Hi there ladies?

If you could know one thing that could help you the most in your relationship with men, what would that one thing be.
What's the main thing you want to know about men?

what is he thinking??
or
what is on his mind??

Oh that's easy Naija.Sisi, Just ask him and he most likely will tell. That there's smth on his mind and U noticed would be flattering to him and that would loosen his jaw; plus talking about it with U could help him deal with whats there more effectively.

sometimes when i ask him he says i wont be able to handle it, as a man there are some things which he just needs to get on and do himself, because if he tells me i wont understand, thats what he says and I find it really frustrating because it means he is undermining my ability to understand some of his problems

I'm guessin either his bank statement or his Pin code for his (ATM/Credit card).

How far can this dude go for me?

Naija_Sisi:

sometimes when i ask him he says i wont be able to handle it, as a man there are some things which he just needs to get on and do himself, because if he tells me i wont understand, thats what he says and I find it really frustrating because it means he is undermining my ability to understand some of his problems

Some guys are like that. Maybe U and him should talk more about just every other thing. When a man is comfy talking to U about lil nothings and percieves that U are like minded with him in them he usually would find it easier to talk bout "big stuff."

Some of us guys just get too traditional about stuff sha. Sometimes it's good and sometimes it's bad.

The thing is if a guy thinks U aren't the kinda girl that could carry some of his weight and still look up to him then he's right about keeping them from U ad it's best U don't find out how he just knows cos then it myt be too late.

thanks Onchedu 4 your advice i'll try it out 

Well we love Womanliness, but sadly some nigerian men love c0rk

Thanks for your post Naija sisi,

The only time a man finds it difficult to share his thoughts with you is if he feels he can't trust you with what's going on in his mind.

If that's the case the best way to handle the situation is no stress him about it!

Accept the situation for what it is and then privately work towards gaining his trust without stressing him about it. The truth is if he cares about you, it's ripping him apart not to be able to share with you.

bless you PowerIdeas, thanks again , will do just as you said, hope it works!

His fears and aspirations. All others will follow

iice seriously, why would you want to know that? How would that help your relationship with him? And what do you mean how crazy he is, are we talking sex here?

That iice individual gives strange reponses most times. I guess shes trying to be too different in a CRAZY way.

Naija_Sisi:

thanks Onchedu 4 your advice i'll try it out 

U r welcome.

Naija_Sisi:

bless you PowerIdeas, thanks again , will do just as you said, hope it works!

NIGER WOMEN DON'T UNDERSTAND ME U TELL UR LADY THAT U SOME FINANCIAL PROBLEM, INSTEAD OF FINDING A WAY TO SOLVE IT SHE ADD TO IT MORE, E.I SHE WILL TELL U AFTER SOME MINTS THAT SHE HAVE TO FIX HER NAILS AND HAIR, MAYBE IF U CAN HELP WITH SMALL CASH, THAT JUST ONE OF IT

sirvick:

NIGER WOMEN DON'T UNDERSTAND ME U TELL your LADY THAT U SOME FINANCIAL PROBLEM, INSTEAD OF FINDING A WAY TO SOLVE IT SHE ADD TO IT MORE, E.I SHE WILL TELL U AFTER SOME MINTS THAT SHE HAVE TO FIX HER NAILS AND HAIR, MAYBE IF U CAN HELP WITH SMALL CASH, THAT JUST ONE OF IT

yes that is true, that is wat i try to avoid doing, because i understand it is not easy

NIGER WOMEN DON'T UNDERSTAND ME U TELL your LADY THAT U SOME FINANCIAL PROBLEM, INSTEAD OF FINDING A WAY TO SOLVE IT SHE ADD TO IT MORE, E.I SHE WILL TELL U AFTER SOME MINTS THAT SHE HAVE TO FIX HER NAILS AND HAIR, MAYBE IF U CAN HELP WITH SMALL CASH, THAT JUST ONE OF IT

Ladies!

Sometimes the biggest problems you will face in your relationships with men will come as a result of not learning to listen.

Listening to a man and making the effort to show that you are listening to him helps you build trust and the truth of the matter is that if your man trusts you, you more or less have his heart. If you have his heart, trust me when I say you will have his pocket too. There's absolutely nothing a man wouldn't do for a woman he truly loves and adores, even if he has to endure a little hardship, he'll do it with a smile because he knows it's for you.

The sad thing about trust though is that once it's lost it's hard to regain.

So for all you ladies having "man troubles", here's a simple way to gain trust from your man over time:

Give him something his other girlfriends probably will not: THE RIGHT TO BE HIMSELF. HELP HIM FEEL SO COMFORTABLE WITH YOU THAT HE CAN SHARE HIS MOST SHAMEFUL SECRETS WITH YOU WITHOUT FEAR.

If you can do this, your man will be eating out of your hands pronto!!