to when they get there and how many hail marys must be recited in their mind if this uncle/aunty hugs them. what man sees a warzone and takes his own to the frontline and tell it to try not to die when he could have protected them from all that by not taking them there in the first place? most nigerian men cant stand their ground to protect those who need them to speak up for them and sever certain ties to keep the home they're the head of happy and full of laugh. many women have damned themselves by association to weak men who are easily influenced by pressure and dont have a mind of their own. they leave women stranded and embarrassed always...

A lot of men are very ok with their immediate families bullying and harassing their wives, (some even join in) that's why they think it is abnormal for a man to stand up for his wife against his family.

itsmeurLady:
Like someone said, OP might not be 100 percent correct but he made sense in some part if not most. I am happy that this is coming from a man, Men observe yourselves today, you will observe the trend in what he is trying to say. 28years old acting like a child, i have seen plenty and it's very painful, They can't even make life changing decisions, This African mentality is really affecting most of our men tbh, they don't know how to act anymore. Some of them act so primitive, they are plenty here on NL. They don't know how to talk, they talk anyhow, no decorum, no iota of respect for the female counterpart and u will be amazed that one lady is out der taking his bullshit. Ladies put a Price Tag on Yourself, I feel we contribute to it in a way. "All men must cheat!" This is a stupid statement and any man that gives excuses for his wayward life does not deserve a woman in his life. Humanity is becoming cold and people no longer know how to act. It is not a lady thing to be faithful, it works both ways. When a lady sleeps around, she is called names but when a man sleeps around, he is a "Man". Stop with all this BS already, any lady that stays with you knowing that u cheat does not have self worth for herself, take it or leave it. Men learn how to Act, you must not be a Pastor first before you live right.

Nice one. I can't but agree with you.

ImaIma1:
It is indeed a looong post.

To be fair, despite the fact that we have men who are not worthy to be called "men" save for their gender, we still have some that are men in all intents and purposes.

The bad eggs have a way of nullifying the good ones but there are still men that take responsibility and take charge of a situation, family, etc.

There are the ones that cannot see past women being "oloshos" but they will also grow up and be responsible men. If they don't learn on their own, life will teach them the hard way.

According to Nigerian women a man is only deemed responsible when he spends more money, assumes head of the family title.

SMH

dominique:



A lot of men are very ok with their immediate families bullying and harassing their wives, (some even join in) that's why they think it is abnormal for a man to stand up for his wife against his family.

They are quick to idolize their mums and treat their wives like strangers who came to punctuate or interrupt their family.

They would rather uplift their mums instead of stand up for their wives. They don't realize that their fathers stood up for their wives.

[i][/i] not a problem at all. Seeing how ingrained the problem is, he needed to explain in full text, show people how to think cos obviously people haven't been thinking, think g is too hard for them. He's a man's man. Let people teach you. A man who does not know that he does not know is a scary piece of problem. Believe me, his message is majestic, it needed to come in full.

YourCoffin:
This is one of the problem. To pass across a message you wrote a bible full of condemnation. Tueh

cococandy:


This here. Truer words have never been spoken

Again it doesn’t apply to everyone. But it applies to enough people that it matters.

That’s Why widowers have to get married the next month or they can’t survive but widows can survive even after in laws have taken all they worked together with their late husbands for. Eziokwu

kai sista, even you? so you mean to say that a husband who brings home the cheddar will die and nobody will notice?! and who will pay the bills? can wifey get a well paid job after years of sitting on her behind watching telenovelas?

as much as wifey takes care of her duty in making sure the home is in order, hubby is PAYING for everything else (aka food, clothing, roof over the family head, car, security etc).... without hubby, that woman's life become a big fat ZERO.

widowers have to get remarried because they HAVE A JOB to do outside and dont have the time nor resources to be cleaning and cooking etc, while a woman would ALSO have to remarry because she would have NO RESOURCES to pay the bills, buy food for the family etc.... unless she can find a well paid job with her very important "PHD in telenovela watching"

MrBrownJay1:


kai sista, even you? so you mean to say that a huisband who brings home the cheddar will die and nobody will notice?! and who will pay the bills? can wifey get a well paid job after years of sitting on her behind watching telenovelas?

as much as wifey takes care of her duty in making sure the home is in order, hubby is PAYING for everything else (aka food, clothing, roof over the family head, car, security etc).... without hubby, that woman's life become a big fat ZERO.

widowers have to get remarried because they HAVE A JOB to do outside and dont have the time nor resources to be cleaning and cooking etc, while a woman would ALSO have to remarry because she would have NO RESOURCES to pay the bills, buy food for the family etc.... unless she can find a well paid job with her very important "PHD in telenovela watching"

Yea that’s only in Nigerian movies.

In Nigeria real life, MOST women have to work and support the home as much as the husband in addition to doing everything else

cococandy:


Yea that’s only in Nigerian movies.

In Nigeria real life, MOST women have to work and support the home as much as the husband in addition to doing everything else

Nigerian real life where almost everyone has a house boy/girl..... you mean to say that a gainfully employed wifey would be cooking and cleaning, or as you say "taking care of a home", after a long day at the office?! in what way exactly, if not by watching telenovelas while directing the housegirl/maid to cook and clean?!

MrBrownJay1:


Nigerian real life where almost everyone has a house boy/girl..... you mean to say that a gainfully employed wifey would be cooking and cleaning, or as you say "taking care of a home", after a long day at the office?! in what way exactly, if not by watching telenovelas while directing the housegirl/maid to cook and clean?!

You’re out of touch with women’s reality in Nigeria. How can we have a discussion?. Have a blessed day sir

Eketem:



The women themselves are mentally lazy, they just do what they are told will fulfill them stay in a small box then become miserable witches because they are unfulfilled and their aggression is transferred to house helps and other weaker people.

They cannot think beyond what they have been told to do.

They are adults who suspend their brains, sit, accept all sorts because they don't want to feed themselves. They stay with sperm donors who give them diseased preeks and tears then declare every other woman who decides not to follow blindly their path an unsatisfied woman because their own lives begins and ends with bad sex and zero self worth

Hahahahahahaha. This part of your post made me laugh soooooo hard. I keep repeating this in this forum over and over. Women will always be architects of their own misfortune. My goodness! Nigerian women are doomed. I don't think a lot of them value their lives that much. Too bad. Such women can't be helped. They are best left in their miserable lives and their sobbing and nagging are best ignored.

cococandy:


You’re out of touch with women’s reality in Nigeria. How can we have a discussion?. Have a blessed day sir

women's reality?! what woman do you know in Nigeria that is married to a gainfully employed man, and has herself a 9 to 5 job, that would then come home to pick up a broom to start cleaning the house? if they have children then someone else is raising these kids and if the house is dirty someone else is cleaning that house.

indeed a blessed day to you too sista.