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How to handle rejection from girls as a young man or boy by Nobody: 6:51am On Aug 07, 2019 |
Note: I am close to 40 years old, married with children. In a lovely and healthy marriage. For those young boys mostly less than 30 years old who are getting alot of rejection from girls, please note it is not a big deal. Alot of men have suffered it. That is why alot of musicians sing about not having a girl when they have nothing. But now they are successful, they have alot of girls fighting to have them. Whether u call the girls materialistic, they are after the man for money and not love, etc doesn't matter. What matter is a man being able to get the woman he wants. Whether the woman is a prostitute, gold digger after his money, a witch etc is meaningless. The only thing that matters is that he gets what he wants. SIMPLE. PERIOD. In most cases (except few exceptions which are too few to be considered important) both the good girl and bad girl are attracted to successful men. So when u are successful u can get the good and the bad. Ending up with a "good girl" is now simply base on your choice of selection. Nothing is as sweet as you being the one to select rather than being in the position of constant rejection by both the good girls and the bad girls. Also understand that as a young upcoming man in the success ladder, u may be having rejection bcoz you are short, or bcoz u are shy, or because u are ugly, or because u dress poorly, or u lack confidence or because of body odour or because of mouth odour or bcoz of nothing at all. Irrespective of the reason, being successful help to reduce the impact of the weakness you may have before both good girl and bad girl. Thus pursuing success should be your priority when facing rejections. And again, from experience with friends and colleague, there are men who are married to "good girls (Sexually moral decent intelligent women who were not sluts or doing runs as single girls )" who are unhappy in the marriage. While there are those who married runs girl who are happy. I cannot say for sure one have a better ratio of happy marriage than the other. Having a successful marriage depends on so many factors just beyond a descent girl vs a gold digger. Some men have married gold digger who actually married them for money and not love and they are happy to the extent even when they go broke the so called gold digger stick with them. While there are those who married a decent girl but when things go bad they stop respecting the man. Sexual morality/ immorality, love for money/contentment are not the only requirement that defines whether a girl will make a good wife or a bad wife. So many other factors come to play. Don't just use only this two factors to decide a good girl vs bad girl. Life is complex. Below is an advice from a nairalander (pansophist) to another (Singleguy9999) passing through alot of rejection at age 22. I totally agree with him. what you are passing through is exactly what most men will surely pass through, its encoded in the sand of time that what makes a man attractive and desired by the opposite sex is about being valuable. Being a man is not valuable, loving her is not valuable, but being a valuable man yourself. Note: This position is true for majority of cases in Nigeria. I am aware there are exception to the rules like successful men who are getting rejected and poor men who are winning alot of girls. Or exception like women who prefer unsuccessful men to successful ones etc. for all issue of life there are exceptions. However, Nobody should be advising anyone base on few exceptions not within anyone's control. Plan your life on what you can control with high probability of occurrence. So if u are getting rejections, just keep trying while at the same time keep working hard towards progress/success in life. Just know u are not alone and you are not the first. Don't get depressed bcoz of it. Just see it as a normal thing many other men face. The fact that a girl agree to date you when u were poor doesn't guarantee you will be happy when you are married to her. neither the fact that you met a girl when u are already successful means you will have unsuccessful marriage. There is no clear formular to a happy marriage. Even those who write best sellers on marriage get divorce . So also are marriage counsellors, pastors etc whose marriage are failing. In summary, no need stressing urself that u must meet your true love when when u don't have much financially. It just doesn't matter when u meet her. |
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