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Re: My Step Mum (note: long ass post, please read) by ferrariLaferrari: 10:31am On Mar 09, 2019
jackyraw09:
Update!!

The woman left yesterday, with her sister and daughter. I think my mission is completed. Only focus now is on getting old man much needed rest and food as well as exercise for 2-3months before he sets out on vacation.

Thanks ya’all for the replies and all that. I sincerely appreciate everything.
Op you chased her? Full gist biko
Re: My Step Mum (note: long ass post, please read) by jackyraw09: 10:42am On Mar 09, 2019
ferrariLaferrari:

Op you chased her? Full gist biko

I don’t think a “gist” is necessary. Thank you

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Re: My Step Mum (note: long ass post, please read) by Ishilove: 11:34am On Mar 09, 2019
jackyraw09:
Update!!

The woman left yesterday, with her sister and daughter. I think my mission is completed. Only focus now is on getting old man much needed rest and food as well as exercise for 2-3months before he sets out on vacation.

Thanks ya’all for the replies and all that. I sincerely appreciate everything.
How did it happen? Did you drive her or it was pops? What's the gurantee she won't come back?
Re: My Step Mum (note: long ass post, please read) by Creamcustard: 11:46am On Mar 09, 2019
kelechiodo:



Hmm. I really wish you have a better news. All the necessary test was done, it was actually the brain scan that stated something like “ Atrophy, .....Alzheimer suspected”. Unfortunately it seems that where their expertise ended. The first doctor that handled her just wanted to send her to early grave. Was busy shouting “no solution, no solution”, and always prescribe only ” hardol” for her that nearly turned her into zombie. Infact without mincing word, the medicines offered here seem to accelerate the entire thing and just like you stated, she cannot do anything by herself again outside eating.
What surprises me is that she was never agitated but only confused till it degenerate to this present stage when she eventually retired from her teaching job. Though we already stopped her from going to office a year prior to the retirement day. Well, like Christians, we can only hope that somehow, miracle will happen either in form of divine healing or vaccine discovered before it becomes late.

We have traced the family history to fourth generation, nothing like that was seen.

Thanks very much for your prompt reply.

Hello,
It must be very shocking for your family to see that sort rapid decline.
The problem with dementia especially in a younger person is that at first people will think it's normal forgetfulness,normal confusion ,clumsiness, depression,anxiety,thinking too much etc till the person deteriorates and by then even the meds I mentioned may now not be useful.

Once early diagnosis and treatment is missed, prognosis is poorer.

I'm surprised you mentioned there's no history of dementia in your family,early onset dementia is uncommon..there is usually someone in the past who had memory problems or who suddenly changed behaviour,became aggressive,someone who was known to hold conversations with himself,or see things that others couldn't see etc.

Unfortunately,they may have thought the person needed deliverance instead of medical care.

Haldol is an anti psychotic and it is usually to sedate the person and reduce agitation/aggression.It cannot be given in all dementias at all.

You said medications accelerated the whole thing,it shouldn't. Most likely whatever she received made her symptoms worse that is why It is essential that the type of dementia is known for sure. eg If she started off with fluctuation in memory,maybe seeing things others cannot see,feeling there's someone else in the house when there's none,very restless , movement problems resembling parkinsons ,falls, difficulty with speech then another form of dementia is considered.

It's important you also educate yourself on the different dementias and see which one best describes your mum,that combined with the CT result could give you peace of mind that she's at least recieving the best possible care.

Speak to her doctor,arm yourself with knowledge,then you all will sit down and fashion out a management plan to make her life easier.

I am really sorry for the suffering you all are going through especially your mother.

It is a very difficult situation.

PS: Read up Alzheimer's , Lewy body dementia, Fronto temporal dementia ,Vascular dementia

I am hoping along with millions of others that there's a breakthrough in research for this horrible illness.

My warmest regards to your mother.

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Re: My Step Mum (note: long ass post, please read) by Creamcustard: 11:51am On Mar 09, 2019
jackyraw09:
Update!!

The woman left yesterday, with her sister and daughter. I think my mission is completed. Only focus now is on getting old man much needed rest and food as well as exercise for 2-3months before he sets out on vacation.

Thanks ya’all for the replies and all that. I sincerely appreciate everything.

I wish you all the best going forward!!
Re: My Step Mum (note: long ass post, please read) by jackyraw09: 3:57pm On Mar 09, 2019
Ishilove:

How did it happen? Did you drive her or it was pops? What's the gurantee she won't come back?

When she returned. She was being hostile towards everyone including pops, no greetings et all. I suggested to pops to just ignore her and let her stay but all provisions in the kitchen, money he provides etc. should STOP until she apologizes for packing out for no reason. This went on for two days and I guess she got tired cuz she packed out on her own.

Nah she ain’t coming back in here. 100%
Re: My Step Mum (note: long ass post, please read) by jackyraw09: 3:58pm On Mar 09, 2019
Creamcustard:


I wish you all the best going forward!!

Special thanks to you madam(sir?). I sincerely appreciate your contributions
Re: My Step Mum (note: long ass post, please read) by Ishilove: 4:03pm On Mar 09, 2019
jackyraw09:


When she returned. She was being hostile towards everyone including pops, no greetings et all. I suggested to pops to just ignore her and let her stay but all provisions in the kitchen, money he provides etc. should STOP until she apologizes for packing out for no reason. This went on for two days and I guess she got tired cuz she packed out on her own.

Nah she ain’t coming back in here. 100%
That's great news. Now the ball is in your court.
Re: My Step Mum (note: long ass post, please read) by kelechiodo(m): 5:21pm On Mar 09, 2019
Creamcustard:


Hello,
It must be very shocking for your family to see that sort rapid decline.
The problem with dementia especially in a younger person is that at first people will think it's normal forgetfulness,normal confusion ,clumsiness, depression,anxiety,thinking too much etc till the person deteriorates and by then even the meds I mentioned may now not be useful.

Once early diagnosis and treatment is missed, prognosis is poorer.

I'm surprised you mentioned there's no history of dementia in your family,early onset dementia is uncommon..there is usually someone in the past who had memory problems or who suddenly changed behaviour,became aggressive,someone who was known to hold conversations with himself,or see things that others couldn't see etc.

Unfortunately,they may have thought the person needed deliverance instead of medical care.

Haldol is an anti psychotic and it is usually to sedate the person and reduce agitation/aggression.It cannot be given in all dementias at all.

You said medications accelerated the whole thing,it shouldn't. Most likely whatever she received made her symptoms worse that is why It is essential that the type of dementia is known for sure. eg If she started off with fluctuation in memory,maybe seeing things others cannot see,feeling there's someone else in the house when there's none,very restless , movement problems resembling parkinsons ,falls, difficulty with speech then another form of dementia is considered.

It's important you also educate yourself on the different dementias and see which one best describes your mum,that combined with the CT result could give you peace of mind that she's at least recieving the best possible care.

Speak to her doctor,arm yourself with knowledge,then you all will sit down and fashion out a management plan to make her life easier.

I am really sorry for the suffering you all are going through especially your mother.

It is a very difficult situation.

PS: Read up Alzheimer's , Lewy body dementia, Fronto temporal dementia ,Vascular dementia

I am hoping along with millions of others that there's a breakthrough in research for this horrible illness.

My warmest regards to your mother.





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Thanks so much for your reply. But sincerely do you think that any medication at this stage will help her in any way. Maybe just enough to remember any of her kids
Re: My Step Mum (note: long ass post, please read) by jackyraw09: 7:02pm On Mar 09, 2019
Ishilove:

That's great news. Now the ball is in your court.

Yes dear. With Gods guidance and divine intelligence, My family will get the best out of life.
Re: My Step Mum (note: long ass post, please read) by Ishilove: 7:25pm On Mar 09, 2019
jackyraw09:


Yes dear. With Gods guidance and divine intelligence, My family will get the best out of life.
'Family first' is my motto. Despite their faults, our parents remain our parents.

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Re: My Step Mum (note: long ass post, please read) by Chommieblaq(f): 7:43pm On Mar 09, 2019
Good to hear that, get your dad a care giver or relative to cater for his wellbeing pending when he goes on vacation

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Re: My Step Mum (note: long ass post, please read) by Creamcustard: 6:50pm On Apr 10, 2019
kelechiodo:





Thanks so much for your reply. But sincerely do you think that any medication at this stage will help her in any way. Maybe just enough to remember any of her kids
Hello,I'm so so sorry that I forgot to check in.
Unfortunately medication for this illness won't necessarily mean a return to old self and remembering things,it MAY just reduce progression of illness.
Some benefit,others don't .It is person dependent.

I wish you and your family all the best.
Re: My Step Mum (note: long ass post, please read) by Creamcustard: 6:50pm On Apr 10, 2019
jackyraw09:


Special thanks to you madam(sir?). I sincerely appreciate your contributions

Cheers,I hope things improve

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