A friend asked for my advice and I will like to get advise from married couples who must have passed through same circumstances.
My friend has been out of job for some time now, shortly after getting married and he has been doing his best to keep the house running, the wife has refused to take up little jobs coming her way and also not serious about learning from numerous handiworks that exists nowaday despite several pleas.
Problem now is that my friend just received a grant from his family to start up a biz and the amount given was exatly the amount needed to kickstart the business, while he was busy setting up the business, the wife was busy requesting for money to finance irrelevant materials which is kinda aggravating other issues.
At the moment, the marriage has not produced any children after three years of marriage

How do you deal with such a woman?

he married a slay queen

Hmmmm. That's a kind of woman who will hinder the progress of that guy. If the guy is keen on working on the progress of his life. He should move out of the house for now. Just send upkeep funds to her monthly and work on betterment of his life. After about 6 or 7 months. He must have moved the business to atleast a reasonable stage. Let him go back home. Talk to the woman, if after sometime she is still like that, let him just divorce her and move on with his life. For now, no need talking to her to change or exercise patience. He needs to take a drastic step and the drastic step is moving out. The simple truth is that, that lady will never change, she is never going to work.

He should carry his cross alone.
If we say divorce her Or leave home,are we going to live with her?
Is it not this same Nl that a guy said he isnt Feeling emotionally attached to a hustling fiancee?

He should keep marrying her biko and manage her too because If You force her to do biz,She can sell Everything and lock the shop for You lyk one of My bro's wife did.[center][/center]

jayyem:
A friend asked for my advice and I will like to get advise from married couples who must have passed through same circumstances.
My friend has been out of job for some time now, shortly after getting married and he has been doing his best to keep the house running, the wife has refused to take up little jobs coming her way and also not serious about learning from numerous handiworks that exists nowaday despite several pleas.
Problem now is that my friend just received a grant from his family to start up a biz and the amount given was exatly the amount needed to kickstart the business, while he was busy setting up the business, the wife was busy requesting for money to finance irrelevant materials which is kinda aggravating other issues.
At the moment, the marriage has not produced any children after three years of marriage

How do you deal with such a woman?

Tell him to go ahead and start his business plan and let's see if he can find his bearing

As for the wife leave her to continue constituting nuisance in a bad situation

If she is satisfied with her idleness and folding hands to watch the husband, he should return her to her parents if he can't stand it

Children comes from God but i don't know how they will be able to care for a child

patience is what we use to be a husband.
so also is tolerance.

he cannot say he didn't see the signs before marriage, maybe he chose to ignore them. now that he is there he just has to double his hustle, and when the kids come maybe triple it. he should look for low stress initiatives for her to do to keep her busy and make small change.
and as for the capital for his business, a plain No will do. if she likes make she cry from now till 2023. it's their future he is fighting for.

Kendumazy:
Hmmmm. That's a kind of woman who will hinder the progress of that guy. If the guy is keen on working on the progress of his life. He should move out of the house for now. Just send upkeep funds to her monthly and work on betterment of his life. After about 6 or 7 months. He must have moved the business to atleast a reasonable stage. Let him go back home. Talk to the woman, if after sometime she is still like that, let him just divorce her and move on with his life. For now, no need talking to her to change or exercise patience. He needs to take a drastic step and the drastic step is moving out. The simple truth is that, that lady will never change, she is never going to work.

thanks

jayyem:
A friend asked for my advice and I will like to get advise from married couples who must have passed through same circumstances.
My friend has been out of job for some time now, shortly after getting married and he has been doing his best to keep the house running, the wife has refused to take up little jobs coming her way and also not serious about learning from numerous handiworks that exists nowaday despite several pleas.
Problem now is that my friend just received a grant from his family to start up a biz and the amount given was exatly the amount needed to kickstart the business, while he was busy setting up the business, the wife was busy requesting for money to finance irrelevant materials which is kinda aggravating other issues.
At the moment, the marriage has not produced any children after three years of marriage

How do you deal with such a woman?

This is even the best time to whatever work she wants to do or learn different skills. By the time she starts having kids, she will hardly have time for herself.

But as it is now, it seems she is the lazy type.

Sise Koro ,jije lofe.

LadySarah:
He should carry his cross alone.
If we say divorce her Or leave home,are we going to live with her?
Is it not this same Nl that a guy said he isnt Feeling emotionally attached to a hustling fiancee?

He should keep marrying her biko and manage her too because If You force her to do biz,She can sell Everything and lock the shop for You lyk one of My bro's wife did.[center][/center]

my friend is actually tending towards depression has he is getting a little bit withdrawn, he actually told her from the onset that he will support her in whatever she chooses to do in life, that he is not the type that subscribe to placing limit on a woman's success, most especially, he is not a fan of house wife thingy, but the opposite is kinda happening.

comtem2011:
This is even the best time to whatever work she wants to do or learn different skills. By the time she starts having kids, she will hardly have time for herself.

But as it is now, it seems she is the lazy type.

Sise Koro ,jije lofe.

you just highlighted my friends fears, once they start having children, the excuses will increase

mankettle:
patience is what we use to be a husband.
so also is tolerance.

he cannot say he didn't see the signs before marriage, maybe he chose to ignore them. now that he is there he just has to double his hustle, and when the kids come maybe triple it. he should look for low stress initiatives for her to do to keep her busy and make small change.
and as for the capital for his business, a plain No will do. if she likes make she cry from now till 2023. it's their future he is fighting for.

it's not as if they didn't agree on some of this things before marriage, but you know what some ladies can do before you deal the deal, he asked her time without numbers what she feels she can easily do just to while away time while still job hunting, she will mention one and resources will be gathered for her to learn but amidst learning, excuses will arise till she decide not to go anymore.

jayyem:
it's not as if they didn't agree on some of this things before marriage, but you know what some ladies can do before you deal the deal, he asked her time without numbers what she feels she can easily do just to while away time while still job hunting, she will mention one and resources will be gathered for her to learn but amidst learning, excuses will arise till she decide not to go anymore.

then your friend has to hustle more and set up a low stress business for her like a provision store or something.

I think I'll go with the first poster might not be easy tho

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jayyem:
A friend asked for my advice and I will like to get advise from married couples who must have passed through same circumstances.
My friend has been out of job for some time now, shortly after getting married and he has been doing his best to keep the house running, the wife has refused to take up little jobs coming her way and also not serious about learning from numerous handiworks that exists nowaday despite several pleas.
Problem now is that my friend just received a grant from his family to start up a biz and the amount given was exatly the amount needed to kickstart the business, while he was busy setting up the business, the wife was busy requesting for money to finance irrelevant materials which is kinda aggravating other issues.
At the moment, the marriage has not produced any children after three years of marriage

How do you deal with such a woman?

Your friend should man up o.
If she rejects small jobs coming her way n won't learn work either. Then withhold money from her. She will be forced to get something doing.

About asking for money from the grant meant for business, that is not an issue. Let her keep asking. It is d husband who will decide either to use the money as its meant for or give her.

For me, even when the business starts, she should not near it.

Every man would have to teach his wife what she needs to know. When your friend sits up, the wife will behave

mankettle:

then your friend has to hustle more and set up a low stress business for her like a provision store or something.

If u set up a business for a wife without financial discipline, she will eat it up.

That woman needs to work n earn money, that is when she will understand the value of money

danny34:



If u set up a business for a wife without financial discipline, she will eat it up.

That woman needs to work n earn money, that is when she will understand the value of money

the wife is just been lazy, nothing else.

jayyem:
you just highlighted my friends fears, once they start having children, the excuses will increase

I pray God open her eyes. She needs to pray against the spirit of laziness.

She doesn't want to work but want to have d best. Should I even call her ingrate Because some will women want the support of their husband in their various career but they are not getting it. And here she is misusing the opportunity given to her on a platter of gold.

The husband should keep encouraging her.