Bass123:
Admin put this on the front page if you can pls.
I am in love with this lady since from tertiary institution and the only thing stopping me from getting married to her ever since was money.
Now all of us are working but the income is not upto what I expect myself to keep a lady at home as a wife. I am a crusader of feed your family well and properly. I love seeing my wife healthy well taken care of.

Awhile back, she'd stayed with me for good 3 months and some weeks before she got her apartment.
My problem started when she made a male friend at her working place and they became pretty close enough so much so that she'd stayed and made love to him and each time if I asked "she'd told me we are just friends with benefits " its kills me each time she said that.

There wasn't any conversation I will have with her she'd not mentioned the guys name. Even when I told her not to go to his house she will say yes but somehow I'd found out she has gone to his place again.
I told her I really need her to trust me so we could build a family together, she'll often say no we are not meant to be together.

The challenge now with me is that, I want to break free and move on with my life but I am finding it very difficult to let go of her. What can I do to be free, sometimes I'd think I should go violently on her but that is foolishness. I don't know what to do save a brother.

I am addicted to this lady, she don't call me if I don't call. When she was with me the guy will call and she will rush to pick his call but when I call her she don't pick sometimes. Don't forget I call her always I don't spare my units before you will think I don't call her as the other guy does.
I remember some months back she traveled and I called all through out that day to know if she has arrived safely but she didn't pick up the phone, so I called again the next day she picked and told me she was busy that was why she didn't pick.
Same week when she came back to my place, she was in a hurry to put a call to this guy, she has not even removed her cloth or anything that the guy has been calling her, she had to call back. I was furious by that decision after the call I told her is disrespectful to do that, having in mind she did not return my call with such urgency when I did call.
She apologized but I was hurt.
The question is how do I go away from her?

tuasefemi:
This story sounds like a teenage boy's innocent love escapade, but you said you were out of university already, and even working, that shows you're no longer a teenager.
My advice: Since you so much love her that you hardly can do without her, according to your story, get close to another pretty girl, you can even arrange it with the girl, if possible... Behave as if you don't really care so much about her as you used to do... Make it obvious to her that you are now in love with another girl, even though you are not... Let this go on for like two months, if after two months nothing changes positively about her behavior towards you, then be rest assured that she's actually not meant for you! Then you move on with your beautiful life!

Bass123:
Admin put this on the front page if you can pls.
I am in love with this lady since from tertiary institution and the only thing stopping me from getting married to her ever since was money.
Now all of us are working but the income is not upto what I expect myself to keep a lady at home as a wife. I am a crusader of feed your family well and properly. I love seeing my wife healthy well taken care of.

Awhile back, she'd stayed with me for good 3 months and some weeks before she got her apartment.
My problem started when she made a male friend at her working place and they became pretty close enough so much so that she'd stayed and made love to him and each time if I asked "she'd told me we are just friends with benefits " its kills me each time she said that.

There wasn't any conversation I will have with her she'd not mentioned the guys name. Even when I told her not to go to his house she will say yes but somehow I'd found out she has gone to his place again.
I told her I really need her to trust me so we could build a family together, she'll often say no we are not meant to be together.

The challenge now with me is that, I want to break free and move on with my life but I am finding it very difficult to let go of her. What can I do to be free, sometimes I'd think I should go violently on her but that is foolishness. I don't know what to do save a brother.

I am addicted to this lady, she don't call me if I don't call. When she was with me the guy will call and she will rush to pick his call but when I call her she don't pick sometimes. Don't forget I call her always I don't spare my units before you will think I don't call her as the other guy does.
I remember some months back she traveled and I called all through out that day to know if she has arrived safely but she didn't, so I called again the next day she picked and told me she was busy that was why she didn't pick.
Same week when she came back to my place, she was in a hurry to put a call to this guy, she has not even removed her cloth or anything that the guy has been calling her, she had to call back. I was furious by that decision after the call I told her is disrespectful to do that, having in mind she did not return my call with such urgency when I did call.
She apologized but I was hurt.
The question is how do I go away from her?