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Re: Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by anochuko01(m): 6:11pm On Feb 14
so true...parents should be very observant! coz kids may not want to open up.
Re: Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by Martinez39: 6:12pm On Feb 14
IAmSabrina:

Martinez & his FP petitions again grin grin grin
I am now on front page, my front page ministry is moving forward.

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Re: Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by Jeezuzpick(m): 6:15pm On Feb 14
Be careful who you leave your kids with?

Mom?

Dad?

Big brother?

Big Sis?

All these could be abusers.
Re: Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by chii8(f): 6:22pm On Feb 14
Come pick your kids immediately school dismisses.

Modified: our kids are not safe in schools ooo,no matter the packaging, the cleaners,gate men, school bus drivers(in fact if your child is the first the driver picks or drops, watch it ooo),teachers, even the proprietor (s),are all potential child abusers, DON'T TRUST ANYONE, Learn to listen to your kids whether boy or girl.
Re: Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by Nobody: 6:33pm On Feb 14
Nice writeup. Parents should also read lots of books on child psychology, it helps.

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Re: Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by Martinez39: 6:35pm On Feb 14
chii8:
Come pick your kids immediately school dismisses.
Brilliant! Thanks for this!
Re: Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by Danieldechamps: 6:36pm On Feb 14
Dats exactly what the so called nowadays parent failed to teach their children at least sex education is field in family education. this is what their olden days parent taught them but neglect to teach their children becos of their daily neeeds.
Re: Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by Sheunma: 6:42pm On Feb 14
Women sexually abuse male kids too, dammit! We have contrived to make this whole mess about the men that a lot of "saintly in the eyes of the society "women child molesters get away with it.
Re: Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by Martinez39: 6:44pm On Feb 14
Sheunma:
Women sexually abuse male kids too, dammit! We have contrived to make this whole mess about the men that a lot of "saintly in the eyes of the society "women child molesters get away with it.
Read my op again.
Re: Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by GreenCap: 6:52pm On Feb 14
point 2: LISTEN to your children.
Princess: mom, uncle put stick in my body!
Mummy: hey, did you bring it out?
foolish mum. the stick is a dick.
Junior: ded, aunty sucked my straw!
Daddy: wow, she bought you a drink?
crazy dad. that's an oral Mouth Action.
every child molester should be sent to a lone island where wild animals_

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Re: Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by IAmSabrina(f): 7:11pm On Feb 14
Martinez39:
I am now on front page, my front page ministry is moving forward.
At long last lol
Re: Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by Martinez39: 7:24pm On Feb 14
ceeroh:
African mentality is totally fuvked up! Most times we usually relate sexual abuse to the girl child alone. Most young boys are exposed to sexual abuse but you hardly hear of it. An incident happened roughly 2 decades ago, a young boy was being molested regularly by an aunt. In the long run, the aunt's mom caught them in the act. Could you believe she never said anything about it till this day... Now imagine if it was an uncle that was molesting her daughter, I'm sure the guy would probably be behind bars till now or had his reputation damaged forever. Fuvked society!! BTW don't ask me who the young boy was grin
did you read this part in my post?

... If your child is not happy and comfortable when you are taking him/her to visit Mr. Bolaji or if Mr. Bolaji is coming for a visit,...

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Re: Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by sweetilicious(f): 7:26pm On Feb 14
Martinez39:
Whether you like it or not, there are all kinds of sexual predators in this world. Most despicable are the ones that prey on minors. These paedophilic devils should be the concern of every parents because they are everywhere and they come in all forms. They could be anybody even your brother or sister. Here are tips and signs that are going to be effective in protecting your home from paedophilic predators.

1) KID'S DISCOMFORT : If your child is not happy and comfortable when you are taking him/her to visit Mr. Bolaji or if Mr. Bolaji is coming for a visit, then you should start asking the appropriate questions and investigating. If your child's countenance changes for the worse when you mention the name of Mr. Bolaji, start asking the appropriate questions. Don’t take chances. If you notice that you child is trying to avoid someone for no reason apparent to you, start asking the appropriate questions.

2) LISTEN TO YOUR CHILDREN : do you know that some people's brain are so bounded to the altar of their pastors and daddy GOs that if their children tell them "pastor Emma raped me," they would respond with "keep quiet, don't say such bad thing against the holy man" ? angry Some would even punish their children. As a result of this nonsense, many children suffer silently because their parents are brain dead to their pastors and bishops. If your little child tells you that someone raped him/her, believe them even if there is no evidence and the person is a close family friend, pastor or relative. It's better not to take chances with your children. It's better your kid be shown to be lying than for you to ignore your kid and let the abuse continue.

3) MIND WHO YOU LEAVE YOUR CHILD WITH : mind who you leave your kids with. Personally, anyone can be an abuser but be careful when it comes to holy men eg. pastors, reverend fathers and sisters, bishops etc. It's not just the catholic clergies that rape minors, many clergies in other denominations are guilty as well. Why be more concerned about clergies? They have more freedom to do these things and can cover up with ease. Top clergies have followers that will blindly defend them by all means and they have the money to avoid justice. So they are under no pressure to change their ways and can be reckless in their paedophilic habits if they want. If you think clergies don't abuse kids, you are own your own. The catholic church even purposely cover up the mass sexual abuses of minors.

Not just clergies, it could be neighbours, their teachers, your relatives, their step parent etc. be watchful!

4) EDUCATE YOUR KIDS : sexual education is not a taboo. Teach them that people are not supposed to touch and play with certain parts of their body. Tell them that it is wrong and they should unfailingly report those who do such. If you don't educate your child on this issue, the world may teach them the harsh way.

5) PROPERLY ORIENTATE THEM ON REALITY AND THE INTIMIDATION OF SEXUAL ABUSERS : if you keep telling your child that juju and curses are real and effective and uncle Charles rapes your child and tells her "if you tell your parents, this juju will make you run mad and kill your parents," you are on your own. Many child molesters have used this and other similar tactics to keep children from reporting to their parents/guardians and they also use this means to continue the abuse without risking getting reported by the victims. This is sad but true. Some even threaten to physically attack the child and the parents if the child spills the beans.

Teach you children that the threats of these sadistic predators are empty and they should unfailingly and without fear report if any abuse happens.

6) TEACH THEM WHERE THEY SHOULDN'T BE GOING OR DOING : create a policy in your household that when you are away, none of your kids should open the door for anyone even if they say that you sent them. Teach them that they should not go to anyone's house without your knowledge neither are they to walk in any secluded area. Teach your little kids not to accept drinks or food from neighbours, teachers, pastors etc. Lastly, tell them not to accept a ride from anyone, answer strangers or going with strangers to unknown destinations.

7) add yours.

Good
Re: Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by ceeroh(m): 8:08pm On Feb 14
[quote author=Martinez39 post=75734290] did you read this part in my post?

I did. BTW, why not Mr. Bolaji or Mrs. Folashade? You laid emphasis only on Mr Bolaji.
Re: Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by rajicks(m): 8:21pm On Feb 14
Teach your children self dedence. So when they are in danger they can defend themselves.
Re: Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by Martinez39: 8:23pm On Feb 14
ceeroh:
I did. BTW, why not Mr. Bolaji or Mrs. Folashade? You laid emphasis only on Mr Bolaji.
it still doesn't mean anything. You are reading undue meaning into things.
Re: Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by Amhappy(f): 8:56pm On Feb 14
chii8:
Come pick your kids immediately school dismisses.

Very true. This an issue I am currently battling with. My daughter is usually the last child to leave,I pick her by 6. One day i saw something uncomfortable and asked her she called all the names in her brain that they touched her bombom. She's 2yrs plus so her answers were incoherent. I reported to the school and also we are making adjustments to be picking her early. I am even considering quitting my unprofitable job because of this issue. Abuse is real.

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Re: Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by virgintoto(m): 9:13pm On Feb 14
ceeroh:
African mentality is totally fuvked up! Most times we usually relate sexual abuse to the girl child alone. Most young boys are exposed to sexual abuse but you hardly hear of it. An incident happened roughly 2 decades ago, a young boy was being molested regularly by an aunt. In the long run, the aunt's mom caught them in the act. Could you believe she never said anything about it till this day... Now imagine if it was an uncle that was molesting her daughter, I'm sure the guy would probably be behind bars till now or had his reputation damaged forever. Fuvked society!! BTW don't ask me who the young boy was grin
Na u b d young boy nah. Abi u tink say I no know?

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Re: Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by ceeroh(m): 9:15pm On Feb 14
virgintoto:
Na u b d young boy nah. Abi u tink say I no know?
Wisdom has finally killed you grin
Re: Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by COOL10(m): 9:34pm On Feb 14
ceeroh:
African mentality is totally fuvked up! Most times we usually relate sexual abuse to the girl child alone. Most young boys are exposed to sexual abuse but you hardly hear of it. An incident happened roughly 2 decades ago, a young boy was being molested regularly by an aunt. In the long run, the aunt's mom caught them in the act. Could you believe she never said anything about it till this day... Now imagine if it was an uncle that was molesting her daughter, I'm sure the guy would probably be behind bars till now or had his reputation damaged forever. Fuvked society!! BTW don't ask me who the young boy was grin
.

Don't mind them. Always looking for more ways to demonize the male gender. Like say women no dey rape men.

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Re: Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by Martinez39: 9:58pm On Feb 14
COOL10:
.

Don't mind them. Always looking for more ways to demonize the male gender. Like say women no dey rape men.

@COOL10 and ceeroh

Here is from my op. I am not demonising any gender.

3) MIND WHO YOU LEAVE YOUR CHILD WITH : mind who you leave your kids with. Personally, anyone can be an abuser but be careful when it comes to holy men eg. pastors, reverend fathers and sisters, bishops etc....

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Re: Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by cococandy(f): 10:39pm On Feb 14
On point thread
Re: Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by Mosco100(m): 10:39pm On Feb 14
There is actually a limit girls dress should not go shorter than according to her age.
Re: Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by Mosco100(m): 10:41pm On Feb 14
Mosco100:
There is actually a limit girls dress should not go shorter than according to her age.
Re: Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by cococandy(f): 10:43pm On Feb 14
Obviously none of you read the post. You got defensive the moment abuse was mentioned. Do some serious soul searching to figure out why you are defensive. When the OP clearly included different genders in his post.

You’re not interested in reducing the rate of abuse. You’re interested in defending the abusers

ceeroh:
African mentality is totally fuvked up! Most times we usually relate sexual abuse to the girl child alone. Most young boys are exposed to sexual abuse but you hardly hear of it. An incident happened roughly 2 decades ago, a young boy was being molested regularly by an aunt. In the long run, the aunt's mom caught them in the act. Could you believe she never said anything about it till this day... Now imagine if it was an uncle that was molesting her daughter, I'm sure the guy would probably be behind bars till now or had his reputation damaged forever. Fuvked society!! BTW don't ask me who the young boy was grin

COOL10:
.

Don't mind them. Always looking for more ways to demonize the male gender. Like say women no dey rape men.
Sheunma:
Women sexually abuse male kids too, dammit! We have contrived to make this whole mess about the men that a lot of "saintly in the eyes of the society "women child molesters get away with it.

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Re: Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by cococandy(f): 10:43pm On Feb 14
Here we go again

Mosco100:
There is actually a limit girls dress should not go shorter than according to her age.

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Re: Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by cococandy(f): 10:45pm On Feb 14
Yes parents will prevent sexual assault by making sure their baby girls are always fully clothed

That’s the solution no one has thought of. Wow
XaintJoel20:
This a time piece of information that parents and guardians should follow step by step.

On a second thought, Ithink parents should stop "sexualizing" their little girls and exposing their pubic areas. You may not see anything wrong with it, but always have it mind that there are men who are very weak and feeble when it comes to having self control...

Prevention is better than cure...

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Re: Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by ceeroh(m): 11:12pm On Feb 14
cococandy:

Obviously none of you read the post. You got defensive the moment abuse was mentioned. Do some serious soul searching to figure out why you are defensive. When the OP clearly included different genders in his post.

You’re not interested in reducing the rate of abuse. You’re interested in defending the abusers


I did read the post Madam. I wasn't antagonising the OP either, I was just bringing out a point. And you can't deny what I said was right.


I
Re: Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by Martinez39: 11:29pm On Feb 14
cococandy:

Obviously none of you read the post. You got defensive the moment abuse was mentioned. Do some serious soul searching to figure out why you are defensive. When the OP clearly included different genders in his post.

You’re not interested in reducing the rate of abuse. You’re interested in defending the abusers



Don't mind them. They are only interested in defending their feelings.

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Re: Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by COOL10(m): 11:36pm On Feb 14
Martinez39:


@COOL10 and ceeroh

Here is from my op. I am not demonising any gender.





Your first two examples were about men and that irked me a lot,I didn't need to read the third. We all need to understand that anyone can be raped by ANYONE. It's saddening to know that when rape cases are mentioned,the first thought that comes to the mind of an average human is a man raping a woman or a man raping a man. That's bullcrap.

We need to encourage more male victims to speak up even though they'll be laughed at. Hopefully then,the status quo mindset will be changed.
Re: Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by Martinez39: 11:40pm On Feb 14
COOL10:





Your first two examples were about men and that irked me a lot,I didn't need to read the third. We all need to understand that anyone can be raped by ANYONE. It's saddening to know that when rape cases are mentioned,the first thought that comes to the mind of an average human is a man raping a woman or a man raping a man. That's bullcrap.

We need to encourage more male victims to speak up even though they'll be laughed at. Hopefully then,the status quo mindset will be changed.
I acknowledged that both genders could be victims and abusers. Maybe it's the gender I called the most that's the problem. I had no intention of making a particular gender a scapegoat. To may defense, I did point out both genders. grin
Re: Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by BuBBley(f): 2:25am On Feb 15
Sexual Abuse is real, imagine a female house help of seventeen years sexually abusing the kids (a boy and girl of less than 4yrs) she is looking after.

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