There is this brotherly friend i h1ad then in school during my National Diploma. we were in the same level but different department.he was in a relationship and i was not. but as a sister and best frnds we confided and trust each other.what i mean is that we have known each other for 3yrs now.After school we went our different ways/ location to hustle life for the best but we communicate once in a while. Now the guy is asking me out for relationship that will lead to marriage.......
please i need a Godly advice ,no insult please because i felt i should not accept since he does'nt have a permanent job that fetches him money on monthly basis i.e he does contract work of wiring,furniture and brick laying.secondly he does not want to further his education instead he wants to go into business i.e his dream is to be an employer of labour not an employee.lastly he do smoke though he is trying to quit.
Now, the other mind is telling me to accept him cos his level might change tomarrow. how long will i wait for him? And i dnt need love to endure, i need love,Godliness and money. pls should i accept him? he is 29yrs and i am 27

Darling everybody in this world has potiential. Every single human being has dreams, but some take action on it, whilst the remaining keep talking for the rest of their lives. Do not make a rash decision by relying strictly on potiential. Is he extremely hard working? Does he have good financial management? Do you see this man actually fulfilling the words that come out of his mouth? Does he have a realistic and fruitful business prospect? Does he save? Does he depend on people, or is he a truly independent man? Be truthful to yourself and don’t waste your time on a dreamer, because you will be the one to regret in the end. Think about it and be smart, for now don’t put your eggs in one basket until you can see this man being the provider and husband you truly desire. He has to prove it to you. You can also use words of encouragement to push him, and see where it goes.

About the smoking, just know that you cant change anyone. He has to be willing to change. He has to acknowledge the implications and health issues that come with smoking. There’s only so much you can do. So if you know it’s a total deal breaker for you, then move on. If you can endure and wait for him to change on his own, then great. Good luck

You seem to have too many 'concerns' already and its not healthy.

Sister time is going, you're 27 year old already, don't listen to the evening newspapers above; Yoruba people will say Aje egbodo n'wa eni kun'ra.


my advice:


give him a chance.


viel Gluck ooooo.

kindly dont date the Brother


cos you will breakup with him if a Better option appears

From what you said, both of you have known each other for three years as casual friends. You never said anything about him having bad character, asides smoking. Not everyone are degree holders, except he wishes to further his education in future. To me there is nothing bad accepting him. Even if he does contract from time to time, if he's smart he can start a side trade or something. But you if you date him, study him more to see if he's ready to be a better person or stop smoking, if he's not, then you'd know what to do.

edydamsel:
There is this brotherly friend i had then in school during my National Diploma. we were in the same level but different department.he was in a relationship and i was not. but as a sister and best frnds we confided and trust each other.what i mean is that we have known each other for 3yrs now.After school we went our different ways/ location to hustle life for the best but we communicate once in a while. Now the guy is asking me out for relationship that will lead to marriage.......
please i need a Godly advice ,no insult please because i felt i should not accept since he does'nt have a permanent job that fetches him money on monthly basis i.e he does contract work of wiring,furniture and brick laying.secondly he does not want to further his education instead he wants to go into business i.e his dream is to be an employer of labour not an employee.lastly he do smoke though he is trying to quit.
Now, the other mind is telling me to accept him cos his level might change tomarrow. how long will i wait for him? And i dnt need love to endure, i need love,Godliness and money. pls should i accept him? he is 29yrs and i am 27

Please take several steps back, you have doubt. You can only fight for what you believe in.

you dont give love a chance

if you like him you give him a chance, watch him and his characters and let love build on his own

it is good to be realistic but then again he is a dreamer, lets be truthful with ourselves, do you see him doing well in the business, what line of business does he want to go to? does he have good skills, advice him to further his education and see his reaction?

do you see any trait of an entrepreneur in him like is he prudent, determined, does he work hard, if he wants to be an employer of labour, he should be starting now or is he waiting for contract because he go wait tire.

FCBboy:
Sister time is going, you're 27 year old already, don't listen to the evening newspapers above; Yoruba people will say Aje egbodo n'wa eni kun'ra.


my advice:


give him a chance..


viel Gluck ooooo.

Entshuldigung, du spichst deutsch?

Omega30:
Entshuldigung, du spichst deutsch?

Bro that's too complex for me.


I really love Deutschland and willing to relocate very soon.


I started learning Deutsch sometimes ago I stopped at the introduction: Guten morgen, guten tag guten abent, Dankechion, viel Gluck, ich bin ----- Lol

FCBboy:
Bro that's too complex for me.


I really love Deutschland and willing to relocate very soon.


I started learning Deutsch sometimes ago I stopped at the introduction: Guten morgen, guten tag guten abent, Dankechion, viel Gluck, ich bin ----- Lol

Dass ist gut. I have a site where I learn for free