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Is Correcting Or Punishment Of Children By Flogging Still Effective? by Nobody: 7:39pm On Apr 22, 2019
During our childhood, we were raised with iron fist, especially my mother. We were punished for most offences we committed by flogging with cane or koboko (horse whip)or brain resetting slaps.embarassed At a time, I wondered if she is my biological mother.

Even with all that, some of my siblings are hardened 'spoilt' kids.

I know many disciplinarian parents who ended up raising bad children, a direct opposite of what they wanted.

I don't flog my children but punish them via other means, after which I talk with them about why they were punished. I want them to be my "friends' rather than fear me.

I know some children of military personnel, who are highly disciplined by their parents, end up behaving badly.

Is flogging (corporal punishment) as a way of child correction or punishment still effective

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Re: Is Correcting Or Punishment Of Children By Flogging Still Effective? by Ishilove: 7:49pm On Apr 22, 2019
I'm an advocate to factory resetting flogging, but the flogging should go hand in hand with counseling. You flog in part, counsel in part. You should also know where to draw the line when using the cane. So many of us were abused as kids so we see excessive flogging as discipline.

There's a difference between disciplinary flogging and downright abuse. Finding the thin line is where it becomes dicey.

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Re: Is Correcting Or Punishment Of Children By Flogging Still Effective? by opparadise: 7:54pm On Apr 22, 2019
There are numerous punitive measures parents may take on their children.


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Personally, I don't subscribe to hitting them lest your objective of correction may really not be ascertained but don't you spare the rod still. Hitting a child actually doesn't change anything; it only makes them hell-bent and hardened, or even, injurious to their health.
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They could be grounded for couple of days; a good child who yearn to be good will stick to corrections.
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I believe, a parent should from their infancy model them in the right path of life and teach them about the 'Eden and Eve' life as at when due. Umpteen times, a large number of parents neglect this.

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Re: Is Correcting Or Punishment Of Children By Flogging Still Effective? by ClassicMG(m): 7:56pm On Apr 22, 2019
What I know is that I will never beat my children the way my mom beat's me, even though I truly deserve it

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Re: Is Correcting Or Punishment Of Children By Flogging Still Effective? by delugajackson: 7:59pm On Apr 22, 2019
ClassicMG:
What I know is that I will never beat my children the way my mom beat's me, even though I truly deserve it
Quick! Hide your phone. Your mother is coming with Koboko laced with Aboniki and Chilly pepper!

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Re: Is Correcting Or Punishment Of Children By Flogging Still Effective? by Ishilove: 8:00pm On Apr 22, 2019
opparadise:
There are numerous punitive measures parents may take on their children.

Personally, I don't subscribe to hitting them lest your objective of correction may really not be ascertained but don't you spare the rod still. Hitting a child actually doesn't change anything; it only makes them hell-bent and hardened, or even, injurious to their health.
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They could be grounded for couple of days; a good child who yearn to be good will stick to corrections.
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I believe, a parent should from their infancy model them in the right path of life and teach them about the 'Eden and Eve' life as at when due. Umpteen times, a large number of parents neglect this.
Who grounding epp?

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Re: Is Correcting Or Punishment Of Children By Flogging Still Effective? by Nobody: 8:02pm On Apr 22, 2019
Ishilove:

Who grounding epp?

Did he say "Ground"? Nigerian kids? I laugh in koboko..
Re: Is Correcting Or Punishment Of Children By Flogging Still Effective? by Ishilove: 8:06pm On Apr 22, 2019
OkaNaUbe:


Did he say "Ground"? Nigerian kids? I laugh in koboko..
I laugh in rubber hose and pankere cheesy

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Re: Is Correcting Or Punishment Of Children By Flogging Still Effective? by Richy4(m): 8:35pm On Apr 22, 2019
I think flogging is not the answer to correcting kids this days...

Growing up as a kid, If my dad looks at us.. without saying anything we will basically know the meaning of what he was saying expecially when there are visitors....

As a kid then I can't remember him flogging us or anything... but I would have preferred flogging to waking me up by 1am or 12am in the morning just to talk to me over any bad report that needed corrections.... he knows that I hated it so much so he kinda capitalize on it...
Re: Is Correcting Or Punishment Of Children By Flogging Still Effective? by bukatyne(f): 8:37pm On Apr 22, 2019
Ishilove:
I'm an advocate to factory resetting flogging, but the flogging should go hand in hand with counseling. You flog in part, counsel in part. You should also know where to draw the line when using the cane. So many of us were abused as kids so we see excessive flogging as discipline.

There's a difference between disciplinary flogging and downright abuse. Finding the thin line is where it becomes dicey.

You have said it all. cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy

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Re: Is Correcting Or Punishment Of Children By Flogging Still Effective? by lilmax(m): 8:42pm On Apr 22, 2019
when it comes to stubbornness, break the child's head


but in academics, don't flog

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Re: Is Correcting Or Punishment Of Children By Flogging Still Effective? by Nobody: 9:15pm On Apr 22, 2019
This is a very important question and it should not be taken lightly.

DNA sequence of siblings of the same parents might be identical but the gene expression varies greatly, so due to environmental factors the kids will surely develop different personalities.

Kids are tender and have their subconscious mind at full operation during this phase of their lives, be careful with the kind of words and punishment you subject them to because this experience is indelibly imprinted on the mind. It's a dicey situation because some not so severe punishment can even make a child timid.

We must punish our kids when they do wrong, through this, ethics and moral conducts are formed but the central idea here is to know the personality of your child.

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Re: Is Correcting Or Punishment Of Children By Flogging Still Effective? by Biglittlelois(f): 9:46pm On Apr 22, 2019
I don't think i can ever beat my children, I'd rather look for other ways to punish them for any wrong doing.
Re: Is Correcting Or Punishment Of Children By Flogging Still Effective? by Chubhie: 12:25am On Apr 23, 2019
Flogging is outdated. Teach them cause and effects and the importance of learning from their mistakes. It's always okay to make mistakes. The highest punishment I give is to make em write I am sorry in 500 words or more grin grin grin

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Re: Is Correcting Or Punishment Of Children By Flogging Still Effective? by Pavore9: 5:19am On Apr 23, 2019
Chubhie:
Flogging is outdated. Teach them cause and effects and the importance of learning from their mistakes. It's always okay to make mistakes. The highest punishment I give is to make em write I am sorry in 500 words or more grin grin grin

You are so right about it being outdated. Some of us think we are better than the West when it comes to raising children, ignoring most of what we mete out as punishment on kids the West have done it centuries ago and evolved into more effective disciplinary strategies.

Here is an article that would make a good read.


What is the difference between discipline and punishment?


Discipline is a positive method of teaching a child self-control, confidence, and responsibility. The key to positive discipline is teaching a child what behavior is okay and what behavior is not okay. The focus is on what children are expected and allowed to do. It includes catching kids being good and encouraging appropriate behavior. It also includes modeling appropriate behavior. Punishment is quite different from discipline.

Punishment may be physical as in spanking, hitting, or causing pain. It may be psychological as in disapproval, isolation, or shaming. Punishment focuses on past misbehavior and offers little or nothing to help a child behave better in the future. When punishment is used, the person who punishes the child becomes responsible for the child's behavior.

Children who are raised in a way that stresses positive discipline will understand their own behavior better, show independence, and respect themselves and others.

Positive discipline is a process, not a single act. It teaches children how to get along with other people. Children are held responsible for misbehavior, but the consequences are meaningful and related to the behavior.

https://articles.extension.org/pages/35919/what-is-the-difference-between-discipline-and-punishment

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Re: Is Correcting Or Punishment Of Children By Flogging Still Effective? by Nobody: 6:51am On Apr 23, 2019
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Re: Is Correcting Or Punishment Of Children By Flogging Still Effective? by martyinediaz: 7:47am On Apr 23, 2019
Ishilove:
I'm an advocate to factory resetting flogging, but the flogging should go hand in hand with counseling. You flog in part, counsel in part. You should also know where to draw the line when using the cane. So many of us were abused as kids so we see excessive flogging as discipline.

There's a difference between disciplinary flogging and downright abuse. Finding the thin line is where it becomes dicey.
The thin line not knowing where it is may be a reason not to flog.

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Re: Is Correcting Or Punishment Of Children By Flogging Still Effective? by DMerciful(m): 4:18am On Apr 24, 2019
Who nor go nor know
Biglittlelois:
I don't think i can ever beat my children, I'd rather look for other ways to punish them for any wrong doing.
Re: Is Correcting Or Punishment Of Children By Flogging Still Effective? by Uyi168: 8:35am On Apr 24, 2019
4-6 good strokes of the Cain will not kee them..
Some children nor Dea hear word..
If u fail to follow up on them, in the later stages of their lives, na u go suffer am..

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Re: Is Correcting Or Punishment Of Children By Flogging Still Effective? by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 9:24am On Apr 25, 2019
I don't flog/whip my kids and they're very normal and obedient. When they misbehave, I threaten to hit their heads on the wall or knock them hard and they behave. Who'll love for his head to be dealt with anyway. smiley
Re: Is Correcting Or Punishment Of Children By Flogging Still Effective? by tintingz(m): 3:36pm On Apr 25, 2019
Flogging doesn't do anything infact it causes more psychological effect on children.

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Re: Is Correcting Or Punishment Of Children By Flogging Still Effective? by tintingz(m): 3:45pm On Apr 25, 2019
Uyi168:
4-6 good strokes of the Cain will not kee them..
Some children nor Dea hear word..
If u fail to follow up on them, in the later stages of their lives, na u go suffer am..
If you flog a child everytime he misbehave it will get to a point he will get use to it. Taking something precious away from them for days or months will make them behave well for a long time. You can also punish them by giving them home assignments to do.

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Re: Is Correcting Or Punishment Of Children By Flogging Still Effective? by Nobody: 4:12pm On Apr 25, 2019
tintingz:
Flogging doesn't do anything infact it causes more psychological effect on children.

I agree, I don't think it's productive, the child learns nothing but violence. Sometimes, we lose golden moments to teach; compassion, respect, and values, instead treating them without respecting, value, and scare tactics to teach them about...

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Re: Is Correcting Or Punishment Of Children By Flogging Still Effective? by Uyi168: 4:23pm On Apr 25, 2019
tintingz:
If you flog a child everytime he misbehave it will get to a point he will get use to it. Taking something precious away from them for days or months will make them behave well for a long time. You can also punish them by giving them home assignments to do.
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Punishments come in different forms..
U are on point with giving them some assignments to do..

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Re: Is Correcting Or Punishment Of Children By Flogging Still Effective? by tintingz(m): 6:31pm On Apr 25, 2019
Guest007:


I agree, I don't think it's productive, the child learns nothing but violence. Sometimes, we lose golden moments to teach; compassion, respect, and values, instead treating them without respecting, value, and scare tactics to teach them about...

We can all see the little girl(miss success) behavior when she was sent away from school, we can see the effect of child abuse on her.

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Re: Is Correcting Or Punishment Of Children By Flogging Still Effective? by Nobody: 6:41pm On Apr 25, 2019
tintingz:
We can all see the little girl(miss success) behavior when she was sent away from school, we can see the effect of child abuse on her.

I'm not following miss success?
Re: Is Correcting Or Punishment Of Children By Flogging Still Effective? by Dolphin01: 6:51pm On Apr 25, 2019
Growing up,my parents didn't really flog me. The disciplinary measure given to me was to kneel down .And my mom will later counsel me from the Bible. In my alone time, those words keep ringing in my mind.
As pointed out here,there is a difference between discipline and punishment.
The question is what DISCIPLINARY MEASURE is the best practise in raising our children?Because our little ones need to well moulded to make them imbibed the expected norms,values and ethics at their young age
Re: Is Correcting Or Punishment Of Children By Flogging Still Effective? by tintingz(m): 7:40pm On Apr 25, 2019
Guest007:


I'm not following miss success?
She was sent home because her parents couldn't pay her school fees, on her way home a lady stopped her and asked why she's going home she then talked with rage about the school sending her home instead of beating her. Imagine she prefers the beating, she sees beating a child as normal thing not as abuse, it has really affected her behavior.

Here is the video,


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6gjKG4D9QcU

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Re: Is Correcting Or Punishment Of Children By Flogging Still Effective? by tintingz(m): 7:43pm On Apr 25, 2019
Uyi168:
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Punishments come in different forms..
U are on point with giving them some assignments to do..
I don't support beating a child.

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Re: Is Correcting Or Punishment Of Children By Flogging Still Effective? by truthsayer009(m): 1:04am On Apr 26, 2019
UyaiIncomparabl:
I don't flog/whip my kids and they're very normal and obedient. When they misbehave, I threaten to hit their heads on the wall or knock them hard and they behave. Who'll love for his head to be dealt with anyway. smiley

Ha! This is how you people bring up, Irresponsible Chil****
Re: Is Correcting Or Punishment Of Children By Flogging Still Effective? by truthsayer009(m): 1:07am On Apr 26, 2019
Biglittlelois:
I don't think i can ever beat my children, I'd rather look for other ways to punish them for any wrong doing.
Same mistakes Black American parents make, their children are so disrespectful. Jeez!!!
Re: Is Correcting Or Punishment Of Children By Flogging Still Effective? by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 1:31am On Apr 26, 2019
truthsayer009:


Ha! This is how you people bring up, Irresponsible Chil****

Is it a bad one?

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