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Re: He Abandoned Me With Pregnancy.Please Where Can I Report Him For Child Support? by yeyeosoronga: 5:51pm On Jun 18, 2019 |
ornicus: But having sex without a condom or if the condom bursts has consequences. You can't tell me you dont want children and then dont have a vasectomy or wear protection during sex. Or how do you think babies are made? It's a big boy decision to have sex without a condom, and of course has big boy aftermath. He needs to sort it out equally as a big boy, and put on his big boy pants. No need to whine about how you don't want children, as excuses don't win wars. A child , your child (not you literally of course) is on the way, and its needs are paramount at this junction. If you bring forth a child into this world, pls sort out your child and don't saddle the society with your foolishness. We have enough to deal with as a nation and we shouldn't be adding irresponsible parents into the mix. 4 Likes |
Re: He Abandoned Me With Pregnancy.Please Where Can I Report Him For Child Support? by Omoluabi16(m): 5:53pm On Jun 18, 2019 |
Ishilove:I can shag a thousand ladies and worry only about STDs, whereas ladies have the added burden of unwanted pregnancies. Our bodies were designed that way. Male-donor Woman- carrier. I'm all for child support if there is a relationship between both parties, and I could care less about contraceptives if na hit and go. 1 Like |
Re: He Abandoned Me With Pregnancy.Please Where Can I Report Him For Child Support? by Deepfeel(m): 5:59pm On Jun 18, 2019 |
LilMissFavvy:Am not denying that fact though its the right thing for any responsible man to do, but forcing a man to love a child he doesn't want might affect the child it's better for the child not the know his or her father in most cases 1 Like |
Re: He Abandoned Me With Pregnancy.Please Where Can I Report Him For Child Support? by Omoluabi16(m): 6:00pm On Jun 18, 2019 |
Defenderalert:Well well whatever you say. 1 Like |
Re: He Abandoned Me With Pregnancy.Please Where Can I Report Him For Child Support? by Nobody: 6:36pm On Jun 18, 2019 |
Still regarding choices we make. As some of us said that as soon as the man straf without CD, he has no choice again to choose whether to involve himself or not if his action results in pregnancy. Now a scenario arises whereby a married man give a single lady belle and want the said lady to give birth as he is ready to take care of them 100%. Now, if the lady said no, as she dont wanna give birth as a single woman or have a child for a married man or even don't want anything to connect her with the man since they were just having fun and shit happened. My question is this; as in this case,the man don't have a choice anymore even though he don't want the pregnancy, do the lady here have any choice? Afterall it takes two to tango and the man is ready to take full responsibility. If the lady decides to abort irrespective of however the man pleads, can we say that the lady is heartless? 3 Likes |
Re: He Abandoned Me With Pregnancy.Please Where Can I Report Him For Child Support? by Holycity(f): 7:01pm On Jun 18, 2019 |
most ladies here are supporting her I don't know why but dragging a guy was not even in relationships with you is wrong first he is not convinced that the baby she is carrying is he's... I could say for sure that she is a Gold digger and someone who desperate for marriage she saw the guy as potential husband material I could also say they never dated. he was not her boyfriend if he was she would av know he was married except she was too dump to notice it, beside people can talk, she would have heard it somewhere she dont know any member of his family or where he's from or even his friends which also mean he was not her boyfriend if he was her boyfriend the story would have be different even the guy parent would have taken responsibility if he's refusing knowing you were his girl now she met him 40 not married, and no serious relationship and maybe saw on facebook where he is working and wanted to key it... his live-in girl left him, she was happy and maybe thought that the guy sent the lady away because of her. so she decided to have a baby for him since he has not been married and doesn't have any children..... she had 101 chance not to get pregnant first the guy did not rape her which means she should av insisted on "NO SEX WITHOUT CONDOM" if she say that maybe the guy would have look for condoms or there will be no sex. secondly she said the guy gave her 2k, if she did not want the pregnancy morning after pills is #100 over the counter thirdly when she discovered she was pregnant maybe in weeks time or probably a month she would have gotten rid of it with pills over the counter at that time the child is not form yet she knows about all this things that am saying because if this is her first pregnancy then she has been doing one or more of the above listed to keep herself from unwanted pregnancy but this time she didn't do anything because she wanted the baby.... am also fixing myself in the guy shoes, the guy don't want the baby maybe because it was a one night stand and he thinks the baby may not be his.... all of you that are saying he should take responsibility of the child. if a notorious girl in your street cums out to tell you that your brother is responsible for her pregnancy will you believe... no right judge for yourself 9 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: He Abandoned Me With Pregnancy.Please Where Can I Report Him For Child Support? by Ishilove: 7:30pm On Jun 18, 2019 |
Omoluabi16:So if the hit and go results in a pregnancy, what happens? |
Re: He Abandoned Me With Pregnancy.Please Where Can I Report Him For Child Support? by armyofone(m): 7:39pm On Jun 18, 2019 |
I think it is best to make that choice right before insertion. Hey grab the condom or none! After that act, we should take responsibility of our action. If the guy doesn't want responsibility, then the woman should step up and take care of her child by herself. It won't be easy but doable. I know they don't come with the tag "married " on their forehead but ladies should not be in a hurry let anyone lay them unprotected. sassysure: 4 Likes |
Re: He Abandoned Me With Pregnancy.Please Where Can I Report Him For Child Support? by crackhaus: 7:44pm On Jun 18, 2019 |
liberalchick:You're just repeating what everyone else has been saying and it still dumbs down to the same point. You can't force someone to undergo a medical procedure they don't want, but you can force someone to part with money which they don't want to... Clap for yourself for making a ton of sense. 3 Likes |
Re: He Abandoned Me With Pregnancy.Please Where Can I Report Him For Child Support? by crackhaus: 7:48pm On Jun 18, 2019 |
liberalchick:It's his money and his right to do what he wants with it, and I myself don't know why this concept is too difficult for you to grasp. You see I can go on and on, because every time any of you types something thinking it validates your opinion, you still leave universe-sized holes that expose the flawed thinking. 2 Likes |
Re: He Abandoned Me With Pregnancy.Please Where Can I Report Him For Child Support? by crackhaus: 7:57pm On Jun 18, 2019 |
sassysure:Believe me, never in the history of humanity has the critical thinkers ever had popular support. Basic linear non-strategic thinking is the norm, so I keep laughing at the unending mentions being thrown in my direction, all of which are adding nothing new to what has already been said. Indeed, the Greek concept of Oedipus Rex is something not a lot of people are familiar with - Projecting outward that which should have been projected inward. The story goes that Oedipus gouged his own eyes out for misdirecting his gaze outwards instead of inwards, this was after he finally realized that everything that had happened to him was a direct result of his own decisions and nothing else. Making someone else responsible for one's own decison. It's just laughable, both in form and in substance. 5 Likes |
Re: He Abandoned Me With Pregnancy.Please Where Can I Report Him For Child Support? by Nobody: 7:57pm On Jun 18, 2019 |
armyofone:Thank u |
Re: He Abandoned Me With Pregnancy.Please Where Can I Report Him For Child Support? by Nobody: 8:04pm On Jun 18, 2019 |
crackhaus: The thing is when women see woman, sex and pregnancy, we usually allow emotions to cloud our judgement. Not forgeting that aside rape, sex is consensual. Assuming it was a one night stand and all man to ur tent but the man later got a deadly std from the woman because he didn't use protection. His cross. Thats his punishment for going raw. All our actions have consequences. We live with them. 2 Likes |
Re: He Abandoned Me With Pregnancy.Please Where Can I Report Him For Child Support? by crackhaus: 8:13pm On Jun 18, 2019 |
sassysure:No oo, that man ought to solicit her moral & financial support for the treatment of the STD. First, for not disclosing her health status before the act, and second, for not making sure she insisted on protection knowing that without protection, her infection will be passed, she is liable to accepting responsibility. This is exactly the kind of thinking being peddled around. I can't 4 Likes |
Re: He Abandoned Me With Pregnancy.Please Where Can I Report Him For Child Support? by liberalchick(f): 8:17pm On Jun 18, 2019 |
Unfortunately he lost that right when he actively participated in creating a child. The law, which thankfully Lagos State government enforces, says every child has the right to maintenance by their parents in accordance to their means. Essentially, if he earns a paycheck, he is required to set aside some for his child. You can bury your head in the sand but a child being brought into the world isn’t the sole responsibility of a woman. You can’t just make a choice and decide you don’t like the outcome and force someone to correct your errors, that’s not how the world works. crackhaus: 6 Likes |
Re: He Abandoned Me With Pregnancy.Please Where Can I Report Him For Child Support? by liberalchick(f): 8:30pm On Jun 18, 2019 |
Again, read my post above, yes the law is/can force him to part with his money to maintain the child he created. The child has the right to it, the child did not ask to be made. You are right, at this point I am just repeating what everyone else has said, if you still believe a man should run away from his responsibilities, if you are comparing money to someone’s body and potential risk to life, then I have nothing else to say. If you believe that a man can actively participate in creating a child (consensual unprotected sex) and if he doesn’t like the outcome of said choice (pregnancy) then he should force/make someone else erase his error and absolve him of any responsibilities (abortion) then I am glad I am not making sense. crackhaus: 6 Likes |
Re: He Abandoned Me With Pregnancy.Please Where Can I Report Him For Child Support? by crackhaus: 8:35pm On Jun 18, 2019 |
liberalchick:No it works in reverse by forcing some people to part with their income. 3 Likes |
Re: He Abandoned Me With Pregnancy.Please Where Can I Report Him For Child Support? by UjuJoan2: 8:37pm On Jun 18, 2019 |
crackhaus: 1. It is an analogy because you were using that example to compare this scenario . . . 2. So that's your defense? The same old 'men will always be men'. Kind of redundant, isn't it? 3. He decided to be a father when he slept with her without protection. He is NOT allowed to change his mind half way. It makes complete sense to me, I don't know why it doesn't to you . . 4. What happens with a rapist happened without her consent. She had no chance to weigh her options and decide if getting pregnant was a 'risk' she was willing to take. She had no feelings for him and did not imagine a future with him. If for some far-fetched reason she decides not to get treatment and get pregnant in the process, and decides to keep it, (again, far-fetched), don't you think she will be more concerned about him paying for his crime than hassling him for child support? And in any case, if she could prove that the pregnancy was his she will be entitled to child care by him, rape or not. And yes, she is saying some nasty things about the man NOW because she is hurt and emotional, clearly she didn't feel that way when she was sleeping with him . . . when she chose to be with him. Again, you cannot make an implicit choice, and then change your mind halfway. It doesn't work like that. We are all responsible for our choices and when he slept with her without discussing birth control, he chose to be a FATHER. 4. Finally every choice has a morality clause, and the world is struggling with that now. Same problem with legalizing abortion or not, and forcing women to have disabled children . . . but those decisions are grey areas and 'the society' is still trying to figure it out. But this scenario is clear cut . . . you have sex without birth control and impregnate a woman, you deal with the consequences of your actions. I may not be a Doctor, but I'm a mom. And the thought of aborting a perfectly healthy baby is repulsing to me. Believe me, I know! 3 Likes |
Re: He Abandoned Me With Pregnancy.Please Where Can I Report Him For Child Support? by crackhaus: 8:41pm On Jun 18, 2019 |
liberalchick:You keep saying the law, the law, the law.. Was the law written by celestial beings or humans with the same distorted concept of delegating outcomes to choices? The most important law that was set by the creator who said a man and a woman should only have sex when they are legally married became too stvpid to adhere to. Man thought himself wiser and acted disobediently, then began creating laws to mitigate the outcomes of bad choices. Las las we will be alright 3 Likes |
Re: He Abandoned Me With Pregnancy.Please Where Can I Report Him For Child Support? by crackhaus: 8:43pm On Jun 18, 2019 |
UjuJoan2: 1 Like |
Re: He Abandoned Me With Pregnancy.Please Where Can I Report Him For Child Support? by UjuJoan2: 8:45pm On Jun 18, 2019 |
crackhaus: I had a really looooong day and can't engage, (and i know you can argue for Africa ) but I believe I've been clear enough. I just worry about you and all the others trying desperately to provide an escape for this man and absolve him, while insisting the woman should have known better. If this is what we will raise our sons to be, then I worry about our future and those of our children. Have a good evening Sir 3 Likes |
Re: He Abandoned Me With Pregnancy.Please Where Can I Report Him For Child Support? by UjuJoan2: 8:55pm On Jun 18, 2019 |
crackhaus: Aha, so you even know this eh! I think you just enjoy mischief, it's clear you know what is right and wrong. Don't know why you keep defending wrong We have impressionable young children on this forum, try to show good example. There's no need trying to prove a needless point 1 Like |
Re: He Abandoned Me With Pregnancy.Please Where Can I Report Him For Child Support? by crackhaus: 8:57pm On Jun 18, 2019 |
UjuJoan2:Lol, why are you patronizing me? 2 Likes |
Re: He Abandoned Me With Pregnancy.Please Where Can I Report Him For Child Support? by crackhaus: 8:58pm On Jun 18, 2019 |
UjuJoan2:Have a good evening yourself ma'am. 3 Likes |
Re: He Abandoned Me With Pregnancy.Please Where Can I Report Him For Child Support? by UjuJoan2: 8:59pm On Jun 18, 2019 |
crackhaus: Lol . . . 1 Like |
Re: He Abandoned Me With Pregnancy.Please Where Can I Report Him For Child Support? by Nobody: 9:01pm On Jun 18, 2019 |
KingSatan: One of those times you speak like humans is this. I wonder why you most of the times pretend to be wicked. 1 Like |
Re: He Abandoned Me With Pregnancy.Please Where Can I Report Him For Child Support? by oweniwe(m): 11:32pm On Jun 18, 2019 |
Ishilove: The man is not her friend, lover, friends with benefits, boyfriend... He is not her fiancee ... Just fling sex. A woman's poosie is like a motor car... Some cars are private, some for office use only, some for uber, taxi... The woman is the driver The o.p was using her poosie to do uber/taxi If taxi carry passenger and passenger no pay, the taxi driver have right to hold on and harrass the passenger until he pays But in this case, the taxi driver admitted the passenger paid her N2,000 Now after she carried the passenger, passenger paid, she drove off and left, her car engine got knocked... She is now saying the last passenger she carried is responsible for her car's knocked engine and he should pay for another engine. How is it the passenger's responsibility? If the pusszy were a private car or company car, or a friend borrowed it... and the engine knock/the lady gets pregnant... Okay, busband, Oga or the friend should take responsibility for fixing engine. But for a pusszy used as uber/taxi... And the engine knock/the woman get pregnant... If the passenger voluntarily decides to be a party to repairing the engine, fine.... Otherwise, the Knock engine does not concern the passenger Cc: ibkayee , ahnie , Holycity , UjuJoan2 2 Likes |
Re: He Abandoned Me With Pregnancy.Please Where Can I Report Him For Child Support? by ahnie: 11:39pm On Jun 18, 2019 |
oweniwe:The number you've called z currently switched off please try again later...tenkuy |
Re: He Abandoned Me With Pregnancy.Please Where Can I Report Him For Child Support? by oweniwe(m): 11:43pm On Jun 18, 2019 |
ahnie: Make i switch off too. Goodnight 1 Like |
Re: He Abandoned Me With Pregnancy.Please Where Can I Report Him For Child Support? by Nobody: 12:07am On Jun 19, 2019 |
Mamatoppy:Keep decieving yourself! Use the money and train your bastard baby and stop seeking for attention and pity. Everyone can be a millionaire online. I know you are frustrated right now but it's a phase. You are so dumb. What has he being married, got to do with me calling you an "abandoned gold-digger"? Let me school you. A female gold digger can do either a single man or married man. I bet you didn't know that. I can see why he dumped your dumb unintelligible stupid ass. When the baby grows up and asks for the daddy, tell him/her the truth "Your daddy is a responsible man but I was a dumb gold-digger". Always use condoms to avoid this kind of mess. Wishing you a safe delivery!! You know I care Peace! Holycity: Wow! I'm impressed with the way you think. 3 Likes |
Re: He Abandoned Me With Pregnancy.Please Where Can I Report Him For Child Support? by ahnie: 12:31am On Jun 19, 2019 |
oweniwe:so hailing insomnia... lolz this your analysis eeh...afar have they settled? |
Re: He Abandoned Me With Pregnancy.Please Where Can I Report Him For Child Support? by IjebuWarrior: 12:50am On Jun 19, 2019 |
Mamatoppy: Aunty, na wah for you ooo. You wonder why the guy japa? Not far fetched! |
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