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It was like a dancing competition when the bride and the groom stood in the middle of their friends and family dancing. None of the dancers could beat the bride because she was very good at dancing, and at times she danced as if she has no bone in her body. Ade the groom was very happy seeing himself marrying Chiamaka the most beautiful lady in the campus fellowship. Ade was the fellowship president, but he could never see himself fit enough to marry a beautiful girl like Chiamaka, who also came from a very wealthy family, so he knew her standard was very high, but seeing him marrying her was just like a dream. Chiamaka and Ade were both in the same level but studying different courses at the university. Ade happened to be the campus fellowship president and Chiamaka was one of the fellowship workers. Many people have detected the calling of God upon the life of Ade and they knew his calling was going to be a great one. But being the fellowship president, many ladies and few brothers in the fellowship have to assist him and do some of his domestic works with Chiamaka being one of the ladies attending to him. Many men in the fellowship and on campus have been eyeing Chiamaka because of her beauty brother Ade being one of them. One day, Brother Ade decided to give her some duties that will make her report to him every day and also keep her away from the other men in the fellowship eyeing her. One day, Brother Ade summoned enough courage and proposed to Chiamaka, telling her he was convinced that she is his future partner. He was very surprised to see her responding so fast to his proposal. She agreed to marry him and spend the rest of her life with him. Everything was just like a dream to Brother Ade because he never expected to receive a yes from her. He was very happy that someone like him could be a fiancé as beautiful as Chiamaka. He was however still afraid of losing her to someone else so he decided to introduce her to his family as quickly as he could and they both decided to have their wedding before going for their NYSC youth service because he believed he may likely lose her if he allowed her to go for service before their wedding. This is the reason why Ade was the happiest man at the wedding reception. Although he couldn’t beat Chiamaka at dancing, everyone in the wedding party abandoned what they were doing to watch the bride and the groom dancing.
But there was a strange dog at the party that was very rude to these couples. Everyone was dancing and rejoicing with this couple but the dog was very angry with the couple and barked at them seriously. The more they tried to chase away the dog, the angrier the dog got. People watching the dog were surprised. At first they thought the dog belonged to either the groom or the bride, but later they realized none of them owned the dog. After a while, people ignored the barking dog and focus on the beautiful bride and the handsome groom dancing in the midst of their friends and family. But unknown to them, the dog was watching a groom dancing with a very huge python snake with 3 heads and a red burning eyes. And Ade was rejoicing, unknown to him that he has being captured and dancing in the jungle of the killers. (Let’s stop here.)
Composed by Highyo. (AyRinging.)
Proverbs 6: 27-28 “Can a man scoop fire into his lap without his clothes being burned? Can a man walk on hot coals without his feet being scorched?”
Ade was rejoicing, not knowing he has being trapped. He allowed himself to be seduced by Chiamaka’s beauty; he followed her like an ox going to the slaughter, like a deer stepping into a noose, till an arrow pierces his liver, like a bird darting into a snare, little knowing it will cost him his life. Unknown to him, many are the victims she has brought down; her slain are a mighty throng. And her house is a highway to the grave, leading down to the chambers of death Proverbs 7:21-27
He only know little about the woman he fall in love with, unknown to him, that she came into his life to destroy the call of God over his life
Before you were born, satan has already hated you, at times he knows about your coming into this world 200years even before your birth, and if you happen to be a great minister who will probably destroy his work, he will plan ahead of your birth. He will gather the information of where you will be given birth, who will give birth to you and he will begin to plan ahead of your birth if he can’t stop your comming. Many people don’t know at times when God is having meeting with the hosts of heaven, satan always sneak in to know what he is about to do because he knows God can do anything to save humanity from going to hell. If he knows God is about to send a minister into the world that might destroy his work, he will start planning for the coming minister, and his major thing he target in his life is his marital life, he knows if you miss it in marriage, then you no longer have a ministry, the marriage may not be to kill you physically but it’s to target your ministry and destroy your mission, and in the end he stop you from going back to God who sent you here but lure you to hell forever. This is the reason why you must never rush into marriage, if you do this, then you are finished, because you can run away from bad friends, bad parent and family but you can never run away from a bad spouse. The moment you are given birth to, satan too will arrange an agent who also will be given birth to, and if possible, relocate him/her closer to where you are and arrange how you will meet, may be in same school, church or community. I want you to know very well, that there are some people in university who purposely seek admission into that same university because of you alone? They might be in same faculty with you or department, and also join your fellowship and you will never know that you are under monitoring, some will get employed in same company with you easily without any stress, all just because of you
Many youth today have no idea that many are in campus not to study but on evil assignments, Satan’s agents have occupied the society targeting those who have the calling of God upon their lives in order to derail them out of the plans and seduce them to marry them. They are very active in the fellowship and even look very innocent that you will never suspect them but they are very terrible, they are many in the higher institutions but with different assignments. They know everyone who has the calling of God in their life, even if the fellow doesn’t know it, they planned ahead against the calling, it doesn’t matter if the fellow is still living in sin or not, they already know his/her purpose in life and what he will probably accomplished for God if they don’t quickly target him/her, they know his/her taste and they will prepare beyond that for him/her in order to take what they want from him. This is the reason why the Lord is warning you, do not lean on your understanding, if you haven’t truly understand your purpose in life why God created you, then you must never think of marriage, it can be very dangerous for you, even if God has revealed it to you, that doesn’t mean you have the right to woo any lady of your choice, it will be very dangerous because we are now living in the era of Genesis6:1-4. Where human beings lives with demon reincarnate, not all human are human, because you know their parent doesn’t mean their parent gave birth to a real human.
Do not lean on your own understanding in choosing a life partner for yourself else you will wish you were never born. Many strong men of God with powerful calling upon their life have fallen today as a result of these. You may not understand the call of God upon yourlife but the devil know and understand very well how it can damage his kingdom, so he plans ahead to destroy the ministry. Many men of God are now weak and unable to continue the race because their *SWEAT, BLOOD, ODOR, SPERMS, NOSTRIL AIR , SALIVA , AND STRENGTH* has being joined with that of the daughters of the devil.
Beware; marriage is not what you can rush into! Christianity in this present age is very difficult because the kingdom of darkness have gone very high in their wickedness and in pulling down standing Christians.
even among genuine born-again sisters or brothers, you can’t just marry anyone, no matter how genuine and serious they are in their Christianity, yet the plans of God for you may not be in their midst. God who have made you knows the plans he has for you, he said it is not good for you to be alone, so he who created you knows what is best for you
Proverb 3:5,……… lean not unto thine own understanding. Your wisdom can fail you and you will seek for tears and not find it.
Faithful husband and prudent wife will only be gotten from the Lord, Many people have derail from this understanding, they think all that matters in marriage is , once you love someone and she has agree to marry you, that is alright, but the love you think you have for a person at sight is mere lust, just a spurious emotion of your mind which can never be static but dynamic because it can always change.
And for someone to agree with you on the face value and agree to be together does not mean the wine of your relationship will not dry up tomorrow, so as a young man/woman that your heart is thinking of looking for a wife or husband,
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WHAT SHOULD YOU DO ?
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(A) First you need to return to the Lord because “.
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".Except the LORD build the house, the labourer will only labour in vain Psalm127:1 “
except you allow the Lord to make a choice for you, you will find trouble in your life time, you must learn to be very patient in choosing a life partner, if the lord is not the one guiding you in your choice making, you will definitely make a wrong choice in your life, usually you may be looking at somebody face, but the bible said “…beauty is vanity,” someone may appear outside wonderful but may be a devil inside, first agree that a prudent wife or faithful husband is from the Lord, only then you can be guided by the Lord
People who are moved into relationship without first seeking the face of the lord are taking a serious risk which is irretrievable, because you can’t undo it if you go into it. as a lady, many young men are making face to you, and they are giving you money and all kind of gift, they look caring and ready to do anything you request of them, but should that influence your heart or cause you to fall in love with them? you need to first ask yourself this question,
" is this from the Lord?" Genesis24: 50,
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The man you suddenly shows interest in, and the lady you have determine to take home and introduce to your parent as your fiancé , is this the lord doing, or your own doing? If you are not sure it’s the Lord leading you, it’s better you turn away from it because anything that doesn’t come from the Lord will kill you.
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(B) “WHY ARE YOU GOING INTO MARRIAGE “?
Many women who are suffering in their marriage today can’t trace it back if the Lord actually led them into the marriage.
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As a Christian you don’t enter into marriage because everyone around you are getting married, you are not under a pressure to make a choice because everybody are making it, the first issue you should sought out before marriage is, has the Lord God said it’s not good that you should be alone? The implication is that, if God has not said it, then it may mean as far as God plans and purpose for your life, it is not yet in God plan for you to get married.

God is never too late, you may be above 40years of age and God will still be telling you , it is still good for you to still remain single and you can just be 18years old and God will be telling you , it’s no longer good for you to be alone, never run ahead of your shadow, anyone that want to walk in the plan of God for his or her life must learn to be very patient like Abraham
“If you step into a relationship ahead of God’s timing for your life, you will step into trouble“
Was it the Lord that has brought this issue to your heart or is it because of the environment and everybody is putting you under pressure or you are competing with somebody? Are you in a rat race with people around you saying that girl is 25 and she’s marry and I’m 28 I don’t have a husband yet? When God created you, he created you for a divine purpose and there is a season which God will perfect his divine plans for your life. Many ladies spent sleepless night crying and thinking of who will marry them, but that should not be the first question, the first question should be Lord is it in your purpose for me to get married now?

“Gen2:18. And the LORD God said, it is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.”
God was the one who realized that the man should no longer be alone, and not the man telling God i'm tired of staying alone, because the work load is getting overwhelming, for me alone, so give me a helper.
What has God called you to do presently that makes you think you can’t do it alone and you want marriage to contribute it?
because if you look at the verse of the scripture, God called the woman a help meet for the man and you don’t discuss the issue of help when you have nothing to do, because if you have nothing doing, then you don’t need an help mate, you only need help when you have something doing that you alone can no longer do
Ever before marriage become relevant, the first thing to think of as a man is what I’m I doing that I need a woman to help me to achieve, once you are a woman who want to marry, irrespective of anything you may be in the society, you should also have the believe that once you are going into marriage, you are going there to be an help for someone, so how can you become a help to a man that has nothing doing?
IDENTIFY YOUR REASONS IN LIFE
No matter how zealous you are, if you are not yet being able to locate your purpose in life, and your reason for living or what your life is to be spend of that you need a woman to help you achieve, then you are probably not ready for marriage. Now this is an advice, instead of swamping around ladies, why don’t you first withdraw yourself and come back to the Lord and ask him, Lord what do you want me to do? When God has specifically shown you what he want you to do, just as he did unto Adam, it is the duty given to Adam that brought in a help needs for Adam to complete the divine mandate upon his life.
That woman you are thinking of days and night, who knows if she is an agent of darkness sent to destroy you callings? You may probably be under a spell, that’s why you think about her days and night. Never propose to a lady if God is not asking you to do so
Don’t allow your age continue to do what you don’t need to do now, cast your care upon the Lord who knows your beginning and your end, if you put yourself under pressure that this week I must know who I will marry the enemy will review someone to you because your heart is already bent in seeing something, but our God is our father and you can’t twist his hand to do what you want, but you must trust in his power and his ability to do something, if you want God to act on your behalf, then you must stop being anxious and saying if you don’t get this girl today, someone else will take her, but that is not true, if that sister is meant for you, God will preserve her for you, the fact that you are in final year in the university or about to finish your youth service or you have being waiting for a while, that is not enough reason to be fret, don’t fret into marriage otherwise you will be frighten out of it, but if you wait for God word of assurance his peace will be with you in that relationship,
TO BE CONTINUE