Your partner cheated on you—does it have to end your relationship? Can it actually benefit it? No it doesn’t have to end your relationship and yes, it can even help it… sometimes, but that doesn’t make it right.


It may be hard to wrap your head around the idea, but Perel makes some convincing arguments for thinking differently about cheating in her new book, The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity.

Why should we be rethinking infidelity? Because there’s a lot of cheating going on, and it’s not just guys—both men and women are seeing a rise in cheating. While it’s hard to pin down exact numbers (some say as high as 60 or 70 percent) the numbers really don’t matter; all that matters is, will it happen to you?

You may be thinking it could never happen to you and that you and your spouse are very happy. But love and happiness aren’t always the most important factors when it comes to determining whether someone will or won’t cheat.

In our interview study, explained that the men who cheated on their partners all said they loved them and didn’t want to lose them. They start off thinking they want monogamy, but after being in a relationship for months or years, they start missing sex with others. But by this point Read more

Yes.

Who wants to live the rest of their lives anxious that someone might cheat again? It's better to be alone. Many people get killed for standing in the way of a cheating spouse. Set someone free.

no, it only means the person is tired of drinking water from the same stream.