My mum is 67 and has lived in England since she was in her early 20s. The last time she went back to Nigeria in 1997 she was attacked by armed robbers. My other siblings are now devsiing a plan to send her back to Nigeria. The plan is to sell her house which will bring in around £350k and buy a property in Nigeria where she can stay with my older sister, who also has her own life in Nigeria. Bring in housegirls ect but I am worried because if ever my mum has an emergency i.e her blood sugars are too high or low then we won't have the NHS to turn too, then there is the security , as I said before, armed robbers broke into the house she was staying in and nearly beat her to death, to date no one has been prosecuted for the crime

Ada, dont mind this guy, he character and attitude
is lacking in refinement lol, and he lives in Lekki, Lagos!!!

LOL, i have just come back from Nigeria last week having been there
for a month and i can see that even the "rich-folk" and the rich area
of places like Lekki in Lagos are feeling the Pressure of the
decay,

tpiah is always fighting with people online from his
40 million naira mansion in lekki

- Now if thats Tpiah, God help
the average Nigerian in Oshodi!!!

martinosi:

Ada, dont mind this guy,  he character and attitude
is lacking in refinement lol, and he lives in Lekki, Lagos!!!

LOL, i have just come back from Nigeria last week having been there
for a month and i can see that even the "rich-folk" and the rich area
of places like Lekki in Lagos are feeling the Pressure of the
decay,

tpiah is always fighting with people online from his
40 million naira mansion in lekki

- Now if thats Tpiah, God help
the average Nigerian in Oshodi!!!

kuntama:

Mate, you are talking so much bullshit. The NHS  has one of the best emergency healthcare delivery systems in the world.
Anyway, we are comparing the NHS to NIGERIAN HOSPITALS, not other western hospitals.

What kind of S --it is that about?: when an "AFRICAN" gets to her age! ALL human beings deserve the care and attention of loved ones.

Where on earth do you get your facts from? Hospitals brimming with dead bodies? Have you been to the so-called morgues of Naija hospitals lately?
And Yes, now I'm really going to insult you as the illiterate crap that you are spewing is getting to me. If you really want this woman to get the best for her mother, she needs to make an informed decision, not based on  the boastful, 419 lies that nigerians seem so keen on spewing. You, my dear are the kind of person that prevents any kind of visionary, logical and coherent planning that nigerians need for their country. JUST GO AND DO SOMETHING USEFUL- SHUT UP AND LET THE LIGHT SHINE ON THAT CESSPIT THEY CALL NIGERIA SO WE CAN ACTUALLY CLEAN IT.

Orilee9ice:

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OMG!!, @ all "Justice's of the peace " (including Vanitty, and others like your honorable self, NO PUN INTENDED!) i think it is time i broke this down to ya level as i don discover now see "ori yato s'ori, please read the highlights
MY OTHER SIBLINGS,  (not the poster oh!)
DEVISING A PLAN,  (for project managers like me, project plan (b4.project initiation document), doesnt mean project has been executed oh!, )
THE PLAN IS[i], (not the plan has already been concluded oh!)[/i]
STAY WITH OLDER SISTER, HAS OWN LIFE IN 9JA TOO, (The Posters older sister is IN 9JA ALREADY!)
MY OTHER SIBLINGS, BUT I AM WORRIED, (This shows the Poster is not part of the plan to send her to 9ja, its her siblings and naturally the poster is worried which is why she is on here to ask your advice, )
Advice only oh!!!!!, Pleeeezzzzzzeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee! a haaa ABEGI!!!

mrgbite:

li


.Unlike you(obviously holed up in one lonely corner of the world) some of us have experienced far better than what you considered a paradise in England and as i also admitted, Naija`s medicare needs some improvements but it is certainly not as absolutely hopeless as some of you make it out to be .
You strike me as one of those raised in one of the various ghettoes in Lagos and having managed to escape the extreme poverty of your upbringing and seeing the decent things of life for the first time you go overboard in your comments concerning your former abode. its a psychological tendency that are a lot of your type are afflicted with and you deserve nothing but pity and a visit to your nearest shrink

kuntama:

Mate, you are talking so much bullshit. The NHS  has one of the best emergency healthcare delivery systems in the world.
Anyway, we are comparing the NHS to NIGERIAN HOSPITALS, not other western hospitals.

mrgbite:

li

ha, ha, ki la gbe , ki lo ju? Where the heck does this crep.tin climb out from? my thread was directed at the OP and you have the effontery to start throwing very silly jibes.?Your ill breeding certainly have no bounds.For starters, i`m certainly not your mate(not with your extreme chidish tendencies and hysterics) and your unneccesary rantings are imbecillic to say the least,

My simple advise was for the OP to take care of his/her mother like a true African, a view that has been supported by other several reasonable posters but you chose to ramble on and on just because i mentioned that the NHS itself is not perfect. Unlike the hopeless economic refugee that you are, I schooled in England long before it bacame the abode of v.ermins like you and i KNOW how the NHS operates. Now m.oron, use your own hands to google NHS BLUNDERS and see how PERFECT the NHS is.Unlike you(obviously holed up in one lonely corner of the world) some of us have experienced far better than what you considered a paradise in England and as i also admitted, Naija`s medicare needs some improvements but it is certainly not as absolutely hopeless as some of you make it out to be .
[size=14pts]You strike me as one of those raised in one of the various ghettoes in Lagos and having managed to escape the extreme poverty of your upbringing and seeing the decent things of life for the first time you go overboard in your comments concerning your former abode. its a psychological tendency that are a lot of your type are afflicted with and you deserve nothing but pity and a visit to your nearest shrink[/size]

Gemma11:

I have a question, mother is currently on a lot of medication for various ailments including diabetes,high blood pressure ect. She doesn't seem to understand her illness and often indulges in her favourite foods, eba, yam rice with loads of meat and she has large portions. She will eat that and then lie down without any exertion all day. We advise her and she never listens.

I have suggested a carer come in and take care of her but she is a stubborn woman and doesn't like the idea of a stranger being in her house. We, her children all work full time and have our own lives and so it is impossible to for us to stay home and do these things for her. We live in Britain and as anyone knows here we have to work in order to maintain our lives. Staying at home 24 hours with my mother is just not on.

My mum is 67 and has lived in England since she was in her early 20s. The last time she went back to Nigeria in 1997 she was attacked by armed robbers. My other siblings are now devsiing a plan to send her back to Nigeria. The plan is to sell her house which will bring in around £350k and buy a property in Nigeria where she can stay with my older sister, who also has her own life in Nigeria. Bring in housegirls ect but I am worried because if ever my mum has an emergency i.e her blood sugars are too high or low then we won't have the NHS to turn too, then there is the security , as I said before, armed robbers broke into the house she was staying in and nearly beat her to death, to date no one has been prosecuted for the crime.

Then there is the finances after paying for a house, getting the best Doctors in Nigeria to be on call which won't be cheap, then house help and the general costs of running the house, how much will £350k actually last?

ceasyc:

as a diabetic patient, she is already digging her early grave by eating all those kind of food u stated she kips eating regularly. about her not wanting a carer - dat wud have been d best tin - 4 her to stay in her hse n have a carer come in once or 2x a day or as often as needed = a live in carer wud b too expensive n she's not worse or bad enuf to get 1 imo. unfortunately (sumtimes) in d uk u cant force sum1 against their will unless they r bcuming a nuisance (something offensive or annoying to individuals or to the community, esp. in violation of their legal rights). £350k is a lot of moni when converted to naira n wud last a very longgggggg time in 9ja 4 sum1 who is 67 yrs old but

dont send her to 9ja ohhh = like sum ppl have stated Nigeria lacks a lot of tins compared to uk e.g.

mrgbite:

li

ha, ha, ki la gbe , ki lo ju? Where the heck does this crep.tin climb out from? my thread was directed at the OP and you have the effontery to start throwing very silly jibes.?Your ill breeding certainly have no bounds.For starters, i`m certainly not your mate(not with your extreme chidish tendencies and hysterics) and your unneccesary rantings are imbecillic to say the least,

My simple advise was for the OP to take care of his/her mother like a true African, a view that has been supported by other several reasonable posters but you chose to ramble on and on just because i mentioned that the NHS itself is not perfect. Unlike the hopeless economic refugee that you are, I schooled in England long before it bacame the abode of v.ermins like you and i KNOW how the NHS operates. Now m.oron, use your own hands to google NHS BLUNDERS and see how PERFECT the NHS is.Unlike you(obviously holed up in one lonely corner of the world) some of us have experienced far better than what you considered a paradise in England and as i also admitted, Naija`s medicare needs some improvements but it is certainly not as absolutely hopeless as some of you make it out to be .
[size=14pts]You strike me as one of those raised in one of the various ghettoes in Lagos and having managed to escape the extreme poverty of your upbringing and seeing the decent things of life for the first time you go overboard in your comments concerning your former abode. its a psychological tendency that are a lot of your type are afflicted with and you deserve nothing but pity and a visit to your nearest shrink[/size]

Gaggi:

Ignorant people. So every diabetic and hypertensive in Nigeria has died abi? Colonial reasoning.
My friend let your mother remain in England strictly because that is the country she knows not because bringing her to Nigeria will kill her.
I know most of u black monkeys (as the white's call u) now say Naija is a death zone even though your folks still live in mud houses here.

If u guys are not crooks u will not be thinking of disposing of your mothers house without her consent. Out of the over 80million naira proceeds, i'm sure u'll give your mum only 8mil and pocket the rest. U shld be charged for robbery.

PS
Naija health care is far below the standard of that of developed countries but get real people, as at last count we still had a population of about 140million people, at least disease neva reduce am to only 2 million as some ignorant minimum wage earners want us to believe.

Dolt
If she wasn't devising with them or even thinking about it, she won't be asking how much £350K will last  or must people use all their mouth to talk before you understand . Mr project manager. Let just hope your job requires little or no common sense at all

tensor777:

And why is it unfortunate that an adult person can do as she wishes insofar as she is not constituting herself into a public nuisance

This is not about whether Nigeria has amenities or not but that it is wrong in principle to sell her house without her consent and force her out of England. This would apply even if she were to leave for the USA.

However a lot of people do plan to spend their retirement in the peace and quiet of their villages and that is entirely their prerogative

kuntama:

I've just logged back on and simply have to respond.
Just a few things:
How on earth can anyone say the healthcare system in Nigeria is acceptable
How on earth can anyone say that to cast aspertions on the Nigerian healthcare system is being an "economic migrant/selling out/having psychological issues?
AGAIN, noone says the NHS is perfect. Noone is saying the NHS has achieved what it has without billions of tax payers money being poured into it.
The aim of the discussion is not to blind ourselves with misplaced nationalism, but to ACCEPT the truth in order to make relevant changes.

tensor777:

Nobody is insulting anyone here. It has to be said though, that mere whining and moaning about Nigeria's health care system would just get on people's nerves especially as this thread is not about that.