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Re: My Husband And His Mother!!! by Timijo(m): 12:51pm On Jun 08, 2019
Biggermembersro:
Some people's sole aim in this world is to provoke people intentionally, I am a "slow to react to anger" kind of person and I always stay in my lane and mind my business, once I smell trouble coming from afar, I run to the opposite direction as fast as my leg can carry me, I come from a tribe where you have to respect elders no matter the situation same as what my Bible says so what gives abeg.......


My husband always praise his mum cos she trained him to med school here in U.S.A, of course who wouldn't just like I don't joke with my dad cos he did well for his six kids, so he adores his mum, praises her in every situation, always at her beck and call, I didn't see it as a big deal cos, well, it's his mum, we met here in NY, he and his family stay in Maryland while I was schooling in NY, the plan was when we get married I'll go back and forth till I finish school then move to Maryland, so I took in, you know first pregnancy how difficult it is, so one of those days i went to ML for the weekend one time, during that period, his mum had a get together so everyone is expected to be there, being in my first trimester, I was sick and told her I can't be there, she insisted and I told her I'll try, when the time came I was too ill to go anywhere so I didn't go, all for his mum to come later that night and was shouting saying and I quote "when I tell my son your husband to run he will run, even if I tell him to jump he will do just that so who are you to tell me you can't come, what silly sickness, if I blow that your belly, highest is you'll loose the pregnancy and then take in again,nothing is going to happen" that is exactly what she said, I was shocked, my husband was there looking he didn't say anything, his father was there, he shouted at her that why would she say something like that, his mum shut him down saying all manner of unsayable things because she was more like the breadwinner, his sister, that one cannot talk if not the mother will insult her very existence just because she got pregnant out of wedlock but she still married the father ooo, me, my mouth was open, I couldn't talk cos I dont even know what to say, when they left hubby didnt even try to ease my mind or anything, the next day I jejely left for NY, vowing that my leg will never step into ML anymore.

Sincerely I was tempted to abort and divorce my husband because I don't understand how someone can say evil like that, even if it was a joke, that was nonsense, since then I've been in NY, I gave birth here, Dre has been the one coming here, it's not like me and his mum don't talk, she calls and we talk, sometimes I call too, all for recently, infact last week Dre says he got an opening for a job here and he wants to take it, I blatantly told him NO, because his parents couldnt work anymore due to health and all so they are staying with him in ML, him moving here means his mum will do that too, I told him no that I like things the way they are, no issues, nothing, I cannot stay in the same house with his mum because we will have issues that one is certain, he started shouting, I reminded him of what his mother said two years ago, he now said it is the past, which past? Now that I'm working I am expected to leave my babies with her, call me delusional the instinct of a mother is to protect her children, even if she may not do anything, we will still have issues and I don't want that before someone say I'm disrespectful when I talk back.

If I decide to turn American now, I'll just tell him he can't bring anyone here without my permission, but no, I won't tell him that, some of their laws here is stupid to be honest and I'm a nice person and I was born and bred in the north in Nigeria also I don't want to escalate issue, I am the only one here, my family is in Nigeria and i never mentioned any of this to them so it won't turn to family issues, now he's not talking to me saying he will take drastic measures, it will not pass divorce and custody battle of which I know I will win but I don't want that for my kids, they need their parents in the same home not divorced, my own is he should stay where he is and take care of his parents and continue worshiping his mum, is it that hard?

I dey vex abeg, pls advice on other options fam.

Dear Biggermembersro,

I truly sympathise with you for all that you have gone through in your marriage. Although I cannot blame your husband or his parents because this is just your own version of the story.

If it all happened as you narrated, please do not agree to stay with your husband's family. Some mother inlaws could be very mean especially the African ones.
Please ignore those who said that it is part of marriage experiences, endure and keep the African's laws.
Do not agree to stay in an abusive marriage with a serial bully, it is very dangerous for you and your child.

However, if your husband wants to relocate to New York with his parents, tell him to rent a separate appartment for them and hire a nanny that will take care of them. Do not agree to live under the same roof with them. Remember, a leopard cannot change the colour of its skin.

If your husband does not like this, be firm but don't be rude. Just tell him NO. If he threatens to divorce you, so be it. Don't allow him to carjole you.

Remember, it is better for you to be alive and train your child than to be in an abusive marriage.

I will also advise you to inform your parents about what you are going through. This is very important for reference purpose. I am not saying that you should report your husband and his parents to them, but explain all your predicaments and how you are handling them.

In conclusion, do not forget to pray unto God for divine intervention in your home.
I hope this will help you in your decision.

Kind regards.

timijo

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Re: My Husband And His Mother!!! by ojkalito(m): 12:54pm On Jun 08, 2019
Sis people don't change neither will the mom, you already taken temperature of the whole situation and I trust you to make the right decision with your head and not your emotions. If your mama's boy husband can't manage and differentiate between the love for his mama and love/building a family with his wife then you should be prepared to lose him. This advice is coming from an African man who loves his mom dearly.

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Re: My Husband And His Mother!!! by mistyebby(f): 12:58pm On Jun 08, 2019
breakerofchains:
If your MIL threatens you again, file a report in the police station, get a restraining order . She'll stop coming to the house.
One problem solved.


See your mouth. Thats the same person that's supposed to act in place of her mum. Has it occurred to you she might need her one day. Say child birth or baby sitting.


May your wife not put restraining order on your mum, vice versa. Say Amen.

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Re: My Husband And His Mother!!! by PeacenLove2: 12:58pm On Jun 08, 2019
dingbang:
Mum doesn't get to visit my house within the first five years of marriage!

Hits the gavel!!

Jesus! Why?
Re: My Husband And His Mother!!! by dingbang(m): 1:01pm On Jun 08, 2019
PeacenLove2:


Jesus! Why?
you are seeing the story and you are asking me why again.
Re: My Husband And His Mother!!! by Magnoliaa(f): 1:02pm On Jun 08, 2019
Asquare84:
Remember you are an African woman and forget about those western civilization, respect your in-laws

undecided

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Re: My Husband And His Mother!!! by luminouz(m): 1:06pm On Jun 08, 2019
Acidosis:


It works for all homes where the parties involved act responsibly and dutifully. I know we all are here to sell our opinions, but some are based on factual and common statistics.

I'm repeating again that I've not come to further my cause. What's wrong with viewing issues from a different perspective?
Nawa o..that Geh just dey use u dey shine...

See her commanding tone sef... Any small thing u say she go say..'STOP IT' upandan!!! undecided
Re: My Husband And His Mother!!! by PeacenLove2: 1:12pm On Jun 08, 2019
OP, so sorry about your situation. I know no woman prays to find herself cornered like this. Just see this as one of the lemons life is throwing at you. So how can you make this a lemonade?

You already know MIL is hubby's little god. You have a child with him, you are a family. Can things get any worse if you stay in this marriage or if you leave it? Weigh your options.

If you decide to stay, then you must devise a way forward to keep your sanity and self-respect intact. When there are people around you who don't help you strengthen but destroy your marriage, you have to be wary of them but unfortunately you cannot change them. Your MIL will never change, your hubby will never understand why you cannot get along with his beloved mum. If only you had seen this before marriage now you must learn to manage things. You cannot escape that conversation with your husband. Let him know your focus is on saving your marriage if he shares that vision and you will support his extended family but not to your detriment.

Our mothers out there, raise your boys to the level you can trust and respect their choices. When your sons marry, learn to give them a space to enjoy marital life. They cannot give you what your husbands denied you. Stop treating your fellow women like they are robbing you of something. What if they were your own daughters? Sons, if you will not stand up for your wives, please let your mummies marry wife for you to save us from stories that touch like this.

Good luck, OP. grin

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Re: My Husband And His Mother!!! by Altern8(m): 1:14pm On Jun 08, 2019
Mothers should work towards a happy home for their sons.

It’s sad that OP can’t have the loving home she envisioned with Dre all because of his mum. I wonder if mama thinks this semi-separated home looks okay or normal.
Re: My Husband And His Mother!!! by PeacenLove2: 1:15pm On Jun 08, 2019
dingbang:
you are seeing the story and you are asking me why again.

Yeah but nothing wrong with short visits. As long as everyone treats each other well. We all should be in each others lives with moderation and love.
Re: My Husband And His Mother!!! by akejujoe(f): 1:15pm On Jun 08, 2019
Oga you seem to have comprehension issues here. You read that she is working and living in another state. She is only against her husband joining her because it means her MIL who no longer works will be joining them and you are still abusing the poor woman who have every right to be worried
properties4sale:


You don't have single sense!!! I just hate this... Tufiakwa..
This is my issue, all this marriage nonsense, so because the mum said something 2 years ago and its over. .. Abeg, make una go sit down.
Your MIL, is the breadwinner, she can stay where she is, and ur husband join u.
Re: My Husband And His Mother!!! by Nobody: 1:20pm On Jun 08, 2019
15ssDRIVE:



Imagine say Na my wife type,she no Dey talk once pregnant for 9 months. Till she give birth,she go just dey smile and nothing more .... oya tell me if no be Osama Bin Laden she go,call !!



cheesy

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Re: My Husband And His Mother!!! by Badgers14: 1:21pm On Jun 08, 2019
Biggermembersro:
Some people's sole aim in this world is to provoke people intentionally, I am a "slow to react to anger" kind of person and I always stay in my lane and mind my business, once I smell trouble coming from afar, I run to the opposite direction as fast as my leg can carry me, I come from a tribe where you have to respect elders no matter the situation same as what my Bible says so what gives abeg.......


My husband always praise his mum cos she trained him to med school here in U.S.A, of course who wouldn't just like I don't joke with my dad cos he did well for his six kids, so he adores his mum, praises her in every situation, always at her beck and call, I didn't see it as a big deal cos, well, it's his mum, we met here in NY, he and his family stay in Maryland while I was schooling in NY, the plan was when we get married I'll go back and forth till I finish school then move to Maryland, so I took in, you know first pregnancy how difficult it is, so one of those days i went to ML for the weekend one time, during that period, his mum had a get together so everyone is expected to be there, being in my first trimester, I was sick and told her I can't be there, she insisted and I told her I'll try, when the time came I was too ill to go anywhere so I didn't go, all for his mum to come later that night and was shouting saying and I quote "when I tell my son your husband to run he will run, even if I tell him to jump he will do just that so who are you to tell me you can't come, what silly sickness, if I blow that your belly, highest is you'll loose the pregnancy and then take in again,nothing is going to happen" that is exactly what she said, I was shocked, my husband was there looking he didn't say anything, his father was there, he shouted at her that why would she say something like that, his mum shut him down saying all manner of unsayable things because she was more like the breadwinner, his sister, that one cannot talk if not the mother will insult her very existence just because she got pregnant out of wedlock but she still married the father ooo, me, my mouth was open, I couldn't talk cos I dont even know what to say, when they left hubby didnt even try to ease my mind or anything, the next day I jejely left for NY, vowing that my leg will never step into ML anymore.

Sincerely I was tempted to abort and divorce my husband because I don't understand how someone can say evil like that, even if it was a joke, that was nonsense, since then I've been in NY, I gave birth here, Dre has been the one coming here, it's not like me and his mum don't talk, she calls and we talk, sometimes I call too, all for recently, infact last week Dre says he got an opening for a job here and he wants to take it, I blatantly told him NO, because his parents couldnt work anymore due to health and all so they are staying with him in ML, him moving here means his mum will do that too, I told him no that I like things the way they are, no issues, nothing, I cannot stay in the same house with his mum because we will have issues that one is certain, he started shouting, I reminded him of what his mother said two years ago, he now said it is the past, which past? Now that I'm working I am expected to leave my babies with her, call me delusional the instinct of a mother is to protect her children, even if she may not do anything, we will still have issues and I don't want that before someone say I'm disrespectful when I talk back.

If I decide to turn American now, I'll just tell him he can't bring anyone here without my permission, but no, I won't tell him that, some of their laws here is stupid to be honest and I'm a nice person and I was born and bred in the north in Nigeria also I don't want to escalate issue, I am the only one here, my family is in Nigeria and i never mentioned any of this to them so it won't turn to family issues, now he's not talking to me saying he will take drastic measures, it will not pass divorce and custody battle of which I know I will win but I don't want that for my kids, they need their parents in the same home not divorced, my own is he should stay where he is and take care of his parents and continue worshiping his mum, is it that hard?

I dey vex abeg, pls advice on other options fam.


I feel very sorry you are going through this and from your write up, it seems you are a nice person.

Considering America and their laws, they should have been the ones stressed up and not you but like you said, you choose a different path.

This situation weakens me because I have witnessed a similar situation myself.

Only thing I could say is, do not blind side your family completely. Remember his family is here in the U.S while yours is outside the U.S.

I am not saying call your village people and complain. You could tell your mom unto mother / daughter talk or your sister as sister/sister talk.

Just incase of incasity. Recall, from what you said, your husband stated, he will take drastic measures? Who knows what he is thinking. It is nice to share with Nairaland family, but remember you can't blindside your blood family. Blood is thicker than water..

You know what I mean?

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Re: My Husband And His Mother!!! by HEFAIROHLUWA(m): 1:21pm On Jun 08, 2019
dingbang:
Mum doesn't get to visit my house within the first five years of marriage!

Hits the gavel!!
Why na? shocked U love the other room but no want women wahala? tongue grin I know a coward when I see one tongue grin
Re: My Husband And His Mother!!! by jaxxy(m): 1:24pm On Jun 08, 2019
Biggermembersro:


It wasn't oo, when i open the door for them that night all for me to hear " what nonsense, what nonsense" then she started shouting, I just stepped back and kept mute.


Sadly u married a Mama’s boy whos mum is a control freak. If ur husband had Sm balls he wud have been able to address the issues with his mum and u and sort it all out bt it doesn’t seem like he can bt surprisingly he can warn u about drastic measures for not complying with a situation that invades and threatens ur peace of mind.

Now if ur MIL had apologized for her actions about that day b4 now I wud kinda believed she’s a changed person by now bt if she didn’t then she probably same old controlling and unreasonable person as before.
Re: My Husband And His Mother!!! by chris51(f): 1:32pm On Jun 08, 2019
Your husband should rent a place for the parents. It's not easy to live under the same roof on the basis.
You also have to be very PATIENT AND TOLERANT.
Please don't let your husband choose between you and the mother. It's a known fact that there's a strong bond between mother and her son. Father and daughter also have very strong relationship.
Re: My Husband And His Mother!!! by chris51(f): 1:33pm On Jun 08, 2019
chris51:
Your husband should rent a place for the parents. It's not easy to live under the same roof on the basis.
You also have to be very PATIENT AND TOLERANT.
Please don't let your husband choose between you and the mother. It's a known fact that there's a strong bond between mother and her son. Father and daughter also have very strong relationship.
GOOD LUCK.
Re: My Husband And His Mother!!! by chris51(f): 1:34pm On Jun 08, 2019
chris51:

GOOD LUCK.
Re: My Husband And His Mother!!! by Slimsly100(f): 1:35pm On Jun 08, 2019
soberdrunk:
You cannot marry a "Mamas boy" and not fall in love with his 'mama'...... angry

But do some men really have to keep being Mama's boy
Really? angry
Re: My Husband And His Mother!!! by dingbang(m): 1:42pm On Jun 08, 2019
PeacenLove2:


Yeah but nothing wrong with short visits. As long as everyone treats each other well. We all should be in each others lives with moderation and love.
no! Five years after wedding and she is welcome!
Re: My Husband And His Mother!!! by Magnoliaa(f): 1:42pm On Jun 08, 2019
Acidosis:


I guess I mistook the word equality for submission. While I believe in gender equality especially in the workplace, I do not believe in equal submission in marriage.

Men and women who deviate from conventional gender and family roles are bound to pay for their actions/inactions somehow, in some ways. OP's narration is a consequence of a longstanding deviation from conventional family roles.

So I'm not fostering any misogynistic agenda, rather I'm upholding family values and instilling same in those that care to listen. It is not about my purpose either, only here ?to proffer what I feel might help a current situation.

And yea, I would stay on the topic, it doesn't change how I feel.


So, you cannot submit to your wife?


And you say conventional gender and family roles... like that is the best way to go? The most effective and perfect way? Like it's working? And its result is not being seen our society?

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Re: My Husband And His Mother!!! by Originalsly: 1:43pm On Jun 08, 2019
@Biggermembersro
From how I see it.... your husband is a Mama's boy period. That cannot change at this period. His mama ...from her actions... been wearing the pants in that house. If the husband cannot control her.... the man that she should be respecting.... why would you think she will show a ehmmm.... small girl like you respect? If she tells her son to jump...he must jump... why would she not expect you to do the same?
You are living in he US..... New York to be precise. You don't want such a person under the same roof with you....especially with her baby. She can use the law to get you barred from your house/residence..... while you have to continue paying mortgage/rent.... she can accuse you of physically abusing the kids....and just like that...you lose custody. Keep her out.

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Re: My Husband And His Mother!!! by pazu(m): 1:44pm On Jun 08, 2019
my good sister I so much love ur kind becus its as if u are bred from my family. pls don't break up with ur husband and try to keep ur peace going. Good a thing u are not from a separated family. pls note: from ur comments I never hear u include prayer but u stated that ur a Christian. pls go into prayers our Good God will give u solutions and directions towards this challenges. perhaps u hav prayed pls wait for ur God to do d needful. thanks
Re: My Husband And His Mother!!! by Slimsly100(f): 1:45pm On Jun 08, 2019
Mothers' in law palaver. Mine wanted to do like that at the beginning. But thank God I detected in time and worked on my husband. We go to visit her regularly, gift her pressents as well. But she never comes to our house. Maybe after childbirth though but the boundaries are already set.
Babes, you should have acted on this red flag you saw at the beginning.
But since things are already like this, brace up and God help you.

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Re: My Husband And His Mother!!! by Magnoliaa(f): 1:46pm On Jun 08, 2019
Westsida:
The momma na feminist! No single regard for husband, no single regard for son! Op herself is some sort of feminist! When a lower feminist jam a higher feminist, the matter becomes inconclusive!

It’s either the higher feminist submit to the lower feminist or vice versa! That’s the only solution here!

lipsrsealed


grin grin grin grin
Re: My Husband And His Mother!!! by Originalsly: 1:46pm On Jun 08, 2019
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Re: My Husband And His Mother!!! by raumdeuter: 1:47pm On Jun 08, 2019
Divorce is easier
Re: My Husband And His Mother!!! by murphyibiam15(m): 1:56pm On Jun 08, 2019
Biggermembersro:
Some people's sole aim in this world is to provoke people intentionally, I am a "slow to react to anger" kind of person and I always stay in my lane and mind my business, once I smell trouble coming from afar, I run to the opposite direction as fast as my leg can carry me, I come from a tribe where you have to respect elders no matter the situation same as what my Bible says so what gives abeg.......


My husband always praise his mum cos she trained him to med school here in U.S.A, of course who wouldn't just like I don't joke with my dad cos he did well for his six kids, so he adores his mum, praises her in every situation, always at her beck and call, I didn't see it as a big deal cos, well, it's his mum, we met here in NY, he and his family stay in Maryland while I was schooling in NY, the plan was when we get married I'll go back and forth till I finish school then move to Maryland, so I took in, you know first pregnancy how difficult it is, so one of those days i went to ML for the weekend one time, during that period, his mum had a get together so everyone is expected to be there, being in my first trimester, I was sick and told her I can't be there, she insisted and I told her I'll try, when the time came I was too ill to go anywhere so I didn't go, all for his mum to come later that night and was shouting saying and I quote "when I tell my son your husband to run he will run, even if I tell him to jump he will do just that so who are you to tell me you can't come, what silly sickness, if I blow that your belly, highest is you'll loose the pregnancy and then take in again,nothing is going to happen" that is exactly what she said, I was shocked, my husband was there looking he didn't say anything, his father was there, he shouted at her that why would she say something like that, his mum shut him down saying all manner of unsayable things because she was more like the breadwinner, his sister, that one cannot talk if not the mother will insult her very existence just because she got pregnant out of wedlock but she still married the father ooo, me, my mouth was open, I couldn't talk cos I dont even know what to say, when they left hubby didnt even try to ease my mind or anything, the next day I jejely left for NY, vowing that my leg will never step into ML anymore.

Sincerely I was tempted to abort and divorce my husband because I don't understand how someone can say evil like that, even if it was a joke, that was nonsense, since then I've been in NY, I gave birth here, Dre has been the one coming here, it's not like me and his mum don't talk, she calls and we talk, sometimes I call too, all for recently, infact last week Dre says he got an opening for a job here and he wants to take it, I blatantly told him NO, because his parents couldnt work anymore due to health and all so they are staying with him in ML, him moving here means his mum will do that too, I told him no that I like things the way they are, no issues, nothing, I cannot stay in the same house with his mum because we will have issues that one is certain, he started shouting, I reminded him of what his mother said two years ago, he now said it is the past, which past? Now that I'm working I am expected to leave my babies with her, call me delusional the instinct of a mother is to protect her children, even if she may not do anything, we will still have issues and I don't want that before someone say I'm disrespectful when I talk back.

If I decide to turn American now, I'll just tell him he can't bring anyone here without my permission, but no, I won't tell him that, some of their laws here is stupid to be honest and I'm a nice person and I was born and bred in the north in Nigeria also I don't want to escalate issue, I am the only one here, my family is in Nigeria and i never mentioned any of this to them so it won't turn to family issues, now he's not talking to me saying he will take drastic measures, it will not pass divorce and custody battle of which I know I will win but I don't want that for my kids, they need their parents in the same home not divorced, my own is he should stay where he is and take care of his parents and continue worshiping his mum, is it that hard?

I dey vex abeg, pls advice on other options fam.
you did well dear ...nothing do you... you're a good woman to be honest

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Re: My Husband And His Mother!!! by TotoNaRubber: 2:00pm On Jun 08, 2019
98 percent of Nigerians that will comment here have CAVE mentality. Look for people around you in the States with similar background to you and are married with kids. Then ask them what their thoughts are.




Biggermembersro:
Some people's sole aim in this world is to provoke people intentionally, I am a "slow to react to anger" kind of person and I always stay in my lane and mind my business, once I smell trouble coming from afar, I run to the opposite direction as fast as my leg can carry me, I come from a tribe where you have to respect elders no matter the situation same as what my Bible says so what gives abeg.......


My husband always praise his mum cos she trained him to med school here in U.S.A, of course who wouldn't just like I don't joke with my dad cos he did well for his six kids, so he adores his mum, praises her in every situation, always at her beck and call, I didn't see it as a big deal cos, well, it's his mum, we met here in NY, he and his family stay in Maryland while I was schooling in NY, the plan was when we get married I'll go back and forth till I finish school then move to Maryland, so I took in, you know first pregnancy how difficult it is, so one of those days i went to ML for the weekend one time, during that period, his mum had a get together so everyone is expected to be there, being in my first trimester, I was sick and told her I can't be there, she insisted and I told her I'll try, when the time came I was too ill to go anywhere so I didn't go, all for his mum to come later that night and was shouting saying and I quote "when I tell my son your husband to run he will run, even if I tell him to jump he will do just that so who are you to tell me you can't come, what silly sickness, if I blow that your belly, highest is you'll loose the pregnancy and then take in again,nothing is going to happen" that is exactly what she said, I was shocked, my husband was there looking he didn't say anything, his father was there, he shouted at her that why would she say something like that, his mum shut him down saying all manner of unsayable things because she was more like the breadwinner, his sister, that one cannot talk if not the mother will insult her very existence just because she got pregnant out of wedlock but she still married the father ooo, me, my mouth was open, I couldn't talk cos I dont even know what to say, when they left hubby didnt even try to ease my mind or anything, the next day I jejely left for NY, vowing that my leg will never step into ML anymore.

Sincerely I was tempted to abort and divorce my husband because I don't understand how someone can say evil like that, even if it was a joke, that was nonsense, since then I've been in NY, I gave birth here, Dre has been the one coming here, it's not like me and his mum don't talk, she calls and we talk, sometimes I call too, all for recently, infact last week Dre says he got an opening for a job here and he wants to take it, I blatantly told him NO, because his parents couldnt work anymore due to health and all so they are staying with him in ML, him moving here means his mum will do that too, I told him no that I like things the way they are, no issues, nothing, I cannot stay in the same house with his mum because we will have issues that one is certain, he started shouting, I reminded him of what his mother said two years ago, he now said it is the past, which past? Now that I'm working I am expected to leave my babies with her, call me delusional the instinct of a mother is to protect her children, even if she may not do anything, we will still have issues and I don't want that before someone say I'm disrespectful when I talk back.

If I decide to turn American now, I'll just tell him he can't bring anyone here without my permission, but no, I won't tell him that, some of their laws here is stupid to be honest and I'm a nice person and I was born and bred in the north in Nigeria also I don't want to escalate issue, I am the only one here, my family is in Nigeria and i never mentioned any of this to them so it won't turn to family issues, now he's not talking to me saying he will take drastic measures, it will not pass divorce and custody battle of which I know I will win but I don't want that for my kids, they need their parents in the same home not divorced, my own is he should stay where he is and take care of his parents and continue worshiping his mum, is it that hard?

I dey vex abeg, pls advice on other options fam.

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Re: My Husband And His Mother!!! by deltateam: 2:12pm On Jun 08, 2019
Asquare84:
Remember you are an African woman and forget about those western civilization, respect your in-laws

You don't get it. She respects her mother in law. It's just that her mother in law is the bossy type that money has entered her head. She thinks that everyone must obey her even her stupid wishes without question.

She controls and manipulates her son who is spineless and didn't hesitate to tell her daughter in law that she must always fall in line since she has her son's remote control.

A woman that can't respect her husband is it her daughter in law that she will respect? She's careless, insensitive and disrespectful.

I guess you didnt understand that.

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Re: My Husband And His Mother!!! by Nobody: 2:16pm On Jun 08, 2019
but this ur guy mom go harsh oo. so jus cos of one little misunderstanding she threatened to punch ur preggy tummy. even if she was d one dat sponsored her son in med school no mean say she go come dey provoke on her dauther in law for no just cause.anyway lucky we dat have calm and understanding moms.

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