kennydotkom:


Very voluminous though

Though, my advice to my friend in this case is that he should send his brother-in-law out for his wife to have peace of mind. What happen is that there is this friend of my with his wife. His brother-in-law just move down to Lagos after his NYSC, fortunate or unfortunately he has no place to stay comfortably than to stay with his immediate elder sister luckily for his he got job around that area . But the issue is that this boy is disrespectful, arrogant to her sister, he is a big rival and headache to his sister (my friends wife)when they were living together. He call his sister by name and talk to her anyhow in the present of their mum . According to his sister, their mother actually caused it when they were young, their mummy always pampering this boy because he is the only boy of 4children so she gave the boy unecessary preferential treatment over other kids. Now the boy has no choice than to stay with his sister in her marital home, evn despite that his sister has 3kids now he still call her by name which nobody does in their compound. Whenever he want to talk to his sister in the present of her husband, he speak English or pidgin to his sister. So he is pretending. The funny part of this is that if they both meet outside or along the street, the boy will pretend as if they are not sibling or present as if he didn't see her sister. My friends wife never wanted this boy to come and stay with her base on longtime rivalry between them but their mummy persuaded her to allow her brother to stay with her, she belive that the boy would have changed, now the boy is giving her tough time. The boy always trying to avoid to be in thesame gathering with his sister because he won't not want to talk to his sister. Anytime his sister husband is around this boy will lock himself inside his own room living everybody in the sitting room imaging isolated life because of ego and lack of home training . He is full of Ego or regreting to have female as elder one. Many of this boy friends have scolded him to correct this immorality but he is finding it hard to do. Now I adviced my friends to send this Ego-ladden brother-in-law away because the boy does not help his sister out in any house work especially when the husband is not around. But inlaw-case is very sensitive. Pls anyone with good advice or who has ever experienced this bfor.

Jesse25:

Your friend should stay clear from the matter and thread with caution because blood is blood what I we say is that the boy should be giving a time to leave the house because it not permanent, the boy should be reminded that is not is father house so he should join in the house choice too your friend must step up and tell him all this thing, but he should do it in a proper way .

alterswerve:
Doesn't she have cane in that house?

Eketem:
Nobody should make you uncomfortable in your own home if he cannot live and respect people then let him go and have his own house and do ego

Prognose:
Can you live live live with your wife's younger brother that doesn't respect your wife? Live, not leave with your wife, live with your wife.

Exponental:
Op..... you've abused English ooo.
If the sister agreed to be manipulated while growing up,, should she be so stupid to be manipulated in her marriage She decides!!!

Nbote:
Oga if He cannot respect his host den why is he still in d house?? U did not marry d broda and d house is her sistas house. Let ur friend sit d boy down and talk to him. If he can't respect his wife who happens to b d boys sista den he can as well go look for anoda accomodation

bladeAnders:
not all.. disrespecting my wife, means disrespecting me....

Prognose:
Can you live live live with your wife's younger brother that doesn't respect your wife? Live, not leave with your wife, live with your wife.

Jesse25:

Your friend should stay clear from the matter and thread with caution because blood is blood what I we say is that the boy should be giving a time to leave the house because it not permanent, the boy should be reminded that is not is father house so he should join in the house choice too your friend must step up and tell him all this thing, but he should do it in a proper way .

To hell with his stupid blood.... the best i will do is raise part of his house rent and send the moda4ka away.... see ehn i dont take bullshit... i dont bring sentiments into stuffs like this... even if he is my own brother i will send him out in few days

Kewtt:

They should carry the blood is blood out in their father's house!!

royalguy123:
I am married for 21yrs,but experience is what matters,the HUSBAND should call the Inlaw in a meeting one on one,tell him as a brother and friend that's though this woman is his sister,but she is my wife and its my home.
you won't tolerant any of his ego any more and if he decides to show them again he will force me as an Inlaw to do the needful. Trust me it works,speaking from experience.!!

keepingmum:
Infact, i like the responses so far - i hope when the table is reversed and a wife complains that her inlaws that live with her are disrespectful to her, you will all encourage and insist the husband throws his sibling out of the house : afterall, you cannot and should not make someone uncomfortable in their home

kennydotkom:


Abi now. How can he call his sister by her name in the present of her husband and that wont cause trouble evn if he has been doing that before now? when ever woman get married either your elder sister or younger one, she deserve respect from that day she got married, but this boy stil want to live in the past.

Eketem:
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My sibblings call me by name doesn't matter to me but staying in my house and doing nothing is not acceptable

kennydotkom:


Calling you name before your husband when he knows ur kids name is bad. Also calling you ur name or disrespecting u bfor his friend will empower his friend to do same to you and society frown at it. Secondly the boy never do anything in the house when his sister is busy with her 3kids, cook food, sweep, mop tiles the boy will remain inside his room until it's time to go to kitchen to carry his food or go to watch ball on saturday afternoon. His sister is feeling the need to have her female sibling staying wit her than this boy.

kennydotkom:





Also brilliant advice indeed, what happen is that my friend in question works in abeokuta, so he only come home on Friday. So Imaging what kind of rift, rivalry his wife Wil be facing with his brother during the week before the husband comes back which will make the boy adjust

anayolity:


To hell with his stupid blood.... the best i will do is raise part of his house rent and send the moda4ka away.... see ehn i dont take bullshit... i dont bring sentiments into stuffs like this... even if he is my own brother i will send him out in few days

Eketem:


The name thing is cultural, some cultures don't really care about that, the main issue is not doing anything around the house and expecting to be served, that isn't decent behavior