nwanneniiii:
Lol.see her broke face
If you dey this young and you dey show poor like this,I wonder what your mum will look like
I wonder why a man Will hustle and come back only to come and marry a poor person.
Gold digging dirty thing!

Gloriagee:
Cyber bullying. You are soooo mean. She doesn't look poor and even if she does, it's not a crime to be poor but its def a crime to be a thief.

victorian:








OK let's remove eye from mansion or houses

Help me ask her ,which of these men can she say , she truly loves? As they all claim to love her .

Which of these men can she stand by thru thick and thin?

Which of these men can she be loyal to, in any circumstances?

Or is she immuned from loving and supporting a man who wants to marry her?


She has not even choose any one and say mummy I love this man ! And my dad supports him too . so don't worry house or mansion will come later , as long as he has a thriving business or a good job.

All she's concerned is her mum's thought pattern.. And she has allowed three suitors to go like that? Because her mum wants a house for her .


Sighs young ladies of these days , I pity for una
No thought about love or loyalty .. Nothing !

Shes more concerned about her mum!


Anyways na una sabi! Have said my own.
No wonder divorce cases full everywhere . Selfishness abounds in the highest order , what will i get out of this marriage , naim dey people mind and it applies on both male and female . what a pity

What a great pity .

Pinkie2018:
I have tried to talk to my mother but she is having non of it. She is insisting he must have a house. But the first one had a house and she still refused which makes me wonder if she wants me to get married atall. This is Nigeria where both parents consent is needed before marriage and my mom is not making it easy for me. I understand her fears but it's not what I want for myself. This current one doesn't own a house and I love him so much that I don't want to let go but my mom have refused vehemently. I don't know what else to do

victorian:








Pardon me but What's your age?

Officialgarri:
Your mum is a gold digger and I see the trait in you too

Pinkie2018:
[s] m a 24 year old lady and currently in my finals in a higher institution. My parent are separated since my early childhood. My dad remarried but my mum refused to remarry. Back in 2017, a guy came for my hand in marriage, my father was supportive but my mother refused outrightly even without meeting the guy claiming he's from Owerri, his house is a stone throw to us and saying he hasn't completed his house(Under construction then, 4 bedroom flat) and his job wasn't lucrative enough.
Last year another one that came back from USA came back to marry me, she refused too without meeting him claiming he isn't a graduate and hasn't built a house. That same year I showed her pics of the one in Malaysia, immediately she said she doesnt like him.This year again another one came, he is a business man living in lagos ,he spoke with my father and he likes him but immediately I called my mother the first question she asked me was "Has he built, if he hasnt tell him to go? ". I'm confused, should I let him go or go ahead with only my father's approval because I love this guy and he is taking care of me. His whole family like me, my sister, father, step-mom and other relatives are supportive but my mum is ever non bulging. I feel she doesn't want I and my sister to get married. Pls I need your sincere advice [/s]

EmptyCoconutHead:
naija girls are gold diggers.
tufiakwa

Pinkie2018:
Nigerian guys are ass and pussy lickers. it's takes a gold digger to discover one. mofo

AwkaetitiBabe:
Hope you married the guy?

Pinkie2018:
I have never being in support of her complains. This is no advice pls

Richy4:
You were looking for sincere advice. ..Are u really ready for my own version?... OK here is my input...

If you were my my younger sister, I would have demanded that you tell me as if I was a 5yr old why marriage should be a top priority now @ 24.. I guess U started shopping for husband @ the age of 22.. from US suitors to Malaysia ones when u should be looking for a way to make a good career..
My dear I just want to settle down. I will get a job and the family will just be fine. I'm not going into the union because I want him to be taking care of me financially. I'd rather marry at this age and be established in my husbsnd house than be rich and in my 30s and still single. You people will still insult that rich aunty who is unmarried. So dear understand my point.

If you get married now, what saving do u have? U just go into marriage empty handed and u expect the man to take care of u from common sanitary pad to cloth that u were wearing. Are u not indirectly handing him right over u..since u have nothing to contribute financial wise..

U are in your finals (good news) but why not wait a little and get a job or has he promised to open a lucrative business for u? If not, then I am very disappointed that u got a smart phone but u can't think smart. trying to go into a union empty handed. I was made to understand that the daughter of the land are getting smarter but U? ... And to think that adults like your father was even supporting u over this....

Look I like when people do something that makes them happy as long as it does not hurt anyone. But u are about to make a cool mistake but if u think that getting married will make u happy then go ahead...

As for thinking that Your mother does not want you to get married, that is just a stupid thing to say.. Assuming you were working and were giving her money, I would have said otherwise... But your typing was based on someone who was clouded with infatuation on the fact that the "Guy was taking care of u" and u don't want to hear voice of reason..

What a matured lady would do will be is to have a mother and daughter conversation and find out the reason why your mother was giving cold shoulders to men that got no house... She might be trying to save u from the mistake she made in the past. Find out about it and go to your Father for confirmation... then u give her the assurance that it will not be like that.. My guess was something happened to her in the past that she does not want any of u to go through...

Resurgent2016:


Your mum's criteria for eligible suitor is building a house.....

She must be Ibo....

Pinkie2018:
I have tried to talk to my mother but she is having non of it. She is insisting he must have a house. But the first one had a house and she still refused which makes me wonder if she wants me to get married atall. This is Nigeria where both parents consent is needed before marriage and my mom is not making it easy for me. I understand her fears but it's not what I want for myself. This current one doesn't own a house and I love him so much that I don't want to let go but my mom have refused vehemently. I don't know what else to do

Pinkie2018:

My mum experienced hell when they were living in my dad's family house with his sisters and mother. They are the major reason they aren't together today. I understand my mums point. But I'm tired of her making decisions for me. I don't want to marry based on material things. I just want a peaceful and loving marriage.

Resurgent2016:


Ooh, I feel sorry for her. You need to take it easy with her, she has probably kept the pain inside till became an open sore that is irritated each time the subject is broached.

Resurgent2016:


Ooh, I feel sorry for her. You need to take it easy with her, she has probably kept the pain inside till became an open sore that is irritated each time the subject is broached.

Although renting a place should also suffice, why must he build?

What if the relatives decide to move in to the husband's house and he is not inclined to ejecting them?

Building is not the solution to the mischief your mum is trying to avoid

Pinkie2018:
I'm a 24 year old lady and currently in my finals in a higher institution. My parent are separated since my early childhood. My dad remarrhim but immediately I called my mother the first quest

Pinkie2018:
yes as a matter of fact we are engaged and preparing for a wedding soon. I only wanted advice, but seems you are only interested in insults. Continue

Omoluabi16:
So within 2 years, one has come from owerri, U.S, Malaysia and Lagos to ask for your hand in marriage.. then you're pissed because your mum refused for her good/selfish reasons.
Your relationships seem quite unstable. Find someone you'll hold it out with.You're still in school, and your dad is not harsh. Stick to this Lagos guy and stand your ground with your mum. Eventually, she'll break.

Pinkie2018:
yes we are engaged now

bukatyne:


Has your mom softened?

If she hasn't, you need to keep her far away from your home.

Pinkie2018:
I'm a 24 year old lady and currently in my finals in a higher institution. My parent are separated since my early childhood. My dad remarried but my mum refused to remarry. Back in 2017, a guy came for my hand in marriage, my father was supportive but my mother refused outrightly even without meeting the guy claiming he's from Owerri, his house is a stone throw to us and saying he hasn't completed his house(Under construction then, 4 bedroom flat) and his job wasn't lucrative enough.
Last year another one that came back from USA came back to marry me, she refused too without meeting him claiming he isn't a graduate and hasn't built a house. That same year I showed her pics of the one in Malaysia, immediately she said she doesnt like him.This year again another one came, he is a business man living in lagos ,he spoke with my father and he likes him but immediately I called my mother the first question she asked me was "Has he built, if he hasnt tell him to go? ". I'm confused, should I let him go or go ahead with only my father's approval because I love this guy and he is taking care of me. His whole family like me, my sister, father, step-mom and other relatives are supportive but my mum is ever non bulging. I feel she doesn't want I and my sister to get married. Pls I need your sincere advice

ireneidiva:

You are 24 in final year? Marriage shouldn't be your priority now. If you get married when you have no job, how will you get money? From your husband? Every single thing you need he will provide? Are you sure you want to do that?