oshaosha2014:
Lady, trust me. What is bad on you may not necessarily be good on me and, what is bad on me may not necessarily be good on you. We are different and we should only cherish that. We are in a world where you have to equate everything for everyone. Life is not fair, madam. A woman should naturally be soft and inviting no matter her level of success in life. Men are sexy when they are hard, strong, daring, brash and any other male “negativity” you can think of. Thank you.

Stop stereotyping women and men.
If a man exhibits this your so called stereotype which you believe should be for women you call him a weak man abi?There is nothing natural there even if it is it would be advisable you acknowledge such for both women and men.

ashjay001:


Nope.

Some ladies, just want a husband! They've got everything u can wish for, yet dont feel complete, until they're married. Even with kid/s of their own.

Talking abt feeding, is keeping it simple.

I hold nothing against ladies who want a husband/family. If she doesn't feel complete without a husband, so be it. Some people are very pro-family, I fall into that category. I just do not allow it becloud the logical part of my brain. This is where my sisters get it wrong.

AmazonHippolyta:
I hope sambarry reads this
So that she would not discourage women who want to enter politics.

I hope you learn to be realistic as you choose and grow your career this 2019

What would a baby naturally do when it sees a succulent breast? It would suck the living day light out of it. But we know some ‘modern’ mothers don’t breastfeed their babies, yet we know the babies get the milk anyway... and that has not changed the fact that babies are natural breast suckers. They don’t attend the university to learn breast sucking. I guess I am being stereotypical here.

Ladyhippolyta88:
Stop stereotyping women and men.
If a man exhibits this your so called stereotype which you believe should be for women you call him a weak man abi?There is nothing natural there even if it is it would be advisable you acknowledge such for both women and men.

bukatyne:


Oga, this is another matter entirely.

Such a wife obviously believes in the traditional way of doing things so she should carry her cross.

It is also vice versa.

...If u work and earn an income...the income or a portikn of it must be visible at home...It must go into co-funding ur lifestyle along with your husband. If u wanna believe in the traditional way then u should believe ur husband can also tell u to stop working and u must comply....This is part of the character ish that puts men away...not the earnings of the woman but her attitude to money...especially her own money.

funmisticqueen:
And your mates are gloating of making achievements in the real world. You are here gloating about an argument. This your irrelevance must stop in 2019. Amen.

Just as ur types were in the church praying to God without ceasing for success and great achievements in 2019, u r here planning on how to open ur legs for strong men. U need deliverance. If u think u can't survive without selling ur dignity, then u r morally bankrupt.
Na who use sex take curse u?.
This ur irrelevance and immorality must stop in 2019. Amen!

I COMMAND U TO RECEIVE SENSE!

If he is male, he is an AFC.

Looking for validity from females, believing that by identifying with what women "say" they want then he will attract female attention.

Poor fellow, condemned to be best friends with women while they date guys who embody what women say they "hate". �

pocohantas:


Nawa o, how can you be a male? A male cannot be this truthful on NL.

You are a female, a feminist

VULCAN:
If he is male, he is an AFC.

Looking for validity from females, believing that by identifying with what women "say" they want then he will attract female attention.

Poor fellow, condemned to be best friends with women while they date guys who embody what women say they "hate". �

Yawns...
Some men will always be angry when they see well-behaved men. Try to blackmail them into doing otherwise. We date men like him, foolish women date the men you described.

xynerise:
There are strong women out there. Just that the weak and lazy ones are the majority. I admire strong women. I love to mingle with them and share business ideas with them

you talk my mind

franchasng:
Nice write up, keep it up.

Meanwhile, I will love to inform you categorically that men are not scared of successful career ladies, that must be in the past, in fact, majority of Nigerian men of today wish and desire to marry a successful career lady; myself included because I love seeing them.

The only thing men hate about most successful career or financially buoyant ladies is their pride, arrogance and disrespect for men just because they managed to succeed in what they do.

If successful men act the way successful ladies act, I am sure no lady will find a husband to ever marry.

So successful ladies should learn to manage their ego, their pride, their arrogance around their man or men.

You see a lady driving a nice car, watch how she puffs up as if the world should bow for her, but its the same car guys have been driving since ages and even buying for their girlfriends as gift yet nobody hears about it, yet these guys play with ladies and even act friendly with them.

But once a single lady stumbles upon or achieves some good level of financial success, she starts to make unnecessary rules and laws guys coming her way must abide, just because she feel she is financially independent, and for that every man coming her way becomes a potential criminal and suspect coming after her little income of money, these are the major reasons guys avoid successful single ladies, nothing more.

Happy new year to you guys, wish every ambitious and hardworking youth out there a fruitful and prosperous New Year!

God will bless the works of your hands in 2019, so go and succeed legitimately.

Woooooow!! Your perception of successful single ladies show in your choice of words

Heloct:



I'm not disputing the fact that most ladies sleep their way to success.

Are you one of those ladies?
A simpleton made an ignorant statement with no evidence and you agreed with him.
SMH

vivaciousvivi:


You couldn't have said it any better!
I am sick and tired of having worked my way up corporate Nigeria for the past 13yrs only to have to be likened to a slut who could only have achieved anything in life (including apparently my brains) by sleeping with men in suits!
Its rubbish and a lowdown dirty shame that majority of so called educated males still tend to this school of thought.

The funny thing is when u ask these same men, they do recall certain female classmates who were brainy and confident in secondary or Uni. So where did these girls go to? Disappear from the face of the earth? No! They became US - strong, hardworking, confident and diligent women paving their way in a male dominated world (which most of us don't even care to fight) against all odds.

Don't mind them, sis. I think it has a lot to do with their circle, maybe the women in their lives. It is also insecurity at work, trying to put someone down to elevate themselves. People like that, irrespective of their gender are evil people. May God continue to elevate you, while they stay and conjure theories.

oshaosha2014:
What would a baby naturally do when it sees a succulent breast? It would suck the living day light out of it. But we know some ‘modern’ mothers don’t breastfeed their babies, yet we know the babies get the milk anyway... and that has not changed the fact that babies are natural breast suckers. They don’t attend the university to learn breast sucking. I guess I am being stereotypical here.

You are not being stereotypical you are making no sense.

SAMBARRY:
I hope you learn to be realistic as you choose and grow your career this 2019

Realistic is my middle name.
I actually am and would continue to be realistic.
We all have experiences and our experiences are a part of our reality and realistic view point.

AmazonHippolyta:

Realistic is my middle name.
I actually am and would continue to be realistic.
We all have experiences and our experiences are a part of our reality and realistic view point.

nahhh.you're still in fantasy land.your head is above the cloud,in lala land my dear

Xisnin:

Are you one of those ladies?
A simpleton made an ignorant statement with no evidence and you agreed with him.
SMH

It is not agreeing. It is the truth. We read and see this everyday. Most ladies sleep with men for money, material things etc. So, this post is not about hiding the obvious. It's about creating awareness that as ladies, we can make it without bending over.

Why are you people obsessed with subduing women?

DukeofNZ:


make you no de say nonsense. na who tell you say person we be career woman no suppose de humble and submit to man. me i don live for many countries, my mother na medical doctor for america and my father na successful businessman and i be successful man, my family de happy because my mother no de behave like bitter woman. bitter woman like pocohantas of nairaland na bad exmaple for wetin a career woman no suppose be and she no successful self. make she no de make noise de yarn nonsense. make she change her way. she de bitter.

woman can have money and de humble

Career woman or not I don't have issues with women making their own money because it actually reduces the expenses on the man.
The only issue I have is most women in that range are really arrogant and rude, I have worked with a few of them and I can tell you that they tend to flare up at the slightest thing. I am not in any way critizing your write up but I want to address the ladies too to drop their ego and let us live in peace.

Heloct:


It is not agreeing. It is the truth. We read and see this everyday. Most ladies sleep with men for money, material things etc. So, this post is not about hiding the obvious. It's about creating awareness that as ladies, we can make it without bending over.

"Read and see" is meaningless in rational discourse. You see what you want to see.
What percentage of ladies bend over to get to the top?

There is no such thing as "truth" when spouting baseless propaganda.

No, most ladies are not prostitutes.
Those in your circles may be.

Even most prostitutes are not millionaires, they live from hand to mouth.

What baffles me most is that some supposedly educated Nigerians are not different from
illiterates in thinking and outlook.

pocohantas:
Preach sis!!!! I actually wanted to create a thread of this nature, but definitely not in Romance section. I can't stand alpha males ruining such a thread. On behalf of the sisterhood, I say thank you .

All that talk of women sleeping with men to get to the top, is something broke, low self-esteemed guys say to make themselves feel better. There must be an excuse to drag a woman down.

If you set your mind to it, you can do it.

My boss would say, you can't say Okonjo is your role model, whereas you follow Janemena on IG. Look at great women, read their story, how they started, the schools they went to, the books they read, the places they hang out, how they dress, how they talk. Then start your baby steps. Please, the only men afraid of career women are insecure men and we have lots of them in Nigeria. The good news is, the more you work on yourself as a woman, nature will systematically sieve these men out of your way.

If you're concerned with women's right and equality then join our socialist ideology

Almunjid:


Just as ur types were in the church praying to God without ceasing for success and great achievements in 2019, u r here planning on how to open ur legs for strong men. U need deliverance. If u think u can't survive without selling ur dignity, then u r morally bankrupt.
Na who use sex take curse u?.
This ur irrelevance and immorality must stop in 2019. Amen!

I COMMAND U TO RECEIVE SENSE!

I have already achieved my success.I don't need to shout it out loud to prove a point. Stop being so frustrated when you see your betters

Almunjid:


Just as ur types were in the church praying to God without ceasing for success and great achievements in 2019, u r here planning on how to open ur legs for strong men. U need deliverance. If u think u can't survive without selling ur dignity, then u r morally bankrupt.
Na who use sex take curse u?.
This ur irrelevance and immorality must stop in 2019. Amen!


I COMMAND U TO RECEIVE SENSE!

according to you every successful woman opened her legs at some point. No wonder your family members are miserable

funmisticqueen:
according to you every successful woman opened her legs at some point. No wonder my family members are miserable

What? u mean all ur family members r miserable because the successful women among u all open their legs at a point in time just to be successful ?. Eyya!
If u don't want to continue to live a miserable life u need to repent ASAP. It's not too late!
I dey pity u! Lol

Nonsense, see ur brother head, family with big heads no brain. No wonder ur mates dey call u Head Mistress. Lol

Being aCareer woman is a scam, they will turn u into the wife if peradventure one mistakenly marries one. Ask yourself, are u gonna b the one to take care of the domestic chores, children as well as other stuffs at home. Well, only a weakling, wuss and the pusillanimous delves into such.

pocohantas:
Preach sis!!!! I actually wanted to create a thread of this nature, but definitely not in Romance section. I can't stand alpha males ruining such a thread. On behalf of the sisterhood, I say thank you .

All that talk of women sleeping with men to get to the top, is something broke, low self-esteemed guys say to make themselves feel better. There must be an excuse to drag a woman down.

If you set your mind to it, you can do it.

My boss would say, you can't say Okonjo is your role model, whereas you follow Janemena on IG. Look at great women, read their story, how they started, the schools they went to, the books they read, the places they hang out, how they dress, how they talk. Then start your baby steps. Please, the only men afraid of career women are insecure men and we have lots of them in Nigeria. The good news is, the more you work on yourself as a woman, nature will systematically sieve these men out of your way.

You couldn't have said it any better!
I am sick and tired of having worked my way up corporate Nigeria for the past 13yrs only to have to be likened to a slut who could only have achieved anything in life (including apparently my brains) by sleeping with men in suits!
Its rubbish and a lowdown dirty shame that majority of so called educated males still tend to this school of thought.

The funny thing is when u ask these same men, they do recall certain female classmates who were brainy and confident in secondary or Uni. So where did these girls go to? Disappear from the face of the earth? No! They became US - strong, hardworking, confident and diligent women paving their way in a male dominated world (which most of us don't even care to fight) against all odds.

funmisticqueen:
I have already achieved my success.I don't need to shout it out loud to prove a point. Stop being so frustrated when you see your betters

Wow, congratulations, so u r retired Olosho?. Ur Alhaji or chief has settled u already. Hmm, now u will soon be a career woman. Lol
Because Alhaji or Chief settled u doesn't mean that u have already achieved success... if u don't know what success means, pls look it up in the dictionary.
I would only be bittered only if u r really better than me. U r only better than the dead not the living since u r still breathing... U r psychologically, emotionally and spiritually dead, Ur life is a joke! U can deceive others by painting ur face and body but u can't deceive me, because I know ur engine is dead! Once an Olosho always an Olosho! Lol

If u try me, na high blood pressure go kpoof u! I don tell u say I pass ur power. U better beg me before I finish u already... Lol

Kiss my ass!

Seahawk:
Why are you people obsessed with subduing women?

submission don become subduing eh. nne too much grammar no dey for dis one. no submission no marriage

pocohantas:


A man like DukeofNZ would gladly SUBMIT to Dangote. A man like DukeofNZ has lived a life of not being recognized or venerated by his fellow men. Among his fellow men, he knows he needs more than a dick to be respected, like they all have dicks, he needs more than a dick, he doesn't have more than a dick.

Nature has a way of compensating his kind, he would finally get a shot at lording over another human. Who else but the wife he marries

see dis gal. who dangote be wey me i go submit to amm wen im no be husband for me. im get money me i get money even if say me no get money me no go submit to amm. submission na right wey god give man husband as i be. my own na to love my wife as my papa de luv my mother scatter. gal you no no wetin be happiness

Almunjid:


Wow, congratulations, so u r retired Olosho?. Ur Alhaji or chief has settled u already. Hmm, now u will soon be a career woman. Lol
Because Alhaji or Chief settled u doesn't mean that u have already achieved success... if u don't know what success means, pls look it up in the dictionary.
I would only be bittered only if u r really better than me. U r only better than the dead not the living since u r still breathing... U r psychologically, emotionally and spiritually dead, Ur life is a joke! U can deceive others by painting ur face and body but u can't deceive me, because I know ur engine is dead! Once an Olosho always an Olosho! Lol

If u try me, na high blood pressure go kpoof u! I don tell u say I pass ur power. U better beg me before I finish u already... Lol

Kiss my ass!

you are masturbating and forming e-warrior when I am having a party. Sha you won, my health is more important than stay among negative passive aggressive folks.happy new year,by tomorrow I would have forgotten your monicker anyway.

funmisticqueen:
you are masturbating and forming e-warrior when I am having a party. Sha you won, my health is more important than stay among negative passive aggressive folks.happy new year,by tomorrow I would have forgotten your monicker anyway.

Since u don beg me and u admit say I pass ur power, I will not bash u again. Because I'm a Positive, active, and non aggressive young lad.

Happy new year to u too!

By the way, why would u forget my moniker by tomorrow, na tomorrow ur Alzheimer's disease go start? Lol

SAMBARRY:
nahhh.you're still in fantasy land.your head is above the cloud,in lala land my dear

You don't know me so stop assuming you do.
You are actually the one in fantasy land for thinking you do know me and our realities are different

AmazonHippolyta:

You don't know me so stop assuming you do.
You are actually the one in fantasy land for thinking you do know me and our realities are different

and this is how we end this conversation that has been dragging since 2018
New year,new vibes,new everything. Therefore on this note do have a goodnight miss or Mrs amazon