Last week, I attended a political meeting with some friends in Surulere area of Lagos. At the end, Honourable D, a young man who had been married for nine years shared his experience with barrenness as we took a ride together. His wife had serial miscarriages. They went for five IVFs, and Madam miscarried ALL! Sometimes, the pregnancy got deflated at the second trimester. Each IVF session cost about N3 million, not just in Nigeria but in US, UK and Germany. That was what Honourable D told me.

And then they stopped trying. They only continued in praying –coupled with love-making, of course. Early this year, Mrs. D was delivered of a baby girl! No IVF. No caesarean. Everything happened 100 percent naturally.

Barrenness remains a lingering mystery. Today, my family has five couples on our prayer list –some 10 years in marriage, 15 years in marriage, even 20 years in marriage.

How come married people fail to have children after having all the copulation necessary? After doing the neeeful, yet the babies just fail to materialise?

Visits to doctors would sometimes unearth a problem with the man or the woman, and sometimes there will be no known medical issue at all.

Please, let us share experiences. Sweet or bitter. Defeats and victories. Your experience, or that of someone you know, just might encourage those still waiting.

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Breastroke, thanks for sharing. You are deep indeed. And I pray that God shall keep us in Him.

I know a sister who just walked away from the sort of offer you have just rejected. The man offering her a Baby Mama deal (that he said would lead to marriage as soon as he could divorce his wife) actually is supposedly a Pastor. He had been married for 20 years to his wife, without a child. His mother came hard on the woman and then one thing led to another and that one said she had nothing to fear as she had a pre-marital child somewhere, now 25 years old.

Her revelation brought the roof down and the Pastor's family pushed her out, although their divorce is yet to be formalised.

Someone connected Pastor-man with this spinster-sister, promising marriage after pregnancy, but she chose to walk away. The man is still hot in search of what he wants.

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Breaststroke:


Oh damn, I laughed out loud at the last paragraph and sentence in particular. It seems like men are becoming even more desperate to have children than women.

Guy man pastor wants to fornicate and score goal first before he weds.

The funny thing is, as Christians we should know better than, pursuing ungodly ways to acquire the things we want, but we are the ones actively seeking solutions via ungodly means

I asked Ben one question - if God didn't give you a child within wedlock, coupled with years of you asking him and you doing your best via IVF, don't you think He knows what he's doing?

This route you want to take may bring you a shit load of misery you didn't anticipate o! Reason this matter well o! This child you want so badly may be your undoing in life.

Someone I know, after about five years of waiting with his wife, went to play away goal. He could not score. Las las, he returned home and now he is back together with the wife of his youth. We are still trusting God for them.

Meanwhile, the woman went for treatment and when, he would not follow her there, the "Doctor" (alternative therapy) asked her to try another man, she refused and stopped attending sessions there.

But there are women too who will do adultery just to try to confirm that the fault is not theirs. Life can be really twisted.

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Blessings, guys