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Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by Martinez39: 4:01pm On Feb 14
Whether you like it or not, there are all kinds of sexual predators in this world. Most despicable are the ones that prey on minors. These paedophilic devils should be the concern of every parents because they are everywhere and they come in all forms. They could be anybody even your brother or sister. Here are tips and signs that are going to be effective in protecting your home from paedophilic predators.

1) KID'S DISCOMFORT : If your child is not happy and comfortable when you are taking him/her to visit Mr. Bolaji or if Mr. Bolaji is coming for a visit, then you should start asking the appropriate questions and investigating. If your child's countenance changes for the worse when you mention the name of Mr. Bolaji, start asking the appropriate questions. Don’t take chances. If you notice that you child is trying to avoid someone for no reason apparent to you, start asking the appropriate questions.

2) LISTEN TO YOUR CHILDREN : do you know that some people's brain are so bounded to the altar of their pastors and daddy GOs that if their children tell them "pastor Emma raped me," they would respond with "keep quiet, don't say such bad thing against the holy man" ? angry Some would even punish their children. As a result of this nonsense, many children suffer silently because their parents are brain dead to their pastors and bishops. If your little child tells you that someone raped him/her, believe them even if there is no evidence and the person is a close family friend, pastor or relative. It's better not to take chances with your children. It's better your kid be shown to be lying than for you to ignore your kid and let the abuse continue.

3) MIND WHO YOU LEAVE YOUR CHILD WITH : mind who you leave your kids with. Personally, anyone can be an abuser but be careful when it comes to holy men eg. pastors, reverend fathers and sisters, bishops etc. It's not just the catholic clergies that rape minors, many clergies in other denominations are guilty as well. Why be more concerned about clergies? They have more freedom to do these things and can cover up with ease. Top clergies have followers that will blindly defend them by all means and they have the money to avoid justice. So they are under no pressure to change their ways and can be reckless in their paedophilic habits if they want. If you think clergies don't abuse kids, you are own your own. The catholic church even purposely cover up the mass sexual abuses of minors.

Not just clergies, it could be neighbours, their teachers, your relatives, their step parent etc. be watchful!

4) EDUCATE YOUR KIDS : sexual education is not a taboo. Teach them that people are not supposed to touch and play with certain parts of their body. Tell them that it is wrong and they should unfailingly report those who do such. If you don't educate your child on this issue, the world may teach them the harsh way.

5) PROPERLY ORIENTATE THEM ON REALITY AND THE INTIMIDATION OF SEXUAL ABUSERS : if you keep telling your child that juju and curses are real and effective and uncle Charles rapes your child and tells her "if you tell your parents, this juju will make you run mad and kill your parents," you are on your own. Many child molesters have used this and other similar tactics to keep children from reporting to their parents/guardians and they also use this means to continue the abuse without risking getting reported by the victims. This is sad but true. Some even threaten to physically attack the child and the parents if the child spills the beans.

Teach you children that the threats of these sadistic predators are empty and they should unfailingly and without fear report if any abuse happens.

6) TEACH THEM WHERE THEY SHOULDN'T BE GOING OR DOING : create a policy in your household that when you are away, none of your kids should open the door for anyone even if they say that you sent them. Teach them that they should not go to anyone's house without your knowledge neither are they to walk in any secluded area. Teach your little kids not to accept drinks or food from neighbours, teachers, pastors etc. Lastly, tell them not to accept a ride from anyone, answer strangers or going with strangers to unknown destinations.

7) add yours.

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Re: Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by olureignforever: 4:10pm On Feb 14
Sex education is really important nowadays because of high rate of sexual abuse.

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Re: Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by coolestofall(m): 4:22pm On Feb 14
Nice one Op. Pls parents and guardians take note. Too many sex crazed perverts out there.

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Re: Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by IAmSabrina(f): 4:37pm On Feb 14
Martinez39:
Whether you like it or not, there are all kinds of sexual predators in this world. Most despicable are the ones that prey on minors. These paedophilic devils should be the concern of every parents because they are everywhere and they come in all forms. They could be anybody even your brother or sister. Here are tips and signs that are going to be effective in protecting your home from paedophilic predators.

1) KID'S DISCOMFORT : If your child is not happy and comfortable when you are taking him/her to visit Mr. Bolaji or if Mr. Bolaji is coming for a visit, then you should start asking the appropriate questions and investigating. If your child's countenance changes for the worse when you mention the name of Mr. Bolaji, start asking the appropriate questions. Don’t take chances. If you notice that you child is trying to avoid someone for no reason apparent to you, start asking the appropriate questions.

2) LISTEN TO YOUR CHILDREN : do you know that some people's brain are so bounded to the altar of their pastors and daddy GOs that if their children tell them "pastor Emma raped me," they would respond with "keep quiet, don't say such bad thing against the holy man" ? angry Some would even punish their children. As a result of this nonsense, many children suffer silently because their parents are brain dead to their pastors and bishops. If your little child tells you that someone raped him/her, believe them even if there is no evidence and the person is a close family friend, pastor or relative. It's better not to take chances with your children. It's better your kid be shown to be lying than for you to ignore your kid and let the abuse continue.

3) MIND WHO YOU LEAVE YOUR CHILD WITH : mind who you leave your kids with. Personally, anyone can be an abuser but be careful when it comes to holy men eg. pastors, reverend fathers and sisters, bishops etc. It's not just the catholic clergies that rape minors, many clergies in other denominations are guilty as well. Why be more concerned about clergies? They have more freedom to do these things and can cover up with ease. Top clergies have followers that will blindly defend them by all means and they have the money to avoid justice. So they are under no pressure to change their ways and can be reckless in their paedophilic habits if they want. If you think clergies don't abuse kids, you are own your own. The catholic church even purposely cover up the mass sexual abuses of minors.

Not just clergies, it could be neighbours, their teachers, your relatives, their step parent etc. be watchful!

4) EDUCATE YOUR KIDS : sexual education is not a taboo. Teach them that people are not supposed to touch and play with certain parts of their body. Tell them that it is wrong and they should unfailingly report those who do such. If you don't educate your child on this issue, the world may teach them the harsh way.

5) PROPERLY ORIENTATE THEM ON REALITY AND THE INTIMIDATION OF SEXUAL ABUSERS : if you keep telling your child that juju and curses are real and effective and uncle Charles rapes your child and tells her "if you tell your parents, this juju will make you run mad and kill your parents," you are on your own. Many child molesters have used this and other similar tactics to keep children from reporting to their parents/guardians and they also use this means to continue the abuse without risking getting reported by the victims. This is sad but true. Some even threaten to physically attack the child and the parents if the child spills the beans.

Teach you children that the threats of these sadistic predators are empty and they should unfailingly and without fear report if any abuse happens.

6) TEACH THEM WHERE THEY SHOULDN'T BE GOING OR DOING : create a policy in your household that when you are away, none of your kids should open the door for anyone even if they say that you sent them. Teach them that they should not go to anyone's house without your knowledge neither are they to walk in any secluded area. Teach your little kids not to accept drinks or food from neighbours, teachers, pastors etc. Lastly, tell them not to accept a ride from anyone, answer strangers or going with strangers to unknown destinations.

7) add yours.

Seun, Ishilove, lalasticlala, mynd44 etc. Abeg carry this thing go front page. grin



Martinez & his FP petitions again grin grin grin

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Re: Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by ceeroh(m): 4:38pm On Feb 14
African mentality is totally fuvked up! Most times we usually relate sexual abuse to the girl child alone. Most young boys are exposed to sexual abuse but you hardly hear of it. An incident happened roughly 2 decades ago, a young boy was being molested regularly by an aunt. In the long run, the aunt's mom caught them in the act. Could you believe she never said anything about it till this day... Now imagine if it was an uncle that was molesting her daughter, I'm sure the guy would probably be behind bars till now or had his reputation damaged forever. Fuvked society!! BTW don't ask me who the young boy was grin

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Re: Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by SlimHan(f): 5:44pm On Feb 14
Valid points.
Thanks for sharing
Re: Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by datola: 5:44pm On Feb 14
Good information
Re: Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by JayIlych(m): 5:44pm On Feb 14
7. Never be too busy to spend QUALITY time with your kids.

Note, not QUANTITY time, but QUALITY.

You could spend 4 hours a day with your child and still be strangers (this tends to happen if you've previously not been involved with your child) but 30 minutes of open discussion with your child about anything and everything fosters bond.

Don't be ashamed to discuss anything and everything with your child (this is age specific tho).

Be your child's best friend before you're their parents because, believe me, most parents are just seen as disciplinary figures and not someone to confide in. Most are even scared of their parents.

Just be a friend with your child and spend quality time.

Selah. ✌️

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Re: Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by lanibi(f): 5:45pm On Feb 14
Hmm
Re: Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by XaintJoel20: 5:45pm On Feb 14
This a time piece of information that parents and guardians should follow step by step.

On a second thought, Ithink parents should stop "sexualizing" their little girls and exposing their pubic areas. You may not see anything wrong with it, but always have it mind that there are men who are very weak and feeble when it comes to having self control...

Prevention is better than cure...

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Re: Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by madridguy(m): 5:45pm On Feb 14
Jazak Allah for sharing.

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Re: Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by Joveg244: 5:48pm On Feb 14
That's true
Re: Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by calddon(m): 5:48pm On Feb 14
Child Sexual abuse is evil and responsible for most emotionally broken adults

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Re: Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by Dandsome: 5:49pm On Feb 14
Nice. But I get one important question OP.

Why are you so particular with the name Mr Bolaji?

Did he molest anyone close to you?

Just asking for a friend tongue

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Re: Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by UrVillagePpl: 5:50pm On Feb 14
perver is evrwhere oo,,, parent b careful, pay attention to ur parent

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Re: Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by UrVillagePpl: 5:50pm On Feb 14
perver is evrwhere oo,,, parent b careful, pay attention to ur kids

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Re: Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by JayIlych(m): 5:50pm On Feb 14
Gh


Young man, find work to do instead of editing images and scamming greedy people of their hard earned cash.

Normally, I'd mind my business, but this method of scamming dey vex me.


Get a life!!!!!!!!!!

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Re: Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by Martinez39: 5:52pm On Feb 14
calddon:
Sexual abuse breaks a human
I gree. Even after many years, the trauma can still be felt. Worse is when you know your abuser and he/she is walking freely on the streets like nothing happened.

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Re: Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by Martinez39: 5:53pm On Feb 14
Dandsome:
Nice. But I get one important question OP.

Why are you so particular with the name Mr Bolaji?

Did he molest anyone close to you?

Just asking for a friend tongue
It's just an example. grin
Re: Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by lonelydora: 5:53pm On Feb 14
One crime i will never forgive is going near my beautiful daughter in the name of sexual abuse.

I swear i will cut the man's dick and hand, then go to jail

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Re: Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by bhella10: 5:54pm On Feb 14
Dandsome:
Nice. But I get one important question OP.

Why are you so particular with the name Mr Bolaji?

Did he molest anyone close to you?

Just asking for a friend tongue
Mr. Bolaji is that you? Lol! Noticed how he hammered on MOG's too?
Re: Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by Brightstar10: 5:55pm On Feb 14
Nice and educative
Re: Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by Martinez39: 5:56pm On Feb 14
Seun, lalasticlala, mynd44 and Ishilove. Carry this thing go front page. If anyone's kid gets molested as a result of their parents not reading this, it's on your people's head. Now, carry this go front page.

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Re: Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by Chykes4micheal: 5:56pm On Feb 14
But seriously, whether you give your children sex education or not, the child that chooses to spoil will spoil. Some daughters will even go as far as doing oral after all the sex education... Lolz

And some sons like me go dey find where i do experience sex with two girls grin
Re: Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by Martinez39: 5:58pm On Feb 14
Chykes4micheal:
But seriously, whether you give your children sex education or not, the child that chooses to spoil will spoil. Some daughters will even go as far as doing oral after all the sex education... Lolz

And some sons like me go dey find where i do experience party grin
Those that want to spoil will spoil but at least let's protect them from paedophilic predators.

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Re: Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by babyfaceafrica: 6:00pm On Feb 14
Martinez39:
It's just an example. grin
and you can't find another name
Re: Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by Martinez39: 6:02pm On Feb 14
babyfaceafrica:
and you can't find another name
You want me to use Mr. Bankole or uncle Thomson? grin
Re: Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by babyfaceafrica: 6:04pm On Feb 14
Martinez39:
You want me to use Mr. Bankole or uncle Thomson? grin
yes
Re: Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by Martinez39: 6:08pm On Feb 14
babyfaceafrica:
yes
Okay.
Re: Sexual Abuse And Our Children. Signs To Watch Out For. by Carrywent: 6:09pm On Feb 14
Please read this and be safe

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