truthsayer009:
Sir, Please stand your ground. Last last your wife will not give you any Sex for few weeks due to anger.

You go do soapy. Marlians.

wwwkaycom:
Hoooo. Why should I stop her from buying hers? She is insisting I must pay the 29K. I have told her I'm not paying a dime, she can go ahead to buy hers. I'm not even going to send anything to the celebrant because I've made up my mind not to attend. The celebrant is the same person who packaged the inferior clothing material that washed away late last year, I must do this so that they won't make attempt to extend such to me in the future. This is obvious fraud and my wife's stubbornness on the issue annoys me a lot.

chiommy123:
Are you stopping her from buying the materials? She can buy all she wants while you wear what you have or she can as well buy for you

generationz:



Oga I'm sorry and don't mean to be rude, but if you can't enforce a decision based on something as simple as Ashoebi at home and have to come online for people to corroborate your decision then there is something wrong with your authority at home.

Madam is supposed to know some things you won't even comment on. Eg extorsion by family members. She is even the one supposed to say. If she is a socialite out of " fear" and respect for you she wont even bring it up, she would just use her money for hers because some women can't offend their family members no matter what.

It seems you give into her every demand. Oga, easy o. Even pikin dey spoil.
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wwwkaycom:
What is this thing about clothing for ceremonies. I don't buy aso ebi, in fact I hate it. I will wear whatever dress I have to attend your function.

But there come instances when you just have to buy. My brother in-law got married late last year and I had to join them in buying their aso ebi only to discover that the dress they sold for 7.5k is just 3k in the market and the dress faded on first wash. I told my wife that she forced me to buy it. That one is gone.

Now, they are planning a funeral programme again and my wife is telling me I must buy their clothing material again. The dress, mine and hers will cost 29k, I got small sample of the material (for male and female), gave it to my textile dealer friend and she told me four trouser length of the male material will cost 6k, while the one for women (wrapper and head tie inclusive) will cost 13k making a total of 19k. I told my wife I'm not buying but she has been on my neck since two days now.

How can someone be extorting me just because they wanted to do funeral? What kind of family thing is this? I'll cough out 29k in this Baba's economy and still give financial assistance to the woman whose father died o.

Why are our people like this?

Still standing my ground while my wife is still insisting I must pay even till now. The funeral comes up first weekend in October.

NLmember:


Na wa o
Fine the wife is wrong to demand so much for aso ebi but what kind of advice is this?
Marriage is not oga and slave relationship it is partnership based on love and the op is not wrong at all by being diplomatic in his relations with his wife.

Don't encourage him to start being harsh with her by questioning his authority at home. Thanks and god bless

generationz:


you never marry na, you fit give this advice.

truthsayer009:


Iyam waiting for you na. Na you I wan marry but your shakara dom too much. So I just move on.

generationz:


Marry? since when?

Logobenz4:
We are the same sort of just that I am a little extreme than you are because I won't even bother coming in the first place.
If you invite me for any wedding,gathering,funeral etc that I have no interest in,I won't come.
Then I also don't buy aso ebi but could support with cash if you are of value to me.

STORY OF MY LIFE.

MY TIGHT MAN IS GETTING MARRIED TODAY AND I'M IN MY HOUSE WATCHING LIVERPOOL. I WON'T GO. I DON'T CARE.