Wisdom for the Singles..

Do not get it wrong. There are levels or stages of Relationship.

If both just met then both are strangers to each others. Treat him like stranger first before opening your heart. Desperation makes people jumped from stage one to an advance stage within weeks of relationship.

You shouldn't bring stranger to your bedroom, you shouldn't give your phone to stranger to go through. You shouldn't trust a stranger with your emotions. You shouldn't introduce stranger to friends or family. Take it easy and KNOW each others well before both advance to the next stage and next stage and next stage before you can trust each others.

SinglesNetwork1:
Wisdom for the Singles..

Do not get it wrong. There are levels or stages of Relationship.

If both just met then both are strangers to each others. Treat him like stranger first before opening your heart. Desperation makes people jumped from stage one to an advance stage within weeks of relationship.

You shouldn't bring stranger to your bedroom, you shouldn't give your phone to stranger to go through. You shouldn't trust a stranger with your emotions. You shouldn't introduce stranger to friends or family. Take it easy and KNOW each others well before both advance to the next stage and next stage and next stage before you can trust each others.

sadly, some people are different, and so long as you and your emotions are "safe".... there is no timeline to treat people different, opening your heart, trust people. introduce them to friends/family etc. if you FEEL that what you are doing is "right" then by all means do it.

MrBrownJay1:


sadly, some people are different, and so long as you and your emotions are "safe".... there is no timeline to treat people different, opening your heart, trust people. introduce them to friends/family etc. if you FEEL that what you are doing is "right" then by all means do it.

Begs the questions;
How do you know your emotions are safe when your reasoning is beclouded by your emotions??
How certain or with what criterion are you to measure the feeling that what you are doing is right, when emotions to a greater extent supersedes, detects and control one's sense of judgement??

Skylarking:

Begs the questions;
How do you know your emotions are safe when your reasoning is beclouded by your emotions??
How certain or with what criterion are you to measure the feeling that what you are doing is right, when emotions to a greater extent supersedes, detects and control one's sense of judgement??

there are times when you have to take control of your life and make important decisions, and stand by them (unless you want to live in fear of the unknown forever).... there is only one way to know if what you feel is right or not, and thats by taking the chance fully to ride on these emotions. the important question here IS: what have you got to lose? if it feels RIGHT then you should go for it, each and every single time.

you know yourself better than anyone else, so always go by "your" standards, so long as they make sense to you.

IMHO to be emotionally "safe" is boring and not as important as to always do "what you desire"

MrBrownJay1:

there is only one way to know if what you feel is right or not, and thats by taking the chance fully to ride on these emotions. the important question here IS: what have you got to lose? if it feels RIGHT then you should go for it, each and every single time.

That should answer the questions, but it doesn't. Perhaps you should explain what you mean by taking chance fully to ride on emotions.

MrBrownJay1:

IMHO to be emotionally "safe" is boring and not as important as to always do "what you desire"

And this seems contradicting with your initial point. But it can be ignored.

Skylarking:
That should answer the questions, but it doesn't. Perhaps you should explain what you mean by taking chance fully to ride on emotions.

if you emotionally feels that something is RIGHT, then go for it, each and every time (instead of wanting to always be on the "safe" side of life)

And this seems contradicting with your initial point. But it can be ignored.

to be emotionally safe is people that dont do things they FEEL because of IFs BUTs and MAYBEs....now on the other hand, if you want to kill/hurt yourself because of love then such emotion aint "safe".

MrBrownJay1:


if you emotionally feels that something is RIGHT, then go for it, each and every time (instead of wanting to always be on the "safe" side of life)

to be emotionally safe is people that dont do things they FEEL because of IFs BUTs and MAYBEs....now on the other hand, if you want to kill/hurt yourself because of love then such emotion aint "safe".

You are aware that people who make mistakes and have regrets about things they have done in life, once FELT it was RIGHT.
The thing is that, It always feel right until it turns out to be wrong. So, following your assertion is unwise. A substantial criterion is needed to measure RIGHT and WRONG to avoid confusion and ambiguity.

Maybe we should ignore your second paragraph for now.

Skylarking:
You are aware that people who make mistakes and have regrets about things they have done in life, once FELT it was RIGHT.
The thing is that, It always feel right until it turns out to be wrong. So, following your assertion is unwise. A substantial criterion is needed to measure RIGHT and WRONG to avoid confusion and ambiguity.

Maybe we should ignore your second paragraph for now.

would you rather live your life knowing that you did what you thought was right OR doubting all your feelings and end up down the line wishing on what you could have done?! what kind of life would that be? we all know whats right/wrong, and what may be right for you, might be wrong for me.... but let us all understand that everything that a person believe is RIGHT, is indeed RIGHT by them. the answer will always be within your own beliefs.

MrBrownJay1:


would you rather live your life knowing that you did what you thought was right OR doubting all your feelings and end up down the line wishing on what you could have done?! what kind of life would that be? we all know whats right/wrong, and what may be right for you, might be wrong for me.... but let us all understand that everything that a person believe is RIGHT, is indeed RIGHT by them. the answer will always be within your own beliefs.

Now, you've indirectly made it clear that the feeling of right or wrong in such emotional circumstances is strictly individualistic of which its consequences whether favourable or unfavourable is neglected and can't be judged by ascribing to a generalized criterion. And that's what I was after. We are now on the same page.

Ignoring the part you smuggled in the notion of emotional safety which when examined critically will contradict the above point. Unless you deem it necessary we subject it to further deliberation.