SOME THINGS WE DO AS WOMEN THAT DESTROYS OUR MARRIAGES

There are times we use our own hands to pour sand in our garri as women. When it becomes contaminated, we begin to point fingers to other factors around us especially our village people.

Today, I want us to look � as I want to brush on some characteristics we exhibit that destroy our marriages. If you are a wife, woman, sister or a man that has a woman you want to share this with, please get in here. ☺.

1. Using words to destroy your home and your spouse:There is power in the tongue. As small as that organ is, it has the power to create or destroy. What are you saying to your spouse? Are you speaking kind words or all you do is constantly nag at him. Some of us, never even appreciate our spouse. All we do is always make them feel like they are not measuring up. As woman, I know we love to talk; but when talking, it's essential to measure our words. Make sure your words are healing and not destroying.

2. Comparing your husband with other men. If those men are so perfect, go and be with them. What are you still doing married to your imperfect husband? The green is not always greener on the other side. Appreciate what you have. Value your husband so you can get the best from him.

3. Undermining your husband's authority and yet you are telling him to take full responsibility. Can you tell a man he is not capable of taking care of you and yet still ask him to take care of you? Please let's not use our hands to shoot ourselves. If there is anything that breaks a man down is a disrespectful wife. Don't be that woman.

4. No man likes a woman that disrespects his opinions, insights and advice. Even if he loves you; someday, you would push him to begin to question if you are worth loving or not. Some of us far as insulting him in public. Be warned. A word is enough for the wise.

5. Criticising your husband, making fun of him, belittling him in front of friends and family is the quickest way to destroy your marriage. If you are guilty of this, please stop it. There are ways to settle things amicably without announcing it to the public. If you are not ready to cleave, then don't leave.

6. Withholding Affection and Sex: Some of us are funny. We think as women, having sex with your husband is doing him a favour. So in your mind, you want to deal with him by denying him sex. Okay, do you know it's a sin to deny your spouse sex especially for a selfish reason? Stop using sex for your own selfish interest. Don't use your own hands to push him into the hands of strangers because of your refusal.

The devil is constantly finding ways to destroy homes and families. This is because by doing so, he can achieve a society where values are misplaced.

Please don't serve him your own marriage and home. Do your best to protect it. Let me stop here for now. I am going�.

Take care.

Good advise if they will listen.

No woman born of water and blood can adhere to all of this. We should stop searching for a perfect partner because there is no such thing.

Earthbound:
No woman born of water and blood can adhere to all of this. We should stop searching for a perfect partner because there is no such thing.

Hmmm....Character/Altitude settles it all, we actually still have some few God fearing ones

Not another crappy nonsensical list on how a wife should behave around her husband as if it’s only the wife that needs to put in an effort to make the home worthwhile forgetting that it takes 2 to make the home a success. Una go dey create yeye list up and down; absolute nansense.

TheeDetective:
Not another crappy nonsensical list on how a wife should behave around her husband as if it’s only the wife that needs to put in an effort to make the home worthwhile forgetting that it takes 2 to make the home a success. Una go dey create yeye list up and down; absolute nansense.

Ooh dear' Go up and read again, de topic is to encourage woman of their duties, not talking about men now .

As a woman, your role as a wife is to help. You are an ordained helper.
If you marry a man and nothing changes in him, his life still remains the same then you should question your ‘helping’

Proverbs 12:4

“A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband.”

As a woman make sure you ask questions. It doesn’t matter what he has it who he is, ask questions.
Make sure he has a vision for his life, a job and clarity on why he wants to get married. If you can get this, your relationship will be a lot simpler to navigate.
As a woman you must be able to adapt to the man that you marry. You may
not be suitable and adaptable to every man but you must be suitable and
adaptable to the man you intend to marry. Adaptability and Suitability
in marriage means, some situations will arise and you must be willing to
bend. You must be willing to adjust, you must be willing to be the woman
your husband wants you to be at every point in time. The measure of your
success as a wife is not measured by how many children you bear but how
much of his dreams you are able to birth and how much support and help
you give him to fulfill God’s purpose for his life.

What you outlined there are rules as if the individual who it applies to is a robot who can't think for themselves. I repeat; it takes 2 to make a home successful and this shouldn't necessarily be by creating a list of dos and don'ts. As @Earthbound has rightfully said; we should stop searching for a perfect partner because there is no such thing.

Bigsunny01:


Ooh dear' Go up and read again, de topic is to encourage woman of their duties, not talking about men now .

As a woman, your role as a wife is to help. You are an ordained helper.
If you marry a man and nothing changes in him, his life still remains the same then you should question your ‘helping’

Proverbs 12:4

“A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband.”

As a woman make sure you ask questions. It doesn’t matter what he has it who he is, ask questions.
Make sure he has a vision for his life, a job and clarity on why he wants to get married. If you can get this, your relationship will be a lot simpler to navigate.
As a woman you must be able to adapt to the man that you marry. You may
not be suitable and adaptable to every man but you must be suitable and
adaptable to the man you intend to marry. Adaptability and Suitability
in marriage means, some situations will arise and you must be willing to
bend. You must be willing to adjust, you must be willing to be the woman
your husband wants you to be at every point in time. The measure of your
success as a wife is not measured by how many children you bear but how
much of his dreams you are able to birth and how much support and help
you give him to fulfill God’s purpose for his life.

Earthbound:
No woman born of water and blood can adhere to all of this. We should stop searching for a perfect partner because there is no such thing.

Only Allah can give one a perfect partner.

Most of these points can be summed up in one word, nagging. I hate Nags

All this just to get married? When married people are already tired?

I blame women who choose to keep up with misogynists just to bear 'mrs'.

My wife isn't my slave and I like it that way.

OP, did you write this yourself, or you took it off someone else's page?

Your moniker has male attached to it, so why are you claiming to be a woman? Are you a friend of Bobrisky?

Anyway, all the points posted make sense, however its not gender specific. Every person wants respect: man, woman, or child. Everyone needs words of affirmation. Nobody likes their authority being undermined, whether male or female.
You will fail to get through to any audience if you paint it as though one gender needs these things, and the other doesn't.

eyinjuege:
OP, did you write this yourself, or you took it off someone else's page?

Your moniker has male attached to it, so why are you claiming to be a woman? Are you a friend of Bobrisky?

Anyway, all the points posted make sense, however its not gender specific. Every person wants respect: man, woman, or child. Everyone needs words of affirmation. Nobody likes their authority being undermined, whether male or female.
You will fail to get through to any audience if you paint it as though one gender needs these things, and the other doesn't.

According to the male folks ,women need only love not respect or authority.
To them , authority is a divine gift given to them by God which is justified by the highly sexist Bible.