The woman I love just broke up with me for fear of me being a good father but tendencies of me being a bad husband.

It got me confused.

Is it possible to be a good father and a bad husband at the same time?

I came here to get answers.

Thanks in advance.

TruthHurts100:
The woman I love just broke up with me for fear of me being a good father but tendencies of me being a bad husband.

It got me confused.

Is it possible to be a good father and a bad husband at the same time?

I came here to get answers.

Thanks in advance.

Yup! I am married to one.....it took him 15yrs of marriage to learn to be a good husband.....if i know what i know now i would have walked out of the marriage when we i saw the signs......i still resent him for the years wasted as a shitty husband

And you believe this is why she broke up with you?
Pls go back to kindergarten. You still have a lot to learn.

Husbandhood involves three things to a woman, I think: Financial, Sexual and Social responsibility.

A good father is financially responsible
A good husband must be socially and Sexually active.
Many men, after they are married, relax in the latter areas. Hence the marriage become stale and very dry.
No more going to church together, no more sleeping on the same bed (it happens a lot). Consequently no more regular sex. And your wife is just 35 years ooo.

Men, we are to be involved Socially and Sexually, not just financially.

Of course.
The needs of a child are very different from that of a woman.
Same way you see a woman who would give her life for her children and acts in their utmost interest but wouldn't give so much concern to the affairs of her husband especially if she feels he's a burden to her and just another grown child she has to raise despite not birthing him.
To be a good spouse is not an easy job , and works out for couples if both are on the same page, and one doesn't feel cheated by the other...
We have to realise our behaviour to our spouses leave indelible marks on them. Many never forgive even if they continue to stay in the marriage.

Yes, some men are after the kids only, neglecting the real romantic and caring for their wives. Sit your wife down to know way forward.

OF COURSE... your duties as a father are completely different than your duties as a husband.

Women are more guilty of this, good mother n bad wife.

Children actually takes center stage in most marriages

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Yup! I am married to one.....it took him 15yrs of marriage to learn to be a good husband.....if i know what i know now i would have walked out of the marriage when we i saw the signs......i still resent him for the years wasted as a shitty husband

Everything has its purpose Pls forgive and enjoy the present plus future ma

TruthHurts100:
The woman I love just broke up with me for fear of me being a good father but tendencies of me being a bad husband.

It got me confused.

Is it possible to be a good father and a bad husband at the same time?

I came here to get answers.

Thanks in advance.

yes those are two different roles from one person

he is a father to the kids and husband to the wife

duties and care are different to
each people i.e wife and kids

yes one can be a good father but terrible husband

Yes and its so common this days, the need of a wife and child are very different but only a few men can meet both individual needs.

Good father take care of their children, they rise to the need of the kids before the needs even arises .

Bad husband doesnt cater for the wife, the wife doesn't matter , her opinion do not matter, her wellbeing also .....!!!