*WHO IS A HUSBAND AND WHAT IS HIS ROLE?*
~ _Rev Chris Oyakhilome Ds.c DD_

Husband does not mean the male partner in a marriage, husband means master.

The reason for most problems in Christian marriages is the fact that women refute God’s definition of marriage and form theirs. They believe they are equal partners.

If most women had their fathers bold enough to talk to them, they will be very successful in their marriage and they will be very happy people. Most women have never been taught by their parents, their fathers particularly and that’s their biggest problem because they don’t know who a man is, they think he is another woman.

In marriage, you have the man who is the head of that union and because he’s the head of that union, its important to understand him. You think he’s the one that needs to understand his wife and that is where you are wrong. He will eventually but you have to know the type of man you are married to and his needs.
When you say you are marrying a man, you are coming under his authority. The Bible says, the man is the head of the woman (1 Corinthians 11:3) so when you marry him you come under his authority, you are not authority sharers even though you are both heirs to the kingdom of God.

When you decide not to subject yourself to that authority, you are a rebel and God is not going to accept what you are doing because you are not functioning correctly. Why did God make the woman?
Making woman was not God’s original plan because after God created Adam and before He made Eve, He said in Genesis 1:31 “Then God looked over all he had made, and he saw that it was very good”. God made woman because of man so woman was not His original idea. This is reality.

Genesis 2:18a “And the Lord God said “for it is not good for a man to be alone..” The Bible didn’t say “lonely” but “alone”. There is a big difference. Man wasn’t lonely but alone. Genesis 2:18b “…I will make him an help meet”. He didn’t say a partner or a supervisor or a special advisor or someone to tell him what to do.
I will make him someone to help him. God gave man a responsibility so woman was made to help man achieve that responsibility. If this is understood in every home then you won’t have problems.

I tell people that you don’t need a marriage seminar, you need the Word Seminar. Let me tell you, no husband wants another mother, he has had one all his life. He doesn’t want an older sister, he probably had one.
Your secret is in obedience, your secret is in listening to your husband, your secret is in doing the things that please him. When you don’t do the things that please him, you take the role of a mother or of an older sister.

A man loves the one he serves (God) and the one that serves him (a good wife). He fights the one that wants to be at the same level with him (a rebellious wife).
To be happy in your family and home is the easiest thing in the world, just take your role. Take your place. That place that God gave you is a beautiful place. Its a place of peace. Its a place of love. It’s a place of excellence.

Every wise person listens to wise voices (advice) but he listens to a wise voice that is presented wisely.
Everyone rebels against the voice that is trying to make a fool out of him. When you want to correct your husband, don’t lord it over him,present it as a wise suggestion. Humble yourself and be smart.

A wise woman will always be an influence to her husband, the foolish one will always annoy the husband, make him mad, make him angry and when you make him angry, you will be the victim. Learn to listen to your husband, practice it, tell yourself that you are going to do it because that is where your beauty is.

Once you stop listening, your beauty evaporates. You wonder why you are dressing and he can’t see it, he doesn’t remember your last hair style. Beauty is in obedience. That’s where the Glory is.

This make a lot of sense

I feel for women after reading some of these write-ups! It is settled. I shall raise a rebel.

Chubhie:
I feel for women after reading some of these write-ups! It is settled. I shall raise a rebel.

As anachronistic as this may seem, one can't help but think that marriages would work if both parties take his views to heart.

Ranchhoddas:
As anachronistic as this may seem, one can't help but think that marriages would work if both parties take his views to heart.

More like new wine in old bottle? Jesus was against this same theory. A task master in today's fast paced information driven reality would always be outsmarted by any balanced mind. Mind over brute force.

if you disagree with religious views on marriage, you should leave the religion because fighting it will make you stupid

Origin
late Old English (in the senses ‘male head of a household’ and ‘manager, steward’), from Old Norse húsbóndi ‘master of a house’, from hús ‘house’ + bóndi ‘occupier and tiller of the soil’. The original sense of the verb was ‘till, cultivate’.

This is what happens when pastirs think with their relaxed hair instead of their brains

Proway:
*WHO IS A HUSBAND AND WHAT IS HIS ROLE?*
~ _Rev Chris Oyakhilome Ds.c DD_

Husband does not mean the male partner in a marriage, husband means master.

The reason for most problems in Christian marriages is the fact that women refute God’s definition of marriage and form theirs. They believe they are equal partners.

If most women had their fathers bold enough to talk to them, they will be very successful in their marriage and they will be very happy people. Most women have never been taught by their parents, their fathers particularly and that’s their biggest problem because they don’t know who a man is, they think he is another woman.

In marriage, you have the man who is the head of that union and because he’s the head of that union, its important to understand him. You think he’s the one that needs to understand his wife and that is where you are wrong. He will eventually but you have to know the type of man you are married to and his needs.
When you say you are marrying a man, you are coming under his authority. The Bible says, the man is the head of the woman (1 Corinthians 11:3) so when you marry him you come under his authority, you are not authority sharers even though you are both heirs to the kingdom of God.

When you decide not to subject yourself to that authority, you are a rebel and God is not going to accept what you are doing because you are not functioning correctly. Why did God make the woman?
Making woman was not God’s original plan because after God created Adam and before He made Eve, He said in Genesis 1:31 “Then God looked over all he had made, and he saw that it was very good”. God made woman because of man so woman was not His original idea. This is reality.

Genesis 2:18a “And the Lord God said “for it is not good for a man to be alone..” The Bible didn’t say “lonely” but “alone”. There is a big difference. Man wasn’t lonely but alone. Genesis 2:18b “…I will make him an help meet”. He didn’t say a partner or a supervisor or a special advisor or someone to tell him what to do.
I will make him someone to help him. God gave man a responsibility so woman was made to help man achieve that responsibility. If this is understood in every home then you won’t have problems.

I tell people that you don’t need a marriage seminar, you need the Word Seminar. Let me tell you, no husband wants another mother, he has had one all his life. He doesn’t want an older sister, he probably had one.
Your secret is in obedience, your secret is in listening to your husband, your secret is in doing the things that please him. When you don’t do the things that please him, you take the role of a mother or of an older sister.

A man loves the one he serves (God) and the one that serves him (a good wife). He fights the one that wants to be at the same level with him (a rebellious wife).
To be happy in your family and home is the easiest thing in the world, just take your role. Take your place. That place that God gave you is a beautiful place. Its a place of peace. Its a place of love. It’s a place of excellence.

Every wise person listens to wise voices (advice) but he listens to a wise voice that is presented wisely.
Everyone rebels against the voice that is trying to make a fool out of him. When you want to correct your husband, don’t lord it over him,present it as a wise suggestion. Humble yourself and be smart.

A wise woman will always be an influence to her husband, the foolish one will always annoy the husband, make him mad, make him angry and when you make him angry, you will be the victim. Learn to listen to your husband, practice it, tell yourself that you are going to do it because that is where your beauty is.

Once you stop listening, your beauty evaporates. You wonder why you are dressing and he can’t see it, he doesn’t remember your last hair style. Beauty is in obedience. That’s where the Glory is.

Aside the unsavoury connotation of the word "master" in this context - an euphemistic word like leader would've been better - his submission is almost perfectly in order. And it would've been perfectly in order had he used the word leader and say that, a leader is one who knows the way, goes the way and shows the way - because one who doesn't believe that "he who comes into equity must come with clean hands" isn't qualified to answer a leader.

A husband and wife aren't partners; They're simply husband and wife - with the man as first between the two. The head. Egalitarianism doesn't mean absence of hierarchy and conscientiousness.

Love begets submissiveness; And the difference between the two remains in their names and applications - neither is a sign of weakness. Men love your wives, women be submissive to your husbands.

Proway:
*WHO IS A HUSBAND AND WHAT IS HIS ROLE?*
~ _Rev Chris Oyakhilome Ds.c DD_

Husband does not mean the male partner in a marriage, husband means master.

The reason for most problems in Christian marriages is the fact that women refute God’s definition of marriage and form theirs. They believe they are equal partners.

If most women had their fathers bold enough to talk to them, they will be very successful in their marriage and they will be very happy people. Most women have never been taught by their parents, their fathers particularly and that’s their biggest problem because they don’t know who a man is, they think he is another woman.

In marriage, you have the man who is the head of that union and because he’s the head of that union, its important to understand him. You think he’s the one that needs to understand his wife and that is where you are wrong. He will eventually but you have to know the type of man you are married to and his needs.
When you say you are marrying a man, you are coming under his authority. The Bible says, the man is the head of the woman (1 Corinthians 11:3) so when you marry him you come under his authority, you are not authority sharers even though you are both heirs to the kingdom of God.

When you decide not to subject yourself to that authority, you are a rebel and God is not going to accept what you are doing because you are not functioning correctly. Why did God make the woman?
Making woman was not God’s original plan because after God created Adam and before He made Eve, He said in Genesis 1:31 “Then God looked over all he had made, and he saw that it was very good”. God made woman because of man so woman was not His original idea. This is reality.

Genesis 2:18a “And the Lord God said “for it is not good for a man to be alone..” The Bible didn’t say “lonely” but “alone”. There is a big difference. Man wasn’t lonely but alone. Genesis 2:18b “…I will make him an help meet”. He didn’t say a partner or a supervisor or a special advisor or someone to tell him what to do.
I will make him someone to help him. God gave man a responsibility so woman was made to help man achieve that responsibility. If this is understood in every home then you won’t have problems.

I tell people that you don’t need a marriage seminar, you need the Word Seminar. Let me tell you, no husband wants another mother, he has had one all his life. He doesn’t want an older sister, he probably had one.
Your secret is in obedience, your secret is in listening to your husband, your secret is in doing the things that please him. When you don’t do the things that please him, you take the role of a mother or of an older sister.

A man loves the one he serves (God) and the one that serves him (a good wife). He fights the one that wants to be at the same level with him (a rebellious wife).
To be happy in your family and home is the easiest thing in the world, just take your role. Take your place. That place that God gave you is a beautiful place. Its a place of peace. Its a place of love. It’s a place of excellence.

Every wise person listens to wise voices (advice) but he listens to a wise voice that is presented wisely.
Everyone rebels against the voice that is trying to make a fool out of him. When you want to correct your husband, don’t lord it over him,present it as a wise suggestion. Humble yourself and be smart.

A wise woman will always be an influence to her husband, the foolish one will always annoy the husband, make him mad, make him angry and when you make him angry, you will be the victim. Learn to listen to your husband, practice it, tell yourself that you are going to do it because that is where your beauty is.

Once you stop listening, your beauty evaporates. You wonder why you are dressing and he can’t see it, he doesn’t remember your last hair style. Beauty is in obedience. That’s where the Glory is.

Balderdash!! People should learn to read their bible's themselves. If KGV is to Shakespearen in language for you pls pick up NIV or GNV thats written in simpls English for a better understanding.
Your pastor isnt using a "special" bible from urs. Its the same!!

Dont allow someone (in the name of spiritual head/pastor/father) sow words into ur life that can potentially ruin you

Na truth be dis. Na master we men be to our wives. no submission no marriage

I have read this from beginning to end. Pastor Chris should know that no two marriages are the same. This is what ruins marriages, unrealistic expectations.

There is no one size fits all approach, some families will be in big trouble if the wife waits for the husband to lead, in some cases it is just not his nature, in other cases he is simply ill equipped for leadership on certain areas of life. I have heard of men walking out of marriages because they are unable to meet these kind of expectations. I am in no way defending these men but we must appreciate the differences between us all.

Couples should strive to grow together in love and appreciate the strengths of one another. Enhanced synchronous cohabitation and development is a much better focus than this master, slave, sister, mother parody.

This was exactly what ruined his marriage. Making himself lord over his wife. Any couple that heeds to this egocentric advice will end up with a broken marriage just the way PST Chris's own ended

funmisticqueen:
This is what happens when pastirs think with their relaxed hair instead of their brains

funmi why did u hate men so much d fact u are in pains dont mean men are all d same. I've been dump after training a girl for 2 year. she turn out to be an animal. it dosnt mean I hate girl open ur heart to love dear

Coming from a man with a failed marriage. He can go ahead and teach his daughter and other sheeples this trash instead. Nonsense.

We may contend that he failed with his own marriage, but he spoke the plain, cringe-worthy truth.

Women should never marry a man they cannot RESPECT and be SUBMISSIVE to.

That is why sometimes it is quite beneficial for the age gap between the two to be at least not less than 5 years.

A woman has the duty of respecting the man she married, while a man has the duty of giving his woman a personality she can respect.

No woman will respect a drunken man or an alley cat who chases skirts all day long.

The man, being the HEAD must lead by words and most importantly by EXAMPLE.

The wife should look up to her husband as a role model.

She protects him spiritually, he protects her physically.

Together they nurture and grow their family.

jakandeola:
funmi why did u hate men so much d fact u are in pains dont mean men are all d same. I've been dump after training a girl for 2 year. she turn out to be an animal. it dosnt mean I hate girl open ur heart to love dear

what is this one saying. Someone is here misinterpreting the bible and you are saying I hate men. Don't mention me unless you have something intelligent to say

5thElement:
We may contend that he failed with his own marriage, but he spoke the plain, cringe-worthy truth.

Women should never marry a man they cannot RESPECT and be SUBMISSIVE to.

That is why sometimes it is quite beneficial for the age gap between the two to be at least not less than 5 years.

A woman has the duty of respecting the man she married, while a man has the duty of giving his woman a personality she can respect.

No woman will respect a drunken man or an alley cat who chases skirts all day long.

The man, being the HEAD must lead by words and most importantly by EXAMPLE.

The wife should look up to her husband as a role model.

She protects him spiritually, he protects her physically.

Together they nurture and grow their family.

she protects the man spritually? do christians protect christ spiritually? Does your mother protect your father spiritually?many men are thinking their arseholes today, especially this jerrycurl hypocrite of a pastor.

Lol

fertilewomb:
This was exactly what ruined his marriage. Making himself lord over his wife. Any couple that heeds to this egocentric advice will end up with a broken marriage just the way PST Chris's own ended

MizAijay:
Coming from a man with a failed marriage. He can go ahead and teach his daughter and other sheeples this trash instead. Nonsense.

Gbam. Let his daughter follow the message Na.

MizAijay:
Coming from a man with a failed marriage. He can go ahead and teach his daughter and other sheeples this trash instead. Nonsense.

Shut up idiot. Your husband is your lord and your master. Take it or leave it. Marriage isn’t for everyone

funmisticqueen:
what is this one saying. Someone is here misinterpreting the bible and you are saying I hate men. Don't mention me unless you have something intelligent to say

Shut up. Are you intelligent than the guy?
Your husband is your lord and your master, you either take it or leave it

funmisticqueen:
she protects the man spritually? do christians protect christ spiritually? Does your mother protect your father spiritually?many men are thinking their arseholes today, especially this jerrycurl hypocrite of a pastor.

I'd respond if only you made sense. Please try again. And while you are at it maybe you should note that I never mentioned that I have any allegiance to any religious sect.

Resener27:

Shut up idiot. Your husband is your lord and your master. Take it or leave it. Marriage isn’t for everyone

now u are making sence

Resener27:

Shut up. Are you intelligent than the guy?
Your husband is your lord and your master, you either take it or leave it

I leave it. Goodday

5thElement:


I'd respond if only you made sense. Please try again. And while you are at it maybe you should note that I never mentioned that I have any allegiance to any religious sect.

abeg just admit that you are just an effeminate man who has no intelligent answer to my questions

funmisticqueen:
abeg just admit that you are just an effeminate man who has no intelligent answer to my questions

I am not the guy who fvcked up your shit and I really don't have the time nor the patience either to engage in scratching your hurt-inflated, pseudo- feministic and egotistic personality.

My opinion is mine. Whoever doesn't like it can drink from an open sewer.

And you can gently take yourself off my mention and look for some other guy to trade insults with so that you can feel good about yourself and take the opportunity of showcasing that you were jilted by a guy so the world can see you were wronged.

Just leave me out of your personal misery, please.

funmisticqueen:
I leave it. Goodday

Lol how far now d queen

jakandeola:
now u are making sence

Lol i only say facts

Fake master with no wife!

5thElement:


I am not the guy who fvcked up your shit and I really don't have the time nor the patience either to engage in scratching your hurt-inflated, pseudo- feministic and egotistic personality.

My opinion is mine. Whoever doesn't like it can drink from an open sewer.

And you can gently take yourself off my mention and look for some other guy to trade insults with so that you can feel good about yourself and take the opportunity of showcasing that you were jilted by a guy so the world can see you were wronged.

Just leave me out of your personal misery, please.

still unintelligent. Take cod liver oil. It will help your brains.

funmisticqueen:
still unintelligent. Take cod liver oil. It will help your brains.

Take cow dung, it will ease the pain of being dumped like a bag of cassava.