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| Pulling Out by femmy2010(op): 11:57am On Jul 31, 2010 |
You have been in a relationship that you have committed a whole lot into but it is not just working. How do you pull out?no matter how hard you try,letting go is just a very hard thing for you to do. I am sure many are in this scenario and am sure the views and comments of many other great NLers would help solve this issue. For me I would advice you get your time occupied with newer activities. |
| Re: Pulling Out by Nobody: 12:11pm On Jul 31, 2010 |
as for me, i would sit her down and explain to her exactly what is troubling me and tell her that i have been trying for a long time to make it work but HELAS!!!! if i felt that way, i am sure she would have noticed it anyway and therefore it would make the separation "painless" |
| Re: Pulling Out by googles: 12:24pm On Jul 31, 2010 |
i know its bad. . . . but i go into a rebound relationship to keep my mind off my ex cos if i dont do vat i ll be stuck with him hoping someday things will change {which we both know nothing is going to change} |
| Re: Pulling Out by femmy2010(op): 12:27pm On Jul 31, 2010 |
Rebound relationship  |
| Re: Pulling Out by Omolola1(f): 12:52pm On Jul 31, 2010 |
Like Googles said, go into a rebound relationship but seriously, sit her down and talk to her, tell her the reasons why things are not working out between both of you; talk about possible solutions to the problem, you'd be surprised, she would open up to you and she might even be the one to suggest u guys should separate for a while |
| Re: Pulling Out by femmy2010(op): 12:59pm On Jul 31, 2010 |
Omolola,u re a lady right?i would prefer you acting as an omnipresent character pulling out of the fictional relationship. That way,your views would be more straight from the heart. Lets hear more. |
| Re: Pulling Out by Omolola1(f): 1:14pm On Jul 31, 2010 |
I just told you what i would do if i were the one, and it was straight from the heart, not from the belly Ok fine! you want to pull out of the relationship right? very simple! if i were the one and i want to break up with my guy without me telling him, i would frustrate him (avoiding his calls, avoiding him) etc to the extent that he would be the one to say "Am tired, Let;s break up"  |
| Re: Pulling Out by femmy2010(op): 1:32pm On Jul 31, 2010 |
Panny190, Hope you get the hint? |
| Re: Pulling Out by Dvampire(m): 1:35pm On Jul 31, 2010 |
Omolola1:very typical of many nigerian girls. rather than having a deep discussion with the guy so that they'd go their separate ways amicably, they prefer to leave a blaze of infuriated hearts in their path which might haunt them affterwards. |
| Re: Pulling Out by 1105(f): 3:12pm On Jul 31, 2010 |
NOW IM VERY PISSED WITH OMOLOLA 1 MY BABY SHE WOULD frustrate THE GUY, WE WOULD SETTLE THIS ISSUE BETWEEN US IN THE BED ROOM NOT HERE~  |
| Re: Pulling Out by iice(f): 4:09pm On Jul 31, 2010 |
[color=#9900ff]As always i go straight for the jugular. The whole procrastination thing stresses me and i hate stress. Sometimes i come down a bit hard - from his point of view - which i wonder why it should even be a question, me being me cannot baby pesin. Ok i'm working on toning down the directness lol. But atleast this way, we both know where we stand, instead of feeding some fantasy of maybe and what ifs. Once the decision is made to break off. . .the rest is a breeze for me. It's a mind thing. If my mind has moved on. . .i'm done. Safe to say i still remain good friends with all my exes except one and he was delusional  [/color] |
| Re: Pulling Out by femmy2010(op): 5:01pm On Jul 31, 2010 |
Saying it exactly as it is seems the way out. |
| Re: Pulling Out by Jaideyone(m): 5:41pm On Jul 31, 2010 |
What makes pulling out difficult? It's not like you were forced into the relatnship in the first place. |
| Re: Pulling Out by femmy2010(op): 5:54pm On Jul 31, 2010 |
Pulling out is very easy for some and surprisingly a difficult scenario from many. The reasons for this is variegated. |
| Re: Pulling Out by Omolola1(f): 10:36pm On Jul 31, 2010 |
190.:Sweets, you know i wouldn't do that to you nao!!!! you are too special to me  |
| Re: Pulling Out by femmy2010(op): 4:40am On Aug 01, 2010 |
But I thought most ended relationship start just like d sweet love btwn panny190 and Omolola but please do not let the love go sore. Happy so to be married life. |
| Re: Pulling Out by mitchyy(f): 6:06am On Aug 01, 2010 |
Its happened to me before. I called him for a serious discussion and even though the reasons why we should go our seperate ways were clear he just didnt want to admit and let go. I had to resort to other means by cutting off communication with him. It hurt him real bad but it was for the best. |
| Re: Pulling Out by Condom: 6:31am On Aug 01, 2010 |
Use a condom so you don't have to worry about pulling out. It's even better because it's safer sex. |
| Re: Pulling Out by mitchyy(f): 6:35am On Aug 01, 2010 |
Hey, thats not what they are talking about here, Mr condom. |
| Re: Pulling Out by 1105(f): 6:55am On Aug 01, 2010 |
hehehehehehehe, @ condom~ @OmO, I hope so~  |
| Re: Pulling Out by Omolola1(f): 12:05pm On Aug 02, 2010 |
@190, i know so |
| Re: Pulling Out by femmy2010(op): 3:14pm On Aug 02, 2010 |
;d |
| Re: Pulling Out by kobikwelu(m): 3:39pm On Aug 02, 2010 |
rebound relationship!!!!!!!!!!! counter-productive |
| Re: Pulling Out by femmy2010(op): 3:43pm On Aug 02, 2010 |
lol |
| Re: Pulling Out by NaijaSisi(f): 3:58pm On Aug 02, 2010 |
googles:Same, tho I know there is a very high chance of it being counter-productive, that is the only way that will really get my mind off him, and also maybe |
| Re: Pulling Out by femmy2010(op): 4:02pm On Aug 02, 2010 |
hmm |
| Re: Pulling Out by saintneo(m): 4:21pm On Aug 02, 2010 |
I see many of you are like Taliban (Afghanistan) and the US. I wonder why the rebound relationship employed by both sides is not working. MRbrownJAY:however, some ladies can be in a better for worse mode o! I think disappearing is the appropriate solution. |
| Re: Pulling Out by Nobody: 11:47pm On Aug 02, 2010 |
^^^^^and disappearing is going to make it better how?! the poor girl is going to think something bad happened to you and worry even more. . . . . . . . . . |
| Re: Pulling Out by MoneyRule(m): 12:36am On Aug 03, 2010 |
Sumtyms, we shouldn't do things because dey r easy or do because dey r easy, but because dey r d right tins to do and no positive lyf changing decision or action is easy. |
| Re: Pulling Out by femmy2010(op): 3:33am On Aug 03, 2010 |
Disappearing is definitely not the answer. |
| Re: Pulling Out by saintneo(m): 11:15am On Aug 03, 2010 |
^^^well, maybe for you guys; however, it worked for friend. Having tried the suggestion from MRbrownJay, the obvious happened she came back, it happened over and over again. My friend had to disappear and informed her about his reasons later. At least it stopped them from see each other face to face. |
| Re: Pulling Out by Nobody: 11:42am On Aug 03, 2010 |
^^^^^^^ then the problem is your friend, not the gal!!!! why did he take her back at the first place if he REALLY didnt want to be with her any longer?! pity?! desperation?! lack of sex?! any smart person would have known that the jilted lady would TRY to comeback be the guy would have been strong enough to stick to their guns. . . . . . . . . unlike your friends. i guess the lady used what she knew he couldnt turn down over and over again. he is just a WEAK minded brotha! |
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