Hello,
I have a problem. I recently agreed to marry a guy I have dated for about 6 months but I honestly don't have the emotions i.e. I may not really be in love with him (whatever that means). He is a very nice person, caring, God fearing etc; I want to know if love will grow along the line or must love be felt from the onset?

Should I back out and keep waiting for the right feelings?
I am confused and I am 26.

I would slow down and share your feeling with the guy. He deserves to know what your feeling. Hate to see the both of you make a mistake you'd end up regretting for the rest of your life, especially if unborn children are involved.

I will say give him time six months is still a short notice to study each other. Marriage is a lifetime

Never marry a man if you are not in love with him, cos only that love will make u stay with one another

@ poster
6mth is enough to spark the love, So i guess saying yes was either because u r pressured( am going old / "will i find another" or pity for him.
Though it is said that good men are scares but u be good & dont rush "urs truly" will come.

So as per ur post? Pls cut it off now or at least talk to him about it. Failed engagment is berra than failed marriage.

@diyobdw ''Failed engagment is berra than failed marriage''.

i couldnt agree less with you on this. i have come to realise that its the extent of the love one has that will keep one going with the partner in the face of extreme and fidelity-challenging scenarios.

I am currently having an encounter with a gainfully-employed-working-class-graduate-lady full of prospects and even doing extra pp to diversify her source of income and live a better life.
Her type is what so many men seek after for a life partner and she is eager for me to settle down with her, she has pampered and sacrificed a lot for me but i just cant seem to click with her and bring myself to love her or show her real affection. she even travels far distance to come and stay with me but i treat her with disdain and even refuse her sex overtures, i have told her to look for someone better than me, yet she is adamant up till date, and surprisingly, i dont still feel nada for her.

I would rather we separate now than be forced into a marriage where she will not be offered the full love of a husband and possibly endure infidelity (God forbid, i dnt want that)

Thanks for your advice; I will reconsider the engagement and probably give the relationship another 6 months to see how it goes.

^^^ No need to bother giving it six months to see if you will fall in love with him or not. I can tell you now that in six months time, nothing will change in terms of feelings for him. It is either there or it isn't. It's even worse when you try to force feeling for someone. Take an indefinite break from him and let him know why. Absence they say makes the heart grow fonder (sometimes).

What you need to do is start afresh with someone else you feel something for.
Goodluck.