hi nairaland my younger sister called yesterday and told me that his husband said they should start an open marriage,she later ask him why he wanted them to start ,and that she hasn,t done anything wrong ,but the guy said she shouldn,t worry that she still love her ,so he made examples of those who have started it ,and still love themselves like will smith & jada etc. she a bit confuse pls Nairaland help her out

An open marriage in that they sleep with other people right?

Then that's not marriage which is a scared union but something else.

For me I think the husband is being greedy and wants to"legitimize" his escapades in his wife's eyes.

Nobody changes after marriage, he has always been like that and she married him.

She now has to make a decision on how best to live with it. Or not.

Tufiakwa!i don't share my toto.

chelsea4su:

hi nairaland my younger sister called yesterday and told me that his husband said they should start an open marriage,she later ask him why he wanted them to start ,and that she hasn,t done anything wrong ,but the guy said she shouldn,t worry that she still love her ,so he made examples of those who have started it ,and still love themselves like will smith & jada etc. she a bit confuse pls Nairaland help her out

Are they in Nigeria? Is her husband white? If they are here in naija then the guy just wants space. Considering your post above, if your sister speaks like you I would not blame him.

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^^^na lie he just wants to have his cake and eat it. Many guys are cheating on thier wives and girlfriends when it would be better to at least be honest & ask for an open relationship.

open marriage =tufikwa+ annulment


its kind of sad that he would suggest such because even if she doesnt agree the dude might even see it as reason enough to cheat or even start cheating

johndoe200:

Are they in Nigeria? Is her husband white? If they are here in naija then the guy just wants space. Considering your post above, if your sister speaks like you I would not blame him.

They are in Nija both are yorubas.

One word: incompatibility.

Plan for divorce,

chelsea4su:

hi nairaland my younger sister called yesterday and told me that his husband said they should start an open marriage,she later ask him why he wanted them to start ,and that she hasn,t done anything wrong ,but the guy said she shouldn,t worry that she still love her ,so he made examples of those who have started it ,and still love themselves like will smith & jada etc. she a bit confuse pls Nairaland help her out

wonders shall never END!!! .

no1madman:


Tufiakwa!i don't share my toto.

Am short of words!!!

It's I'm short for words.

2-hour . . . .Romantic helicopter tour of Miami city for 2.

Valentine's day is coming up.
I am not gonna spend it with the husband for sure. I now know why NIGERIAN married men NEVER travel with their wives and children for ANY vacation! BORRRRRRRRRRRRRRING SHYTE! Thanks to OPEN MARRIAGES! I am going away with my boyfriend. . .while the husband spends time with his girlfriend!


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JnZT19OeFvA


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0Ep3Y2tv4eo

DESTINATION: THE HILTON-BENTLEY MIAMI. . .SOUTH BEACH, FLORIDA!!! FOR A WHOOOOOOOOOOOOOOLE WEEK!!!

Inn-res-ting
Never thought about it but i know a happy couple in an open marriage I dont have that type of emotional strength cos it takes alot of strength and maturity to live that way,happily.Its not even an Option for me.All or nothing here

Yup! It takes SHEER GUTS!
Not for 'I go cherish and hold' kinda peeps!
When your husband becomes your brother. . .it is time for an 'OPEN MARRIAGE'! We can re-connect in 'old age'!

Some of us live in a man's world of course. . . but we act more MANLY than MOST MEN!
Blokos wey I don chop for over 10 years. . . wetin I dey struggle with for dia ah-gheyn?
Mtcheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeew. . .
Not my portion! Ah-miiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiin o!

Thinking of my 'MAIMI DUCK CRUISE' COMING UP!
The joys of H-Opin marriages are numerous and joyous!

Almond De Joy: Valentine's day is coming up.
I am not gonna spend it with the husband for sure. I now know why NIGERIAN married men NEVER travel with their wives and children for ANY vacation! BORRRRRRRRRRRRRRING SHYTE! Thanks to OPEN MARRIAGES! I am going away with my boyfriend. . .while the husband spends time with his girlfriend!


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JnZT19OeFvA


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0Ep3Y2tv4eo

DESTINATION: THE HILTON-BENTLEY MIAMI. . .SOUTH BEACH, FLORIDA!!! FOR A WHOOOOOOOOOOOOOOLE WEEK!!!

Beautiful. . . .

H-ALL EXPENSES PAID!!!

NOTHING LIKE EXPERIENCING A ROMANTIC GETAWAY IN A NICE HOTEL ROOM.



I LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOVE THIS PLACE!!!!!

FORGOT TO H-ADD THE MIAMI DUCK TOUR FOR MY OPEN MARRIAGE GET AWAY FOR VALENTINE'S WEEK!

This my new married hunk ehn? His pocket is bottomless. . .Too bad, I can't marry him. Never say never. It took 25 years of his persistence to get me to his bed. . . NEVER SAY NEVER. . . as the saying goes. Make we dey look! I am loving it so far!!!! My brothers are mortified!!!!


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GIsJW7eO_vo

Don't ask me why I am booking a 'romantic air tour' over Miami with a Nigerian dude who is almost 60!


I just hope he does not shyte all over the damn 'copter! Naaaaaaaaaaaaah. . . the way he moves on the bed. . . NOT A CHANCE! Too physically-fit and agile for such an occurence.







PRICE TAG. . . .$400

"OPEN" Married life is sweeeeeeeeeeeet I tellya!
This is the time I live my life without HUSBAND AND CHILDREN WAHALA. I dey h-enjoy my life gaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaan!!!!!

An open mariage is adultery,simple! I am sure your sister did not sign up for that and in my opinion she should not accept that idea because it always ends in destruction, believe it or not! !.

Jellitah: "OPEN" Married life is sweeeeeeeeeeeet I tellya!
This is the time I live my life without HUSBAND AND CHILDREN WAHALA. I dey h-enjoy my life gaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaan!!!!!

Is your boyfriend married?

Dear OP. . . I am a perfect example of a very HAPPY OPEN MARRIAGE. . . .
E badu belle and e jolosi. . .NOR QUENCH O!
Tell her to trust him. . . he knows what he is doing.
These are my rules. . .and they are working fine!!!
To have a successfully open marriage, YOU NEED TO THINK LIKE A MAN AND ACT LIKE A MAN. . . don't let STEVE HARVEY fool ya. DO NOT ACT LIKE A LADY!

I stated it here:

https://www.nairaland.com/1181754/what-manner-husband

Jellitah:

[b][size=20pt]Absolutely. . . but he is free to crawl, walk, run or fly at anytime. . . .JUST LIKE I AM!
I believe in OPEN-MARRIAGES!. . . . ABSOLUTE AND TOTAL PRIVACY AND FREEDOM. . . NO STRESS!!! [/size]

I don't have a husband that stays at home o! HE HAS VERRRRRY ACTIVE SOCIAL LIFE. . .OUTSIDE OF MINE AND VICE VERSA.

We only find it necessary to hook up in our old ages! I am looking forward to it! Till then. . . freeeeeeeeeedom ONLY.

[size=20pt]My formula for a successful marriage is a 10/10/10 rule.[/size]


THE FIRST 10 YEARS TOGETHER. . .IS THE FOUNDATION PROCESS. . . you are together because you just got married TO LOVE AND FIGHT, HAVE YOUR KIDS AND BUILD UP YOUR MATRIMONIAL RESERVES.

THE NEXT 10 YEARS TOGETHER. . . IS THE VALIDATION PROCESS. . .you don't need to be together ALL THE DAMN TIME!Dammit! FREEEEEEEEEEEEEEE TO MINGLE!!! YOU ARE BUILDING A FRIENDSHIP.

THE LAST 10 YEARS. . . IF YOU SURVIVE THE FIRST 20. . . IS THE CALCIFICATION PROCESS. THE MOST JOYOUS AND MOST FULFILLING. . . . NOW YOU KNOW FOR SURE WHY YOU ARE IN LOVE OR HATE!!!![/b]

She may find it hard to reason with him. . .but she needs to listen.

chelsea4su: hi nairaland my younger sister called yesterday and told me that his husband said they should start an open marriage,she later ask him why he wanted them to start ,[size=20pt]and that she hasn,t done anything wrong[/size] ,but the guy said [size=20pt]she shouldn,t worry that she still love her ,so he made examples of those who have started it ,and still love themselves like will smith & jada[/size] etc. she a bit confuse pls Nairaland help her out

No, she hasn't done anything wrong and needs to quit being insecure.
Marriage is one of the MOST BORING EMOTIONAL AND MENTAL INSTITUTES created by MAN AND WOMAN. . . .
If you do NOT find means of coping. . .YOU WILL RUN MAAAAAAAAAAAAAAD!!!
Do not be fooled by novices and 'SINGLES' typing hia and dia about what their JESUS OF NAZARETH NEVER EXPERIENCED OR COULD NOT ACCOMPLISH . . . .IN LIFE OR IN DEATH!

Arrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrgh. . . .THE BOYFRIEND CALLETH!

Nothing do discuss with the HUSBAND. . . .ONLY FILING TAXES AND WHAT WE GONNA DO WITH THE 'RETURNS'! Thank my H-AGNOSTIC GAAAAAAAAAAD I only worked ONE JOB LAST YEAR. . . and I still reached 6 figures! No more 2 jobs. Obama will need to find another way to make his money to feed all the 'baby mommas' and 'unproductive illegal ALIENS' in this my great USA.


Ahem! OP. . . you dey for dia?

NnekaGirl:

Is your boyfriend married?

Yes he is. . .he has 7 children from 4 different women.
A STAUNCH CATHOLIC WHO FREQUENTLY VISITS BABALAWOS TOO!
HE IS AN AFRICAN MAN. . .A NIGERIAN MAN. . . So, what do you expect?
Any further questions?

As I was saying OP. . . Marriage is what you make out of it. . . and there must BE A MEETING OF THE MINDS. Valentine's season is up again. Some choose to spend it with their spouses. . .others like moi. . . HELL NO! It has nothing to do with love or committment. . . I could think of a million other places I could possible be. . .just like he thinks. . . BUT WE TALK EVERY BLESSED DAY AND WE STILL HAVE GREAAAAAAAAAAAT SEX ONLY ONCE IN A BLUE MOON WITH LOTS OF ALCOHOL, when ever we PHOCK!

So here is how I plan to spend my VALENTINE'S WEEK. . . Having fun. . . with the BOYFRIEND INSTEAD!