Marriage is not and shouldn't be seen as a competition. Because one seeks for equal rights doesn't mean you should bellittle her when she doesn't chip in due to circumstances.



1. Stop competing with your spouse who earns more
and who contributes the most money. You two are one
with an equal stake in the marriage. Both of you should
give as you can. Belittling your spouse who earns less
than you doesn’t motivate him or her to love you and
walk with you better

2. Stop wanting to win every argument with your
spouse. Too many marriages suffer because the
husband and wife want to prove who is more right.
Sometimes you have to let arguments go and focus on
what is most important: love. It doesn’t matter who is
right, what matters is that you both feel loved

3. Stop competing who is more educated than the
other. Just because you have a Degree, Masters or PhD
doesn’t mean you look down on your spouse who
hasn’t gone to formal school to your level. Education is
not just about going to University, appreciate your
spouse’s intellectual might regardless of how many
certificates your spouse has. Intimacy doesn’t require
good grades and awards

4. Stop competing with your spouse who is more loved
by the children between you two. Children love mom
and dad just the same

5. Stop competing who has done fewer wrongs than
the other. Love doesn’t keep a record of wrongs. Love
covers a multitude of sins

6. Stop competing who is more spiritual than the other.
Grow together in prayer and fellowship, build each
other up. Knowing God is not a race

7. Stop competing along gender lines, belittling your
wife because she is a woman, wishing your husband ill
and failure because he is a man just so that you show
him what a man can do, a woman can do too.
Complement each other, don’t fight each other

8. Stop competing who does the most good in your
marriage. Stop keeping scores of your good deeds
against the good deeds of your spouse. You are not
doing your spouse a favor by loving him/her.

9. Stop competing who is more romantic or more sexy
between you two. You both have different ways of
expressing your desires. Find a rhythm out of your
unique expressions instead of forcing your spouse to
be like you.

rather a battle field

I agree

donbachi:
rather a battle field

You mean?

100% Agreement!

MariaLavina:
100% Agreement!

Good.. say something about the topic.

agreed but showing that willingness to learn if you are lacking in any of those aspects is not bad at all. nice write up op.

agreed but showing that willingness to learn if you are lacking in any of those aspects is not bad at all. nice write up op.[/quote]

@Chiommy....u said it all. God bless your ministry and move it to a greater heights. "willingness to learn". having a learning spirit, a teachable spirit.
I rest my case.