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Re: How Do I Handle This Issue (please Read)!!! by zaynie(f): 12:16am On May 13, 2019 |
Laeroy please take it easy. Nkan ti o tọ, oshin bo wá sheku. How would you feel, if your husband was to hit jackpot tomorrow and became stinkingly rich? Would he trust the love and respect you will be showering on him? I totally agree with Eyinjuege, what you feel towards your husband is long term resentment about him mortgaging his finances but to me, as long as he isn't spending it on stupid things then I think you should support him. Please. It's not like he doesn't have. He is just securing your future and of his kids. Be patient. In this time of his having nothing, even if you cannot support him financially, do so emotionally. Try to see how his mind works. If you earn 100k and all is going to the family and building a future, how would feel is someone said you aren't still doing anything. Babe, it's not easy anywhere. The fact that he's already planning a future shows that he is a responsible man, would you rather live a flashy life with nothing to show for it? With no tomorrow? Be calm. (might I pipe in that this is usually the reason poor men who become rich don't treat their first wives nicely, because they underestimated fate) Be calm. Ní sùúrù. That being said. How can you bring in more money? There is no written rule anywhere that your income must be less than his. You obviously have time on your hands, you have youth and you know how to use a smartphone. You shouldn't be complaining about being broke. What can you do? What's your skill set? What problem are you good at solving? This your rant is also why I advocate being blunt. Talk your own and waka comot! Pátápátá they will say you don't have respect or you are pompous but trust me, they will come around and respect your disrespectful pompous self. Be calm Know that what isn't enough will one day be too much. Until that day, encourage your husband don't kick him when he is down. I'm not saying don't fight or argue with him o, but don't fight the fight like there is no tomorrow. 12 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Handle This Issue (please Read)!!! by iomoge2(f): 4:14am On May 13, 2019 |
Laeroy: How did I get here I can’t even continue reading All I will say is that you calm down Your last statement got me No one knows tomorrow I am not saying your hubby will be poorer But what if the women or her child becomes richer tomorrow I used to have Your thoughts but once I got married all that changed Cos I see his blood as mine But I know where this is steaming from You married him thinking you didn’t marry the family and this is becos of the lies you two told yourself You saw he was from a poverty stricken home but didn’t back out to marry from one rich home My sister Pls don’t take life too hard Nothing is permanent No one is assured tomorrow You sre pained cos they sent the wife away but you also confirmed it’s Yoruba tradition Pls Calm down Just a little kindness won’t kill you Blood is thicker than water When the chips are down The man will stand with his siblings Don’t start a fight you cannot finish See If I were you I will do eye service and give my hubby the heat Heat of helping d lady out of the house Even if it’s one room I will bring d little I have snd give him to add up Just to bring sanity But in their eyes Do good please I am not saying you should go over the bar to be nice But don’t be obviously disgusted by them 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Handle This Issue (please Read)!!! by iomoge2(f): 4:50am On May 13, 2019 |
Laeroy:no You won’t be perceived as deceptive If it’s jollof rice you want to give your child adding a few spoons for the other child won’t hurt If it’s snacks as you say give them both When it finishes They will know it’s finished But like Zaynie said up there What you need is a source of income Your own income No one says the man must have more You can have more if you want to I for one isn’t scared of getting my hands dirty Women are out there making money You are learned You have a smart phone There are businesses you can do with Zero capital Drop shipping is one You can do errands n make money You can add housecleaning to your dry cleaning business and Don’t be comfortable with your 30k package Start a side hustle and with time you won’t need the package again Let your hubby do what he knows how to do You are smart and can do yours too Go on instagram and follow influencers Laura ikeji posted some business you can start with twenty thousand not to long ago Someone else posted zero naira biz Just find your passion You sre not wicked as you stated You sre just on one tight budget Get out of your comfort zone Zaynie has a business class coming up soon. Check her dairy she wrote about it I advise you join in snd you will learn so much What ever the amount for the class; I am willing to pay for you. Just show interest Contact her. She knows how to collect her money from me There is so much money to be made out there Hugs 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Handle This Issue (please Read)!!! by Nobody: 5:18am On May 13, 2019 |
When I tell ladies to discuss finances before marriage, they look at me like ... You gotta lay it all out on the damn table! Leave love, when you reach some marital bridges na only money fit cross am! Money!!! Money!!! Money!!!! Money!!!! Discuss money with your partner....!!!!!!!!!!! I don't know what to tell you OP, Pele, Just do you, everybody go adjust. 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Handle This Issue (please Read)!!! by Laeroy(f): 10:08am On May 13, 2019 |
iomoge2: Oh my!...... Thanks so much Sister.... Uve been very very helpful.... I'll contact her ma... Zaynie has touched my life in so many ways that she can never imagine... 3 Likes |
Re: How Do I Handle This Issue (please Read)!!! by NoToPile: 12:01pm On May 13, 2019 |
avast01: This is someone that understands what the real problem is. Resources are limited shikena thats the genesis of this whole brouhaha. |
Re: How Do I Handle This Issue (please Read)!!! by kaydeefilms(m): 11:20pm On May 13, 2019 |
Nairalanders I need help, my brother in-law is getting married and I was levied to pay a certain amount as support for his wedding because he had spent most of his funds for planning and the bride’s family had various outrageous demands he had to meet. The issues is I have several commitments like, I have my parents and siblings to take care of, coupled with the fact that my son will be starting school this month (which I postponed because of low funds) and my wife just graduated from the university(yet to go on NYSC and has no job, I foot all the bills in the house and all her expenses) I am about to tell my in-laws that I don’t have the said amount to give (I was levied #40,000) I want to give them (#10,000). And this will further inconvenience myself and my small nuclear family. What should I do? I need your advices |
Re: How Do I Handle This Issue (please Read)!!! by lovelybugs(f): 12:15am On May 14, 2019 |
kaydeefilms:Tell your wife to talk to her brother |
Re: How Do I Handle This Issue (please Read)!!! by NoToPile: 7:42am On May 14, 2019 |
kaydeefilms: Nawa ooo, give what you can afford please and tell your wife to talk to her people. Which kain wahala is this. 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Handle This Issue (please Read)!!! by Spechialone(f): 2:37pm On May 21, 2019 |
Typing... |
Re: How Do I Handle This Issue (please Read)!!! by Laeroy(f): 7:32am On May 23, 2019 |
UPDATE. Everything has normalized now!, Thanks to my sister in law, Feeding fee is entering steady now, and I can now take care of other things... |
Re: How Do I Handle This Issue (please Read)!!! by faithfull18(f): 12:53pm On May 23, 2019 |
Laeroy: Hmmn. |
Re: How Do I Handle This Issue (please Read)!!! by Gloriagee(f): 5:40pm On May 23, 2019 |
U don't have to like her but u def should do ur best to be nice to her. N FWIW I don't think ure possessed or any similar stuff like that. One saying I like is People do better when they know better and she's still at the formative stage. Please help her know better without suffocating her with sermons but by doing better... E go betta Laeroy: |
Re: How Do I Handle This Issue (please Read)!!! by Laeroy(f): 9:25pm On May 23, 2019 |
Gloriagee: Thanks Gloria gee... GOD BLESS U |
Re: How Do I Handle This Issue (please Read)!!! by Japhet31: 3:50am On Jun 19, 2019 |
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Re: How Do I Handle This Issue (please Read)!!! by BellaV: 6:58am On Jun 19, 2019 |
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Re: How Do I Handle This Issue (please Read)!!! by jimmyLd101: 3:58pm On Feb 19, 2020 |
This Op don get Mental problem |
Re: How Do I Handle This Issue (please Read)!!! by sylve11: 5:11pm On Apr 24, 2020 |
Swinger60: Straight and forward. No time to check time. I like you jor. |
Re: How Do I Handle This Issue (please Read)!!! by sylve11: 5:12pm On Apr 24, 2020 |
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Re: How Do I Handle This Issue (please Read)!!! by Jidezz: 5:19pm On Apr 24, 2020 |
Laeroy: @boldes text.....OP you gat no mannerz whatsoever Sorry to say this...But next time you want to put up any article on social sphere...learn to use a mild word to express something. So because he was born into a poor background that makes he a simp Shebi ? The way some women think eeh...it baffles me. When the going is good...she will be humble and sweet...when the going gets tough...she will turn to wetin Person no fit categorize. Tueh 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Handle This Issue (please Read)!!! by debbydee(f): 3:09am On Apr 25, 2020 |
Na wa ooo. Only 30k with so much burden. Op the lord is your strength. It is well. 1 Like |
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