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1. The One Who Never Wanted To Commit — Until He Met You This sounds like the dream, right? The guy who proclaimed to all that he’d never settle down with anyone ever, and then ate his words when you came along? But the problem is that no matter how wowed by you he is now, the moment things become less exciting, less overwhelmingly amazing between the two of you (and the moment will come), he is likely to have second thoughts. And that will make you feel awful. Maybe you’ll sense it happening, in which case you’ll probably try harder, to do whatever you can to make sure things don’t get less exciting. But that’s a basis for a performance, not a marriage. You need to meet this guy, however, so that when you meet the guy you should marry you can tell the difference. The one you ought to marry will be a person who wants to be in a committed relationship and who will work with you to make your marriage strong. He won’t feel he has made a mistake, or been duped, every time something between the two of you isn’t perfect, because he will already know that relationships, like other true and meaningful things, operate on an axis that has nothing to do with perfect—they are messy, real, evolving things. That’s what’s so great about them.

2. The Guy Who Knows Everyone, I Mean, Everyone, In Town This is a guy who’ll save you when you need to get a table at the hot, new restaurant or a contact at a company to which you’re thinking of sending your resume. But be wary. This guy is always chatting on the phone — or sending emails or responding to texts — during dinners, holidays, all the times when you long for attention. Makes sense: He’s responding to all those other people who need an in at that trendy restaurant or a professional contact, after all, and he’s got to keep his Rolodex up-to-date; it requires constant effort. His desire to help, his sociability, these are some of his best qualities — as a friend.

3. The Funny, Charming, Sensitive Guy Who Pouts And Says “Nothing” When You Ask Him If Something’s Wrong He’s got so many wonderful qualities. So please, date him — if only because you’ll learn a lot about the importance of another quality: open communication. The thing about marriage is that it’s really long. You might be the greatest, most thoughtful and kind-hearted person in the world; I guarantee you are still going to occasionally piss him off. It’s easier, for all of us, to sit in silence and seethe and think self-righteously that if our partners were better people, they would know why we are mad and wouldn’t have to ask. It’s a lot harder to say, “I know you didn’t mean it, but that joke you made in front of our friends about my slow work habits made me feel lame.” Yet, so much of marriage comes down to just those moments — spitting it out, explaining what’s wrong and giving your partner a chance to apologize and do better the next time. The brooding guy who punishes you with silence? After a while, you’re likely to become so afraid of making him angry — and so unsure of what exactly bothers him since he never tells you—that you’ll have to tiptoe around him.

4. The Guy Who Is So Good-Looking — Or Wealthy Or Successful — That All Your Friends Are In Awe Here’s my advice: See what it feels like to walk into a room with him. Watch your friends’ and acquaintances’ eyes widen ever so slightly. Just remember, it can be hard to separate the feeling of pride and exhilaration that comes from having won the affection of someone deemed desirable from the more tender feelings that are the basis of love. Marriage is made up of so many amazing moments other than walking into rooms. Make sure the guy you marry is the guy you most want to stay up late with when it’s just the two of you, the one you love being alone with at home.

5. The Earnest, Bright-Eyed Younger Man Who Adores You This guy not only wants to commit your every utterance to memory but also heartens you with his sweetness and solemn desire to find love. This will help you more than you know, especially on those days when the men you’ve dated have caused you to question whether guys even have feelings. (We all have those days.) This man will help you to feel optimistic about humanity and about yourself. But you can’t get romantic with him over the long term. Not because of his age — there’s nothing wrong with walking down the aisle with someone younger — but because one-sided adoration inevitably curdles into resentment that the feeling isn’t mutual. You might not even want to get romantic with him in the short term because he might feel some real feelings and what you might really like is the flattering reflection of yourself you see in his admiring gaze. By choosing to let him go, you’ll have done the right thing — acting in the best interests of two connected people — which is exactly what’s required when you meet the man you so, so, so need to marry.

The tricks for attracting the opposite sex has long been an intriguing topic. Some guys seem completely clueless when it comes to interacting with women, while others have all the luck. People occasionally believe that success with women is linked to money and physical appearance, but there’s more to it than that; being a considerate person with a good personality works even better than simply throwing money around.

While there is no special secret of what you can do to attract a girl, there are some simple things that can help you drive her crazy. Actions as simple and obvious as being a good friend can make you more appealing. However, some guys think that if they’re too nice they’ll be put in the friend-zone, but if the chemistry isn’t there, there isn’t anything you can do to change it.

While being nice can take you pretty far, science can probably take you the rest of the way. Science has shown that there is some truth to the adage that beautiful people have it easy, but even if you weren’t born with movie-star good looks, there are other things you can do to be more attractive to women… And they’re surprisingly easy. Check out the tips below on how to drive a girl crazy (in a good way).

10. Ride a roller coaster with her

If you’re looking for somewhere to take her on one of your first few dates, why not go somewhere fun that’s scientifically proven to make you seem more attractive? A couple of years ago, 1,000 random people were surveyed to determine if the endorphins released in roller coaster riders impacted human perception. The study found that the participants found their non-romantic co-riders to be more attractive after the ride.

However, those who were already romantically involved didn’t have a change in perception. So if you’re hoping to spark a connection after a death defying ride, you had better do it in the beginning. Take her to the amusement park and she’ll think you’re fun and way hot.

9. Be a little mysterious

 
You’ve heard people say you should play hard to get and others combat the idea saying it’s annoying and a waste of time, but science is here to clear the air. Playing hard to get DOES, in fact, make women more interested in you. The key is to find the balance between too aloof and too eager. If you play too hard, she’ll give up because she’ll think you aren’t interested at all.

A study published in Psychological Science found that women are more attracted to men when they aren’t sure how strong the guy’s feelings are toward them. If you hold back some of your feelings, women are more likely to keep thinking about you (to try to determine what’s up) and eventually conclude they like you since they can’t get you out of their head. Obviously this isn’t true for all women and you have to strike the perfect balance so you better start practicing now.
 
8. Chill out

Being calm isn’t just good for your heart, it’s good for your love life too. Another study found that women are significantly more attracted to men who are calm than those who are always stressed out. When a man is able to handle a stressful situation in a calm manner it shows women that they’re strong and have a good genetic makeup that can be passed along to children.

While you’re at it, stop smiling all the time. Having a more calm and thoughtful look on your face is more attractive to women than is smiling all the time. After all, women do like a bad boy.

7. Brush your teeth


This one seems pretty obvious, but it’s important for more than fresh breath. White and evenly spaced teeth could help you snag the girl of your dreams. A study found that teeth are extremely important, they function as the “peacock’s tail” of the human body. Having nice teeth shows your potential mate that you’re healthy and have good genes that any girl would want. If your teeth are crooked and yellow, look into Invisalign and white strips and that could seriously up your game.

6. Be funny


No scientific study behind this one, it’s just nice to be around people with a good sense of humor. Everyone loves someone who can make them laugh because it’s fun and lessens tension. Making jokes signifies you have a light-hearted personality, which shows people you aren’t stressed and try to enjoy life and make the most of things.

However, don’t take it too far. Girls hate when guys can’t stop joking in serious moments. You have to know when to cut it out and get serious; there’s a time and place for everything. So while you’re great at being funny, just realize it isn’t always helpful or you’ll cross the line from enjoyable to immature.

5. Get that 5 o’clock shadow

 
That beard craze that’s going around? Not that many girls are actually into it. There have actually been quite a few studies on the matter that have concluded a few different things. A study in the Oxford Journal concluded men with bearded faces are simply seen as less attractive than men with smooth faces. It also determined that men with beards are seen as more aggressive and of a higher socio-economic status, but not more attractive.

Another study was conducted in Australia and showed that women prefer men with heavy stubble than those with beards or completely smooth faces. They confirmed that beards affect perception and that a middle of the road stubble is the way to go. Although men with full beards are viewed as better potential fathers and more likely to protect their children.

4. Be presentable

Cargo shorts and flip flops are definitely not helping your game. While looks aren’t everything, the way you present yourself can really help you secure a girl. Women love a guy who can put himself together. It doesn’t have to be all the time, but it’s just nice to see you out of your basketball shorts and t-shirts.

If you need some more convincing, science has proven that women respond to men in red because it shows authority, which implies higher levels of testosterone and that makes you more attractive. Dressing well also implies you’re driven and have goals because you have something important to do that warrants an actual outfit. Also, a fitted suit is just plain hot.

3. Hold a conversation

 
This one seems pretty obvious, but in today’s world human interactions are getting increasingly more awkward. People don’t seem to know how to express themselves without an emoji to tack on to a couple misspelled words. Being able to carry a conversation (even through lulls) is a refreshing trait.

If you’re able to hold a proper conversation that’s even better. Knowing not to talk only about yourself, but to also ask about her is a huge thing that’s often over-looked. If you’re going to drone on and on about all you “amazing accomplishments” you’re going to look egotistical and that’s a huge turn-off.

2. Have goals


Ok, but more than that, have the drive to accomplish what you set out to and maybe a little more. We aren’t in high school anymore so hopefully you have some vision as to where your life is going. Whether you’re dreaming of a promotion or traveling more or the family you hope to have, being aware of the future and working toward something is attractive.

It shows you have vision, determination and drive. Just like people in a job interview want to know where you’ll be in five years, so does a girl. It doesn’t matter if you actually reach what you set out to do because life changes and could throw you a huge curve ball, but as long as you’re working toward it and rolling with the punches, she’ll be really impressed.

1. Be thoughtful

 
It’s always such a huge surprise when a guy remembers something a girl said and acts on it. Remember the one time she said Amarula are her favorite cream drink when you guys were walking past a wine? Well, if you turn that into action and bring her a bottle of chilled one on a date,she’ll be stunned that you were paying attention and did something about it.

Being thoughtful is such a small and easy act that often gets overlooked, but it could be a huge part in making her obsess over you. The fact that you listened and cared enough to do something about it speaks volumes about you and will make you much more desirable. So next time she’s talking, be sure to actually listen and maybe you’ll feel like doing something special.

The tricks for attracting the opposite sex has long been an intriguing topic. Some guys seem completely clueless when it comes to interacting with women, while others have all the luck. People occasionally believe that success with women is linked to money and physical appearance, but there’s more to it than that; being a considerate person with a good personality works even better than simply throwing money around.

While there is no special secret of what you can do to attract a girl, there are some simple things that can help you drive her crazy. Actions as simple and obvious as being a good friend can make you more appealing. However, some guys think that if they’re too nice they’ll be put in the friend-zone, but if the chemistry isn’t there, there isn’t anything you can do to change it.

While being nice can take you pretty far, science can probably take you the rest of the way. Science has shown that there is some truth to the adage that beautiful people have it easy, but even if you weren’t born with movie-star good looks, there are other things you can do to be more attractive to women… And they’re surprisingly easy. Check out the tips below on how to drive a girl crazy (in a good way).

10. Ride a roller coaster with her

If you’re looking for somewhere to take her on one of your first few dates, why not go somewhere fun that’s scientifically proven to make you seem more attractive? A couple of years ago, 1,000 random people were surveyed to determine if the endorphins released in roller coaster riders impacted human perception. The study found that the participants found their non-romantic co-riders to be more attractive after the ride.

However, those who were already romantically involved didn’t have a change in perception. So if you’re hoping to spark a connection after a death defying ride, you had better do it in the beginning. Take her to the amusement park and she’ll think you’re fun and way hot.

9. Be a little mysterious

 
You’ve heard people say you should play hard to get and others combat the idea saying it’s annoying and a waste of time, but science is here to clear the air. Playing hard to get DOES, in fact, make women more interested in you. The key is to find the balance between too aloof and too eager. If you play too hard, she’ll give up because she’ll think you aren’t interested at all.

A study published in Psychological Science found that women are more attracted to men when they aren’t sure how strong the guy’s feelings are toward them. If you hold back some of your feelings, women are more likely to keep thinking about you (to try to determine what’s up) and eventually conclude they like you since they can’t get you out of their head. Obviously this isn’t true for all women and you have to strike the perfect balance so you better start practicing now.
 
8. Chill out

Being calm isn’t just good for your heart, it’s good for your love life too. Another study found that women are significantly more attracted to men who are calm than those who are always stressed out. When a man is able to handle a stressful situation in a calm manner it shows women that they’re strong and have a good genetic makeup that can be passed along to children.

While you’re at it, stop smiling all the time. Having a more calm and thoughtful look on your face is more attractive to women than is smiling all the time. After all, women do like a bad boy.

7. Brush your teeth


This one seems pretty obvious, but it’s important for more than fresh breath. White and evenly spaced teeth could help you snag the girl of your dreams. A study found that teeth are extremely important, they function as the “peacock’s tail” of the human body. Having nice teeth shows your potential mate that you’re healthy and have good genes that any girl would want. If your teeth are crooked and yellow, look into Invisalign and white strips and that could seriously up your game.

6. Be funny


No scientific study behind this one, it’s just nice to be around people with a good sense of humor. Everyone loves someone who can make them laugh because it’s fun and lessens tension. Making jokes signifies you have a light-hearted personality, which shows people you aren’t stressed and try to enjoy life and make the most of things.

However, don’t take it too far. Girls hate when guys can’t stop joking in serious moments. You have to know when to cut it out and get serious; there’s a time and place for everything. So while you’re great at being funny, just realize it isn’t always helpful or you’ll cross the line from enjoyable to immature.

5. Get that 5 o’clock shadow

 
That beard craze that’s going around? Not that many girls are actually into it. There have actually been quite a few studies on the matter that have concluded a few different things. A study in the Oxford Journal concluded men with bearded faces are simply seen as less attractive than men with smooth faces. It also determined that men with beards are seen as more aggressive and of a higher socio-economic status, but not more attractive.

Another study was conducted in Australia and showed that women prefer men with heavy stubble than those with beards or completely smooth faces. They confirmed that beards affect perception and that a middle of the road stubble is the way to go. Although men with full beards are viewed as better potential fathers and more likely to protect their children.

4. Be presentable

 
Cargo shorts and flip flops are definitely not helping your game. While looks aren’t everything, the way you present yourself can really help you secure a girl. Women love a guy who can put himself together. It doesn’t have to be all the time, but it’s just nice to see you out of your basketball shorts and t-shirts.

If you need some more convincing, science has proven that women respond to men in red because it shows authority, which implies higher levels of testosterone and that makes you more attractive. Dressing well also implies you’re driven and have goals because you have something important to do that warrants an actual outfit. Also, a fitted suit is just plain hot.

3. Hold a conversation

 
This one seems pretty obvious, but in today’s world human interactions are getting increasingly more awkward. People don’t seem to know how to express themselves without an emoji to tack on to a couple misspelled words. Being able to carry a conversation (even through lulls) is a refreshing trait.

If you’re able to hold a proper conversation that’s even better. Knowing not to talk only about yourself, but to also ask about her is a huge thing that’s often over-looked. If you’re going to drone on and on about all you “amazing accomplishments” you’re going to look egotistical and that’s a huge turn-off.

2. Have goals


Ok, but more than that, have the drive to accomplish what you set out to and maybe a little more. We aren’t in high school anymore so hopefully you have some vision as to where your life is going. Whether you’re dreaming of a promotion or traveling more or the family you hope to have, being aware of the future and working toward something is attractive.

It shows you have vision, determination and drive. Just like people in a job interview want to know where you’ll be in five years, so does a girl. It doesn’t matter if you actually reach what you set out to do because life changes and could throw you a huge curve ball, but as long as you’re working toward it and rolling with the punches, she’ll be really impressed.

1. Be thoughtful

 
It’s always such a huge surprise when a guy remembers something a girl said and acts on it. Remember the one time she said Amarula are her favorite cream drink when you guys were walking past a wine? Well, if you turn that into action and bring her a bottle of chilled one on a date,she’ll be stunned that you were paying attention and did something about it.

Being thoughtful is such a small and easy act that often gets overlooked, but it could be a huge part in making her obsess over you. The fact that you listened and cared enough to do something about it speaks volumes about you and will make you much more desirable. So next time she’s talking, be sure to actually listen and maybe you’ll feel like doing something special.

If you are a young and ambitious dude still struggling to get to the top, this write-up will save you the stress and pains of the so-called love we have been deceived about for long!

If you still think that there’s what is called ‘true love’ or ‘love without money or resources’, then you must be living in a fool’s paradise!!!(Quote me if you like!)

The truth of the matter is that what people in the past enjoyed as ‘true love’ no longer exist. Then it was possible for a man and a woman to fall in love based on personal qualities or characters without materialism attached to it! Those were the good old days! Our society has changed and any one who still lives in the past is not better than the village !!!





I have heard people saying often times that love or relationship is not all about money! To me, that’s the highest level of trash and rubbish! If you are a young man with ambition, still striving and toiling to make it, you better forget about love and concentrate full-time…I mean 100% on your dreams and life.
It is so frustrating to see some struggling dudes killing themselves over love issues! What a life! Why spend the meagre salary you earn after working for 30 days like a donkey on a girl?  She tells you she needs a phone, you struggle to buy it! She says she needs money for hair, you struggle to give her! She tells you she needs to get a nice bag or pair of shoes she saw at a boutique, you struggle to give her! Be rest assured that you will continue to struggle endlessly in your life if you don’t desist from such shameful and wasteful act! If you want to know the extent to which materialism has eaten into this so-called love, watch even the younger girls of today! Even those that are below 21 or 22 will quickly run away from you if you can’t be giving her upkeep money, money for hair and phone, etc The mature ones?  If you don’t live comfortably well, sorry, you are on your own!!! Except for those village girls that are not exposed…but seriously, not in the cities of Nigeria.
Before you criticize me on the fact that these women need to live a comfortable life by hanging out with only comfortable dudes, read the topic again! It is surely the same reason why I said young struggling men should forget about love and focus on their lives!!! When you are comfortable, you can have the resources to sustain your relationship because no matter how a woman ‘loves’ you, the ‘love’ must surely die if there’s no finance to sustain it!

Adams Oshiomole (not handsome) just got married to pretty Lara Forte! Do you think she didn’t see all the tall handsome dudes with six-packs before tying the knot with the governor?

Carrot and stick?...create ministry of Boko Haram affairs n say goodbye to this debt infested ship Nigeria...
OBJ belongs to himself, PMB belongs to everybody n to No body...#snail changeNigeria?.

Pictures of the blood or u r scammed..

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let them come and handle Boko Haram,that's more dept to this country but better security.

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i will rather she cheats emotionaly than physically,bruh.