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Extortion In The Name Of Aso Ebi by wwwkaycom(m): 6:13am On Sep 06
What is this thing about clothing for ceremonies. I don't buy aso ebi, in fact I hate it. I will wear whatever dress I have to attend your function.

But there come instances when you just have to buy. My brother in-law got married late last year and I had to join them in buying their aso ebi only to discover that the dress they sold for 7.5k is just 3k in the market and the dress faded on first wash. I told my wife that she forced me to buy it. That one is gone.

Now, they are planning a funeral programme again and my wife is telling me I must buy their clothing material again. The dress, mine and hers will cost 29k, I got small sample of the material (for male and female), gave it to my textile dealer friend and she told me four trouser length of the male material will cost 6k, while the one for women (wrapper and head tie inclusive) will cost 13k making a total of 19k. I told my wife I'm not buying but she has been on my neck since two days now.

How can someone be extorting me just because they wanted to do funeral? What kind of family thing is this? I'll cough out 29k in this Baba's economy and still give financial assistance to the woman whose father died o.

Why are our people like this?

Still standing my ground while my wife is still insisting I must pay even till now. The funeral comes up first weekend in October.

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Re: Extortion In The Name Of Aso Ebi by Nobody: 6:17am On Sep 06
Haha... Op I genuinely feel your pains.

The most annoying thing is that this culture which is synonymous with the southwest has taken a widespread all over Nigeria.

You'll buy material of 3k in the market and sell it to people for 15k... That's daylight ROBBERY!!!

I can't kill myself trying to make people happy, I'm not even sure they will serve me big meat at the wedding, I rather use that asoebi money to stock my fridge at home!

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Re: Extortion In The Name Of Aso Ebi by joa2013: 6:23am On Sep 06
All na Yoruba. Na my people dey do am

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Re: Extortion In The Name Of Aso Ebi by truthsayer009(m): 7:05am On Sep 06
Sir, Please stand your ground. Last last your wife will not give you any Sex for few weeks due to anger.

You go do soapy. Marlians.

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Re: Extortion In The Name Of Aso Ebi by chiommy123(f): 7:25am On Sep 06
Are you stopping her from buying the materials? She can buy all she wants while you wear what you have or she can as well buy for you

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Re: Extortion In The Name Of Aso Ebi by Logobenz4(m): 7:30am On Sep 06
We are the same sort of just that I am a little extreme than you are because I won't even bother coming in the first place.
If you invite me for any wedding,gathering,funeral etc that I have no interest in,I won't come.
Then I also don't buy aso ebi but could support with cash if you are of value to me.

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Re: Extortion In The Name Of Aso Ebi by wwwkaycom(m): 7:59am On Sep 06
chiommy123:
Are you stopping her from buying the materials? She can buy all she wants while you wear what you have or she can as well buy for you
Hoooo. Why should I stop her from buying hers? She is insisting I must pay the 29K. I have told her I'm not paying a dime, she can go ahead to buy hers. I'm not even going to send anything to the celebrant because I've made up my mind not to attend. The celebrant is the same person who packaged the inferior clothing material that washed away late last year, I must do this so that they won't make attempt to extend such to me in the future. This is obvious fraud and my wife's stubbornness on the issue annoys me a lot.

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Re: Extortion In The Name Of Aso Ebi by mysticgal(f): 8:21am On Sep 06
wwwkaycom:
Hoooo. Why should I stop her from buying hers? She is insisting I must pay the 29K. I have told her I'm not paying a dime, she can go ahead to buy hers. I'm not even going to send anything to the celebrant because I've made up my mind not to attend. The celebrant is the same person who packaged the inferior clothing material that washed away late last year, I must do this so that they won't make attempt to extend such to me in the future. This is obvious fraud and my wife's stubbornness on the issue annoys me a lot.

This is what I learnt from my friend who got married.

Shey you said you saw the material at a cheaper rate somewhere else, buy that cheap one and sew it if you want to, it’s the same material for God’s sake and if she wants to buy from her brethren, by all means, she should go ahead . At this point, it is very inconsiderate of your wife to want you to spend money frivolously in order to please some people who wouldn’t come to your aid in time of need.

If she doesn’t hear this, even me as a lady, I will not go for the burial finally oh. Before, no be bible talk say “let the dead bury the dead?” undecided

Do what is good and will save your marriage .

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Re: Extortion In The Name Of Aso Ebi by Acidosis(m): 11:42am On Sep 06
truthsayer009:
Sir, Please stand your ground. Last last your wife will not give you any Sex for few weeks due to anger.

You go do soapy. Marlians.

Local man cannot can

grin

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Re: Extortion In The Name Of Aso Ebi by StrikeBack(m): 11:55am On Sep 06
I wear anything I have for any event.
Plain white native for any occasion grin

My wedding day is close. Everyone is invited!! Wear what you like

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Re: Extortion In The Name Of Aso Ebi by pocohantas(f): 12:31pm On Sep 06
truthsayer009:
Sir, Please stand your ground. Last last your wife will not give you any Sex for few weeks due to anger.

You go do soapy. Marlians.

Abi she should use her money and everybody is happy. To spend another person money anyhow dey sweet.

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Re: Extortion In The Name Of Aso Ebi by wwwkaycom(m): 12:49pm On Sep 06
mysticgal:


This is what I learnt from my friend who got married.

Shey you said you saw the material at a cheaper rate somewhere else, buy that cheap one and sew it if you want to, it’s the same material for God’s sake and if she wants to buy from her brethren, by all means, she should go ahead . At this point, it is very inconsiderate of your wife to want you to spend money frivolously in order to please some people who wouldn’t come to your aid in time of need.

If she doesn’t hear this, even me as a lady, I will not go for the burial finally oh. Before, no be bible talk say “let the dead bury the dead?” undecided

Do what is good and will save your marriage .
Thanks dear sister and God bless.

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Re: Extortion In The Name Of Aso Ebi by izzou(m): 2:55pm On Sep 06
truthsayer009:
Sir, Please stand your ground. Last last your wife will not give you any Sex for few weeks due to anger.

You go do soapy. Marlians.

grin

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Re: Extortion In The Name Of Aso Ebi by truthsayer009(m): 4:38pm On Sep 06
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Re: Extortion In The Name Of Aso Ebi by Breaststroke(f): 4:41pm On Sep 06
OP, remain resolute in your decision and do not bow to pressure, emotional blackmail or other forms of manipulation.

Wifey's priorities are seriously misplaced, schools reopen on Monday yet she is fixated on 29k aso-ebi.

That 29k can be put to good use towards the children's snacks, school kit, books etc (assuming you have kids)

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Re: Extortion In The Name Of Aso Ebi by Greatzeus(m): 7:19pm On Sep 06
In Nigeria, Everybody wants to make money at the slightest opportunity even if it means cheating others lipsrsealed
Children lie about money they were asked to pay in school.
Students lie about school fees and project cost wink
Employees pocket part of sales money they made
Lecturers sell outdated handouts to exhort students.
Student leaders exhort other students
Wives exhort husbands by inflating soup money grin
Agbero exhort drivers
Politicians exhort the masses angry

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Re: Extortion In The Name Of Aso Ebi by Biglittlelois(f): 10:37pm On Sep 06
Funny thread cheesy

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Re: Extortion In The Name Of Aso Ebi by PrimadonnaO(f): 11:23pm On Sep 06
I've only bought aso-ebi twice in my entire life.

And I'm a babe. I've not even finished committing to attend your wedding, let alone buying and sewing asoebi... lol. I'm just not cut out for all that perturbance.

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Re: Extortion In The Name Of Aso Ebi by favourite787899: 12:14am On Sep 07
I think your wife is just being interested in what people will say if she doesn't buy. But for someone like me I don't care. That was how one of my relatives brought Asoebi for me to buy for her wedding. How much she said 25k and I told her bluntly that I can't afford it cuz I just finished my own wedding then and my own Asoebi was 2k. In fact I never wanted it at all but my mum was saying how it will look beautiful. Even my hubby was willing to pay but for me I refused cuz I felt it was a total waste of fund so no need. Till today she doesn't talk to me and me no send.

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Re: Extortion In The Name Of Aso Ebi by Ishilove: 1:26am On Sep 07
Nobody kuku can force me to buy asoebi. The last time I bought aso ebi was for an annual church program two years ago and it was sold for almost triple the actual amount. The following year I locked up and refused to buy the aso ebi. I and my mum were the only people in church who didn't buy and we stuck out like white people among negroes. Wetin consine me? I chop the rice well and danced like dancing was going out of style. I REFUSE to be extorted.

Op let your madam buy the aso ebi with her money. Like someone said here, to spend someone else's money dey sweet.

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Re: Extortion In The Name Of Aso Ebi by Cashmanbreeze: 12:11pm On Sep 07
You even gave her a chance to buy with her money.
I will not buy, she too is not allowed to buy or she takes over the family's expenses.

I had to switch church for child's dedication because my parish insisted on me wearing a particular uniform for the occasion.

My own ceremony, you dictate what I wear.
Future impossible tense.

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Re: Extortion In The Name Of Aso Ebi by apotek: 2:19pm On Sep 07
Just buy from your dealer then!
Or give your wife a dirty slap for being stubborn angry

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Re: Extortion In The Name Of Aso Ebi by apotek: 2:20pm On Sep 07
Ishilove:
Nobody kuku can force me to buy asoebi. The last time I bought aso ebi was for an annual church program two years and it was sold for almost triple the amount. The following year I locked up and refused to buy the aso ebi. I and my mum were the only people in church who didn't buy and we stuck out like white people among negroes. Wetin consine me? I chop the rice well and danced like dancing was going out of style. I REFUSE to be extorted.

Op let your madam buy the aso ebi with her money. Like someone said here, to spend someone else's money dey sweet.

You are stingy!
With that your big yansh angry

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Re: Extortion In The Name Of Aso Ebi by Ishilove: 3:06pm On Sep 07
apotek:


You are stingy!
With that your big yansh angry
You've got sass
You've got class
You've got the lips to kiss my ass! cool

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Re: Extortion In The Name Of Aso Ebi by apotek: 3:10pm On Sep 07
Ishilove:

You've got sass
You've got class
You've got the lips to kiss my ass! cool

Mtcheeew. Yio ba furo e!

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Re: Extortion In The Name Of Aso Ebi by Houseofglam7(f): 10:35am On Sep 08
apotek:
Just buy from your dealer then!
Or give your wife a dirty slap for being stubborn angry
Really
Like really??

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Re: Extortion In The Name Of Aso Ebi by apotek: 1:27pm On Sep 08
Houseofglam7:

Really
Like really??

Your personal text.

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Re: Extortion In The Name Of Aso Ebi by Houseofglam7(f): 2:53pm On Sep 08
apotek:


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Re: Extortion In The Name Of Aso Ebi by Richy4(m): 7:22pm On Sep 08
OP, u are deviating from the most important thing which is to go and pay your last respect to the dead.. U can't say u can't go because of clothes.. On that day, put on anything that makes u comfortable..

If it will make your wife unhappy as a couple at home.. just be matured about it and let her buy for herself only (ie if u guys are using joint account.. ) but if u people are operating a separate account then tell her to buy it herself that you don't mind..... I don't think she would have insisted if it were to be your own family... I'm guessing that she wants to save face..

But please don't boycott a funeral because of clothes.. it sounds childish...

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Re: Extortion In The Name Of Aso Ebi by apotek: 7:26am On Sep 09
Houseofglam7:

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I'm above 35, can I?

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Re: Extortion In The Name Of Aso Ebi by frozen70(f): 8:35pm On Sep 10
wwwkaycom:
What is this thing about clothing for ceremonies. I don't buy aso ebi, in fact I hate it. I will wear whatever dress I have to attend your function. But there come instances when you just have to buy. My brother in-law got married late last year and I had to join them in buying their aso ebi only to discover that the dress they sold for 7.5k is just 3k in the market and the dress faded on first wash. I told my wife that she forced me to buy it. That one is gone. Now, they are planning a funeral programme again and my wife is telling me I must buy their clothing material again. The dress, mine and hers will cost 29k, I got small sample of the material (for male and female), gave it to my textile dealer friend and she told me four trouser length of the male material will cost 6k, while the one for women (wrapper and head tie inclusive) will cost 13k making a total of 19k. I told my wife I'm not buying but she has been on my neck since two days now.
How can someone be extorting me just because they wanted to do funeral? What kind of family thing is this? I'll cough out 29k in this Baba's economy and still give financial assistance to the woman whose father died o. Why are our people like this?
Still standing my ground while my wife is still insisting I must pay even till now. The funeral cones up first weekend in October.

Stand on your ground, if she has the money let her buy for both of you or buy her own

At times we take a stand and decision and stand on it

They can only grumble for that period and after that they will exempt you

But make sure you won't have any cause to sell ashoebi to them

That's how they make people go broke all in the name to save head

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Re: Extortion In The Name Of Aso Ebi by soberdrunk(m): 10:52pm On Sep 11
angry

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