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The Theory Of Male Attraction by pansophist(m): 11:42am On Sep 15, 2019
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The male from natures perspective

From the day a man is born, he started out with nothing, and as a candle, it is imperative for him to nurture the little fire burning above until it grows into a furnace, that it becomes unquenchable. He must build himself in wealth, status, and reside in the upper chamber reserved for individuals that have transformed from boys to men, because the value he brings to the world is his utilities, that is, the lifestyle he has built for himself, which improves exponentially the quality of life any woman associated with him will tap from. He would enjoy waves of female attraction endlessly, and for a longer period far above his semi-centennial years, since his value is not judged solely by his looks only (being), but by his resources, utility, and ability to confer comfort to his associates (self-made). Any man, with a gripping understanding of this existential dynamic, has achieved half the percentile of the work required in establishing himself as a true male figure. 

A made-man is a respectable man, highly needed, as he has demonstrated that he is fit and capable to thrive formidably in the ever-chaning, unforgiven, and unpredictable new world. His seeds will be highly sorted after, as it is a guarantee to a quality life by whichever females bear it. Her status and social hierarchy will increase on the basis of association with him. His name will be a household name, which will directly confer honor to his descendants, ascendants, and partner. Like a snowball effect, the work of his hand will grow exponentially, magnetizing even more resources, influences and wealth as the time goes, like a tree that brings forth fruit unto perpetuity. 

He will be the go-to personality by women in their prime who are on sexual exploration, perhaps, he is at the top of the sexual hierarchy, Pareto-principle in action. In the midst of this seeming euphoria, he must be keenly aware of the structural dynamics that is ever-present and underpins his reality. He must keep his hustle top-notch, impeccably clean trails, and honor, otherwise, his reality will be the thing of the past, overtaken by contenders and underdogs, and if slacked, will be an object of mockery. He shall be a builder, a leader, and exhibit internal strength that makes him dependable. He is a builder of society and must embody the masculine energy of dominance, calmness, and pragmatism. He will be the bedrock of his associates, a burden that though is hard to carry, will be armored with the fortitude to withstand this solemn task. He will be a warrior sacrificing his life, defending his home, his family and his own. 

His sexuality will be a double-edged sword. For a male that has passed through the phase of transforming himself from a boy to a man, with a strong sense of purpose, ambition, and wealth to reflect it, is ideal, and a hallmark of masculinity. His attractiveness will stay much longer, because he works for it, and not naturally given to him like women. A man at the top of the hierarchy will know. He will always be the early birds for top deals and negotiations. His words will be respected, it is his bond. Being advertised to potential mates will be a quotidian experience, exclusive invitations to high-end beanfeast patronized by dignitaries, life can not be better than this.  

In reverse, a male that refuses to transform himself from a boy to a man, will be at the bottom and completely invisible to society at large for he brings forth no value to the table. He will be an object of caricature to females and starved of companionship that is freely given to a made-man. Perhaps, he was a victim of not having a strong male guardian to walk him through the path of masculinity. Women know what they have to do, but men have to figure out what they have to do, though, only a few make it to the top without the guidance of a father that has walked through that path empirically.

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Re: The Theory Of Male Attraction by MrHistorian: 11:57am On Sep 15, 2019
Summarily, Wealth, Social hierarchy, Status and accomplishments define a man's attractiveness to the female gender.

A decent physical appearance will be an icing on the cake. cheesy

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Re: The Theory Of Male Attraction by Fidelismaria: 12:08pm On Sep 15, 2019
"From a biological standpoint, nature has made the male the expendable sex"

Interesting

But I find the above quoted words biting

So what you're trying to say is don't be their go to for their ego boost?

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Re: The Theory Of Male Attraction by kunleweb: 12:53pm On Sep 15, 2019
MrHistorian:
Summarily, Wealth, Social hierarchy, Status and accomplishments define a man's attractiveness to the female gender.

A decent physical appearance will be an icing on the cake. cheesy



I second this thought.

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Re: The Theory Of Male Attraction by karo93: 1:48pm On Sep 15, 2019
So what is the moral lesson or action point in all your male n female attraction theories?

I haven't gotten the point anyway. Should women be worshipped as holding the key of choice to the next generation or what?

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Re: The Theory Of Male Attraction by tensazangetsu20(m): 8:04pm On Sep 16, 2019
This is just so painful to read

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Re: The Theory Of Male Attraction by AntiMCU: 1:02pm On Sep 18, 2019
Don't agree with everything though.
Re: The Theory Of Male Attraction by pansophist(m): 1:12pm On Sep 18, 2019
AntiMCU:
Don't agree with everything though.

Example?
Re: The Theory Of Male Attraction by pansophist(m): 1:12pm On Sep 18, 2019
tensazangetsu20:
This is just so painful to read

How is it painful to read? what is painful here?
Re: The Theory Of Male Attraction by pansophist(m): 1:16pm On Sep 18, 2019
MrHistorian:
Summarily, Wealth, Social hierarchy, Status and accomplishments define a man's attractiveness to the female gender.

A decent physical appearance will be an icing on the cake. cheesy

Yes, especially when toned. You know, the Justin Bieber look. Less body fat (subcutaneous and visceral), trimmed jawline (triangulated), sparkling white teeth, v-torso, grin

Come get money and get sense join am, with impeccable diction, humor and sense of style, you go enjoy woman tire cool

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Re: The Theory Of Male Attraction by pansophist(m): 1:19pm On Sep 18, 2019
karo93:
So what is the moral lesson or action point in all your male n female attraction theories?

I haven't gotten the point anyway. Should women be worshipped as holding the key of choice to the next generation or what?

The moral of the story is that as a man, it is your job to build yourself and increase your attractiveness, your reward is in your ''doing'', not in your ''being''. Unlike women who their beauty will take them far, a beauty that is naturally given to her.

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Re: The Theory Of Male Attraction by AntiMCU: 1:22pm On Sep 18, 2019
pansophist:


Example?

Your post implies that the only reason a man should improve himself is to gain female attention.

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Re: The Theory Of Male Attraction by AntiMCU: 1:23pm On Sep 18, 2019
pansophist:


Yes, especially when toned. You know, the Justin Bieber look. Less body fat (subcutaneous and visceral), trimmed jawline (triangulated), sparkling white teeth, v-torso, grin

Come get money and get sense join am, with impeccable diction, humor and sense of style, you go enjoy woman tire cool
You need to take cognizance of environment.
Re: The Theory Of Male Attraction by pansophist(m): 1:27pm On Sep 18, 2019
AntiMCU:


Your post implies that the only reason a man should improve himself is to gain female attention.

It seems so, but again, it is expected that readers should understand it in its true context. The romance section is about romance, relationship, and stuff. And yes, nature only cares about survival, so if the only reason you can improve yourself is to gain female attention and have a family, in nature's eyes, you are a success. It is your kids that lives after you, not your career.

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Re: The Theory Of Male Attraction by TissuePaper: 1:39pm On Sep 18, 2019
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Re: The Theory Of Male Attraction by AntiMCU: 1:39pm On Sep 18, 2019
pansophist:


It seems so, but again, it is expected that readers should understand it in its true context. The romance section is about romance, relationship, and stuff. And yes, nature only cares about survival, so if the only reason you can improve yourself is to gain female attention and have a family, in nature's eyes, you are a success. It is your kids that lives after you, not your career.

With the way you framed your write-up, I don't expect marriage to be part of the equation, because I quite agree with you when you brought up the Pareto's principle.

20% or lesser of men are sleeping 80% of women if not more.

In as much as I understand the "context" you're writing from, personal motivations and environental factors come into place, not just female attention.

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Re: The Theory Of Male Attraction by pansophist(m): 1:47pm On Sep 18, 2019
AntiMCU:


With the way you framed your write-up, I don't expect marriage to be part of the equation, because I quite agree with you when you brought up the Pareto's principle.

20% or lesser of men are sleeping 80% of women if not more.

In as much as I understand the "context" you're writing from, personal motivations and environmental factors come into place, not just female attention.

Of course. Environmental and societal factors will influence the degree and intensity it is expressed, but the core of the matter is ever relevant. From my experience, in underdeveloped countries, women premium an economically dominant man than your average fine boy. To be handsome as a man and broke in the west will attract women to you (Jeremy Meeks, a convicted model dating a billionaire's daughter come to mind), can't say the same about Nigeria.

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Re: The Theory Of Male Attraction by AntiMCU: 1:54pm On Sep 18, 2019
pansophist:


Of course. Environmental and societal factors will influence the degree and intensity it is expressed, but the core of the matter is ever relevant. From my experience, in underdeveloped countries, women premium an economically dominant man than your average fine boy. To be handsome as a man and broke in the west will attract women to you (Jeremy Meeks, a convicted model dating a billionaire's daughter come to mind), can't say the same about Nigeria.
But it sucks though, which is why I don't really fancy marriage coupled with my background.

The thoughts of a woman being with me because I'm a provider irks me to hell and back.

Still, it's the bitter truth.

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Re: The Theory Of Male Attraction by pansophist(m): 2:00pm On Sep 18, 2019
AntiMCU:

But it sucks though, which is why I don't really fancy marriage coupled with my background.

The thoughts of a woman being with me because I'm a provider irks me to hell and back.

Still, it's the bitter truth.

It is what it is bro. One thing I see that men repeatedly fail to understand is that p.enis is nothing to women, it is freely given everywhere to her. Imagine being given a free ticket to the cinema, and even paid to watch it. Thats the relationship between women and penis, so it is only natural that she will choose the dude with something more attached to his being.

I like watching wide life documentaries and see the same mating behaviors cross-species, how the females are super picky and won't mate with any male. If you observe, male animals are more beautiful than females. With the impressive mane of a lion, to the flamboyant feather of a peacock, or the gallant horn of a he-goat, the male has evolved to be beautiful, it is how their own value is expressed in the animal kingdom. In biology, this is known as adaptations.

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Re: The Theory Of Male Attraction by tensazangetsu20(m): 2:09pm On Sep 18, 2019
pansophist:


How is it painful to read? what is painful here?
It's painful cause it's the truth.
Re: The Theory Of Male Attraction by pansophist(m): 2:14pm On Sep 18, 2019
TissuePaper:
i've been waiting for ubunja on his how to approach girls article but he's not yet through with that, can u just give me a few tips and wise words on approaching these babies..tnz

Please read the attached. I wrote it some few months ago, it is relevant to your query.

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Re: The Theory Of Male Attraction by TissuePaper: 2:20pm On Sep 18, 2019
pansophist:


Please read the attached. I wrote it some few months ago, it is relevant to your query.
what if u see a girl u like and there's hardly a chance that you'll see her again? In a subway or bank for example

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Re: The Theory Of Male Attraction by Gerrard59(m): 12:56am On Sep 20, 2019
Albeit, it seemed like OP wanted men to worship women as alluded in the thread about females, but he is right. It was during my sophomore that I got to know what the thread described. Lasses preferred mingling with lads above average while not doing anything with those perceived to be worthless. Due to it being an academic environment, these lasses at least accorded respect and mingled with those who topped the class, of which yours truly was a contender. I witnessed the admiration they had for a lad who did well in his first year and how he was deserted when he fumbled afterwards. Furthermore, I realised this theory after reading this article by The Economist and this from Brookings Institute. After reading them, I went on to research papers and since then, my mentality changed, for the better.

Women from time immemorial have always gravitated towards men who are financially capable and I see this daily, like everyday! The entreprise I manage is B2C and through that, I have drawn my conclusion regarding the kind of men a woman follows and vice versa. While I will agree somewhat with the poster in the female thread that opined selection of individuals goes across both genders, it's true according to OP that women have the final say regarding the kind of man she wants. Unfortunately for them, menopause hits them hard but with social liberalism spreading across the land, attitudes are changing. Our mothers have tried but the present generation of ladies are not thinking like them and won't. They will be highly selective than our mothers and ruthlessly so. If nothing happens, there are other options.

On sex, oh! So cheap and easily available (I love how OP linked biology with economics), as a result, the price is low. On average, a pretty (not beautiful) girl gets at least 3 toasters daily and if she needs sex or the sperm, she can get them and even get paid for having sex. Now, with changing social attitudes, it implies any woman can get semen from any man she desires for next to nothing and become a mother! This was unthinkable decades ago. On the brighter side, men who set themselves during their prime will benefit as they will have a throng of beautiful ladies begging for their (males) attention whether he is married or not (yet again, I witness this daily of which the hospitality industry benefits tremendously). Unfortunately for men who don't get to this group, they are left lonely and dejected. Worse still, they become depressed and begin to regret life. In a world where relationships of any kind are transactional, it becomes hard to witness such happening while reminiscing on youthful years. If anyone thinks the world is competitive or resources are scarce, then wait till 2029/2039. (the relationship between war and polygamy. Even though I don't agree entirely with the article)

Well done OP!

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Re: The Theory Of Male Attraction by pansophist(m): 8:25am On Sep 20, 2019
Gerrard59

Albeit, it seemed like OP wanted men to worship women as alluded in the thread about females, but he is right. It was during my sophomore that I got to know what the thread described. Lasses preferred mingling with lads above average while not doing anything with those perceived to be worthless. Due to it being an academic environment, these lasses at least accorded respect and mingled with those who topped the class, of which yours truly was a contender. I witnessed the admiration they had for a lad who did well in his first year and how he was deserted when he fumbled afterwards. Furthermore, I realised this theory after reading this article by The Economist and this from Brookings Institute. After reading them, I went on to research papers and since then, my mentality changed, for the better.

Anyone that interpreted my write-up as a mandate to worship women have gotten the whole premise wrong. We may achieve social equality as a species, but not sexual equality since we are still pretty much being ruled under our thousand years of evolutionary hard-wiring. Men will always be attracted to the fertile, youthful, beautiful, feminine and well-shaped lady, while women will be attracted to powerful and wealthy men. Which makes sense. Human attraction is not logic, its primordial, and an act propelled through systems far outside our influence.

Women from time immemorial have always gravitated towards men who are financially capable and I see this daily, like everyday! The entreprise I manage is B2C and through that, I have drawn my conclusion regarding the kind of men a woman follows and vice versa. While I will agree somewhat with the poster in the female thread that opined selection of individuals goes across both genders, it's true according to OP that women have the final say regarding the kind of man she wants. Unfortunately for them, menopause hits them hard but with social liberalism spreading across the land, attitudes are changing. Our mothers have tried but the present generation of ladies are not thinking like them and won't. They will be highly selective than our mothers and ruthlessly so. If nothing happens, there are other options.


I always compare the boner men have when they spot an attractive lady, with hypergamy, women have when they spot a powerful dude. Modern life which has afforded comfort for all is something new. For over 99 percent of human existence, we existed in tribes and clans. Small societies were always on an alert to fight off adversaries, invaders, wild animals, and create a livable society for their young to thrive in. Your average pot-bellied man today that cant run a km would not have survived then. Agility, strength, and a rite of passage to masculinity was a culture back then, and life expectancy was so low then. Women were protected because they can't afford to lose them.

For example, if another clan invaded your village, it would be the men that will defend their land, sacrifice their lives and protect their home, because in a village with ten men and hundred women, it is easy for the population to bounce back if the male impregnates them all. This could explain why polygamy was largely a thing back then. Civilization will be at the brink of extinction if there are more men than women, it is suicidal. Men are biologically expendable, and it is a cold truth, albeit, the truth. For example, Russia lost over 20 million men during the second war but could bounce back to civilization since there was an insignificant female casualty and population can bounce back to normal.

So because the privilege women enjoy is a gift of nature, it also does not last long as men. For example, the link you posted about a Sudanese warrior with more than 100 wives is an example of a man that is at the top of a sexual marketplace. Mind you, there will be millions of men there struggling to find a partner, but a man has then in a harem. That's proof of what I have said. Even though most society globally right now have abolished polygamy, socially, it is still there. Your average celebrity or rich dude has access to an unlimited amount of women, enjoying them sexually without necessarily marrying her, its the same thing without the legal bonding. Men value will only lie in his resources, and the lifestyle he has built for himself. Wole Soyinka is old, but can always pick a younger wife half his age if he desires, but a woman his age whom have lost out in youthfulness cant do the same.

On sex, oh! So cheap and easily available (I love how OP linked biology with economics), as a result, the price is low. On average, a pretty (not beautiful) girl gets at least 3 toasters daily and if she needs sex or the sperm, she can get them and even get paid for having sex. Now, with changing social attitudes, it implies any woman can get semen from any man she desires for next to nothing and become a mother! This was unthinkable decades ago. On the brighter side, men who set themselves during their prime will benefit as they will have a throng of beautiful ladies begging for their (males) attention whether he is married or not (yet again, I witness this daily of which the hospitality industry benefits tremendously). Unfortunately for men who don't get to this group, they are left lonely and dejected. Worse still, they become depressed and begin to regret life. In a world where relationships of any kind are transactional, it becomes hard to witness such happening while reminiscing on youthful years. If anyone thinks the world is competitive or resources are scarce, then wait till 2029/2039. (the relationship between war and polygamy. Even though I don't agree entirely with the article)

Exactly. Though, for women, it's not everlasting. It is shortlived, that's the price to pay. Personally, I won't even look at a woman way older than me for romantic negotiations, just as most men as well. All women will enjoy being desired, but not all men. In fact, most men will never enjoy what female enjoy in their youthful years. because many, due to ignorance and unwillingness, didn't pay the price to grow and be irresistible to many females. Individually, men are the luckiest one, that is, any man that is up there in sexual value will enjoy female attention for pretty much most of his life. Again, men are the unluckiest one generally, that is, if he is low in sexual value, he will pretty much be celibate and pay for sex at best from women way above his league otherwise. As for women, they have it good until their biological chemical (estrogen) that gives them the pretty looks starts reversing and fading off, then they usually understood what men generally pass-through by being invisible to most women.

Well done OP!

Thank you cool

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Re: The Theory Of Male Attraction by Nobody: 8:39am On Sep 20, 2019
No atom of wisdom in this write up. Just a load of bull crap

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Re: The Theory Of Male Attraction by AntiMCU: 9:11am On Sep 20, 2019
zclass:
No atom of wisdom in this write up. Just a load of bull crap
Would like to hear your perspective.

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Re: The Theory Of Male Attraction by Nobody: 9:56am On Sep 20, 2019
AntiMCU:

Would like to hear your perspective.

The focus is women. The write up is teaching us to work hard in order to impress, that's bull shit.
Though he has made some valid statements sha. Fvck is a lot cheaper if you understand the game.
Yes ofcos we all work hard but different, we do it for personal improvement to establish a good reputation and a legacy.
Op wants us to worship women as though they are the reward(trophy) for hard work.
shebi you get my point?
Re: The Theory Of Male Attraction by AntiMCU: 8:05pm On Sep 20, 2019
zclass:


The focus is women. The write up is teaching us to work hard in order to impress, that's bull shit.
Though he has made some valid statements sha. Fvck is a lot cheaper if you understand the game.
Yes ofcos we all work hard but different, we do it for personal improvement to establish a good reputation and a legacy.
Op wants us to worship women as though they are the reward(trophy) for hard work.
shebi you get my point?


You know what?

I perfectly agree with you.

If you scroll up, you'd notice I pointed out the same thing to the Op.

Personal improvement springs up from different motivations and not the need to only impress women.

However, I like the fact that you also acknowledeged some of his valid points.

Cc: pansophist, at this point, I think you should modify some parts of your write up.

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Re: The Theory Of Male Attraction by pansophist(m): 11:59pm On Sep 21, 2019
AntiMCU:


You know what?

I perfectly agree with you.

If you scroll up, you'd notice I pointed out the same thing to the Op.

Personal improvement springs up from different motivations and not the need to only impress women.

However, I like the fact that you also acknowledeged some of his valid points.

Cc: pansophist, at this point, I think you should modify some parts of your write up.

done cool

zclass, fidelisMaria, kunleweb, mrHistorian, martinez39, ubunja,

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Re: The Theory Of Male Attraction by yawehoverall: 9:08am On Nov 20, 2019
Nice..

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Re: The Theory Of Male Attraction by Newguyhere: 10:09am On Dec 11, 2019
lolzzzzzzz. Build yourself bro. Personally I still think men are the lucky ones.
At least our sexual market value can be controlled and improved through hard work and creativity.
tensazangetsu20:
This is just so painful to read

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