Hi, dis is ma 1st post here nd i need ur advice pls. There's dis guy am in love with nd I know he loves me. Things have been really great at first, we talked alot on phone,but we didn't see each other so often as he was a very busy man, despite all effort 2 make him meet him,it proved abortive. He always said everything will be fine bt I should be patient 4 d mean time, I really love him so I remained patient. Just recently thats in March he told me he is travelling abroad and he's gonna spend 2yrs and he's sorry he can't meet 2 say goodbye as he is in Abuja while am in Kaduna,nd his flight is taking off d same day. I asked him why he didn't inform me earlier bt all I could get is am sorry. I was a little bit angry nd confused at dat moment dat I've decided 2 breakup with him nd start a new life bt my decision was taken aback when 6 days later which was my birthday,he proposed 2 me nd I accepted. But after about a month after proposing,he seems 2 have changed totally,he no longer call regularly nd sometimes I'll call him so many times bt he'll not answer, if ever I asked why, d only answer I get is am sorry. His behaviors are arkward nd I have a feeling he doesn't want me anymore cos its been months nd he is not changing 4 d better. PLS GUYS DO U THINK I SHOULD CONTINUE WITH HIM LYK DIS OR SHOULD I BREAKUP WITH HIM ND START A NEW LYF?

How old are you?

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Pls give him more time.He's just travelled.He needs to get on his feet.he may be very busy looking for job. or trying to settle down with the one he's just got.Afterall, for him to hv proposed to u means that he loves you and u guys have known each very well be4 he left.I know some distant rships dont work but try to be patience and let him know hw u r feeling.Living abroad is time demanding just bear with u and let him know hw u r feeling abt this.Then always pray fro him.

@poster, where are thou? could u please answer the questions?

nikkykay:

Pls give him more time.He's just travelled.He needs to get on his feet.he may be very busy looking for job. or trying to settle down with the one he's just got.Afterall, for him to hv proposed to u means that he loves you and u guys have known each very well be4 he left.I know some distant rships dont work but try to be patience and let him know hw u r feeling.Living abroad is time demanding just bear with u and let him know hw u r feeling abt this.Then always pray fro him.

wat time does she need to give him again. someone she has not seen i a long time. someone who doesnt even hav the time to say goodbye b4 travelling. wat kind of love is that. no patience is needed here cos it's obvious she will only be wasting her time loving him. He doesnt even have her time while in the country, now that he has travelled, she should expect worse.

Girls. Girls. Girls. Same story, different days. As if men no full ground brekete. . .

@nikkykay, tanx 4 ur advice atleast dere's sum1 here who undertands hw I feel. @tosyne007, I can b wat u mean bt don't u realise this is a matter of d heart.

underage:

@nikkykay, tanx 4 your advice atleast dere's sum1 here who undertands hw I feel. @tosyne007, I can b wat u mean bt don't u realise this is a matter of d heart.

of course i do and that's why u need to cut him off now!!! cos he's gonna hurt u in the long run. (that's a fact) cos a relationship that's not working when both of u are in thesame country, how's it gonna work when u guys are far apart. I aint a mean person neither i'm i heartless but i dont joke with my emotions. u came here to seek for advice and i've only said wat i think i will tell my sister. so if u feel i dont understand how u feel, then i'm sorry i cant help u.

hmmm few qxns for u gal
1)have u met him face to face
2)kd to abj is 2 hrs he could have cme to c u if he really cared or invited u ova or are you too young to travel alone
3)do you have any expectations apart frm marriage frm this rship

@andromida, I've met him face 2 face, d fact is we have atleast 3yrs 2geda bt he visits me 1nce in a while i.e not so often. He couldn't come 2 kd b'cos his flight is 2 takeoff in an hr d same day he told me nd sincerely I don't expect anything after marriage 4rm dis relationship.

@poster
we ALL understand how you feel, we just dont understand WHY you are doing this. . . . . .

here are a few question for you:
- how do you know"he loves you"? (you seems to be sure about that fact)
- how many times have you met in the last 3yrs?!
- do you believe you know that stranger well enough to marry him?
- how did he propose to you?
- if you "supposedly" dont expect anything from this marriage/relationship then why are you running after this deadbeat man who clearly dont give a damn about you?!

better expect more "I AM SORRY" in the future if you keep on desperately running after this deadbeat!

Hello, av been off Nairaland for a long while now bt am back now. Just thought I should tell u guys hw things went on wit me and my man. Am happy to inform u guys dat we actually got married early last year and we have been doing really great, I really believe nothing good comes easy. Am now a happy woman, married to d man of my dreams who luvs me so much and a mother of a bouncing baby boy. Thanks to u all for ur advices

Congratulations!!!

Are uu serious?

Congratulations!!! I'm happy for u. How's ur baby doing

jhydebaba: Congratulations!!! I'm happy for u. How's ur baby doing

he's doing fyn, getting to 8mnths nw. Thnx for asking

nice story...tbh when i read the initial post i was feeling sorry for you already but im glad to have been proven wrong. but how exactly did things work out?

Wa00. D0u it tarries it wil surely come

AncientJerk: nice story...tbh when i read the initial post i was feeling sorry for you already but im glad to have been proven wrong. but how exactly did things work out?

I followed my heart and gave him more time, it wasn't easy but I knew nothing good comes easy. I prayed really hard and concentrated on my studies Things started becoming normal after about a year or so and when he got back, we were already making plans for our wedding.