Imessedup:


Thank you

Imessedup:

Bash me, call me names, say anything I deserve it but please if you were in my shoes what would you do. I am scared she might one day leave me. I really need all the advices I can get.

oyoolima:
I think you are worried because you know your wife will leave you at some point in future especially as there is a child in the picture.

Women may say they forgive but they will never forget.It makes me laugh when I see people telling you to enjoy the forgiveness.

All this is still fresh I presume so she probably is still processing and crying herself to sleep. Marriage of under 3 years has already produced illegitimate child and exposed her to possible STI

No matter how much you beat yourself up it won't change anything.

Your wife is the one in pain but you have turned this into a pity fest and made it all about you,what then happens to all her own suffering? She should forget herself and pamper you? Very very selfish human being.You did wrong and you want her to hold your hands while you bawl like a baby.Instead of you to be her rock during this horrendous time you brought on her,she is now forced to manage your emotions.

Your guilt should not be placed on her,it's not her burden to carry,you made a choice .

Just enjoy each day as it comes and expect anything.

The main loser is the poor innocent child,proof and constant reminder of your irresponsibility.

If you both survive this,your lives will never be the same.

Imessedup:
Less than 3 years after my wedding to the only woman I love, the most beautiful, kind hearted, respectful and generally the most amazing woman I've ever known, I had a one night stand that I will regret for the rest of my entire life.

I was at a friends party, drunk 'not trying to justify my stupid infidelity " I had sex with a girl I've known for a while even before I got married and never have in my life had any kind of sexual feelings towards, a girl I had introduced to my friend because I had no interest in her nor cheating on my then girlfriend.

The worst part of the one night stand is, a baby came out of it. I disappointed myself, my family, friends and most importantly my wife. She forgave me, we have been working it out. We have a beautiful family, amazing friendship, the kind everyone far and near us wish for and envy.

To cut the long story short, I am in pain, my conscience is killing me, I am losing weight, I am hurting, I am finding it hard to forgive myself to the point that I am thinking about separation. I am lost, I don't know what to do at this point. I've seen the best therapist and shrink's in San Francisco and nothing gets better. My family love her to death,she is 100% a good wife and mother.

Bash me, call me names, say anything I deserve it but please if you were in my shoes what would you do. I am scared she might one day leave me. I really need all the advices I can get.

GHoJes:
You are losing confidence in your self, you see you as not good enough for her. You may end up telling her and ask for the separation your self or your sinking your self may cause you to exhibit unpleasant attitudes or even sink into depression or lead to the wrong crowd or taking a wrong decision so that your fears would consequently befall you.

I hope your wife is supportive because you need to tell her as many times you are struggling with your shameful act so that she can continually reassure you of her forgiveness. It seems your love language is word of assurance, you need to be repeatedly reassured of her forgiveness till you get it that the slate is cleaned of your sin.

vicadex07:


Chicken hearted pussiiy arssse niggas everywhere. King Solomon had 700 wives and 300 concubines and he had peace of mind. This one do mistake impregnate one side chick he wan commit suicide. I bet your wife is the man in your relationship and vice-versa. Ode oshi!

Ginaz:


And are you as rich and well known like king Solomon? Did you have kingdoms and princes all under you? Are you from a royal family? Has your family fought wars with thousands of soldiers and won?

If no you’re just a fool. Change that your mentality and stick to one wife before you sink nigeria more into poverty by having wives you have no money to carter for .

King Solomon bla bla bla. Check him very well and he has no house of his own yet . He wants to compare himself to someone who had everything in surplus.

NLmember:
See how marriage is in a sane society. Men feel guilty after breaking marital vows and destroying wife's heart and feelings.

In Nigeria the bastards will be pounding chest and telling everybody they have the right to cheat.

Biglittlelois:



Don't mind them, 99 99% of those who says that wont so much as smell another woman when married, their ilks will worship the ground their wife steps on, online ranting gives them a sense of fulfillment, crazy kids.