Let's be honest --- winning back your man will be a lot harder than winning over a new man. But if you want to keep fighting for him, then he must be worth it. If you want to win your man back, you have to reflect on what went wrong, work on improving yourself, and then make a move at the right time. If you want to know how to win your man back and avoid further heartbreak, just follow these steps.
Acknowledge the problem.
Be the bigger person and talk about the issue. Behind every petty fight lies a real issue. Be an adult and speak up.
Think about what went wrong. Before you can try to make things right, you need to be honest about what went wrong in the relationship. Take some time to do some soul-searching and ask yourself what ended the relationship. Where you too moody, too distant, or too flirtatious with others? Think about what you can do to change the dynamic
Draw him/her in.
Ask him/her to grab a drink with u when he do. Don't hit him with the big "talk" right away. You have to acknowledge you have done wrong and be sorry for your actions. Make your EX believe you did what you did to make him feel hurt due to the pains he/she cost you
Tell ur EX how you feel.
Once you've reflected on what went wrong, improved yourself, and caught his/her attention, there's nothing left to do but to tell ur EX how you feel. This part will be hard, but you'll have to swallow your pride and get over the nervousness in your gut if you want results. Opening up and letting UR EX know that you want to try again won't be easy, but it will be worth it. Here's how to do it:
• Pick the right place and time.
Try to get ur EX alone at a time when he'/shes in a good mood and when there isn't a chance his friends will be lurking in the background.
• Swallow your pride. If you've made any mistakes, apologize for the past, and be as specific as possible to show that you're self-aware.
• Be honest. Tell him that you really miss having him in your life, and that you made a big mistake and want him back.
• Say that you want to make it up to him and to show him how much you've changed
Slowly let the feelings out.
Nothing scares men more than huge WAVES of emotion. Slowly tell him you miss him... don't hit him with it all like a brick wall.
Once you have done the first process”

NEXT STEP:
Change your ways.
Once you've figured out what you may have done wrong in the relationship, resist the urge to call the ex and show off your new found self-realization. Actions speak louder than words. Just be the new improved self, and word will spread.
• If the relationship ended because you were too clingy, work on not being so attached to him/her. Play it cool and he'll see that you're a new person.
• If the relationship ended because you didn't give him enough attention, start making him feel special. Tell him/her looks nice and that you're happy to see him/her.
• If the relationship ended because you spent too much time flirting with other guys/girls, don't let him see you with other guys/girls too much or he/she’ll be reminded of why things didn't work out.
Let ur Ex see you having a great time.
Have a big smile on your face and let him see you really enjoying yourself and bringing pleasure to the world and the people around you. You shouldn't have to fake it. If you really want him to want you, then you should actually be having a great time, and be comfortable enough to be happy without him.

• Laugh -- a lot. Let ur Ex see you laughing and giggling with friends and really having the time of your life.
• Be engaged. Be fully engaged in whatever conversation you're having. Let him/her see you being animated, gesturing, and making great points.
• Let ur Ex see you engaging in fun activities. If he sees you laughing it up at trivia night, having a great time running with a girlfriend, or hitting up the dance floor, he'll want to spend more time with you.

Don't worry, every RELATIONSHIP has issues? If you don't fight, you are most definitely suppressing real issues and it's not healthy. Stay positive and remember these few tips when you're scrapping it out with bae.

the trick is simple
get closer to her best friend while she observes

get closer to his best friend while he observes



in a while he/she will come running back to fix things