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Nairalanderz I Nid Ur Help: by bocajj(m): 3:14pm On Oct 18, 2010
Me and my girlfriend are in d same choir in church. But our musical director is aware of our rlationship. Me,my girl n our md was driving home one faithfull saturday evenin aftr rehearsal,we drop my girlfriend @ her house. on our way my musical director startd tellin me dat he knws bout my affair wit my girl,bt it's ok he said, He evn warned me nt to brk her hrt cos she's lik a daughter 2him. I was nt suprised cos i knw he'll get 2knw som day. immediately i snt a txt 2her statin MD IS AWARE OF OUR AFFAIRS. Only 4her 2 start shoutin @ me dat y did i tel him(MD) she didn't giv m d chance 2 xplain. Since den she's rfused talkin 2 me n pik my cals. PLS PIPS HW DO I HANDLD DIS SITUATION?
Re: Nairalanderz I Nid Ur Help: by jaguar09(m): 3:49pm On Oct 18, 2010
Why u dey run package for church na?    smiley wink cheesy grin

Anyway I advice you try harder to make her listen to you, if she refuses then tell your MD to talk to her to make her understand that you weren't the one that told him about your affair with her. Sure she will come to her senses. But dude if you are not for real with this girl auto-ignore talking to your MD because that would mean more commitment with her as the MD will ensure you guys stick together, before you take that step THINK like a PLAYAR and then as a LOVER BOY at the end make a wise choice which only REAL MEN do (SINCERITY). GOODLUCK DUDE.
Re: Nairalanderz I Nid Ur Help: by ShyOne(f): 5:20pm On Oct 18, 2010
? Why is she upset?
? What is her relationship with the MD?
? Is she afraid that others will find out?

I am unsure as to why she is upset. Are you having sex w/her and she is afraid of discovery? I guess I'm not sure of why she is upset. It seems silly to me, but fear of discovery would be my guesstimate - so if it is fear, my next thought is what area is she fearing and discovery by whom is she fearing?
Re: Nairalanderz I Nid Ur Help: by femmy2010(m): 5:35pm On Oct 18, 2010
Give her some time to relax then go see her and talk to her.
Calling her is not the best way but a face to face thing.
Just hope you would not break her heart sha.
Best of luck.
Re: Nairalanderz I Nid Ur Help: by xynerise: 5:37pm On Oct 18, 2010
How old is she? She likes secret relationship. Just try and talk things to her dumb skull sense. grin
Re: Nairalanderz I Nid Ur Help: by bocajj(m): 7:48pm On Oct 18, 2010
jaguar_09:

Why u dey run package for church na?    smiley wink cheesy grin

Anyway I advice you try harder to make her listen to you, if she refuses then tell your MD to talk to her to make her understand that you weren't the one that told him about your affair with her. Sure she will come to her senses. But dude if you are not for real with this girl auto-ignore talking to your MD because that would mean more commitment with her as the MD will ensure you guys stick together, before you take that step THINK like a PLAYAR and then as a LOVER BOY at the end make a wise choice which only REAL MEN do (SINCERITY). GOODLUCK DUDE.
Tanks bro,i really apprieciate ur contribution,i really luv her n im nt ready to loose her. I'll post wat i hav in mind bout d whole soon.
Re: Nairalanderz I Nid Ur Help: by MurphyG1(m): 8:23pm On Oct 18, 2010
Whats her problem? shocked Send her a text telling her the MD told u she told him abt u guys. Ask her why she's pretending it isnt her who spread the news. She go mellow one time.
Re: Nairalanderz I Nid Ur Help: by Rocktation(f): 8:31pm On Oct 18, 2010
One question- How old is she?
Re: Nairalanderz I Nid Ur Help: by Specialist900(m): 8:36pm On Oct 18, 2010
Them even dey choir dey run package, on sunday them go dey sing for us, MD even dey give consent. God go get cases to judge that day o.
Re: Nairalanderz I Nid Ur Help: by bocajj(m): 4:49am On Oct 19, 2010
xynerise:

How old is she? She likes secret relationship. Just try and talk things to her dumb skull sense. grin
Re: Nairalanderz I Nid Ur Help: by negga4al(m): 7:27am On Oct 19, 2010
Relationships can start from anywhere, however, most times church relationships are always built on secrecy and hiding from one person or the other especially when both of you in the choir are suppose to be an example to all others (members of the church). Talk to her again, if she refuses, then wait, after that ask the MD to talk to her if he claims to be close to her. If there's still no positive response then, call it quit.

For me, I would not have an affair in church, especially when we both know God would not be happy with us. You are in the choir!
Re: Nairalanderz I Nid Ur Help: by member27: 8:10am On Oct 19, 2010
jaguar_09:

Why u dey run package for church na?    smiley wink cheesy grin

grin grin grin grin grin grin grin

@topic

Its all puppy love wink
Re: Nairalanderz I Nid Ur Help: by bocajj(m): 10:33am On Oct 19, 2010
Specialist900:

Them even dey choir dey run package, on sunday them go dey sing for us, MD even dey give consent. God go get cases to judge that day o.

So wat? Mind u my relationship wit her is a Godly one n not a child's play. Im tinkin of takin it 2 nxt level,
Re: Nairalanderz I Nid Ur Help: by Omolola1(f): 10:57am On Oct 19, 2010
Relationship with your choir member?

NA Holy Ghost battle be that cool
Re: Nairalanderz I Nid Ur Help: by Kelvinj(m): 11:02am On Oct 19, 2010
Why is she upset? Does she like secret r/ship? Well just make her understand u didnt tell him
Re: Nairalanderz I Nid Ur Help: by ZIMDRILL(m): 11:10am On Oct 19, 2010
bocajj:

Me and my girlfriend are in d same choir in church. But our musical director is aware of our rlationship. Me,my girl n our md was driving home one faithfull saturday evenin aftr rehearsal,we drop my girlfriend @ her house. on our way my musical director startd tellin me dat he knws bout my affair wit my girl,bt it's ok he said, He evn warned me nt to brk her hrt cos she's lik a daughter 2him. I was nt suprised cos i knw he'll get 2knw som day. immediately i snt a txt 2her statin MD IS AWARE OF OUR AFFAIRS. Only 4her 2 start shoutin @ me dat y did i tel him(MD) she didn't giv m d chance 2 xplain. Since den she's rfused talkin 2 me n pik my cals. PLS PIPS HW DO I HANDLD DIS SITUATION?

i think she is embrassed that now the director now knows is fcking her remember some people in churches want to be seen holy now the director knows and he can think of anything that can happen to dating people sex etc

picture this have you ever thought that your pastor fcks his wife like you do, all those positions etc he does them too, you dont think of it becoz all you see on him is simple holy person becoz you judge him by the way he preaches and the position he has in church

this girl wants to been seen as holy the director but the director knew it i guess he saw it from looks and the way they handle each other

let her cool down then talk to her after she cools
Re: Nairalanderz I Nid Ur Help: by bocajj(m): 11:55am On Oct 19, 2010
negga4al:

Relationships can start from anywhere, however, most times church relationships are always built on secrecy and hiding from one person or the other especially when both of you in the choir are suppose to be an example to all others (members of the church). Talk to her again, if she refuses, then wait, after that ask the MD to talk to her if he claims to be close to her. If there's still no positive response then, call it quit.

For me, I would not have an affair in church, especially when we both know God would not be happy with us. You are in the choir!
God wil only be angry wen im bin deceptive, Jst lik i said earlier my relationship is nt a child's play n it's a Godly one,we've neva had sex n we're 2yr plus.
Re: Nairalanderz I Nid Ur Help: by bocajj(m): 11:57am On Oct 19, 2010
negga4al:

Relationships can start from anywhere, however, most times church relationships are always built on secrecy and hiding from one person or the other especially when both of you in the choir are suppose to be an example to all others (members of the church). Talk to her again, if she refuses, then wait, after that ask the MD to talk to her if he claims to be close to her. If there's still no positive response then, call it quit.

For me, I would not have an affair in church, especially when we both know God would not be happy with us. You are in the choir!
God wil only be angry wen im bin deceptive, Jst lik i said earlier my relationship is nt a child's play n it's a Godly one,we've neva had sex n we're 2yr plus.
Re: Nairalanderz I Nid Ur Help: by bocajj(m): 12:09pm On Oct 19, 2010
Omolola1:

Relationship with your choir member?

NA Holy Ghost battle be that cool

Re: Nairalanderz I Nid Ur Help: by Omolola1(f): 12:14pm On Oct 19, 2010
grin grin grin
Re: Nairalanderz I Nid Ur Help: by bocajj(m): 12:16pm On Oct 19, 2010
Wat's wit d holyghost n my relationship? My friend talk well,
Re: Nairalanderz I Nid Ur Help: by bocajj(m): 12:20pm On Oct 19, 2010
Wat's wit d holyghost battle n my relationship? My friend talk well,
Re: Nairalanderz I Nid Ur Help: by djojo(m): 1:00pm On Oct 19, 2010
@topic, i will advice u to investigate, to my own point of view ur MD may be having an affairs with ur girlfriend which the man is just pretending as if noting is going on btw them maybe that was the reason why ur girl did not want the MD to know anything about ur relationship.
come to think of it, as in if ur girl is old enough to av a boyfriend, then what is she afraid of when u told her that MD as been informed about ur affair.
Re: Nairalanderz I Nid Ur Help: by chizi007: 1:06pm On Oct 19, 2010
let her cooloff for d mean time, then after u talk to her again ad if she is still nt listening to you.it time to take the matter to your MD.gud luck
Re: Nairalanderz I Nid Ur Help: by ShyOne(f): 1:26pm On Oct 19, 2010
Zim Drill is on point = I agree completely with his last statement

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