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| . by sohiemi(m): 12:44pm On Oct 03, 2010 |
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| Re: . by 190: 12:58pm On Oct 03, 2010 |
he should follow the advice of the doctor's there is no such thing as love, else his kids suffer's this consequences! |
| Re: . by Ladyjide(f): 2:11pm On Oct 03, 2010 |
I would not go ahead with the marriage unless I was ok with the fact that WE should not have children. Personally I am not ok with that so, I would have to move on to another relationship! |
| Re: . by sohiemi(m): 2:14pm On Oct 03, 2010 |
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| Re: . by sms4health: 2:49pm On Oct 03, 2010 |
Love is complicated. It can never be about the couple alone, try as they might wish it. Possible scenarios: 1. They get married and not have children (can't work in Nigeria) 2. They get married and have children and deal with the consequences (they could end up resenting and hating each other) 3. They break up and find other partners (suffer a little now, than mega suffering later) 4. They get married to other people and continue their romance (crazy!) |
| Re: . by Dyt(f): 3:00pm On Oct 03, 2010 |
He shld accept his faith o,cos he ll regret at long run. Future matters alot |
| Re: . by sohiemi(m): 4:06pm On Oct 03, 2010 |
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| Re: . by safarigirl(f): 12:04am On Oct 04, 2010 |
it's not a nice situation to be in, but ur friend has no choice here, he has to find some1 else, love isn't always enough  |
| Re: . by bxcode(m): 12:20am On Oct 04, 2010 |
He should consider his future b4 taking any stand. |
| Re: . by Rocktation(f): 12:23am On Oct 04, 2010 |
Hmmn. Please advice him to check with other docs to be certain. We've got resident docs everywhere these days. |
| Re: . by freedomfro(f): 4:10am On Oct 04, 2010 |
This is stupid! I'm american, Americans capitalize on people searching for meaning and finding who they are. The fact that he went and got the damn test let's me know that he has doubt. Love is real, sometime it's sick, sometime it's pure. it depends on the character of the two in the relationship. but when two people love each other above all else and are willing to work as a team nothing else matters. PSH! I wish my babe would come to me about a damn PERSONALITY test to decide our fate and future. it's like reading a crystal ball! DUmbShyt! In life we change. We change the way we think and feel about things according to our situation in that moment in time, they could take the test tomorrow and still have a screwed up marriage. Listen to your heart. |
| Re: . by sohiemi(m): 7:41am On Oct 04, 2010 |
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| Re: . by Specialist900(m): 8:27am On Oct 04, 2010 |
Your friend should dissolve the rship 'cos of the AS thiny, if it was only the Rh+ that wouldn't be too much of a problem. This is why i advocate that immediately after meeting a girl and asking for her name the next question if you are AS should be what's your genotype so you shouldn't start something you wouldn't be able to end. SHIKENA. |
| Re: . by iice(f): 8:55am On Oct 04, 2010 |
Please only in fairy tales do the true love thingy 'most people' believe what it is, happens. But then in fairy tales, the people are perfect. Love is just a word. People give it life, love embodies peoples' characteristics. To love doesn't make you impractical and dense. You weigh the pros and cons and decide with what you can live with. I've known people whose wives can't have kids but they chose to stick by their wives. They are giving up the possibility of having kids with her and the idea of kids with someone else seems like a betrayal but it's a choice they are prepared to make and live with. If only more people actually think as opposed to meandering about. . .*sighs* If he leaves her, it doesn't mean he doesn't love her any less. He loves her but he loves to have natural children too. He loves her enough to let her find someone who will give her children. If he stays with her, he should be sure it's what he wants. . .sound decision = less mistake. Because humans have a thing for validating themselves with flimsy reasons conveniently forgetting their own participation to the problem. |
| Re: . by sohiemi(m): 10:17am On Oct 04, 2010 |
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| Re: . by henryhemon(m): 10:32am On Oct 04, 2010 |
Its crazy that people say there's no such thing as love, the truth is there's love n luv is simple but we humans are complicated n that's y luv seems complicated too. HE should follow his heart. |
| Re: . by iice(f): 10:57am On Oct 04, 2010 |
s.ohiemi: Lol, i rarely do speeches but thanks too. Just tell him to be absolutely certain of his decision. Right now, breaking up will hurt bad but for what he wants in the future, if he stays with her, it will cause further damage if he cannot abide by what he settled for. |
| Re: . by sohiemi(m): 11:15am On Oct 04, 2010 |
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| Re: . by iice(f): 11:42am On Oct 04, 2010 |
me? I'm a logical/practical person. So despite turbulent and trying emotional times, i'm still mental. Collect the ring back? I suppose it means something to most women, but not me. |
| Re: . by sohiemi(m): 11:58am On Oct 04, 2010 |
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| Re: . by Ladyjide(f): 12:06pm On Oct 04, 2010 |
Sometimes you can love someone so much that you just need to let them go. In this case I believe that this is the case, both of them will not fully be happy if they decide to stay together. I am sure they are both miserable these days, staying with each other , with this thing over their head. It does not mean they love each other any less, or care about each other any less if they were to call it off. Bottom line your friend needs to make up his mind, on what is most important to him, and not let any other factor come in to play with that. |
| Re: . by Omolola1(f): 12:07pm On Oct 04, 2010 |
Love exists but its wicked |
| Re: . by iice(f): 12:07pm On Oct 04, 2010 |
@s.ohiemi Finding a potential hubby and getting a ring doesn't equal a happy, satisfied life. But to each his abi her own |
| Re: . by sohiemi(m): 12:12pm On Oct 04, 2010 |
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| Re: . by iice(f): 12:34pm On Oct 04, 2010 |
Lol. . .if he erupts, duck and roll. . .you'll be fine. |
| Re: . by sohiemi(m): 12:42pm On Oct 04, 2010 |
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| Re: . by sansiro: 2:18pm On Oct 04, 2010 |
quit the relationship, n move on with life, don't take the risk, lol |
| Re: . by freedomfro(f): 2:23pm On Oct 04, 2010 |
@s.ohiemi: Yes. Im very passionate about it. My companion is Nigerian, so he should be willing to meet me halfway on some things. (although we do plan to start a family one day). Some of his cultural beliefs I don't agree with, such as, he told me of how they believe anyone can spank your children. (the concept of it takes a village to raise a child) I disagree with that but I see how it could be effective so I'd be willing to get an understanding, but only with his NIgerian friends and familly because Americans take it too far. |
| Re: . by kolaoloye(m): 2:29pm On Oct 04, 2010 |
Omolola1:Love is a sacrifice.Thank God for adoption. They can marry each other without having their own biological children. |
| Re: . by sohiemi(m): 3:37pm On Oct 04, 2010 |
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| Re: . by tolufaithO(f): 3:44pm On Oct 04, 2010 |
@ poster, advice ur frd not to go ahead wit d marriage, he shud consider their future children. they are the one to suffer to consequence and the couple will end up hating each other |
| Re: . by abrahym(m): 6:54pm On Oct 04, 2010 |
I only know about true lust |
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