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Re: Mature Advice Needed From Married Couples by frozen70(f): 6:59pm On Sep 15, 2018 |
DEGREE2466: No child wished to be in that situation Anything can happen to somebody either by omission or by error and someone have to bail that person out End of discussion |
Re: Mature Advice Needed From Married Couples by tabithababy(f): 7:04pm On Sep 15, 2018 |
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Re: Mature Advice Needed From Married Couples by Nobody: 12:01am On Sep 16, 2018 |
frozen70: I'm surprised this is coming from a woman...I have a feeling you are not married yet. She does not need the child as a point of contact for children, I'm sure her God has settled her already. And must she take care of someone else's child because she wants her own children And why should the child of another man and woman come and be first born in her own home. Lastly, she does not have a problem she needs a child to distract her in-laws from. And the child should go and call his parents daddy and mummy, im sure emergency 'mummy' title no dey hungry the OP. 2 Likes |
Re: Mature Advice Needed From Married Couples by Eketem: 3:36am On Sep 16, 2018 |
So many issues here: Is the child's father willing to give up custody? What exactly is the court order about? Is it an injunction from the mother or or from the child? The parents may be economically challenged now but if that changes in the future and they decide to fight for custody is that right for the child's mind? It looks like you don't have much of a say. If this is done right and if you were comfortable with adoption there is nothing bad about adopting a child, the birth right you are worried about these days it doesn't matter, kids find their own way, see Davido and Falz their parents built businesses, Falz even studied law to please his dad but made his own success on music and movies. Davido left his dad's businesses to do music. I am saying raise the kids to be achievers on their own with your support and not to be relying on birth right. My only issue with this arrangement is if it is legal, it doesn't seem so. Your husband is trying to control a situation that may backfire 1 Like |
Re: Mature Advice Needed From Married Couples by KanwuliaExtra: 4:00am On Sep 16, 2018 |
Hmmmmm! Marriage na waya o! What a mess! OP, pele o! Your matter pass advice matter! |
Re: Mature Advice Needed From Married Couples by bukatyne(f): 5:00am On Sep 16, 2018 |
Janelle08: There are blinking red flags here. It is either: 1. Your husband is impotent and wants this child stuff to distract you; 2. The child is his and the mother is random; 3. The child is his and he pregnated his sister (God forbid); 4. Your husband knows you can't have kids. If the discussion was just for him to live with you permanently, then the case is different. To totally annihilate his history by you guys adopting him, it sounds fishy. I do not know if you guys have been married for up to 28 months (2yrs and 4mths) because that is the only logical way to convince people who did not see you get married pregnant or with a kid in tow that you actually own that child. I think after adoption, the next move would be for him to convince you both to leave the area and start life afresh in another state/abroad. If it were just to deceive potential suitors that the younger sister never had a child, the elder sister is actually the best bet. Not to sound cliché like, you need prayers to know what is going on and the steps you need to take. 1 Like |
Re: Mature Advice Needed From Married Couples by nnamdibig(m): 5:58am On Sep 16, 2018 |
And when the boy is old and the real dad shows up with tears in his eyes and explain to the boy how his mum and her people kept him away from him(the dad) since he was small, all your efforts vanish in seconds. You can help the boy but don't adopt him. Don't accept that nonsense. Besides when the family was deciding that you and your hubby should adopt the boy, they should have invited you. Not taking decisions in something that affects you directly and expects you to accept is wholeheartedly. 1 Like |
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