Land Issue Between Me And My Dad by Nobody: 6:18pm On Jul 01, 2019 |
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Re: Land Issue Between Me And My Dad by Realist5: 6:21pm On Jul 01, 2019 |
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Re: Land Issue Between Me And My Dad by StPete: 6:25pm On Jul 01, 2019 |
Aren’t you the owner of your own land? What’s his controlling issues with you? You already have a written agreement with the buyer which you must honour. Unless your dad owns or partly owns a part of the land originally, I will advise you to proceed with the sales. Remember someone else may do same thing to you. 3 Likes |
Re: Land Issue Between Me And My Dad by ahnie: 6:29pm On Jul 01, 2019 |
Stick to the first agreed terms.. Your kind of papa seff |
Re: Land Issue Between Me And My Dad by Pavore9: 7:00pm On Jul 01, 2019 |
When fathers or mothers refuse to acknowledge their children have become adults, they feel they are entitled to control their lives Parents can always advice but not control their adult children who have their own lives to live.
Fulfil the agreement you had regarding the land, get the balance and move on. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Land Issue Between Me And My Dad by Amuocha: 7:22pm On Jul 01, 2019 |
But where is lalasticlala sef |
Re: Land Issue Between Me And My Dad by sisisioge: 8:09pm On Jul 01, 2019 |
The story is quite confusing?
If the land is indeed yours then go ahead and do as you please with it. Your dad shouldn't have to be defining what to do with it. By the way, act quickly before the buyer gets weary of the whole thing and gets you arrested. |
Re: Land Issue Between Me And My Dad by IamSoProlific: 8:24pm On Jul 01, 2019 |
YoungFr: Good evening Nairalanders, please read and advice me on what to do without minding the errors
Some months ago I made a post here https://www.nairaland.com/4676286/im-big-mess-please-advice. After going through all the advice I decided tell my girlfriend (who's now my wife). When I told her everything that happened she gave me just one condition and the condition was that I pay her bride price because we were not legally married before the incident or she will leave with our daughter who's just a year plus.
When I was preparing for the marriage my dad made me go through hell all because he doesn't like my wife (who's an Esan girl) like the other girl who was pregnant for me(Urhobo girl). I did all the marriage arrangements myself without the help or assistance from my dad, on the day of the marriage I provided vehicle for him and his meeting people, the food and all the refreshments. All he was saying is that I have changed since I started dating my wife. I told him things for rough for me but he never believed me.
This is the same person who told me he need a bus of 1.1m for public transport and I gave him 950k, I paid rent his rents numbers of time and even gave him 20k for his meeting for straight five months when he said things was rough for him.
After my marriage I decided to sell my plot of land with foundation on it cos I wanted to get another land in an unknown location to my dad and also pay off some debts. When he found out I wanted to sell the land he said I have no right to sell my own land, saying moreover the price I gave the buyer was too cheap for the land. But before he founds out I already collected 450k from the agent who refereed the buyer to me. Now my dad said he wants to return the 450k and get the paper of the land back, I told him to go ahead cos I know he doesn't have the money and I pulled myself out from the land issue.
My problem now is that the person who gave me the money is on my neck, she called today saying I should come get the balance money. I told her to meet my dad cos I already pulled myself out. Although I and the woman wrote and sign a piece of paper saying I have agreed to sell the land 1m which I have been paid 450k and the paper will be transfer to the buyer on completion of the 1m.
Please advice me on what to do, should I pull myself out and never get myself involved, can I get back the land or I should let go of the land to my dad.
Note: I'm the sixth child, third son of nine children.
Modified: One of the reason I didn't tell him about selling of the land was his attitude during my marriage, his lack of understanding and him pointing fingers at my wife.
Lalasticlala seun please help move this to front page for advice. Thanks All this issue on you alone There's something you're not telling us, how did you get the money to do all those stuffs all by yourself, even paid unwarranted 20k for this cruel time. The truth shall set you free, but it will first piss you off. Be honest bro, are you a yahooboy |
Re: Land Issue Between Me And My Dad by ZIMDRILL(m): 8:44pm On Jul 01, 2019 |
YoungFr: Good evening Nairalanders, please read and advice me on what to do without minding the errors
Some months ago I made a post here https://www.nairaland.com/4676286/im-big-mess-please-advice. After going through all the advice I decided tell my girlfriend (who's now my wife). When I told her everything that happened she gave me just one condition and the condition was that I pay her bride price because we were not legally married before the incident or she will leave with our daughter who's just a year plus.
When I was preparing for the marriage my dad made me go through hell all because he doesn't like my wife (who's an Esan girl) like the other girl who was pregnant for me(Urhobo girl). I did all the marriage arrangements myself without the help or assistance from my dad, on the day of the marriage I provided vehicle for him and his meeting people, the food and all the refreshments. All he was saying is that I have changed since I started dating my wife. I told him things for rough for me but he never believed me.
This is the same person who told me he need a bus of 1.1m for public transport and I gave him 950k, I paid rent his rents numbers of time and even gave him 20k for his meeting for straight five months when he said things was rough for him.
After my marriage I decided to sell my plot of land with foundation on it cos I wanted to get another land in an unknown location to my dad and also pay off some debts. When he found out I wanted to sell the land he said I have no right to sell my own land, saying moreover the price I gave the buyer was too cheap for the land. But before he founds out I already collected 450k from the agent who refereed the buyer to me. Now my dad said he wants to return the 450k and get the paper of the land back, I told him to go ahead cos I know he doesn't have the money and I pulled myself out from the land issue.
My problem now is that the person who gave me the money is on my neck, she called today saying I should come get the balance money. I told her to meet my dad cos I already pulled myself out. Although I and the woman wrote and sign a piece of paper saying I have agreed to sell the land 1m which I have been paid 450k and the paper will be transfer to the buyer on completion of the 1m.
Please advice me on what to do, should I pull myself out and never get myself involved, can I get back the land or I should let go of the land to my dad.
Note: I'm the sixth child, third son of nine children.
Modified: One of the reason I didn't tell him about selling of the land was his attitude during my marriage, his lack of understanding and him pointing fingers at my wife.
Lalasticlala seun please help move this to front page for advice. Thanks i will go straight to the point the issue is about land but you gave us the story about marriage etc which has nothing to do with land back to the land issue you didnt tell us who owns the land you or your father or both off you we can not give advise when we dont know who really owns the land |
Re: Land Issue Between Me And My Dad by Nobody: 8:52pm On Jul 01, 2019 |
ZIMDRILL:
i will go straight to the point
the issue is about land but you gave us the story about marriage etc which has nothing to do with land
back to the land issue you didnt tell us who owns the land you or your father or both off you
we can not give advise when we dont know who really owns the land I started with the issues of marriage cos it all started during and after my marriage, people may asked why I didn't tell him before putting it up for sales. I owe the land not my dad |
Re: Land Issue Between Me And My Dad by Nobody: 8:52pm On Jul 01, 2019 |
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Re: Land Issue Between Me And My Dad by mankettle(m): 9:10pm On Jul 01, 2019 |
he be like say na ur papa get the land? if not what is his business on how u take care of your property. however I will understand if his reservation is that u are selling your assets, in that case ensure u let him know that you are getting another immediately. apart from that, he can only advise and not insist. |
Re: Land Issue Between Me And My Dad by Nobody: 9:30pm On Jul 01, 2019 |
mankettle: he be like say na ur papa get the land? if not what is his business on how u take care of your property. however I will understand if his reservation is that u are selling your assets, in that case ensure u let him know that you are getting another immediately. apart from that, he can only advise and not insist. I don't want him to know I'm getting another cos that will make him think things are ok for me. His level of demanding nor be here |
Re: Land Issue Between Me And My Dad by IamSoProlific: 9:39pm On Jul 01, 2019 |
YoungFr:
No sir, can you now advice me on what to do I'm pretty sure you have uncles who are his brothers, go see them, explain stuffs to them in greater detail. Suggest they hold a meeting for the two of you(you're old enough to address and call your dad to order respectfully, even to summon him for a meeting if need be-and this is the need) but let his brothers (your uncles) do that, with you in attendance. Get his friend(s) whom he holds in high esteem to be in attendance too possibly your religious leader(if he's closer to one-only those he's in good relationship with. As simple as ABC. Even if he's iron man with no heart, his head go cool down. Thank me later!!! |
Re: Land Issue Between Me And My Dad by mankettle(m): 9:40pm On Jul 01, 2019 |
YoungFr:
I don't want him to know I'm getting another cos that will make him think things are ok for me. His level of demanding nor be here hmm. then scope him. just tell him you are getting one, and when he asks say something pressing came up. |
Re: Land Issue Between Me And My Dad by Nobody: 9:58pm On Jul 01, 2019 |
IamSoProlific:
I'm pretty sure you have uncles who are his brothers, go see them, explain stuffs to them in greater detail. Suggest they hold a meeting for the two of you(you're old enough to address and call your dad to order respectfully, even to summon him for a meeting if need be-and this is the need) but let his brothers (your uncles) do that, with you in attendance. Get his friend(s) whom he holds in high esteem to be in attendance too possibly your religious leader(if he's closer to one-only those he's in good relationship with.
As simple as ABC. Even if he's iron man with no heart, his head go cool down.
Thank me later!!! My uncle who is my dad eldest brother knows about his attitude during my marriage ceremony, my dad even made a statement on the day of my marriage saying "because you don get small money you think say u go fit control me or tell me what to do". His brother my uncle was surprise but said nothing to my dad, he only calm me down not to react |
Re: Land Issue Between Me And My Dad by IamSoProlific: 10:12pm On Jul 01, 2019 |
YoungFr:
My uncle who is my dad eldest brother knows about his attitude during my marriage ceremony, my dad even made a statement on the day of my marriage saying "because you don get small money you think say u go fit control me or tell me what to do". His brother my uncle was surprise but said nothing to my dad, he only calm me down not to react Your pman na balotelli oooo. Still meet the brother and his friends, religious leaders inclusive. No man is an island, not even your dad. Your uncle is probably waiting for your approach. So approach and reason him for a meeting. |
Re: Land Issue Between Me And My Dad by ZIMDRILL(m): 11:40pm On Jul 01, 2019 |
YoungFr:
I started with the issues of marriage cos it all started during and after my marriage, people may asked why I didn't tell him before putting it up for sales. I owe the land not my dad by law your father has no right to tell you want to with your property aka your land in this case as a father he can advise you what to do but the decision can always be yours but also some people do what parents say just a sign of respect but sometimes respect dont pay bills or give you more money the decision is yours on your land, you either follow what your father says as a sign of respect or your stand by the right being the land owner and you can sell to anyone 1 Like |