onions:

I've done that,but she flared up and told me to go rent a house.

onions:

I am in my late twenties and living with my aunty presently. She is in her thirties and yet to marry. Before now we were best of friend because i didn't have a relationship and was always indoors.

Recently,i met a nice guy who shows interest in me and even propose. We hang out most evenings after work and he drops me off latest 9pm. I notice my aunt is not too friendly anymore,and threatens to throw me out of the house.

Im hurt and confused bc of her attitude. Does it mean she doesn't want my happiness? I wanted to move out,but my guy told me not to,that i should hang on till we get married. Im scared she may harm me bc she doesn't talk or answer my greetings anymore. What should i do?

likeme:

^^^ You sound like her aunty.

onions:

@Uju i've lived with her more than 5yrs,right b4 i started university. She's like a big sister to me,that is why i didn't expect this.

You needed to see the hate in her when she asked me to leave,more like i did something wrong.My bf asked me to hang on bc he he doesn't want it to look as if bc of a man,im now arrogant considering the fact that she is not married.

But im making plans to leave if she still behaves this way by next weekend.

mutter:

-and since you are working, you have to contribute financially too.
Why should she be paying rent and buying food for you now.
If you contribute financially, she can even help someone else in the family and will be motivated to do so because it worked out well with you.
Do not close the road for others

Why does he want you to 'hang on'

Is he scared you'll aske him to pay for the rent?

Anyways, maybe you are not telling us the full story. How long have you lived with your Aunt? Did she agree to house you indefinitely or just for a while?

I once had a friend who begged me to take her in for a couple of months. After 6 months and she was not making any plans to leave, I had to make her.

Your Aunt has told you to leave and you are still hanging around trying to be a burden on her when you can afford your own house. I think you are taking advantage of her and the fact that suspecting her of being jealous of you just goes to show how ungrateful you can be!

No hard feelings girl, but you need to start taking responsibility for yourself!

chiozor:

what do heal are you hanging out with a guy late time like that gross irresponsible. control yourself, spend only weekend with the guy and come back in time. you have started opening wide your leg and laughing like a she-goat bride, when he pumps finish and move on-who knows, you will start whinning here.

tkb417:


i know ure brilliant

but your points are usually lopsided and are usually lost in thought

so, cos the lady complains of her aunts sudden change in attitude, the poor babe is an ingrate? Jesus is Lord im sure you know


@Poster
move away from the house. . . hustle to get your place

onions:

@mutter i know i've never contributed financially to the upkeep of the house bc she doesn't allow me,she is very rich and sees my salary as pocket money.When i told her i want to introduce someone to her she told me that if it's the person that has been dropping me off then she doesn't want to meet him. The guy has never entered my house bc of her attitude,though he knows her.

skyndyp:

@ Uju read her last post again,she said when she wanted to introduce the guy the aunt said no. OP just cool down,don't move yet till u've reconcile with her. That way both of you can still remain best of pals.

Ujujoan:

Maybe you should read it again. He was already picking her up and dropping her before she volunteered to introduce him! He should have been responsible enough to introduce himself before starting to keep late nights with her.

Ujujoan:

So all the while he has been coming to pick you he has never bothered to meet her and intorduce himself? So he just picks you and drops you whenever he likes without regards for who you were staying with?

Don't you know you are under her care? If anything happens to you, she'll be held responsible? Before you started to keep late nights with the young man you should have introduced him to your Aunt first. That's courtesy my friend.

Now I see why she doesn't like him!