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Re: Help, My Husband Wants To Divorce Me Cos I Got A Property Behind His Back. by Raalsalghul: 8:17am On Sep 23, 2018 |
pocohantas:awaiting ur feminist gist inside d matter |
Re: Help, My Husband Wants To Divorce Me Cos I Got A Property Behind His Back. by revolt(m): 8:22am On Sep 23, 2018 |
neoG:you dont know women... Any day theres an altercation shell remind you how uve nvr done anything for her even the house you live in " you didn't contribute a dime to it" how shes been carrying the load of the family on her shoulders , shell genuinely forget the mans spent all he had running their home. . You don't know what wonen are capable of. They're not built like men. If they give they expect sompn in return and will forever hold you to ransom. Even our mothers....dont you know that line of " I carried you for nine months...made you what you are".....forgetting somebody also did same for em. Let them sell the house and build anotger together. Cos even his kids will be told your father didn't even know when the house was built. 1 Like |
Re: Help, My Husband Wants To Divorce Me Cos I Got A Property Behind His Back. by neoG(f): 11:24am On Sep 23, 2018 |
Yeah am not arguing that but in this case, what have been done have been done. Is just to look for the way forward dead. As a man over look somethings women do in other to save yourself unnecessary headache in this life revolt: |
Re: Help, My Husband Wants To Divorce Me Cos I Got A Property Behind His Back. by neoG(f): 11:26am On Sep 23, 2018 |
Thank you dear. slimmaintenance: |
Re: Help, My Husband Wants To Divorce Me Cos I Got A Property Behind His Back. by neoG(f): 11:34am On Sep 23, 2018 |
You said it all. His name is on the property and he still feels insecured. LadySarah: 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Help, My Husband Wants To Divorce Me Cos I Got A Property Behind His Back. by revolt(m): 11:49am On Sep 23, 2018 |
neoG:this type of issue isn't overlooked cos it'll forever hunt him even can cause him to lose respect in front of the kids |
Re: Help, My Husband Wants To Divorce Me Cos I Got A Property Behind His Back. by revolt(m): 11:55am On Sep 23, 2018 |
LadySarah:do u have separate accounts and the lsco of trust on finances they had...?!!! Your husband is not in those shoes. Once you lie about ur resources to the extent u can build a house to YOUR TASTE , STYLE, DESIGN, VICINITY without even askn for his opinion......naaaa ..if you're truthful to yourself its a negative. So what else has she done behind him whyl he's struggling n remaining broke.... Naaaaaa |
Re: Help, My Husband Wants To Divorce Me Cos I Got A Property Behind His Back. by eniolorunfe: 1:31pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
Women KNOW THY husband!!!! What works for A does not necessarily work for B! Do unto others as you want others to do unto you. @ op...If sides were switched and you were struggling under financial burdens and your 'supposed better half' has been there all along, not supporting but fronting that she also doesn't have and then she later shows up with a house that she has spent millions on saying it's a surprise, will you be happy |
Re: Help, My Husband Wants To Divorce Me Cos I Got A Property Behind His Back. by Seahawk: 3:18pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
Smh Silly Femsyn: |
Re: Help, My Husband Wants To Divorce Me Cos I Got A Property Behind His Back. by Seahawk: 3:23pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
I know this is a made up story but may we never marry destiny killers whose egos are more important than the wellbeing of the household. Amen Someone built a house for you. Furnished it and put your name on the title. And gave it you as surprise family gift. And now they have to beg for you forgiveness because she didn’t foresee how upsetting it would be to your ego to have a woman achieve something good Spits. Enemy of progress. This kind of husband will do anything he can to block his wife from rising up in life because she might be more successful than him. It’s a typical case “of instead of the woman to succeed, let us all die in penury”. 4 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Help, My Husband Wants To Divorce Me Cos I Got A Property Behind His Back. by Godmother(f): 3:28pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
I really don't see what this woman did as wrong after all the house is in both names. Anyways, she should keeping begging the hubby until comes down from his high ego. |
Re: Help, My Husband Wants To Divorce Me Cos I Got A Property Behind His Back. by Nobody: 3:49pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
Knowledge is knowing that tomato is a fruit, wisdom is not including tomatoes in a fruit salad. Madam, no doubt you are resourceful but you lack wisdom. |
Re: Help, My Husband Wants To Divorce Me Cos I Got A Property Behind His Back. by ANGELMARVE(m): 6:24pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
pocohantas:You go like fork well well o.. |
Re: Help, My Husband Wants To Divorce Me Cos I Got A Property Behind His Back. by Nobody: 12:39am On Sep 24, 2018 |
I am even afraid of the woman as I type this. In the earliest stages, it made sense not to inform the man, but I feel at some point, the woman should have informed her. I will not sleep in the same room or talk to a woman who pulls this kind of act behind my back. It is wicked, demeaning and terrifying.
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Re: Help, My Husband Wants To Divorce Me Cos I Got A Property Behind His Back. by ZIMDRILL(m): 2:47am On Sep 24, 2018 |
i see stupid responses from my fellow man 1 the wife eventually knew that husband is not good at money so she tookover being the financial mananger in house and managed to built a house 2 as individual we are gifted in different ways, the wife is gifted wise with little you have and do something great, being a man doesnt mean you have gifts in all, lets honour good wives that steer a family in a good direction, having your own home is what every man & woman wish for on this earth whether it was the wife or hubby bought/built behind the back doesnt matter as long get informed on presentation day to say hthis is OURS 3 the wife is not claiming the house to be hers but THIER house, hubby should swallow his stupid ego that produced no house for the family and praise wife of being wiser person on this house issue 4 if it was me i would put all shit together to be a better financial manager and buy the wife a great gift eg a car or fly her to good holiday she never thought she would go 4 lets praise were credit is due like they do us when we presents houses, cars gifts etc 1 Like |
Re: Help, My Husband Wants To Divorce Me Cos I Got A Property Behind His Back. by Nobody: 5:46am On Sep 24, 2018 |
ZIMDRILL: I agree with some of your points, but this is a house we are talking about here. Was the house completed in one month? At the very least it took 1 year. How can you be in the same house with somebody and not tell them you're pulling off a project as big as homebuilding? In the earliest stages, not informing the man made a lot of sense, but what of when the project had taken off? What of during roofing? There were many instances where informing the man should have been the next thing on her list of actions, not really at the end of the whole project. If she has the mental fortitude to withhold information such as this, what else is she hiding? I personally will CEASE all interactions with a woman who this stunt. What if the man had a specific design he would like to have in a residence? It is quite demeaning. You might be able to stomach this kind of stunt, but not me or many men I know. The very thought is nauseating. |
Re: Help, My Husband Wants To Divorce Me Cos I Got A Property Behind His Back. by ZIMDRILL(m): 7:29am On Sep 24, 2018 |
KOPT33: are you saying its ok for a man to do it but wrong if a woman does it ? its most men who surprise wives with new houses a project done in secret from start to finish and that ok if the woman does the same to surprise hubby, you know see her as enemy please swallow your ego and praise |
Re: Help, My Husband Wants To Divorce Me Cos I Got A Property Behind His Back. by Eberechi24(f): 8:37am On Sep 24, 2018 |
ZIMDRILL: |
Re: Help, My Husband Wants To Divorce Me Cos I Got A Property Behind His Back. by Eberechi24(f): 8:39am On Sep 24, 2018 |
ZIMDRILL:you just save me from crying, seriously, comments from our men is seriously flawed. 95% percent of Nigerian men are suffering from insecurity. if the woman in question is white, trust our "almighty men" to drive loads of praises to her. that woman is Builder, but our egoistic men fail to see it because they feel intimidated. |
Re: Help, My Husband Wants To Divorce Me Cos I Got A Property Behind His Back. by Eberechi24(f): 8:41am On Sep 24, 2018 |
ZIMDRILL:Sir pls save your strength.these Almighty men will not understand you. you are just one in million |
Re: Help, My Husband Wants To Divorce Me Cos I Got A Property Behind His Back. by Eberechi24(f): 8:47am On Sep 24, 2018 |
KOPT33:Lord I don't want to meet this personality as life partner. Amen. |
Re: Help, My Husband Wants To Divorce Me Cos I Got A Property Behind His Back. by Eberechi24(f): 9:12am On Sep 24, 2018 |
LadySarah: |
Re: Help, My Husband Wants To Divorce Me Cos I Got A Property Behind His Back. by Eberechi24(f): 9:12am On Sep 24, 2018 |
LadySarah:My dear my boss is a "common technican" but his wife is a senior civil servant in Ministry of defence. He was the one that paid her school fees from Nce to doctorate and he is very happy he did, his ego is not threatened. He did not subject his wife to emotional blackmail, He did not feel less of himself rather his very proud of his wife, I can't imagine what my boss' wife will be if she had end up with one of our "Almighty men". Lord, I don't want to identify with destiny eater. men without vision. |
Re: Help, My Husband Wants To Divorce Me Cos I Got A Property Behind His Back. by Nobody: 10:03am On Sep 24, 2018 |
Eberechi24: That's actually a good prayer. It ensures a spouse of mine will not be so chillingly sneaky. |
Re: Help, My Husband Wants To Divorce Me Cos I Got A Property Behind His Back. by Nobody: 10:09am On Sep 24, 2018 |
Eberechi24: You fail to understand the viewpoint of the men. It is not enough to castigate a situation, you can sit still for a second and try to put yourself in another's shoes. Men do not like this type of sneaky behavior, period. When you hurt a man's ego in whatever way, no matter how insignificant they appear to you, he will fight back. If said man is the passive aggressive type, he will make a mountain out of a molehill in order to assuage his ego. I am a man and I can understand why the man would take offence. It's a primal response hardwired into the psyche of every man. Don't fight it, learn to manage it. |
Re: Help, My Husband Wants To Divorce Me Cos I Got A Property Behind His Back. by Nobody: 10:24am On Sep 24, 2018 |
LordKO: I had to read and reread to understand, but I found no substance in your statements. I see no room for ethics in the resolution of the matter, or even for coming to a clear position of consensus. I am not an enslaver if I demand full disclosure from my spouse. What is your point exactly? |
Re: Help, My Husband Wants To Divorce Me Cos I Got A Property Behind His Back. by Nobody: 10:28am On Sep 24, 2018 |
ZIMDRILL: There's no point in being sneaky. I appreciate transparency and firmness. I prefer a woman who will tell me to my face: 'look, this is what I am doing with this money, this is why I am taking this step, this is the expected result, but please let me manage the project.' Simple. Full disclosure. I don't appreciate being in the dark about anything I have a stake in. Marriage is a partnership but this woman's behavior is too adversarial. |
Re: Help, My Husband Wants To Divorce Me Cos I Got A Property Behind His Back. by Nobody: 10:30am On Sep 24, 2018 |
Eberechi24: She is a builder, a very good quality. But she's also a sneaky and snakey beech. She could have been a builder and a transparent person. The builder personality does not cause an absence of common honesty. |
Re: Help, My Husband Wants To Divorce Me Cos I Got A Property Behind His Back. by divinelove(m): 10:40am On Sep 24, 2018 |
Solidkay: rent the house out and use the money for your family upkeep. I for one will never live in the house built by my wife at my back. you proved to him how dangerous you can be and he cant be comfortable around you again. sell the house and save your marriage. with the proceeds you can start another project together |
Re: Help, My Husband Wants To Divorce Me Cos I Got A Property Behind His Back. by LordKO(m): 10:51am On Sep 24, 2018 |
KOPT33: According to the OP "When I say I don’t have, the school fees money will them come out from somewhere and he will pay it, but if I said I have, he will not find the money o." - this means he's self-centered, a non proponent of the axiom which says he who comes into equity must come with clean hands. According to her too " I saved up enough money to buy land and I even saved up money to build a bungalow for us. All behind his back, because I know he will take the money from me and use it for something else if I say I have the money." - this means he's both opportunistic and imprudent. Once more, I say, her action didn't equate to hypocritical disingenuousness, rather it was a pure act of diplomacy - he didn't come to equity with clean hands, while she didn't exploit him in anyway. My contribution is based on fact (her submission here), not an assumption. Now, get busy with something productive rather than trying to quantify something beyond your comprehension. Better still, next time quote your ilk. Good luck. 1 Like |
Re: Help, My Husband Wants To Divorce Me Cos I Got A Property Behind His Back. by babyfaceafrica: 11:22am On Sep 24, 2018 |
made-up story... next!!! |
Re: Help, My Husband Wants To Divorce Me Cos I Got A Property Behind His Back. by Eberechi24(f): 11:25am On Sep 24, 2018 |
KOPT33:assuage his ego in this critical time? assuage his ego when many are homeless? assuage his ego when economy is hard, assuage his ego over family progress? Smh. Dude the world does not revolve around your ego. learn to Analyze things in prosperity view. This woman deprived herself of so many things just to give her family a home, she didn't give herself all the credits at least she included your name on your CofO. What more more do you need applaud her judgment? Did you see where she complain about the man's negligence towards this project? or it's an oversight. I can't manage a man who sacrifices family progress on altar of his ego. Sir, don't let ego/misogyny set your priorities. |
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