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Is It Wrong For A Man To Live With His In-law? Advise Needed Please by landmark86: 9:51pm On Oct 21, 2018 |
A brother of mine got married last week to a daughter of one of the so called rich man in my home town. My brother work with a private organisation were they paid him #35,000 monthly but the wife still in school running a post graduate program. Yesterday the father to his wife gave him a key to a duplex within their compound for him and his wife to move in and a brand new toyota car has a gift, but my parents oppose him moving into that house. Please should he reject the offer of accommodation? Cos the family truly like him. Your advise is needed, thanks. |
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Live With His In-law? Advise Needed Please by jumpandpas(m): 10:00pm On Oct 21, 2018 |
If his in-laws can afford such gifts, why can't they secure an accomodation for them outside the family house. 1. As time progresses in that marriage, your brother will lost all the respects he has both from his wife and the in-laws. 2. He might end up becoming an errand boy to his in-laws. 3. His actions as a man on his wife will be limited. 4. May God help him. 7 Likes |
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Live With His In-law? Advise Needed Please by frozen70(f): 10:03pm On Oct 21, 2018 |
God is blessing someone and you guys want to use family drama to spoil things for him Pls you people should leave him alone What will 35,000 salary get for him as married man even if the wife is from a rich home Do you know that he is going to sacrifice alot to keep that marriage and still be a happy man there after What ever makes him happy as far as that marriage is concerned, you people must give him the support he needs Who doesn't like good things? |
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Live With His In-law? Advise Needed Please by MJBOLT: 10:11pm On Oct 21, 2018 |
2 answers that seem right jumpandpas:. frozen70:. |
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Live With His In-law? Advise Needed Please by Olalan(m): 10:20pm On Oct 21, 2018 |
If he wants to be respected he shouldn't live there and truth is the wife's family want to enslave the guy if not they wouldn't do such 1 Like |
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Live With His In-law? Advise Needed Please by Oluromantic: 11:59pm On Oct 21, 2018 |
frozen70: Would you approve same for your brother? The familiarity will get so worse dat d wife will see nothing wrong with addressing him anyhow or deprive him of his due honor. And when he brings up a complain, he will firstly be seen as an ingrate who does not appreciate what was given him, then they'll support their daughter's terrible actions especially the mother and sisters-n-law bcus d men might understand except their minds have been poisoned by the women in d house. They will ridicule him to nothing with untamed mouth. Where he go hear him matter, him sef go shock. And if he doesn't go home often, even you(op) and ur parents and other family members would not reckon with him again, because you'l all think its him and his wife alone that have been enjoying their money not knowing he's been suffering ridicule ..this one that you're sounding like a concerned brother now, that will not be d case later. So if he's wise and doesn't want to lose on both sides, he shd stay in his house or better still, let d father-in-law buy them a duplex somewhere else or just settle him with money so he'll build his house. Its a wife that goes to husband's house not d other way round. For them to even ask u to come live in their compound house sef ..bro, they're already selling you off small small. Very soon you won't even be able to make a choice of food in dat house again. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Live With His In-law? Advise Needed Please by frozen70(f): 1:07am On Oct 22, 2018 |
Oluromantic: You just predicted negatively Read my post very well I was positive it will come out good |
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Live With His In-law? Advise Needed Please by Quality20(m): 6:39am On Oct 22, 2018 |
it depends on his type of personality. If he is free easygoing jovial man who care less about trivial unspoken things ,then no probs as he gonna enjoy every moment. Also if d parents and d girl are well up religiously ,morally and ethically, why shouldn't he live with them? But he too should strive to rise up n make more money |
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Live With His In-law? Advise Needed Please by Nobody: 7:11am On Oct 22, 2018 |
35k and u dey marry. He must be a fool |
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Live With His In-law? Advise Needed Please by kullozone(m): 7:22am On Oct 22, 2018 |
In the first place, a guy earning 35k and getting married should be a crime |
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Live With His In-law? Advise Needed Please by obonujoker(m): 10:09am On Oct 22, 2018 |
frozen70: Why not get the house outside the family?? things like this doesn't always end well... |
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Live With His In-law? Advise Needed Please by frozen70(f): 10:16am On Oct 22, 2018 |
obonujoker: Where you see the money ? If he can afford to pay for rent, he wouldn't settle for that If he maintains humbleness to his wife family, he is the one to enjoy That's what goes with marrying a rich man's daughter You can't eat your cake and have it |
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Live With His In-law? Advise Needed Please by paix(m): 10:24am On Oct 22, 2018 |
frozen70:You're right because you're reasoning like a woman. No reasonable man will accept this. The guy will lose respect even among his male friends and colleagues. |
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Live With His In-law? Advise Needed Please by obonujoker(m): 10:47am On Oct 22, 2018 |
frozen70: The parents of the lady should have bought or built for them outside the family house.... |
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Live With His In-law? Advise Needed Please by frozen70(f): 11:14am On Oct 22, 2018 |
paix: Lol |
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Live With His In-law? Advise Needed Please by landmark86: 7:34pm On Oct 22, 2018 |
jumpandpas: Tnx bro I think dat exactly what my parents is trying to stop |
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Live With His In-law? Advise Needed Please by landmark86: 7:36pm On Oct 22, 2018 |
frozen70: U make a point too, bro Tnx |
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Live With His In-law? Advise Needed Please by landmark86: 7:38pm On Oct 22, 2018 |
Olalan: I don't think so The father did it out of love Just that we yorubas don't much like that |
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Live With His In-law? Advise Needed Please by landmark86: 7:40pm On Oct 22, 2018 |
kullozone:Funny u Minimum wage is 18k And many people still settle down with that |
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Live With His In-law? Advise Needed Please by frozen70(f): 7:40pm On Oct 22, 2018 |
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Live With His In-law? Advise Needed Please by frozen70(f): 7:46pm On Oct 22, 2018 |
paix: That guy in question is ready to loose all form of respect from every angle In as much as the life is leaving now is far more better than what he was leaving A man who is cocky or has eggo won't settle for that Only a humble man will accept such offer |
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Live With His In-law? Advise Needed Please by Eberechi24(f): 8:06pm On Oct 22, 2018 |
Why I love women folks is that they don't allow trivial issue to deprived them of happiness, their interest come first that is why we have 25yr Queen in Yoruba land. In life you gotta make some harmless sacrifice to attain to a certain height. you can't have it all in life. keep your ego and enjoy what life got to offer. |
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Live With His In-law? Advise Needed Please by Oluromantic: 10:42pm On Oct 22, 2018 |
Quality20:I love your point about personality.. Its very true. Some ppl don't take every offensive words or actions too seriously. But about the parents. My brother parents who are religiously, morally and ethically upright would consider establishing the young man and his wife on their own than going for this option they chose. This thing they did in d name of love for their daughter is not ethical and so do not expect ethical uprightness from their daughter. What they did is an extension of the over pampering they've been used to giving the girl. Of perhaps something else is involved. |
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Live With His In-law? Advise Needed Please by ZIMDRILL(m): 12:16am On Oct 23, 2018 |
landmark86: its never a good idea becoz as couple you dont learn to grow your own ways, in one or two she will says i cant do this becoz my parents dont like it if you are living away from parents you are not tied to what parents think you should behave or run you home when comes to such things always ask yourself why your parents dont live with their own parents? excpet if there are ill every man and woman wants his peace freedom from his/her in-law what the point to say you are married but you still live with parents within building walls |
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Live With His In-law? Advise Needed Please by Nobody: 12:24am On Oct 23, 2018 |
"Yesterday the father to his wife gave him a key to a duplex within their compound for him and his wife to move in and a brand new toyota car has a gift, but my parents oppose him moving into that house. Please should he reject the offer of accommodation? Cos the family truly like him." Tell your bro to reject the gift, the man wan use am do money ritual. He should continue paying his tithe at church out of his 35k salary, one day he will acquire his own duplex. By the way, does your brother's father in-law have another daughter ripe for marriage and would you by chance know if he has another duplex to give to another new son in-law? |
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Live With His In-law? Advise Needed Please by Burgerlomo: 12:36am On Oct 23, 2018 |
It's not only wrong but an abomination |
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Live With His In-law? Advise Needed Please by TonyeBarcanista(m): 5:21am On Oct 23, 2018 |
He just lost his status as Head of family and power as husband to his in-laws. Just a matter of time and he would be converted to errand boy (if he's not already) The Solution: It is better he takes money from his in-laws to rent his own apartment but must ensure that he is more productive to service it afterwards or he should live within his means. BTW The story looks like a nollywood script |
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Live With His In-law? Advise Needed Please by Nobody: 5:30am On Oct 23, 2018 |
Oluromantic:anointing dey ur head bro.... |
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